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The Best 4 BDSM Crosses for Dungeon Bondage

Isabelle Uren
by Isabelle UrenLast updated:
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Whether you are looking to kit out your BDSM dungeon or want to take your full body bondage to the next level, a BDSM cross could be the perfect bondage accessory for you! This iconic piece of BDSM furniture creates the perfect BDSM aesthetic while keeping your partner locked into the sexy spread-eagle position, ready for all kinds of fun! We’ve picked out our favorites for all levels and budgets, together with some tips on how to use them!
Test WinnerCheapest
Triangle St. Andrew's Cross
DOMINIX Door Restraints
Triangle St. Andrew's Cross DOMINIX Door Restraints
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How were these BDSM Crosses Tested?

We know a BDSM cross is a big investement, so we’ve made sure to put in the hours researching and writing this post — more than 2o hours in fact! We make sure to consider all the information that you need to choose a cross that will let you live out your wildest bondage desires! That includes our usual metrics of design, ease of use, quality, and price, as well as thinking about how strong the construction is, how many restraint points it offers, and how easy it is to store.

We also make sure to provide a range of price points and experience levels as we want all of our readers, from bondage beginners to advanced BDSM’ers to find the best BDSM cross for their needs!

What to look for in a BDSM cross:

  • Free standing vs mounted — Some bondage X frames come with bases, allowing to stand freely whereas others need to mounted to the wall. Free standing frames can be moved around, but you need to make sure it has a sturdy base for safety.
  • Materials — BDSM crosses tend to be made from strong materials such as finished wood or metal, sometimes with vinyl or leather details. Bear in mind that bare metal will feel cold against the skin, but that can definitely add to BDSM play!
  • Padding — If you want something a little comfier, look for a BDSM cross that comes with padding. This is going keep your sub comfy and make it a little warmer than cold hard metal.
  • Restraint possibilities — If you want a lot of restraint options or want to use your BDSM cross with people of different heights, it’s best to look for one that comes with more restraint points.
  • Functionality — Some St. Andrew’s crosses can be reclined for different types of play while others are static and cannot be adjusted.
  • Mobility — If you want to move your BDSM cross around or put it away for storage, you might be best off looking for one that is easy to assemble and disassemble.

FAQ

What is a St Andrew's Cross?
A St Andrew's Cross is the same as a BDSM cross. It is named after the shape of cross that Saint Andrew was said to be crucified on.
Where to buy a BDSM cross
We only work with shops we trust so you can shop safely from any links in this review. The Stockroom and Oxy-Shop are fantastic for more advanced, heavy duty bondage items like BDSM crosses.
What can you use a BDSM cross for?
BDSM crosses are used for full body restraint, usually within a BDSM scene involving power play. Once the submissive partner is tied to the cross, the dominant partner is in charge of delivering the stimulation. This is agreed on before the scene and could include things like impact play, sensation play, or genital stimulation.

What is a BDSM cross?

A BDSM cross, also known as a St. Andrew's Cross, is a structure that's used for full body bondage. It consists of an X-shaped frame that has restraint points on each arm of the cross. The submissive partner is bound to the frame using ropes or restraints, holding their body in a spread eagle position. This gives the dominant partner ability to tease their partner's body with their hands, mouth, or sex toys. BDSM crosses are great for exploring impact play, sensation play and other types of power play! The open leg position also gives you better access to stimulate the submissive partner's genitals. Not to mention, they look incredible in BDSM dungeon!

Table of contents (12)

Reviews:1. The Stockroom Triangle St. Andrew's Cross 2. DOMINIX Deluxe Over the Door Cross Position Restraint Kit3. The Stockroom New St. Andrew's Cross X4. Oxy-Shop Deluxe Free Standing St Andrew's CrossMore Dungeon FurnitureBDSM AccessoriesBDSM SafetyDIY St. Andrew's CrossComparison of the 4 best BDSM crossesHow to use BDSM crossesHow to clean BDSM crosses

The 4 Best BDSM crosses in Test

1 Test Winner

The Stockroom Triangle St. Andrew's Cross

The Stockroom Triangle St. Andrew's Cross
Design:

Rating: Triangle St. Andrew's Cross was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the BDSM cross.

100/100
Ease of Use:

Rating: Triangle St. Andrew's Cross was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

90/100
Quality:

Rating: Triangle St. Andrew's Cross was rated 98 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

98/100
Price:

Rating: Triangle St. Andrew's Cross was rated 5 out of 5, which means it is very expensive.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

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Price ratingPrice ratingPrice ratingPrice ratingPrice rating
Bedbible rating:

Rating: Triangle St. Andrew's Cross was rated 4.9 out of 5, which means it is amongst the absolute best of toys that I can absolutely recommend you try out.

What it is: The Bedbible rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. 1 indicates a very bad product, while 5 indicate a very good product. It is the overall rating given by our tester which makes it a very subjective score of the Triangle St. Andrew's Cross .

4.9/5.0

Triangle St. Andrew's Cross Review
User rating:

Rating: Triangle St. Andrew's Cross was rated 0 out of 5, which means it is a very bad product.

What it is: The User rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. The score is an aggregated rating of all online ratings. We find and aggregate all ratings based on a weighting system that takes into account how many reviews are available at each source.

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Stockroom
ProsDiscreet shipping & billing​Pros15% off with email sign-up ProsFREE shipping on orders $99+
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This hard and heavy bondage X frame from Stockroom means business! The unique hourglass shape has a whopping 14 restraint points, giving you more options for tying up your partner! It’s made of steel and wrought iron, giving it the perfect dungeon look. Not only that, the cold hard metal will make your sub’s skin tingle!

The Stockroom Triangle St. Andrew's Cross test
The Stockroom Triangle St. Andrew's Cross features
Recommended for the intermediate and advanced

The The Stockroom Triangle St. Andrew's Cross was rated 70 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for someone with some experience

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Triangle St. Andrew's Cross if you...
You should buyhave a large budget
You should buyare experienced with bondage
You should buywant more restraint possibilities
You should buyprefer the hourglass design
You should buywant the ultimate dungeon accessory
You should NOT buy the Triangle St. Andrew's Cross if you...
You should NOT buyprefer something padded
You should NOT buydon't enjoy the feel of cold metal
You should NOT buyare not sure if you enjoy extreme restraint
You should NOT buyneed something more discreet
The Stockroom Triangle St. Andrew's Cross features
Features
Height78 inches
Width35 inches
MaterialsSteel, wrought iron, 
Pros
Prosunique hourglass design
Prosplenty of restraint points
Proshigh-quality finish
Prosamazing BDSM aesthetic
Prosmade to order
Cons
Consexpensive
Consrequires a lot space
Conclusion

This sex cross looks incredible! I love that they have added the extra bars at the top and bottom as this also allows for more restraint opportunities. The patina finish of the metal also adds to cold, industrial feel. This is a pricey piece of BDSM gear and it takes up a fair amount of room, so this is one for the real BDSM enthusiasts out there! If you have the space and budget, this could be an amazing statement piece in your BDSM dungeon that also offers a lot of uses!

2 Cheapest

DOMINIX Deluxe Over the Door Cross Position Restraint Kit

DOMINIX Deluxe Over the Door Cross Position Restraint Kit
Design:

Rating: DOMINIX Door Restraints was rated 80 out of 100, which means it is designed very well.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the BDSM cross.

80/100
Ease of Use:

Rating: DOMINIX Door Restraints was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

95/100
Quality:

Rating: DOMINIX Door Restraints was rated 75 out of 100, which means it is very good quality.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

75/100
Price:

Rating: DOMINIX Door Restraints was rated 1 out of 5, which means it is cheap compared to other BDSM crosses.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

Low
Price ratingPrice ratingPrice ratingPrice ratingPrice rating
Bedbible rating:

Rating: DOMINIX Door Restraints was rated 4.8 out of 5, which means it is amongst the absolute best of toys that I can absolutely recommend you try out.

What it is: The Bedbible rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. 1 indicates a very bad product, while 5 indicate a very good product. It is the overall rating given by our tester which makes it a very subjective score of the DOMINIX Door Restraints.

4.8/5.0

DOMINIX Door Restraints Review
User rating:

Rating: DOMINIX Door Restraints was rated 4.9 out of 5, which means it is amongst the absolute best of toys that I can absolutely recommend you try out.

What it is: The User rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. The score is an aggregated rating of all online ratings. We find and aggregate all ratings based on a weighting system that takes into account how many reviews are available at each source.

4.9/5.0

Sources
Rating star4.9/5Lovehoney.com (9)
Lovehoney.com
ProsDiscreet shipping and billingPros15% off by email sign-upProsFree shipping on orders over $60
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Want to explore full body bondage but don’t want a full on dungeon cross? All you need is a sturdy door to enjoy this cross position restraint kit from Dominix. The restraints hook around the outside of the door and are locked into place by closing the door. From there, you can restrain your partner’s wrists and ankles using the leather, buckle-fastening cuffs, leaving them at your mercy!

DOMINIX Deluxe Over the Door Cross Position Restraint Kit test
DOMINIX Deluxe Over the Door Cross Position Restraint Kit features
Recommended for the beginner

The DOMINIX Deluxe Over the Door Cross Position Restraint Kit was rated 0 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for a complete beginner

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the DOMINIX Door Restraints if you...
You should buyare new to fully body bondage
You should buywant a discreet BDSM cross
You should buyneed a travel-friendly option
You should buyenjoy light bondage
You should NOT buy the DOMINIX Door Restraints if you...
You should NOT buywant a permanent set-up
You should NOT buyneed heavy duty restraints
You should NOT buyprefer to avoid leather products
You should NOT buyare allergic to nickel
DOMINIX Deluxe Over the Door Cross Position Restraint Kit features
Features
Length100 inches
MaterialsCuffs: Leather 
FasteningBuckle 
AdjustableYes 
AllergiesContains nickel 
Pros
ProsAffordable
ProsBeginner-friendly
ProsPortable
ProsEasy to store
ProsDetachable wrist and ankle cuffs
ProsFully adjustable
Cons
ConsNot as strong as solid restraints
ConsCan be fiddly to set up and attach clips
Conclusion

I love how accessible these restraints are! They are so quick and easy to set up and you can easily adjust them to your partner’s height. The leather cuffs also have a nice BDSM feel to them and they are detachable so you can go from one bondage position to another without having to remove them completely. Of course, it doesn’t have quite the same look or feel as a full BDSM cross structure but it it’s a very affordable, more discreet alternative that takes up a fraction of the space!

3

The Stockroom New St. Andrew's Cross X

The Stockroom New St. Andrew's Cross X
Design:

Rating: New St. Andrew's Cross X was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the BDSM cross.

100/100
Ease of Use:

Rating: New St. Andrew's Cross X was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

90/100
Quality:

Rating: New St. Andrew's Cross X was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

100/100
Price:

Rating: New St. Andrew's Cross X was rated 5 out of 5, which means it is very expensive.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

High
Price ratingPrice ratingPrice ratingPrice ratingPrice rating
Bedbible rating:

Rating: New St. Andrew's Cross X was rated 4.8 out of 5, which means it is amongst the absolute best of toys that I can absolutely recommend you try out.

What it is: The Bedbible rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. 1 indicates a very bad product, while 5 indicate a very good product. It is the overall rating given by our tester which makes it a very subjective score of the New St. Andrew's Cross X.

4.8/5.0

New St. Andrew's Cross X Review
User rating:

Rating: New St. Andrew's Cross X was rated 0 out of 5, which means it is a very bad product.

What it is: The User rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. The score is an aggregated rating of all online ratings. We find and aggregate all ratings based on a weighting system that takes into account how many reviews are available at each source.

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Stockroom
ProsDiscreet shipping & billing​Pros15% off with email sign-up ProsFREE shipping on orders $99+
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This more traditional St. Andrew’s Cross is the perfect dungeon accessory. The strong metal structure is made from marine-grade aluminium with black vinyl details and 13 TIG-welded attachment points. The sturdy footplate also has cut-outs to make space for your sub’s feet when they are facing away from you — perfect for all your impact play desires!

The Stockroom New St. Andrew's Cross X test
The Stockroom New St. Andrew's Cross X features
Recommended for the intermediate and advanced

The The Stockroom New St. Andrew's Cross X was rated 70 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for someone with some experience

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the New St. Andrew's Cross X if you...
You should buyprefer the traditional X design
You should buywant a free-standing BDSM cross
You should buyenjoy the feel of cold metal
You should buywant multiple restraint points
You should NOT buy the New St. Andrew's Cross X if you...
You should NOT buyare new to full body restraint
You should NOT buyhave limited space
You should NOT buyprefer something softer or more padded
You should NOT buywant something discreet
The Stockroom New St. Andrew's Cross X features
Features
Height78 inches
Width35 inches
MaterialsMarine-grade aluminium, leather vinyl  
Weight110 lbs
Pros
ProsToe cut-outs for comfort
ProsSturdy design in marine-grade aluminium
ProsLots of restraint points
ProsStrong BDSM style
Cons
ConsMetal and vinyl can be cold
ConsTakes up a lot of space
Conclusion

Another top-quality cross bondage frame from The Stockroom — they really know how to make bondage gear that looks the part and delivers top-level functionality. I love how many restraint points this bondage frame has. The metal can be very cold on your skin, but that can really add to the rush of excitement! Of course, that level of quality comes at a price, and this is quite an investment, but I would say it’s worth it if you are looking for the ultimate dungeon cross. Not to mention, this thing is solid and built to last, so it’s not as if you will need to replace it anytime soon!

4

Oxy-Shop Deluxe Free Standing St Andrew's Cross

Oxy-Shop Deluxe Free Standing St Andrew's Cross
Design:

Rating: Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross was rated 70 out of 100, which means it is designed very well.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the BDSM cross.

70/100
Ease of Use:

Rating: Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

90/100
Quality:

Rating: Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross was rated 80 out of 100, which means it is very good quality.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

80/100
Price:

Rating: Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross was rated 3 out of 5, which means it neither expensive nor cheap.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

Medium
Price ratingPrice ratingPrice ratingPrice ratingPrice rating
Bedbible rating:

Rating: Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross was rated 4.8 out of 5, which means it is amongst the absolute best of toys that I can absolutely recommend you try out.

What it is: The Bedbible rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. 1 indicates a very bad product, while 5 indicate a very good product. It is the overall rating given by our tester which makes it a very subjective score of the Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross.

4.8/5.0

Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross Review
User rating:

Rating: Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross was rated 5.0 out of 5, which means it is amongst the absolute best of toys that I can absolutely recommend you try out.

What it is: The User rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. The score is an aggregated rating of all online ratings. We find and aggregate all ratings based on a weighting system that takes into account how many reviews are available at each source.

5.0/5.0

Sources
Rating star5/5Oxy-shop (7)
Oxy-shop
ProsDiscreet shipping & billing​ProsContests for discountsProsSpecialized shop
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This free-standing St. Andrew’s Cross is the perfect place to tease and torture your sub! As well as having four sturdy restraint points, the whole cross can be reclined, giving you even more ways to play! Plus, the structure can easily be disassembled and stored under your bed when not in use!

Oxy-Shop Deluxe Free Standing St Andrew's Cross test
Oxy-Shop Deluxe Free Standing St Andrew's Cross features
Recommended for the beginner and intermediate

The Oxy-Shop Deluxe Free Standing St Andrew's Cross was rated 40 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for someone with some experience

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross if you...
You should buywant a reclining BDSM cross
You should buyif you love full body bondage
You should buyprefer a cross you can disassemble
You should buylove the red and black design
You should NOT buy the Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross if you...
You should NOT buyprefer the metal look
You should NOT buywant a wall-mounted BDSM cross
Oxy-Shop Deluxe Free Standing St Andrew's Cross features
Features
Height80.64 inches
Width39.36 inches
MaterialsIron 
Pros
ProsEasy to assemble/disassemble
ProsCan be taken down to store
ProsSolid base frame
Cons
Consnot as many restraint points
Consbright design won't suit all tastes
Constakes up a lot of space
Conclusion

The best feature of this cross is definitely the adjustable angle! Having your partner leaned back at an angle both intensifies their vulnerability and gives you more variation in how you use the cross! This cross also has more padding and less bare metal than the other options in this review, making it a little more comfortable! It’s a big plus that it can be taken down for storage but that does take a little work and it’s pretty big so you will need to find a good spot for it!

Comparison of the 4 best BDSM crosses

Triangle St. Andrew's Cross
Triangle St. Andrew's Cross
DOMINIX Door Restraints
DOMINIX Door Restraints
New St. Andrew's Cross X
New St. Andrew's Cross X
Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross
Oxy-Shop St Andrew's Cross
BestTest Winner Cheapest null null
Overall score- 4.8 / 5.0 - 4.9 / 5.0
Bedbible rating4.9 / 5.0 4.8 / 5.0 4.8 / 5.0 4.8 / 5.0
User rating- 4.9 / 5.0
from 9 users 		- 5 / 5.0
from 7 users
PriceHigh Low High Medium
Design100 / 100 80 / 100 100 / 100 70 / 100
Ease of use90 / 100 95 / 100 90 / 100 90 / 100
Quality98 / 100 75 / 100 100 / 100 80 / 100
Sound----
Power----
Buzzy/Rumbly----
Height78 inches-78 inches80.64 inches
Width35 inches-35 inches39.36 inches
MaterialsSteel, wrought iron, Cuffs: Leather Marine-grade aluminium, leather vinyl Iron
Length-100 inches--
Fastening-Buckle --
Adjustable-Yes --
Allergies-Contains nickel --
Weight--110 lbs-
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Oxy-Shop Movable Restraint Tray

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BDSM Safety

Here are some simple but essential safety guidelines for safe and sexy and BDSM play!

Consent is essential

Consent is essential

Consent is essential

Consent is always the first step in any sexual activity. True consent must be freely-given, reversible, informed, enthusiastic, and specific.

Be aware of the risks

Be aware of the risks

Be aware of the risks

It’s essential to be aware of the risks involved, both so you can give informed consent but also so you can be prepared. Whenever you are using ropes or fabric restraints, you should have some safety scissors on hand to cut your partner out in an emergency.

Discuss your boundaries

Discuss your boundaries

Discuss your boundaries

As well as talking about your boundaries regarding being restrained, you will also want to talk about what types of stimulation you want to explore during the play.

Agree on a safeword

Agree on a safeword

Agree on a safeword

A safeword should be used to stop the play immediately. Not sure what to choose? Check out our guide on how to choose a safeword.

Check in with your partner

Check in with your partner

Check in with your partner

Be sure to check in regularly with your partner during the play. You should check in verbally as well as monitoring their body language. You should also check before moving onto different or more intense forms of stimulation.

Finish with some aftercare

Finish with some aftercare

Finish with some aftercare

Aftercare is essential for navigating the intense feelings that come with BDSM play. General aftercare activities include cuddling, talking, having something to drink. An example of activity specific aftercare is tending to skin after impact play.

DIY St. Andrew's Cross

We always recommend buying purpose made BDSM cross, especially if it is going to be weight bearing or free standing. That being said, there are some ways to recreate the full body X-position style without buying a full-blown BDSM cross.

 

We do not recommend making your own sex toys and always recommend that you purchase purpose-made sex toys from a reputable shop. We are in no way responsible for any harm caused due to the use or sharing of these DIYs. You are 100% responsible for the outcome should you choose to make your own sex toys.

Create your own X-shapred restraint points

Create your own X-shapred restraint points

Create your own X-shapred restraint points

If you have a strong vertical surface like a wall, strong door or bed frame, you can attach wall mounting plates with O-rings to create restraint points. You will need to measure to get the right height and distance apart for the person being restrained.

Use door or bed restraints

Use door or bed restraints

Use door or bed restraints

If you have two sets of door restraints or an under bed restraint system, you can loop them around the back of your door so the restraints come out at the top and bottom of the door. Close the door to lock them in place, and you are ready to go!

How to use a BDSM Cross

Getting your partner locked in is only the first step in using a BDSM cross! Here are some different ways you can enjoy yours!

How to use a BDSM Cross

Choose your restraints

Choose your restraints

You can use ropes or cuffs to restrain your partner. You don’t want to tie them too tightly and they should be able to move a little bit. It’s important to check the restraints don’t interfere with their circulation in any way.

Impact play