Do Women Prefer Their Sex Toys (Dildos) Larger Than Their Partner’s?

Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) larger than their partner? A photograph of The 2.5 meter phallus is carried from Shinmei Shrine to Tagata Shrine by nearly a dozen men.
The 2.5 meter phallus is carried from Shinmei Shrine to Tagata Shrine by nearly a dozen men.

“Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) bigger than their partner’s?” is a question that is always posed by men. The reason for this, outside of normal male curiosity, is that many men are unhappy and self-conscious about the size of their penis. However, in most cases, men need not fret about having a small penis because we women just aren’t that shallow.

And, I have proof of that in a medical study I have found and will discuss those findings further below.

Words and Punctuation Matter

Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) larger that their partner? Photo of a human like figure holding an exclamation point.
Words and punctuation matter

But I would be doing myself and my readers an enormous disservice if I didn’t discuss what is wrong with this question structurally and why punctuation and proper English is important. You see, the question was originally written as:

“Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) larger than their partner?”

Well, personally, if I even saw a dildo larger than my partner (5’9” tall with a 42” girth), I would run for my life. Well, only after standing and marveling at the sheer size of the dildo beast and pondering who created such a gargantuan dildo and why.

So, I added the apostrophe and the “s” to make the question a bit more grammatically correct. Although, Google needs these questions to be precisely as they are asked in order to rank. However, the mere addition of the “’s” still can be construed in a funny way.

Honestly, my partner and I have never compared the size of our dildos. And, if his dildo is bigger than mine, we may have some things to talk about.

Let’s Answer the Question

In all seriousness, some answers to the question, “Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) larger than their partners?” were humorous and I have included snippets below. But all-in-all, I was able to find some fantastic answers to share with you. And to you men, please read on, because the answers aren’t at all what you might be expecting.

Do Women Prefer Their Sex Toys (Dildos) Larger Than Their Partner?

So, do women prefer their dildos larger than their partner? As a woman, I feel I am perfectly qualified to answer this question. Additionally, as a highly regarded sex toy professional, I have a great deal more insight to offer. Let’s start off with my answer as a woman.

Do I prefer my sex toys bigger than my partner? That depends entirely on my partner. For instance, I have been with men who were considered below average in size, men who were average in size and that one guy that nearly ripped me in half.

Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) larger than their partner? Photo of Lifelike Lover Luxe Realistic Silicone Dildo 6 Inch
Lifelike Lover Luxe Realistic Silicone Dildo 6 Inch

So, I cannot possibly compare my dildo size preference to penis size. Rather, I will say that I prefer my dildo size to be average, about 6 inches in length and maybe equally as girthy. However, it’s much more difficult for me to climax with a sex toy than it is when being with the real thing, regardless of his penis size.

As a professional that sold sex toys for more than a decade, I can say that most women prefer average size dildos. To be more clear, I carried this huge, realistic-looking dildo that was roughly 10 inches in length and so thick that I couldn’t get my small hand around it. And, as much as the ladies loved playing with this huge dong, I only sold 1.

And that was to a woman in her 60s who had lost her husband 2 years prior and the dildo reminded her of him.

That being said, let’s take a look at what other’s are saying about the question “Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) larger than their partner?”

What People are Saying

When asked, “Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) larger than their partners?” Katie answered:

“The biggest woman I ever had sex with was five foot eleven inches tall. I can’t imagine what I would do with a six-foot dildo. *

I prefer dildos that fit nicely inside of my vagina. Full, but not painful, right there in that sweet spot. The size of my partners has nothing to do with it.

*Upon further reflection, I underestimated my imagination. I know exactly what I’d do with a six-foot purple dildo (Hey, if I have a six-foot dildo, you bet it will be purple, with glitter.)

A six-foot purple dildo with glitter and flashing LEDs would make an incredible flag pole. Imagine it mounted on my roof, a huge pride flag blowing in the wind above an American flag. I can just see all my neighbors “taking a knee” every morning when they see it.”

I love Katie’s sense of humor as it matches mine perfectly. But you must take stock in the fact that she prefers a dildo that fits her vagina. Further, to you guys in the back, the average vagina is only 6 inches in depth.

This is how Sarah answered the same question,

“The dildo has a lot to compete wi… Actually no, the dildo can’t compete. There are just too many things a dildo can’t make up for, size is about the only thing. No wait, it can vibrate, but then so can my partner’s penis with a vibrating cock ring, so the advantage is lost anyways.

Size and shape don’t matter too much to me in regards to my partner, the extremes can be compensated for, and usage is usually what makes the big difference anyways. With a dildo I can control size and shape, but there the usage needs to be compensated for…. “

Again, another female says that the size of the dildo doesn’t matter when comparing that to an actual penis.

What the Professionals Say About Women’s Satisfaction and Their Partner’s Penis Size

In asking the question, “Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) larger than their partner?” you must put things into perspective in regard to penis size. Why? Because the original question was posed by a male and likely because he was concerned over his penis size as compared to a sex toy.

A study that was published in the British Journal of Urology found that 85% of women were satisfied with the size of their partner’s penis. Furthermore, 45% of the same women’s male counterparts admitted that they felt their penis was too small. So, to put it in simple terms, 85% of women are perfectly content with a man’s penis size. And, with that being the case, the likelihood that she would choose a dildo larger than her mate, is pretty low. But let’s dive deeper and look at another question that was asked by a gentleman.

Can a Woman, Who Uses a Dildo, Bigger Than Her Partner’s Penis, Get So Used to that Size She Starts to Feel Unsatisfied by Him and His Penis?

Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) larger than their partner? Photo of 3 skin toned colors of the Dirk dildo made by Real Doll
The ultra-realistic RealCock from Real Doll; Dirk

This particular question made me squint my eyes and massage my temples. That is because I don’t think some people realize just how elastic a women’s vagina is. Unless a woman is walking around with a massive dildo crammed into her twat 24/7, the elasticity of her vagina will not change.

So, if a woman is using a very large dildo for masturbation, it will have no effect on the ability of a smaller penis to fulfill her. Vagina’s are built to stretch and snap right back into shape.

What People Are Saying

I dug through Quora and found some interesting answers to this question, which was posted by an anonymous source. For instance, this first answer, I must add, is not the norm. Obviously, it was written by a male in a dominant and submissive relationship and thus doesn’t represent the average couple. Nevertheless, it’s important to see things from this perspective.

Anonymous has this to say,

“I would say some women do and i would say that some women might switch to prefer it. My wife and I met in high school and got married right after. Anyway, as i got older my body sort of had a rubber effect. I was 6’0″ tall, 180 lbs. wore a size 12 shoe, and my penis was 6 inches long and about 1.6 inches in diameter. As i became older my diet changed, i became very depressed and stressed out. Things were getting bad. When i finally came out of it i am now 29. I am 5’11″, 188 lbs., wear a size 11 shoe and my penis barely reaches 4.5 inches erect and 1.38 inches in diameter.”

“So, my wife and i decided to try having fun. We bought a dildo that was a bit bigger than me and she didn’t really like it. However, after some foreplay and blindfolds she began to like it but it was really a hit and miss as to if she could orgasm. So, to really get into it we decided to eliminate distractions. So i wore a cock cage and, also got into small penis humiliation, and i wore a strap on. Her orgasms became a bit more frequent. We decided to go even bigger and got a 9-inch-long (7 inches insertable) dual density dildo that was 1.75 inches in diameter. She loved it and would orgasm intensively every time.”

“After several months she let me out of my cage and wanted to use my penis. I put it in her and began thrusting. She looked at me with no expression. The kissing, the love, the romance, and passion was all still there but she was unfazed by what was happening between her legs. We tried for several more days and still nothing. She put the cage back on me and we went back to toys. I get let out every now and then and if i do get allowed to penetrate her it is only anal. She consistently teases me with her vagina and have not been traditionally in it for a couple years. I have actually grown to enjoy it.”

More Perspectives

This is what Alice said in regard to the question,

“Ok… So, I have a slight preference for… Ah-hem… Larger sizes, at least when it comes to toys. Point is, (penetrative) sex with a partner is not about size. Sure, the sensation is s lightly different, bus sex with a partner is interaction. The only time when I have had size-related problems with a partner is when a guy (who was not by far the smallest I have been in bed with) got a bout of insecurity and ended up being crap at penetration because of that. He left me unsatisfied because he was so unsure that he took the play out of penetration, not because he was smaller than one of my toys. He didn’t want me to play, all he wanted to do is show me that he could satisfy me with his penis only. Pity I do not come that way: not with men, not with toys. So, what size is really important when it comes to sex? Not the penis’s, the brain’s!”

And finally, Sushita says,

“Yes… Don’t go for bigger dildo… prefer similar size of his penis.”

What the Professionals Are Saying About Dildo Sizes and Buying Habits

It’s plain to see that when the question “Do women prefer sex toys (dildos) larger than their partners?” is asked, most women say that an average size dildo is what they prefer. However, there is a tremendous amount of proof out there to back this up.

John Millward, a professional in compiling analytics, was presented with 4.5 million sex toy sales from Lovehoney, one of the largest sex toy retailers in the world. He was tasked with digging deep into the information and compiling statistics on who bought what, the sizes, shapes and colors and, in regard to this article, the sizes of dildos.

The entire article is absolutely fascinating and does show that women prefer smaller dildos, especially in comparison to the size of dildos preferred by men. Therefore, Lovehoney shoppers preferred all sorts of dildo sizes but the females preferred dildos that were smaller.

Do Women Really Prefer Dildos that Are Larger than Their Partner’s Penis? The Final Breakdown

In the end, do women prefer sex toys (dildos) larger than their partner? In the majority of cases, the answer is no. Honestly, I do not believe, when shopping for a sex toy, a woman consciously thinks to herself, “Hmmm, this one is definitely bigger than my man, so put that baby in my cart!”

However, since it is more difficult for women to climax while using a penetrative sex toy, she may opt for something a little bigger simply to be able to feel it more intensely. And that is in the case of masturbation. But, if we are looking solely at using a dildo as a couple, I don’t believe any woman would prefer a dildo over her mate let alone one larger than his penis.

After all, sex is way more about the person attached to the penis than it is the penis itself. And since dildos are inanimate objects, they just don’t feel the same nor do they give us nearly the pleasure a real penis does.

So, to my male readers, her choice of dildo size has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fact that it takes a whole lot more dildo to pleasure us than it does an actual penis. Your size is perfect for us!


5 Responses

  1. I agree with this article for the most part. Though I do think women tend to get larger dildos because they need extra length to hold on to while using it.
    Also an 8 inch dildo is usually never 8 inches insertable. It’s around 6 inches insertable with the other inch or two being used for suction cups or a flared base.

    I think men need to not worry so much about their size and just enjoy sex with their partner.

    And if I were being honest I think it would be hot to use a dildo (or any toy) on my wife

    1. I couldn’t agree more! And yes, most dildos usually measure an inch or two longer than their actual insertable length, so that’s an important thing to keep in mind when shopping based on size.

  2. I would also like to add something.
    You said “ she may opt for something a little bigger simply to be able to feel it more intensely.”

    And I would have to agree with this statement. A Non vibrating dildo has nothing to offer besides size, texture, and maybe a little fuel for fantasy. So yea women might opt for bigger because like you said they want to feel it more intensely.

    Men are guilty of this too. Even if a guy doesn’t use a toy he is still squeezing and jerking his penis far tighter than any woman can manage. Because it feels more intense and gets us off faster.

    Also novelty could be at play here. They could be curious of what it would be like to be with a bigger dick. Or maybe something made of glass that you can change temperature. Something softer or harder. Something with a weird shape or lots of texture. Or even completely smooth/textureless.
    Guys don’t underestimate novelty. Novelty is fun and not an indication of anything lacking.

    Also what’s good for the goose is good for the gander and vice versa. Get yourself a pocket pussy

  3. As a guy born with a very tiny.non functioning Micro penis I got good at giving oral and using my fingers to satisfy women I dated. Although they enjoyed this and felt secure with oral and no chance of pregnancy they eventually found other sex partners which left me devastated and feeling very self conscious. Fast forward a few years then I met my beautiful wife who accepted my “short comings” pun intended and I felt secure with her but was jealous. of the fact she slept with lots of guys in college but she assured me she loved me as I am. I gave her oral and fingers for our first few years of marriage then I bought her a Vixen Creations Mustang dildo and wow!! she came so many times I couldn’t believe it.. She craved penetration . I felt intimidated by how good this felt to her, but it was a turn on to me also that this dildo made her moan and come so many times.Over the course of two years we went from that first small sized dildo to the big John Holmes dildo which I use in a Vacu-loc harness to penetrate her and she loves it and admittedly craves it and is addicted to it’s size. I started roleplaying other men screwing her with big John and other porn star models and she had ridiculous multiple orgasms . I mentioned to her about inviting our mutual male friend over to fuck her but she wasn’t into it. I persisted over the next year or so and told her how much I desired and lusted to watch her get copulated by our friend and she eventually gave in. It made me so horny to watch him pump my wife and hear her moans and quivers and watch them come together and see his cum drip from her. It was so liberating to me to accept myself as I was and although I knew my wife loved me I recognized the fact that she has womanly needs and craves for big cocks. And the fact that although I can’t penetrate my wife I can pleasure her with dildos and have our friend visit now and then for a real flesh cock experience. If guys could just accept themselves as they are and come to the realization that dildos can bring much fun into the bedroom and can last longer than them to give women g spot and a spot orgasms that will blow their girls minds! They would swallow their pride and give their girls the fucking they desire.

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