The Best Kinky Sex Toys for Bondage and Other Freaky Stuff
FAQ
What is a kinky sex toy?
Kinky sex toys covers a huge variety of different types of sex toys, from restraints such as handcuffs or ropes, sensation enhancers such as ticklers and pinwheels, frustration devices like chastity cages, or objects that you can use for punishment like floggers. Any toy that is used in bdsm would be considered a kinky sex toy, but you can get a huge range from gentle beginner kinky toys to extreme kinky toys that are for advanced bdsm players.
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Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit
The Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit is perfect for anyone who wants to try sexual restraints as its perfect for beginners and it’s budget friendly.
This bondage set fits any sized bed and can be kept discreetly in its storage bag which also makes it super convenient to take travelling with you.
There are 4 handcuffs included in the set that are easy to fasten and soft on your wrists or ankles, and you can use the kit as just handcuffs or as bed restraints.
The Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit is the perfect entry level kinky sex toy because it’s budget friendly and easy to use, so perfect for experimenting with restraints.
You can use this kinky sex kit just as handcuffs or as bed restraints that you can fit to any sized bed and the kit also comes with a blindfold.
It folds down to fit in its storage bag which makes it perfect for discreet storage or to take with you wherever you go.
Sportsheets Saffron Silicone Ball Gag
The Sportsheets Saffron Silicone Ball Gag is not just your average ball gag, the silicone ball is comfortable yet firm and will prevent your partner from making any noise!
Be sure to make sure that you only use it when both of you are comfortable and that you make sure the bound partner is enjoying it.
The vegan leather strap is adjustable up to a 9 inch head diameter, and the locking function keeps it firmly in place.
The Sportsheets Saffron Silicone Ball Gag is a delightfully freaky sex toy that will add a kinky dimension to sex.
It’s a great entry level kinky sex toy that’s comfortable but firm.
Always make sure that your partner is comfortable using non-verbal signals as you won’t be able to hear them!
Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System
The Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System is an amazing entry-level kinky sex kit that will allow you to restrain a partner, or be restrained by a partner, by attaching it to any bed.
It’s comfortable but firm and you can adjust the straps to try different positions.
The straps are easily concealable under the mattress for discretion when you’re not using them, and they’re compact enough to take with you for fun while you travel.
You might find that you want to upgrade your set to invest in a more luxurious, or expert level set once you’ve got to grips with this one.
This kinky sex kit is the perfect beginners bdsm set because it’s really easy to use and it’s comfortable for the wearer.
It’s also very discreet as it fits under your mattress so no need to worry about hiding it!
You will probably find that you will want to upgrade this set once you have some experience, so it’s probably not the best set for anyone with lots of experience.
Sportsheets Leather Slut Slapper Paddle
The Sportsheets Leather Slut Slapper Paddle is a great beginner friendly slapping paddle that will leave a sexy imprint on your partners rear.
The dual-layered spanking surface creates a loud ‘slap’ without requiring a massive impact, so you get the satisfying sound without having to hit too hard which makes it the perfect tool for lighter bdsm play.
This one is a great beginner paddle if you want to experiment with spanking but without causing too much discomfort. For the same reason it’s probably not suited to anyone with lots of spanking experience, unless you are just buying it for the imprint!
It’s budget friendly which does also mean that if you’re looking for a luxury paddle then this might not be your best bet.
Bondage Boutique Adjustable Tweezer Nipple Clamps
These Bondage Boutique Nipple Clamps are fully adjustable nipple clamps allowing you to choose the strength of the pinching.
You can also use these clamps on your clitoris, but make sure to be careful when adjusting them so that you don’t over-tighten them and hurt yourself or your partner.
The weight of the metal chain will provide added stimulation, and it allows your hands to explore other areas of your body.
If you are looking for entry level kinky toys then these nipple clamps are a great place to start!
These nipple clamps are another amazing beginner friendly kinky sex toy, that will definitely add a whole new exciting dimension to sex.
It might be a good idea to test out the tightening function on a non-sensitive area first, just to make sure you don’t get a bit over keen when you’re using them on your delicate parts!
Fifty Shades of Grey Tease Feather Tickler
The Fifty Shades of Grey Tease Feather Tickler is the perfect toy to drive your partner wild, by using it all over their body to intensify their sensitivity.
It’s the perfect kinky toy to spice up foreplay, as it’s designed to excite the nerve endings so running it over the most deliciously sensitive parts of your body will get your well on your way to an overwhelmingly explosive orgasm.
Pair the Fifty Shades of Grey Tease Feather Tickler with a blindfold for maximum effect, as it will intensify the sensation of the feathers trailing over the skin.
The Fifty Shades of Grey feather tickler is a great example of how not all kinky sex toys need to involve restriction or discomfort.
Bondage ticklers will make you or your partner so sensitive that everything you do after will be massively heightened!
DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Wrist Cuffs
The Lovehoney DOMINIX leather wrist cuffs are luxury bondage handcuffs that will add a beautiful BDSM vibe to your toy collection.
Their light padding makes them comfortable enough for long term use, but they are firm enough to give you all levels of restraint.
The 9 hole buckle fastening means these exciting cuffs can fit most wrists from a circumference from 4 – 8.25 inches.
These DOMINIX handcuffs are a stunning collection to your BDSM playroom, they look and feel luxurious while also being extremely strong.
They’re not the cheapest cuffs on the market but they’re durable so will last you an long time even with regular use.
The only real downside for some is that they are made from real leather so not vegan friendly.
Lovense Edge 2
The Lovense Edge 2 is a powerful prostate massager made from luxurious feeling silicone that is perfect for solo play or play with a partner.
Its app controllable meaning you can use it for hands free solo fun, or pass the control over to a partner, or you can even use it as a long distance relationship sex toy.
As well as having completely customisable vibration speeds and patterns, you can also adjust the position of the arm to give you precise p-spot stimulation that will take you over the edge to an explosive deep internal orgasm.
The size of this one means that we would recommend that you have some anal toy experience before using it.
The Lovense Edge 2 is an incredibly high-tech vibrating butt plug that can be controlled from anywhere in the world via the app!
You can completely customise the vibrations on the app too, but it’s perfectly functional and easy to use just with the buttons on the actual toy.
We’d recommend that this is best suited to intermediate anal players, and that as always you use lots of [af_link id=”28047″]Water-Based Anal Lubricant[/af_link]!
Fifty Shades Darker Adrenaline Spikes Metal Wartenberg Pinwheel
This one definitely looks a lot scarier than it feels!
The Fifty Shades Darker Adrenaline Pinwheel is the perfect step up for anyone who has tried using feathers as a sensory stimulator.
Pinwheels are amazing kinky sex toys for couples as running the spikes over your partners skin will tease the nerve endings of your partner’s body, so once you finally give into let them climax they will have an explosive orgasm like never before.
Don’t be fooled by the scary look of this one!
It’s actually super gentle and is a great way to start off experimenting with pinwheels because it will go easy on you. Equally, it is probably too gentle for anyone who has experience with pinwheels.
Pinwheels are an amazing bdsm kinky toys as they heighten your sensations so everything feels way more intense, and usually where there is greater intensity there are better orgasms!
Doc Johnson Japanese-Style Bondage Rope
The Doc Johnson Japanese-Style Shibari Bondage Rope is a beautifully crafted rope that’s perfect for anyone who wants to try out restraint play.
It’s 10m long so the sky is the limit with the different ways that you can use it, and it does come with a handy guide on knot tying, although that can still be a bit confusing if you’re not used to it!
The rope is made from pure cotton to help avoid rope burn and designed so that it lays flat on the skin for comfort, but it’s also super strong so your lover isn’t going to be going anywhere unless you release them.
It’s always a good idea to keep scissors close by just in case of the need for a quick escape.
The Doc Johnson rope is perfect for anyone who wants to try out ropes as sex toy restraints because it’s comfortable and beginner friendly.
It’s also budget friendly but has a luxurious quality to it, making it pretty hard to find fault with!
Love Honey CB-6000S Short Male Chastity Cage Kit
The CB-6000S is a shorter version of the CB-6000 as many found that one to be not restrictive enough!
It’s super easy to use and is perfect for handing total power over to a partner by giving them the key. It has been designed for long-term wear with a vented cage and a hole at the bottom for use at a urinal so the key holder can keep you in there as long as they desire.
It comes with 5 different sizing rings so it should be comfortable for most.
This kinky sex toy is sure to keep you from getting erect, making it an ideal toy for a partner to keep you in check until they are ready to let you out and relieve your frustration.
The CB-6000S is a great kinky sex kit for anyone who wants to try chastity play as it comes with everything you need to get started.
The 5 different diameter O rings make it adjustable enough to fit most widths, but do be aware that this is the short version of this cage so won’t be suitable for large sizes.
Perfect for short-term or long-term wear, you will be totally at the mercy of the key holder!
Sportsheets Saffron Hogtie and Cuff Set
The Sportsheets Saffron Hogtie is one of the kinkiest sex toys on our list, it will have you or your partner completely restrained and unable to escape.
It’s made from vegan leather and metal so super secure allowing you to live out your fantasies, while the lightly padded cuffs provide some extra comfort.
You can also use the cuff attachments separately by attaching them to each other or other restraint toys, which is a great advantage as it means you get more than just a hogtie restraint.
The Sportsheets Saffron Hogtie is an amazing restrictive BDSM toy that will make sure you or your partner will be totally restrained and unable to escape.
The only slight niggle with this one is that the metal isn’t covered so that could cause a bit of discomfort, but the cuffs do have some light padding so that does help!
The Cowgirl Premium Sex Machine
The Cowgirl is a sex machine like no other with its unique saddle and powerful vibrations.
It has a 360 degree swivel rotation and tons of different vibration modes for you to try, plus it comes with two attachments so you’re ready to go as soon as it arrives.
Made from vegan leather it’s suitable for everyone’s enjoyment, and it can be controlled by the corded remote that comes with it or you can control it via the app up to 30m away, so you can relinquish control by passing the remote over to a partner.
The Cowgirl is a great f-machine for anyone who enjoys riding their toys and it’s great for solo use or fun with a partner.
The main downsides to this one is that it is very expensive so definitely an investment, and it’s very noisy so not suitable for anyone who needs a discreet toy!
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The Super kinky sex toys and other freaky accessories
Sometimes more is more, so we thought we’d add just a few more types of freaky toys to our list for good measure!
Electro Sex Toys
Electro sex toys are kinky toys that stimulate your erogenous zones with gentle electrical currents.
The human body is a wonderful conductor of electricity so you will feel the current travel through your body for stimulation like no other.
You should only use electro sex toys from trusted retailers, and never make your own!
Canes
BDSM canes are a popular kinky sex toy for anyone who enjoys spanking.
You can find canes in lots of different materials, some that are gentler and perfect for beginners such as leatherette canes, or more experienced and intense canes like those made from rattan.
Some canes leave imprints like love hearts or words which can add to the fun!
Spanking can be as gentle or as painful as you like it, just start of slowly and gently and work your way up if you want to.
Medical Fetish toys
Medical fetish toys are kinky sex items that have been designed to look and feel like medical instruments, perfect for anyone who loves the idea of feeling helpless on the medical table.
Most medical fetish toys will give you some level of discomfort, and for the most intense experience why not add some role play into the mix too!?
Collars
BDSM collars are often used in bdsm play, particularly in power play between a dom and a sub.
You can attach a leash to your collar, or just wear it for the aesthetic appeal.
Spanking bench
Spanking benches are designed with punishment in mind!
They are set up perfectly for for spanking, and it’s actually really easy to make them yourself if you’re not ready to commit to buying one just yet.
The only major difference between spanking benches and ordinary is that that are made to be comfortable and they often also have other restraints attached to them.
Sex Tables
Sex tables are a great way to help you with certain positions, they also often come with added features like restraints and cages!
Female Chastity
The primary purpose of female chastity belts are to increase frustration. by removing the wearers ability to have an orgasm, whether that’s from self-gratification, oral, or sex, all options are removed. This gives the key holder total power over the wearer’s pleasure, and they can maintain this power whether just in the short term to enhance sex that day or they can be worn over long periods of time.
BDSM Whips
BDSM whips are kinky toys that are used for different sensations whether that’s tickling, whipping, spanking, whatever you fancy!
You can experiment with the different intensities of sensations, but as always it’s best to start off gentle!
Bondage Swings
Bondage swings are just like normal sex swings so are suspended from the ceiling, allowing you to achieve more difficult positions with ease, but they usually also include added mechanisms for restraint play.
Spreader bars
Spreader bars are used to keep you or your partners limbs spread open, so that this allows easy access to your erogenous zones.
You can use spreader bars on the arms or the legs depending on what sexual positions you want to use.
Anal Hooks
Anal hooks are curved objects usually made from stainless steel. There will normally be one rounded end that is for inserting into the wearer, and then the other end can be attached to ropes for intense restraint play.
You can also use anal hooks to spice your alone time up and for temperature play thanks to being made from stainless steel.
How to use a kinky sex toy
There are tons of ways you can use kinky sex toys, so we put together a few to give you some inspiration to get started!
Getting warmed up
Kinky sex toys like ticklers are the perfect addition to foreplay because they work by stimulating your nerve endings and therefore heightening sensations.
This means that when you have sex afterwards everything will be intensified, including your orgasms!
In a couple
Kinky sex toys are most fun when used with a partner, actually most of them require one!
For example if you are using sex bed restraints, you need a partner to restrain or do the restraining and you also need them to let you back out!
To spice things up
Every relationship requires you to keep things fresh!
Things like trying new positions and trying new toys like kinky sex items are the perfect way to spice things up.
It’s important to always discuss with your partner what you are both comfortable with before you try something new.
Safety
It’s important to agree on a safe word or signal before you start playing with kinky toys.
The word ‘stop’ isn’t always a good safe word as it can be part of the role play that often goes along with kinky sex toys, the best safe words are something completely random like ‘apple’.
If using restraint systems you should always be able to escape quickly if you need to, for example, if you are using rope ties then keep some scissors nearby so your partner can quickly cut you out in an emergency.
How to clean your kinky sex toy
Yawn! Nobody likes cleaning their toys after use, everyone wants to relax and enjoy their post orgasm bliss. But cleaning your toys is the most important part of playtime, you don't need to do it immediately but you do need to wash your toys after each use. The method and intensity of cleaning required depends entirely on the material that your toy is made from. Anything non-porous will clean up super quickly and easily whereas porous items will need an intensive wash up after every use. We've put together a little guide to help you get your clean up done as efficiently as possible, but make sure you also check the manufacturers instructions too.
materials
Soft plastic, hard plastic, jelly, rubber, Cyberskin are all porous materials, meaning that small particles and bacteria can penetrate the surface. This makes it impossible to completely clean these types of materials.
Therefore, it is recommended that you use a condom with these types of toys, especially if you are sharing them. Clean these toys with mild soapy water and dry gently with a towel. These materials are more easily damaged, so be sure to be gentle and make sure your toys are completely dry before storing.
materials
Silicone, glass, stainless steel and some hard plastics can all be washed using a mild soap (like you would use on your body) and warm water. Just be careful if your toy contains electrical parts.
Silicone and stainless steel toys without any electrical parts can also be boiled for sterilisation.
components
If your toys contain electrical components, be extra careful when cleaning them and always check the instructions provided with the toy. You can use a gentle cloth and soap to wipe or sex toy cleaner or cleaning wipe to down your toy, making sure that no water comes into contact with the electrical parts.