18 Sexy Gifts to Spice Up Your Relationship

By Rachel Worthington / August 23, 2021

We all know that the best kinds of gifts are the ones that are thoughtful and show that you really know the one receiving the gift. Well, what’s more thoughtful and exciting than a sexy present that’s literally all about pleasure?

Sex toys can make fantastic gifts because a lot of us find a myriad of reasons not to buy them for ourselves – whether it’s the price range or where we think our priorities should lie. You, however, can allow your partner’s pleasure to take center stage by buying them the perfect sex toy for their sensual needs and desires, or even a couple’s toy that can elevate both of your orgasms together!

You don’t have to wait until the holidays or Valentine’s day to surprise your significant other with a sex gift either. After all, some of the best presents are the ones that we have no idea are coming. Why not get them a little something to celebrate the end of a long work week, or just a small something to show you’re thinking about them?

Whatever the occasion, check out our 18 ideas for sex gifts for relationships below and get ready to surprise your significant other…

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Sex Toy Gifts

Long gone are the days of having the choice of a rabbit vibrator for a vagina-owner and a Fleshlight for those with a penis – lots of savvy sex toy companies have honed in on our desire to sex toys that can bring pleasure to anyone and everyone using them. Here are a select few that could make the perfect gift for that special someone (and you, too!).

1. We-Vibe Chorus

We-Vibe Chorus

If you’re looking for a top-notch couple’s sex toy, check out the We-Vibe Chorus. It delivers strong, rumbly vibrations both internally and externally for both partners to enjoy, and can be worn during penetrative sex with a penis or dildo. It can also be controlled with the remote control or even with your phone using We-Vibe’s app! This is a premium sex toy that makes a seriously luxurious gift for both of you.

Read more about the We-Vibe Chorus in our in-depth test and review!

2. Lovense Lush 3

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If your significant other loves a high-tech gadget or two, look no further than the Lush 3 from Lovense. This love egg offers intense g-spot and clitoral stimulation that can be controlled from anywhere in the world via its app. Options like syncing the vibrations to music or even your voice make it perfect for bedroom antics or long-distance loving alike. You can also read Isabelle’s review of the Lovense Lush 2.

3. Satisfyer Pro 2

Satisfyer Pro 2 - Next Generation

The Satisfyer Pro 2 is a clitoral stimulator that’s hugely popular all over the world, and it’s not hard to see why. Its Air Pulse technology delivers indirect stimulation to the clitoris in a way that’s incredibly tantalizing but not overwhelming. If you have a partner who can feel numb from too much vibration but loves their clit to be teased, the Satisfyer offers a great alternative that’s been likened by some to incredible oral sex.

Want to know more? Read our test and review of the Satisfyer Pro 2 here.

4. Dame Eva II

Dame Eva II

This little vibrator is designed to be a hands-free solution to clitoral stimulation during sex. The flexible wings fit snugly inside the labia and deliver 3 speeds of vibrations straight to the clitoris by pressing the single button on top. If you want to get intimate without having to think about awkwardly holding bullet vibes or big wands, the Eva II from Dame is an elegant (and cute) solution that makes sex more enjoyable for all involved.

5. Tenga Egg

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It’s a truly unfortunate fact that male sex toys and masturbators still have a lot of stigma attached to them, which can prevent many penis-owners from trying out toys and gaining all the great benefits they can offer. If your partner falls into this category, why not treat them to some luxurious sensations with a Tenga egg? These disposable penis sleeves are soft and deliciously textured for sensations like no other. Plus, while they may look small, they can stretch to deliver pleasure all over.

6. Lelo Tor 2

Lelo Tor 2

The Tor 2 from Lelo is another toy that can really elevate lovemaking sessions for all involved. This vibrating penis ring consists of a rigid square vibrator that delivers intense, rumbly vibrations to the clitoris or perineum during penetration, and a velvety soft and stretchy silicone ring that fits comfortably around the base of the penis. Penis rings can both heighten sensations for the wearer as well as increasing stamina, perfect for long and intense sessions with your partner.

7. We-Vibe Moxie

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Panty vibrators are having a moment right now in the sex toy world. They’re fun, sexy and, if you’re feeling adventurous enough, small enough to enjoy some discreet public play! The We-Vibe Moxie is one of the best of the bunch. It can be attached to any pair of panties with its strong magnetic clip, and churns out tons of rumbly vibes straight to the clit. Its remote control means that it’s the perfect companion to use alone or with the help of a partner, and it can even be connected to the We-Connect app for lots more options.

8. Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Kit

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If you really want to try something new in the bedroom, then why not check out the wonders of strap-ons? They are ideal for those in penis-less relationships that still desire the feeling of penetration, as well as those who want to try out some power-play pegging.

If you’re just starting out, we recommend the Supersex Strap-On Kit by Tracey Cox. This beginner’s set came out on top in our pegging dildo review, and comes with two soft, silicone dildos to ease you in, as well as a bullet vibrator that can be inserted into the girthier pink one and an adjustable harness – everything you need to get started on your journey together.

9. Clone-A-Willy

Clone-A-Willy Vibrator Create Your Own Penis Molding Kit

We love penises for all kinds of reasons, but they do still have their limitations – they can’t vibrate. Fortunately, Clone-A-Willy is here to fulfil that need. This kit has everything you need to craft a realistic vibrating dildo moulded from your partner’s or your own penis. It looks and feels just like the real thing, but just twist the base and you can receive powerful vibrations, too!

It may seem a little silly at first, but this could be a very personal gift that allows you and your partner to feel connected, even if you can’t be together in person. The kits come in a variety of skin tones, as well as some crazier ones, including glow-in-the-dark colors!

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Looking for Something Spicier?

There’s a cliche that many relationships hit a point where sex just isn’t fun anymore, and that means that some BDSM needs to be added to the mix. Of course, that’s just a cliche, and bondage, dominance play and fetishes aren’t for everybody, but if you and your partner are curious, it could be well worth trying out. Whatever level you’re a newbie or ready to go to the next level, there’s an incredible range of products out there to suit all tastes, and even some that could make perfect gifts for a special someone.

10. Blindfold

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If you and your partner have never ventured far from vanilla sex before, the ‘fetish’ section of a sex toy store may look pretty intimidating. But, fear not, a simple blindfold is a perfect place to start. Placing a blindfold on your partner can allow you to really tease and play with them, taking your foreplay to the next level. You could even add some sensory play to the mix, using a feather or your fingers to stroke and tickle their skin in all the erogenous zones.

This lacy blindfold from Bondage Boutique makes a sleek and sexy gift, and is even lined with faux fur for comfort.

11. Bondage Kit

Lovehoney All Tied Up Bondage Play Kit (8 Piece)

If you’re itching to introduce some bondage into your sex life (and your partner is on board), then why not go for a comprehensive starter kit that will allow you to try out a whole range of sensations? Lovehoney’s All Tied Up 8-piece bondage kit has everything you’ll need to explore the world of bondage in a safe, comfortable and sexy way. It includes a blindfold, wrist and ankle cuffs, under-mattress sex straps, nipple suckers, a vibrating cock ring, a finger vibrator, and a beginner’s flogger.

Try them out individually to get a sense of what kinds of restraint and sensory play you both enjoy, and then start combining them – the possibilities are endless. Just make sure to discuss beforehand what both of your boundaries are, and come up with a safeword for if things get to be too much.

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Little Extras

A sexy gift doesn’t always mean a sex toy or a pair of handcuffs – sometimes the best gifts are those little extra items of luxury that really heighten your senses and show your partner that you care. These kinds of gifts are perfect for those surprise ‘I was thinking of you’ moments, and can make every intimate session feel that little bit more special. Here is some inspiration…

12. Lube


If you’re not using lube in your everyday sex life, then you’re really missing out. A good lubricant is a must-have for almost all sex toys to keep the experience comfortable, safe and as pleasurable as possible, but can also make all kinds of sex so, so much better.

There are lots of good lubes out there, but what if you want to splash out on something a little more special? Just take a look at Common Bond lubricant by Standard Dose. It’s all-natural, vegan and fragrance free, but it doesn’t end there. Common Bond contains CBD and botanicals that can calm you and enhance every sensation, plus it looks fabulous. Just don’t use it with latex condoms or silicone toys, as it isn’t water-based.

13. Massage Candle

Earthly Body Trio 3-in-1 Mini Massage Candles

Nothing says love and intimacy like a massage from your partner. Give them a luxurious pamper session with some scented massage candles that can be melted and then drizzled onto and massaged into the skin. This trio of vegan, cruelty-free massage candles contain natural oils that nourish dry skin and leave it feeling silky and smooth. You could leave it at a tender massage at the end of a hard day, or treat it as some sensual foreplay that both of you will love.

14. Orgasm Gel

Tickle Her Pink Clitoral Stimulating Gel

Give your partner some incredible tingly sensations with this clitoral stimulation gel from Tickle Her Pink. Beneath its cute retro packaging is some seriously stimulating gel that can enhance the intensity of sensations around the clitoris and lead to superbly satisfying orgasms. Simply massage a drop or two just beneath the clitoris and wait for the tingles to begin – perfect for those who need a little extra oomph in the clitoral region but don’t want a sex toy or fingers getting in the way of the intimacy.

15. Condoms

ONE Pleasure Plus Condoms

Condoms aren’t just for first dates and one-night-stands, there are plenty of couples in longer-term relationships for whom condoms are an essential part of their everyday sex life. Unfortunately for us long-term condom users though, most condoms just aren’t that fun or sexy.

A lot of us know a brand or type of condom that suits us well, but what about switching things up and trying out some new and exciting varieties? You could go for a pack of a particular type, or choose a multipack that contains all kinds of different ones. From ribs and dots to gels that deliver warm or cool sensations, there may well be your new favorite among them.

16. Erotic Dice

Erotic Position Dice

“Sex dice?!”, you exclaim, “In this day and age?!”. And I get it, but hear me out. Erotic dice (or is it die?) can be a fantastic way to introduce new things into the bedroom and inspire you to try new ways of doing things that you may not have thought of before. They come in all different varieties, including more traditional foreplay dice that say things like ‘lick inner thighs’ and so on.

I like Lovehoney’s version of these dice that come with an action die and two body part dice, one romantic and one naughty. Alternatively, you could try out some sex position dice like the ones above from TooTimid, which give you 12 exciting positions to try out whenever you feel like something new.

17. Sexy Games

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In a similar vein to sex dice, why not gift your partner an erotic game for both of you to play and enjoy together. There are a huge amount of intimate games out there for you to choose from, with many different levels of sexiness and explicit-ness, so there’s bound to be something you and your partner could have a little fun with.

One of the most famous is called Monogamy, which has 3 levels of play from ‘intimate’ to ‘steamy’ to get you talking, teasing and fantasizing. Another, simpler option is Pillow Talk, which poses different ‘reward scenarios’ to you both as a couple and encourages fun and open communication about desires, acts and boundaries.

18. Sex Toy Storage

Womanizer Bedside Caddy Sex Toys Storage Bag

And finally, what do you get for the partner who knows their way around sex toys and has enough candles to last a lifetime? How about a way to store and protect their erotic collection that’s both stylish and practical? Sex toy storage is not something we think about too often (especially when we’re more concerned about putting them to use), but it’s an important step in making sex toys last as long as possible.

There are lots of different storage options out there, but I particularly like the Womanizer Bedside Caddy, which just happens to be free with the purchase of any Womanizer toy on Lovehoney. For a more heavy-duty case, you could go for the Joyboxx, which is antimicrobial, lockable and even comes with a drying rack.

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Should I Get My Partner a Sexy Gift?

We all love and appreciate presents, don’t we? Getting an erotic gift for your loved one is a fantastic way to say that you love them, you’re thinking about them, and that you think they’re super sexy! Whether you want to splash out on something spectacular, or just buy a little something as a sweet surprise, it’s rarely a bad idea to get them a little sexy something to show you care.

However, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you should go crazy and buy them something hugely expensive or out of their comfort zone – no one likes to feel pressured to try something they’re not comfortable with just because it was a gift. Our sex toy expert Edwina wrote an amazing article about the dos and don’ts of buying sex toys for your partner that I highly recommend checking out, but here are a few key things to think about before buying sexy gifts for relationships…

How steamy do you want to get?

If this is your first time getting your significant other an erotic gift, you may want to consider exactly how intimate you want to go. You probably the best sense out of anyone about what kinds of sexy gifts your partner would appreciate, whether it’s something to set the mood on a romantic evening or something to help you get extra spicy during sex.

Just remember to consider who else is going to see it outside of you and your partner – unboxing a giant dildo or a pair of handcuffs at a family holiday party may be an experience you’d rather not go through (unless your family is really cool, of course).

Have they mentioned sex toys before?

It’s never a bad idea to discuss with your partner what kinds of things you’re interested in and curious about when it comes to sex. If you haven’t already, that doesn’t necessarily mean that your partner isn’t into the idea – they may not have found a way to bring it up yet!

However, if this your first foray into sex toys, it’s probably worth figuring out what kind of toys you both would like to try or what kinds of stimulation you would like from a toy. Even if your partner is a sex toy connoisseur, it’s still worth finding out what else they would and would not like to try. After all, consent is important, as well as respecting boundaries.

Why do you want to buy one?

If you’re thinking about buying a sexy gift for any of the reasons I’ve mentioned so far in the article, and you’re fairly sure it’s something they’d be excited about, then what are you waiting for? Go buy it! However, if you’re resorting to buying an erotic gift because you think you no longer satisfy your partner or you’re having a rocky patch in your relationship, just buying a sex toy or sex dice out of the blue probably isn’t the best idea.

Instead, try and sit down and have a talk about it. I would never claim to be a relationship counsellor, but I think it’s fairly straightforward and solid advice that could end up with you and your partner learning something surprising about each other, simply by communicating and listening effectively.