The 13 Best Things to Build Your Very Own Sex Room
How We Rated and Reviewed Sex Room Must-Haves
Unlike most of our lists (that compare similar items), this list involves a variety of different items that can all be utilized in a sex room! As such, we’ve selected our top picks in various categories (such as butt plugs or massage candles), providing you with a large selection of tried-and-true products that will work great in any sex room. True to our usual procedure, each item has a written section that highlights the benefits of that particular product, as well as mentioning any potential drawbacks. Every product has been assigned a “Bedbible Rating” based on its design, ease of use, and quality, allowing you to have realistic expectations for each prop. Of course, your new sex room doesn’t need to have every single item on our list, but we’re sure at least a couple will catch your eye & make it in!
Creating the Perfect Sex Room
Whether you’re trying to make a dedicated BDSM dungeon or just a general-purpose sex dungeon, the steps to completing your masterpiece are relatively the same. While the actual process will require you to consider many of the finer details, we’ve written this general outline of the process you’ll want to follow when making your new space!
- Pick the Right Room – Location is everything! You’ll want to choose a room that’s not only large enough for your original design but offers space to expand as well. If your chosen location isn’t already soundproof, you should ensure that it can be soundproofed before moving stuff in (assuming you anticipate a lot of noise!).
- Get Some Equipment – If your room is going to be a dedicated BDSM room then you’ll likely already have a general idea of the equipment you want. Staples like sex swings or a sex pillow look at home in any type of sex room. However, if you’re going with a different theme, you might have to get a bit more creative! You should take both your and your partner’s fetishes into consideration, choosing toys and equipment that align with those kinks/desires.
- Decorate! – Finishing touches can make or break a sex room. While painting and other pre-hand preparation are certainly important, you should also add extra accessories once you’ve moved all the equipment in to complete the “vibe”. Ambient lighting offers an easy way to change the “vibe” of a room without spending extra on decorative items (especially if you choose a color-changing light setup!).
What is a Sex Room?
A sex room is a room in a building that’s designed and decorated specifically for sexual encounters, often catering to the needs of a specific couple. BDSM-themed sex dungeons (sex rooms) are a popular choice, but sex rooms aren’t limited solely to BDSM play: they can be customized to cater to any type of fetish or kink! For example, voyeurism/exhibitionism, furries, food, or foot worship could all be great themes for a sex room. The only limitations are your space, your budget, and your creativity!
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We-Vibe Tango X Lipstick Vibrator
Whether you already have a dedicated sex room or limit your personal pleasures to the bedroom, having a high-quality vibrator is a necessity! Larger units are great for providing intense vibrations, but concealability & storage often become issues. Fortunately, neither of these obstacles will stand in the way once you pick up the We-Vibe Tango X! Sized and shaped like a lipstick tube, this little vibrator gives you eight different levels of intensity and seven vibration modes to choose from on your journey to your next orgasm. Designed for maximum stimulation and pinpoint precision, you’re definitely going to fall in love with this little vibrator!
This small vibrator is purpose-built, which means that it’s great for clitoral stimulation and clitoral stimulation alone. It’s too small for internal use, taking both vaginal & anal play off of the table. Still, the Tango X is excellent at doing what it’s designed for, offering a satisfying variety of modes & intensities that are sure to “finish the job” for nearly any lady! We especially like how the toy is designed to look like a tube of lipstick. You won’t need to worry about getting weird looks, even if you’re carrying this little guy around in your purse. As an added bonus, We-Vibe even includes a storage bag which will help avoid getting your toy dirty if you’re leaving it at home. If you have a clitoris then you’ll want this toy as well!
njoy Pure Plug Medium Stainless Steel Butt Plug
The next product on this list moves us from front to back, and its use isn’t just limited to the ladies, either—men can enjoy this one as well! Even the simplest of butt plugs can give you that pleasant “full” feeling you’re after, but the njoy Pure Plug is sure to fill you. Not only is it made of high-quality steel, but the plug actually has some weight to it, meaning this is one plug you won’t forget you’ve put in! Its all-metal construction makes it perfect for temperature play since you can easily heat or cool the toy simply by placing it in a bowl of water. To be fair, it is a bit expensive, but we promise this plug is worth the asking price: just try it out & see for yourself!
Backdoor adventures are one of the many experiences you’ll want to enjoy in your sex room. Silicone plugs are fine, but if you want something that’s perfect for long-term use and actually has some weight to it then you’ll be much better off with this stainless steel plug from njoy! The ringed base makes insertion and removal an easy task, and the plug itself can be used for temperature play if simply plugging isn’t enough. The main issue with this toy is the price: at over $100, it’s more of an investment in your sex life than an impulse buy. Still, you won’t have to worry about this plug breaking, deteriorating, or becoming unusable, so while it does cost quite a bit upfront, at least you’ll be able to use this toy for the rest of your life!
Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator
Want to take your collection of toys for your sex room to the next level? Regular vibrators are fun, but a girl can’t go wrong with a rabbit vibrator! As part of the “Fifty Shades of Grey” toy line, you get—as expected—a high-quality rabbit vibrator designed to quickly push you to orgasm through a combination of g-spot & clitoral stimulation. Available in classic black, this toy looks like it means business! It’s sure to deliver orgasm after orgasm using its dual-motor setup. Once you buy a rabbit vibrator, you’ll find yourself wondering: “why did I wait so long to buy this?” Don’t keep yourself in the dark: come find out what all the fuss is about!
They say that two is better than one, and that’s definitely the case when it comes to vibrators! This rabbit vibrator specifically targets your g-spot, providing the internal stimulation you long for, while concurrently giving your clitoris the vibrations you want. The design of this toy should work great for most women, although a few people have said that it just didn’t “fit” their bodies: unfortunately, this is a risk you’ll need to take. Fortunately, the statistics of having a happy ending are in your favor! At nearly $100, this toy isn’t exactly cheap, but for that price, it does offer dual-stimulation, the ability to use the toy in water, and a “Fifty Shades of Grey” carrying bag.
Lifelike Lover Luxe Realistic Multicolored Silicone Dildo
Dildos are a staple of any sex toy collection. As such, you’ll probably want to have at least one at your disposal, but why settle for just any run-of-the-mill dildo? The Lifelike Lover will impress you at first sight with its realistic texture & design paired with a small variety of fun color schemes. The slight curve in the shaft helps you target your p or g-spot with ease, and you’ll have 6.5-inches of shaft to mess around with. Prefer to get off hands-free? This dildo has a suction cup base (which is also harness-compatible) so you can simply stick it on a surface of your choice & ride it all the way to the finish line!
While we’re going to assume that you probably already have a few dildos in your sex room, that doesn’t mean we’re going to suggest you pass on this toy: in fact, just the opposite! The fun color options alone make this toy an eyecatcher, but it’s just as pleasing to use as it is to look at. Shaped & textured like a real penis, you’ll be able to enjoy the company of a partner who’s there solely to please, and please it does! Some people struggle to fit the head inside, but once you make it past that, all that’s left is a fun ride. Whether you’re manually using it, mounting it to the shower wall, or using it to peg a partner, the Lifelike Lover won’t let you down!
Fleshlight Flight Pilot Male Masturbator
Having an efficient way to stimulate your penis is good, but sometimes, you might not be in the mood for an automatic experience. Still, chances are, you’re probably tired of using your hand: that’s where the Fleshlight Flight Pilot comes in! The perfect addition to any sex room, this stroker is a bit smaller than your traditional Fleshlight but still offers the same explosive experience. At 6.5 inches long, it has enough length to accommodate most penises and leaves the experience open to your imagination (since this model is based on any particular orifice). Perfect for solo and partner play alike, this Fleshlight is sure to give you many happy endings!
Bad points first! Like nearly every stroker on the market, this Fleshlight is fairly loud during use, making it a poor choice if you live in a small apartment with roommates. However, once they finally leave you’ll be able to take this toy out and have some fun! Internally textured for maximum pleasure, this 6.5-inch long Fleshlight lets you enjoy a traditional stroker session or adjust the suction for a “blowjob”. Since there aren’t any electronic parts, this toy is completely waterproof, making both cleaning & in-shower use a simple task. If you’d prefer a hands-free experience, Fleshlight has a variety of accessories (including a shower mount!) available for purchase.
Liberator BonBon Toy Mount
Just because you’re home alone doesn’t mean you can’t have a good time! The Liberator BonBon Toy Mount makes it easy to enjoy a partner-like experience, simply by inserting your favorite toy into the mount & getting on top. Of course, the options aren’t limited to a single person. If you’ve never tried double penetration, the BonBon can help you there too. Mount the toy then have your partner enter you from behind to add to the fun! Thanks to the unique design of the BonBon, you can use this mount with flared & non-flared toys alike, allowing you to pick and choose a different toy for each erotic session!
Considering how simple this toy mount actually is, price may or may not be an issue for you. Ultimately, whether you should purchase the BonBon really depends on how often you think you’ll use the mount in your sex room. If you’re thinking weekly (or more) use, then the price tag seems reasonable since this toy will definitely open you up to both solo & double penetration options. However, if it’s something you’re not sure of using, we’d caution against purchasing it unless you have the money to spare. The BonBon doesn’t do anything beyond hold your toy in place; you still have to ride this mount to completion!
Bondage Boutique Sex Position Enhancer Chair
Obviously, having sex is a major aspect of getting enjoyment out of your sex room, but physical limitations such as bad knees or simply getting tired can quickly take away from the fun. Disregard these concerns in one go with this Sex Position Enhancer Chair from Bondage Boutique! Capable of supporting up to 330 lbs., your partner will easily be able to sit on this chair with their legs spread wide, ready to be entered or orally pleased by their loving partner (you!) from below. You can also enjoy this chair on your own simply by placing a dildo below & enjoying the ride!
The elastic design of this chair helps you bounce up & down, taking a lot of the work out of “riding” your partner (or your dildo!). That said, there are some physical limiting factors that will be working against you, mainly the clearance underneath and the length of your partner’s penis. Larger partners may struggle to fit under, but skinnier partners should fit just fine. Once you do get the chair set up, we recommend going slow at first. If your partner’s penis is a bit on the short side, it’s possible that a simple slip could end with a trip to the ER! However, if the proper precautions are taken, you’ll likely get hours of enjoyment out of this simple, bouncy sex chair. As an added bonus, the chair positions your legs spread apart, so not only is this chair good for penetrative sex but oral pleasures as well!
Liberator Sex Position Wedge Ramp Combo
Having sex can be a lot of fun, but if your body has to support itself throughout the entire endeavor, it can also be draining! Furthermore, your stamina decreases as you age, making sex less of a “fun activity” and more of a “fun task. Give your back a break with the Liberator Sex Position Wedge Ramp Combo! This combo includes two wedge ramps that offer full back support and 27 degrees of angle for a less tiring, more enjoyable sexual experience. Water-resistant and easy to clean, these wedge ramps are sure to become part of your everyday sex routines!
It’s a shame that this wedge ramp combo is priced so high because it really can make a massive difference in any sex room. Although they’re simple in theory, these cushions are very helpful in practice since they allow you to perfectly position your body for maximum penetrative pleasures. Like most Liberator products, these cushions are water-resistant & easy to clean, making taking care of them after-the-fact a non-issue. Having the adjustable and complete support that these cushions can provide will allow you to focus entirely on sex, rather than needing to shift because you’re getting uncomfortable, which is definitely a good thing in our books. Still, the price is too high! While we don’t recommend paying $300 for this wedge ramp combo, we do recommend watching the price: it’s a worthwhile purchase if you can get it on sale!
Fifty Shades of Grey No Peeking Soft Twin Blindfold Set
Being able to admire your partner’s body is always an amazing luxury, but sometimes, adding a bit of mystery to the experience can help turn up the heat. Another great product from the “Fifty Shades of Grey” collection, this No Peeking Soft Twin Blindfold Set can give you (or your partner) the perfect amount of sensory deprivation you need. Without the ability to see, your partner won’t be able to know what you’re going to do next, which gives you the upper hand and allows you to tease them with ease. A must-have for any sex room, these blindfolds are effective, affordable, and perfect for couples who want to focus on touch instead of sight.
These blindfolds aren’t anything special, but they don’t try to be either. Essentially, you’ll receive two comfortable, stretch blindfolds that work perfectly in the bedroom, both for kinky sensory deprivation with a partner and helping you get a good night’s rest. It’s nice that they include both a white one & a black one, although there isn’t an option to get two of a single color. These are definitely an item that you can safely leave on your nightstand, although—upon close inspection—they do say “Fifty Shades of Grey” on the label. For less than $20, you can’t really go wrong with these blindfolds, so whether you want to spice up your sex life or just sleep better, we’d recommend picking up the set!
Earthly Body Trio 3-in-1 Mini Massage Candles
Interested in trying wax play but scared of having your skin burned? If so, then these candles are for you! Melting at a relatively low temperature, you can enjoy a great smelling, sensual massage from your partner using these candles. The set includes three different candles, each with its own distinct scent, so you’ll have to try them all before deciding which scent is your favorite one! Subtle but sensual, you can even leave these candles lying around your house: as long as you take them out of their bag, they’ll easily blend into the background.
Although you can definitely use these candles in your dedicated sex room, we think these will be much more at home in your bedroom. These candles were designed with wax play/massaging in mind, so they melt at a relatively low temperature. Consider them a great intro to wax play! Although you can also use them solely as candles, they have trouble staying lit and can easily be blown out by a simple draft, so if you want candles (and only candles) you’d be better off buying a normal candle. On the plus side, this kit does include three different scents of candles and costs less than $20, so even if you decide they’re not for you, it’s not much of a loss!
Screamer Sex Swing: Dual Hook
You’ll need to find a way to hang this swing in your sex room but trust us, the trouble will be worth it! Take your pick from a variety of mounting options (we recommend using a stand) and then explore new sex positions with your partner easily using the Screamer Sex Swing: Dual Hook! This model was made for comfort, so not only is it adjustable with extra padding, but even comes with a headrest free of charge! You & your partner are sure to love using this swing, and once you’re done, you can easily clean the swing simply by putting the straps in the washer. Fewer complications, more copulation!
This swing is great, but you’ll need to find a place to mount it. With that out the way, you’ll be able to enjoy all this swing has to offer! Since it uses a dual hook design, the two sides can be placed as close together or as far apart as you would like. Unfortunately, the spring up top doesn’t allow you to adjust the height of your swing, but you can just pick up some chain at the hardware store to mount your swing at the perfect height. This swing provides excellent support to both your hips and your back, ensuring you won’t have any muscle cramps or aches after your amazing sexual session is over. The swing itself is very affordable, and while you will need to figure out a way to mount it, we nonetheless think it’s an excellent purchase for couples with an active sex life!
WARM - Sex Toy & Personal Lubricant Warming System
Proper lubrication is essential to nearly any type of sexual encounter, but an easy way to kill the mood is when lukewarm (or worse, cold!) lube touches your nether regions. Sure, you can warm up lube simply by placing the bottle in warm water, but then you have to go through the hassle of finding a large enough bowl, heating up some water, and drying off the bottle before use. Thankfully, you can skip that entire process and have your lube warmed in twenty minutes or less with WARM, the pocketbook look-a-like lubrication warmer. Fully rechargeable and ready to use, simply place your lube inside of WARM, press the power button, and prepare for the good times ahead!
Whether you’re prepping for your next Tinder date at their place or taking them back to your own sex room, chances are, the encounter will be better if your lube is just as ready as you are. With WARM, you’ll only need about twenty minutes to warm your favorite lubrication up to a pleasant temperature, and its handbag-like design means you can carry it with you anywhere without getting weird glances from strangers. It has a rechargeable, internal battery that will last for years, and uses infrared technology to safely heat your lubricant (rather than direct coil heating). Sure, it is a bit bulky and doesn’t give you any space to store other items, but what other product is going to allow you to discreetly heat lube on the go? If you’re tired of dealing with lukewarm lube, do your “bits” a favor and get WARM!
Joyboxx Hygienic Sex Toy Storage System
As your toy collection grows, eventually, you’ll find your toys more often than not scattered about your sex room. This can actually become a health issue since it can be nearly impossible to tell which toys are clean and which ones are not! Thankfully, you can keep all of your toys organized, on hand, and ready to use with the Joyboxx Hygienic Sex Toy Storage System! This box can be locked for secure storage using the included combination lock, allows you to charge stored toys via a USB hole, has a drying rack, and allows for easy access to essentials like condoms from the top compartment. Want to keep your sex life neat & organized? Then this is the product for you!
With all of the neat features this storage box offers, we honestly expected the price to be higher. Thankfully, it’s affordably priced and definitely provides an excellent value for the money! In addition to providing toy storage, it also helps you dry toys, keep charging toys safe, and organize your toys using the provided divider. In terms of downsides, the only real thing we can think of is the size: the largest toy that will fit in here is 11.5 inches. Any larger and you’ll need to use something else, but at that point, you may as well just use a gun safe! Priced to sell and designed to perform, we really can’t recommend this storage box enough. If you like having sex, you’re sure to use it a lot!
Want Some Upgrades?
Are you ready to take your sex room to the next level? Here are a few items that might be worth checking out!
Do You Need a Sex Room?
Of course not! People have been having sex in random places since the beginning of humanity, so having a dedicated room purely for sex surely isn’t a necessity: the world is your oyster! That said, having a place where you explore your sexual fantasies freely (with all the necessary equipment on-hand) is definitely a luxury that many people never have, so if you have the opportunity to make a sex room, we’d say it’s worth the effort (and money) it takes to make one!
How to Use a Sex Room
So you’re considering making a sex room but wondering exactly how you’ll use it. There are lots of different ways! Here are a few.
If you decide to make your room into a dungeon, you’ll mainly be decorating the room with BDSM-themed furniture. You can make it look medieval if you’d like, or go with an office-like setup for a more modern BDSM setting.
General Sex Room
When your room is just a plethora of sex toys and props, the options are endless! You can do anything you want in this room, but make sure to keep it neat and tidy. It’s sure to kill the mood if you have to look for a toy or two!
Depending on you & your partner’s fetishes, you may choose a specific theme for your room. Some option ideas are a stable for pony play lovers, a nursery for paraphilic infantilism, or an erotic anime-themed playroom!
How to Clean a Sex Room
Just like any other room in your home, it’s important to keep your sex room tidy and clean so you don’t need to tidy up the next time you want to use it. The process is somewhat self-explanatory, but let’s go over the basics anyway. Hard surfaces are the best surfaces when it comes to cleaning. You can simply grab some cleaning wipes & use them to clean off the surface. Alternatively, if you don’t have any cleaning wipes, some spray cleaner and paper towels will work as well. Remember to dry the surface off after you clean it! Exactly how you clean the floor will depend on the type of floor you have. We’ll leave determining the best course of action up to you! However, one thing we do want to bring up is space management. Obviously, it’s important to pick up any toys that might be lying around so they don’t get damaged, but you should also find a way to secure any electrical cords that might be on the floor. For a less polished look, duct tape works great! If you want it to look a bit more presentable, consider covering the cords with a rug(s) instead. Every sex toy in your sex room should be clean at all times (unless they’re in use!). Most toys can be cleaned using antibacterial soap and warm water, and some (that are made of non-porous materials such as medical-grade silicone, metal, or glass) can even be sanitized by dropping them in boiling water. You should refer to your owner’s manual on how to clean each toy you own to avoid damaging them during the process. Remember to always properly dry your toys before storing them as well. If you don’t, they’ll quickly begin to harbor bacteria!
Soft plastic, hard plastic, jelly, rubber, Cyberskin are all porous materials, meaning that small particles and bacteria can penetrate the surface. This makes it impossible to completely clean these types of materials.
Therefore, it is recommended that you use a condom with these types of toys, especially if you are sharing them. Clean these toys with mild soapy water and dry gently with a towel. These materials are more easily damaged, so be sure to be gentle and make sure your toys are completely dry before storing.
Silicone, glass, stainless steel and some hard plastics can all be washed using a mild soap (like you would use on your body) and warm water. Just be careful if your toy contains electrical parts.
Silicone and stainless steel toys without any electrical parts can also be boiled for sterilisation.
If your toys contain electrical components, be extra careful when cleaning them and always check the instructions provided with the toy. You can use a gentle cloth and soap to wipe or sex toy cleaner or cleaning wipe to down your toy, making sure that no water comes into contact with the electrical parts.