What works, what hurts and how to make her cum – great tips from someone with a vulva.
Knowing the best way to eat pussy is a skill all vulva lovers should have.
So, whether you’re a beginner or someone with experience, I’ve gathered the best tips, tricks and techniques for pleasuring a pussy.
That way, you can learn from the beginning or add to your mad oral sex skills.
Plus, I’ve added quotes from real vulva owners with different likes and dislikes, so you can see how each partner may differ.
Best Ways to Eat Pussy – The Quickie
- Pleasuring her orally is a great prelude to sex as well as being the easiest way to make her cum.
- The female genitalia are unique, complicated and teaming with nerve endings. As a matter of fact, the clitoris alone has more than 8,000 nerve endings in the tip alone.
- Eating pussy starts long before her clothing comes off, as arousal begins with her mind.
- Be sure and tease her entire body before diving in and touching her clitoris.
- Once you do begin pleasuring her orally, use your tongue – softly, pointed and flat – as well as your lips.
- Pussies smell no differently than your junk, and she’s more concerned about that than you are!
- Each partner will respond differently to each type of touch, lick and suck you try. Therefore, be sure and pay attention to her cues.
- The best positions for eating pussy are Missionary, Queening, 69 and others.
- Most importantly, focus on her pleasure, rather than the end game.
Specific tips and techniques you can use:
- Clitoral stimulation:
- Use your tongue in circular motions around the clitoris.
- Gently suck or flick the clitoral hood.
- Experiment with different levels of pressure and speed.
- Create a rhythmic pattern that your partner enjoys.
- G-spot stimulation:
- Insert one or two fingers into the vagina and curl them upward toward the front vaginal wall.
- Apply firm but gentle pressure and use a “come hither” motion to stimulate the G-spot.
- Communicate with your partner to find the right level of pressure and rhythm.
- Combination techniques:
- Combine clitoral and G-spot stimulation simultaneously for enhanced pleasure.
- Use your tongue on the clitoris while using your fingers inside the vagina.
- Vary the techniques to keep the sensations exciting.
- Licking and kissing:
- Lick the labia and the area around the clitoris with broad, flat strokes.
- Use your lips to kiss and suck gently on the outer and inner labia.
- Fingering:
- Use your fingers to penetrate gently while continuing oral stimulation.
- Explore different depths and angles based on your partner’s comfort and feedback.
- Pay attention to the entire area:
- Don’t focus solely on the clitoris; explore the entire genital area, including the inner thighs and perineum.
- Use your hands and mouth to stimulate different erogenous zones.
- Teasing and edging:
- Build anticipation by alternating between intense stimulation and gentler, teasing touches.
- Edge your partner by bringing them close to orgasm and then slowing down to prolong the experience.
- Be responsive and communicative:
- Continuously check in with your partner for feedback on what feels best.
- Encourage open communication to create a comfortable and pleasurable experience for both partners.
Why Learn How to Eat Pussy?
There are many reasons why learning how to eat pussy is beneficial. For example, knowing how to make her orgasm without your penis is a skill she won’t soon forget!
Plus, cunnilingus -the formal word for eating pussy – is a wonderful way to foreplay and get her aroused, amped and ready for sex as well as being a mutual, sexy activity you can share in the 69-position.
And last, but certainly not least, knowing how to eat pussy is one of the most up-close and intimate things you can do for your partner; as it is when your partner goes down on you. So, learn all you can, sharpen your skills and get ready to rock her world!
Most all Women Cum with Clitoral Stimulation
Another reason why it’s important to know the best ways to eat pussy is statistical; only 25% of those with female anatomy can climax vaginally. So, what does that mean?
It means that most all females orgasm with clitoral stimulation, even those who cannot climax vaginally.
Therefore, learning the best ways to eat pussy will give you an almost definite means of getting her off. Plus, after a good, oral orgasm, it’s sometimes easier to have an orgasm through penetration.
About the Incredible Female Genitalia
In order to learn the best ways to eat pussy, you must understand the inner workings of this incredible body part. First and foremost, the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings in the tip alone, which is double the amount of nerves in the penis.
In addition, the clitoris is made up of 18 distinct parts – a mixture of erectile tissue, muscle and nerves and, when aroused, can swell as much as 300 percent! Plus, the internal clitoris extends down and into either side of the labia, as well as up and behind the front wall of the vagina.
That is what is theorized to be the g-spot.
Therefore, it’s just as important to stimulate around the clitoris, opening of the vagina, the perineum, the hood of the clitoris, as well as the clitoris itself. So, the best way to eat pussy is to pay attention to everything down there, and not just the clitoris itself.
Brand New Information on the Clitoris
I interrupt this blog post for some exciting news on the clitoris!
I was today years old when I learned that the information above about the clitoris, particularly the 8,000 nerve-ending information, is from a 1976 book and based on the clitoris of a cow. Yes, a cow.
So, not only am I disillusioned by the fact that the scientific community has done few actual studies on female genitalia, I am upset that this misinformation has been passed along as if it were gospel. Well, no more!
In fact, there is finally real information about the clitoris that isn’t surprising, but at least it’s not based on the sex organs of cattle. The truth about the clitoris was discovered by Dr. Blair Peters, a plastic surgeon at Oregon Health and Science University’s School of Medicine who specializes in gender affirmation.
From Science Alert:
“To conduct further research, Peters obtained clitoral nerve tissue from seven transmasculine volunteers undergoing gender-affirming genital surgery in his practice.
Under a microscope, Peters and his colleagues counted an average of 5,140 nerve fibers in the dorsal clitoral nerve, and the clitoris has two of these.
Taking into account the full range of samples studied, the total number of nerve endings innervating the entire wishbone-shaped organ ranges from 9,852 to 11,086 fibers.
Peters’s study is the first to report the number of nerve fibers in the human dorsal clitoral nerve and approximate the number of nerve fibers innervating the human clitoris.”
To give you an idea of how incredible those numbers are, the medial nerve that runs through the human hand, which is much larger than a 4-inch clitoris, has 18,000 nerves. So, the clitoris is an extremely nerve-dense little organ responsible for incredible orgasms.
Look for Dr. Peter’s findings to be published soon.
For the Beginner Muff Diver
You can make her cum easily, if you master the techniques of good oral sex. However, knowing the best ways to eat pussy will vary from person to person.
But, no worries! I have gathered comments from several ladies, below, so you’ll have a unique insight into what women really want and how it differs for each person.
Most of all, it takes practice and paying attention to her cues, which we will also talk about shortly.
That way, you’ll learn the basic techniques and tips for giving good face and how you can vary the skills that you learn simply by watching and listening to her reactions.
She Faked the Orgasm to Make It Stop!
Unfortunately, this does happen, and I admit to having faked a few orgasms myself. Further, I did so because I didn’t want to hurt their feelings and wasn’t confident enough, at the time, to show and tell them what I liked and needed.
So, some may fake an orgasm to stop oral sex because either you’re not getting things done or it’s painful and she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
On the contrary, though, she may have actually had an orgasm and simply isn’t the type to writhe and squirm and scream, “YES!”
Therefore, as I mentioned previously, it’s important to know and understand her cues as well as know the pussy pleasing techniques she likes. That way, she doesn’t have to find a way to make it stop when you’re sucking too hard or poking the wrong places.
For the Experienced Pussy Pleaser
So, you’ve eaten at the Y more times than you can count; that’s great! But a true lover of pussy is always looking to improve his/her skills.
After all, since each person with a vulva is different, you can’t possibly know what each one enjoys. That is, unless you have licked and sucked your way around the planet.
And I definitely would have remembered you, had we shared that sort of interaction.
So, if you’re ready to pad that pussy eating resume, read on, take notes and put these suggestions into your repertoire!
Going Down on Her Starts Long Before the Clothes Come Off
The best way to eat pussy begins long before her clothes come off. That is because people born female arouse differently than that born male.
But of course, there are always exceptions to that rule, as we are all human!
However, for the vast majority of those born female, foreplay and sex begin long before you even touch her. For instance, if you take a look at porn directed toward males, as opposed to that made for females, you’ll see a stark difference.
As an example, porn created for the feminine mind includes plots, fantasy, romance, and actual storylines. On the other hand, porn created for the masculine mind involves a pizza delivery guy and a slumber party of 2 women willing to tip him with all sorts of sexual favors.
In addition, the female mind enjoys erotic books, so she can picture the fantasy in her head. Just take a look at Sssh.com and their selection of novels and bedtime stories, ethical porn of all genres, ASMR, guided masturbation, 360 degree immersive VR movies, and even ways she can watch movies with her friends or partners.
(I suggest joining, as she will thoroughly enjoy everything Sssh.com has to offer, especially sharing it with you!)
In short, she enjoys the slow burn while you strike that match and want it blown out immediately.
So, it’s important that you learn how to stimulate her mind long before you dive in and stimulate her naughty bits. Therefore, you can follow these steps to arouse her:
Step 1: Stimulate Her Mind, Heart and Soul
Step 1 in the best ways to eat pussy is to stimulate her mind, heart, and soul. For instance, romance her with dinner at home or a night out, touch her regularly and always be open and verbal about how much she turns you on.
More tips to stimulate her mind include looking into her eyes when you kiss her, brushing her hair from her face, and pulling her in closely when you embrace her. Hold her hand, stroke her leg while you’re watching television, and tell her she’s beautiful.
Furthermore – although these are things you should do every day – in order to keep your sexual bond close, they are even more important while building up to a night of intimacy. In addition, if you don’t do these things on a regular basis – pulling them out only when you want sex – forget it.
She will see right through your ruse and will likely turn it off, rather than on.
So, the best way to eat pussy is by being an attentive and loving person all the time, and not just when you want to get in her pants. Treat every day like it’s a sex day and she’ll be ready to melt into your arms almost any time.
Step 2: Early Foreplay
The next step in learning how to eat pussy is early foreplay. What that means, is grabbing her attention long before it’s time to get busy.
Some great examples are sexy texts like, “I can’t stop thinking about you.” And “I cannot wait to see your beautiful, naked body and do things to you that will make you squeal.”
Hopefully, you get the idea and can cater your sexting to her individual tastes.
Also, you can leave her sexy notes, or call her at lunchtime and tell her how you cannot wait to have her in your arms. Better yet, meet her for lunch, and kiss her goodbye, deeply and slowly.
Then end it with a, “Wow, you turn me on,” whispered under your breath, as you look her in the eye.
Finally, find ways to make her weak in the knees and tingly in all those sexy spots, and do them all day long. As a result, she will be thinking about sex with you, long before you even see her that evening.
Step 3: Making Out and Taking It Slow
Step 3 in learning the best ways to go down on her, begins when you are finally together. And the most important step is to not dive in right away.
Yes, it’s time to continue that slow burn, as you’ve already started the arousal process earlier in the day.
First, you can start by making out and undressing her one piece of clothing at a time. Further, with each piece of clothing, you sensually remove, pay close attention to that body part.
For instance, pay attention to her ear lobes, neck, and collar bones. Then move to her chest, the outer realm of her breasts (no nipples yet!), her stomach, her arms and legs, and her feet.
Use your hands to caress her softly and your lips for gentle kisses. Next, you can move to a sensual massage, which will relax her and ignite her passion at the same time.
Remember, this is a slow seduction, to inch her arousal up a little at a time. You want every inch of her body craving you.
That way, once you begin pleasuring her orally, she will be quivering with anticipation!
Step 4: No Touching!
The most important step in learning the best ways to eat pussy, is not touching her sweet spots – vagina, labia, clitoris, nipples – as you are arousing her body. Moreover, you should be touching those areas, teasing her until she’s nearly begging you for sex.
For instance, kiss, stroke, and lick her thighs, inside, around her pussy, kiss her lower stomach, and stroke and nibble around her nipples.
To add to the build-up, accidentally brush her clitoris or nipple, ever so slightly, as you are moving by, pleasuring her entire body. This should elicit a moan or a bit of a squirm, that is, if she’s been properly teased and pleased.
Step 5: Diving In
Finally, the last step in the best way to eat pussy, is diving in. But hold on there, my friend, you can’t just start sucking on her clitoris!
No, the best way to pleasure her pussy is by avoiding that little button as long as you can.
Therefore, lick and tease around her clitoris by paying attention to her labia, the area around her clitoris, teasing the opening of her vagina and her anus – if she’s into that.
The reason for this is that the entire vulva and labia are teaming with sensitive nerve endings that all lead back to the clitoris, as shown in the illustration above.
Now, before we get into the actual pussy eating techniques, let’s cover some more concerns and questions.
Ew, That Smell: Do Pussies Smell Bad?
No, pussies shouldn’t smell bad, especially if she’s showered or bathed that day. Plus, if she has the slightest inkling that you’ll be having sex that night, trust me, she’s clean, landscaped, and ready.
So, if you want to know what a pussy smells like, wet your finger, rub your junk and then sniff. That’s the natural smell of genitals, both penises, and vaginas. However, she’s likely already prepped for the occasion and will have no smell at all or maybe be scented with roses, sandalwood, or cherry blossoms!
Shouldn’t We Just Shower?
This little move has been suggested by a popular male blogger. And while I absolutely fan-girl at his work, this time I disagree.
That is, unless you live together. Then, sure, have a sexy shower together, lather up each other’s naughty bits and enjoy the fresh scent of soap when you go down on her.
However, if I’m just dating someone, unless I have been out with them for months, I am NOT taking a shower with them. Seriously, do you have any idea what it takes for us to shower?
First, we use make-up remover wipes, and pre-shower, so our mascara isn’t running down our face like a demented raccoon. Secondly, we definitely don’t want wet hair after we spent an hour washing, conditioning, and blowing it out.
Then, another hour of styling it to look beautiful for you. As a result, if we shower with you, we will go home looking ridden hard and put up wet.
Trust me, it’s not a good look.
Plus, we aren’t too hip on using your Irish Spring body wash or random bar of soap with the hair stuck to it. Additionally, any of us need PH-balanced cleansers to wash our bits, so as not to suffer from itchy hoo-ha or peeing razor blades.
Finally, we want to moisturize, post-shower, not just to feel good, but to feel soft for you; something I’m sure you appreciate. Basically, showering at your place is completely inconvenient, and too much of a crap shoot.
She’s More Concerned About Her Smell Than You Are!
It’s important to realize that if she anticipates having sex with you, she will be ready. In addition, she is much more concerned about how she smells down there than you are.
Therefore, if you’re making out and she suddenly needs to use the restroom, she’s likely pulling out a special, PH-balanced V-JJ wipes and making 100% sure she smells like a walk on a tropical beach somewhere, and not like she just came from the gym.
To be honest, I am always prepared by carrying wipes as well as keeping some at my boyfriend’s.
Finally, all people release pheromones to attract the opposite sex, most of which are concentrated in our genital area. So, while you may be concerned about her having an odor, most oral sex lovers are attracted to, and enjoy the natural scent of genitalia.
Something Smells Fishy
If a vagina smells bad, then there could potentially be a couple of things going on. First, maybe she’s not showered and doesn’t care what you think – which is rare but sometimes does occur.
If that’s the case, it will smell like you, after a day at the gym, a few days camping, or after sitting in your gaming chair for the weekend without showering.
However, if her downstairs gives off a fishy smell, something is wrong. Sure, there are off-color jokes abound about women smelling like a fish market, but that type of smell is not normal and is usually indicative of a bacterial infection.
This common type of infection can happen as a result of wiping back to front or you putting your fingers in her butt and then her vagina (aka double dipping). On the contrary, yeast infections smell, well, yeasty, and not like fish.
That being said, neither condition is life-threatening but can be transmitted through oral and penetrative sex. However, you may not have symptoms, as someone with a vagina will experience, and therefore, can pass the infection on to others.
In the end, if your partner does have a concerning smell, it’s best to be honest about it and speak out of concern. However, if you are uncomfortable with it, just stick to other means of foreplay and sex and avoid saying things that may make her feel bad about herself.
What Does Pussy Taste Like?
Chicken. Pussy tastes like chicken.
Okay, I’m kidding. Pussy takes no different than if you lick yourself; a little salty, possibly. Or, if she’s used a wipe or recently taken a shower, she may taste of soap.
Flavor It, But NOT with Food!
The best way to eat pussy is to enjoy and be into what you’re doing. But if you feel you just can’t get into it because of the way she tastes, then flavor it up with a lickable, flavored lubricant or oral sex lube.
For instance, Lovehoney Oh Cherry Orgasm Balm is tasty and will amp up her sensations. Or you can try Lip Tease Sin City Strawberry Flavored Kissable Stimulant for delicious oral sex you both will enjoy.
However, don’t use foods to make her yummy, as sugars and other additives can cause allergic reactions, as well as yeast infections. Therefore, stick to things created specifically to be applied to her naughty bits.
Even with Eating Pussy, No Means No
Consent is everything when it comes to sex. And even when learning the best ways to eat pussy, you need to remember that consent applies to ALL sex, including oral pleasure.
Therefore, she’s not a tease if she doesn’t want your face buried in her crotch. After all, she may not have showered, waxed or shaved.
Or, she may be on her period and well, that can get messy. In addition, it’s entirely possible she simply doesn’t want to have sex, which is her prerogative!
So, no means no…. not maybe, not later, NO!
Focus On Her Pleasure and Not the Big-O
Probably the biggest tip I can give you when it comes to the best ways to eat pussy, is to focus on her pleasure and not the end game; or the big O.
Imagine the last time you were pleasured orally. Were they into it, moaning and groaning and making you feel like you’re having an out-of-body experience?
Well, that’s what I mean by focusing on her pleasure. Enjoy the ride and not the destination.
Soak in every wiggle, moan, scream and quiver. Take in the way she sounds when she’s getting close to the big-O and savor every second, up to and including the orgasm.
As a result, you will be better at eating pussy than you ever thought you could be.
Diving in: How to Eat Pussy
Now, comes the fun part; learning the best ways to eat pussy. However, just know I am not going to give these moves cutesy names like the lickety-split and the clit-whirler, as that’s not helpful.
Instead, here are the helpful hints, tricks, and techniques you need to know in order to eat pussy like a pro.
Remember, Her Parts Are Sensitive!
One of the top tips to remember, when learning the best ways to eat pussy, is that her bits are incredibly sensitive. So much so, that what feels good to you, will likely be painful to her.
The reason for this is that the vagina, labia, and clitoris are made from mucus membranes. However, your penis is covered with regular skin, thus making you less sensitive to touch and pressure.
In other words, you have an outie and she has an innie.
So, do not suck on her like you’re trying to get to the Tootsie Roll center of a Tootsie Pop; be gentle. And don’t rub her like you’re trying to start a campfire, as you’ll dry her out, causing severe pain and possible abrasions.
Also, don’t use your teeth, put on too much pressure on her clitoris and be sure your nails are trimmed, filed and clean. That way, she will feel pleasure and not discomfort.
Some Like It Painful
Consequently, there are vulva owners that may be less sensitive and enjoy a bit more pressure, rubbing, hard sucking, and other things some might consider painful. Plus, there are those who are into BDSM that may enjoy pain.
But for the time being, don’t assume anything, and treat all pussies with gentle TLC, until the owner says otherwise. And trust me, if she wants it harder or faster, she’ll probably say so.
Watch, Listen, and Learn
If she’s not verbal during oral sex and doesn’t tell you how she likes it, you can still figure out what she likes by watching, listening, and learning. In other words, be aware of the cues that tell you she is enjoying what you’re doing.
So, here are two lists for you to remember:
Keep Going
These things are considered your green light to keep doing what you’re doing.
- Moaning, groaning
- Saying, “Yes,” “Oh my God!” says your name, or even humming like, “Mmmmmm.”
- Pushing her pussy into your face, raising her hips from the bed
- Arching her back
- Grasping the pillow or sheets
- Panting
- Playing with your hair or grabbing your head
- Touching your arms, and hands or directing them toward her breasts or other erogenous zones
Most importantly, if she yells, “Don’t stop!”, keep up whatever you are doing! Do not change speeds or pressure or try some silly tongue move.
When she says, “Don’t stop!” Do not stop, as she is about to climax!
So, what happens if you do stop, change speeds, or pressure?
She will lose her orgasm. Yes, it will just disappear. POOF! JUST GONE….and it’s THE most frustrating thing to happen to a female during sex.
Then, you’ll have to start over, from the beginning, to bring her arousal back up to where she can cum again.
Stop and Recalibrate
If any of these things happen, you need to stop what you’re doing, recalibrate and try something else. And yes, it’s great to ask her, “Did that hurt?” or, “Too much?” Communication is a good thing and assists you in learning what she enjoys.
- Pulling away
- Saying, “Ouch!”
- She says, “Faster”? Go faster!
- “Slower.” Slow it down.
- She makes a sound like a snake.
- Crushing your head between your legs
- Just lying there, staring at the ceiling or watching TV
If she does any of the above, follow her lead! And you can ask her, “Is that better?” or other things to encourage her to tell you what does feel good. Finally, don’t take anything of this nature personally, as you are still learning about her body, likes, and dislikes.
Ask What She Likes
As mentioned above, one of the best moves in eating pussy is asking if she likes it. You can say things like:
“Does that feel good?”
“Is that the spot, baby?”
“You want more?”
“Touch where it feels best, show me, baby!”
That way, you get some sexy conversation going, and communicate to her that her pleasure is your top priority. As a result, it encourages her to be more vocal in showing you and telling you what feels best to her.
Finally, talking while going down on her can be a huge turn-on for many!
Don’t Forget Her Other Hot Spots
Another important move to know, when learning the best ways to eat pussy, is not to ignore her other hot spots. For instance, some of us have this amazing Bermuda Triangle that connects our nipples to our clitoris.
So, when she’s going wild, while you are orally pleasuring her, reach up, roll those nipples between your fingers and see if that doesn’t make her go from zero to 100 in a split second. But know that rolling her nipples isn’t pulling, pinching, or twisting.
Start gently and if she responds, add more pressure till you find her perfect nipple stimulation level.
Also, you can cup her butt cheeks in your hands, pulling her closer to your face and squeezing them, as you do. Don’t forget to tease her vagina with a finger or press a finger against her anus (don’t go in and don’t double dip).
That’s because, all of those nerve endings down there and across her erogenous zones are connected, enhancing each and every oral move you make.
How to Use Your Tongue When Going Down on a Pussy
Knowing how to use your tongue properly is one of the best ways to eat pussy. You see, you don’t just go down there and lap at her like a dehydrated dog drinking water, although, there is a place and time for that.
You need to use your tongue in different ways, like this:
- Lick her from her butt to her clit, with your tongue flat and spread out.
- Point your tongue and circle her clitoris.
- Alternate licking her labia, with a flat or pointed tongue. Each creates a different sensation.
- Flick her clitoris with your tongue, slowly and quickly.
- Lick either side of her clit. You’ll find that one side is usually more sensitive than the other.
- Flatten your tongue and press it against her clit.
- Lap her pussy like a dog, including her clit.
- Stick out your tongue and move your head from side to side.
- Flick her click from side-to-side and up and down.
- Use your thumb or finger to rub her clit while licking other areas.
- Most of all, if you’re enjoying it, let her know by moaning or telling her you love the way she tastes.
Using Your Lips While Stimulating Her Orally
Another important skill to have when eating pussy, is knowing how to use your lips to drive her insane. Here are some sensual moves to use for the ultimate kiss:
- Kiss her entire pussy gently.
- Suck her labia gently, between your lips and let it slip out.
- Suck around her clit, one kiss at a time, the secret being to suck and release, softly.
- Put your lips in an O shape, place them around her clit and gently suck and release, over and over.
- Kiss her clit like you’re kissing her lips.
- Kiss her innermost thighs, right where they connect to her sweet spot.
- Nibble her labia and clit softly with your lips – no teeth!
- Open your lips, place them around her clit and labia, close them and pull back softly.
- Know how you suck the sauce off your fingers after eating ribs? Do that to her clit, only softly.
- Don’t forget that you can use your hands to part her pussy and get better access to everything.
Mouth and Tongue Action Combined
Next, you take the tongue action and combine it with your lips. The best way to eat pussy is the perfect combination of both mouth and tongue with a little bit of suction.
Here are just some of the pussy pleasing moves you can try:
- When you take her clit into your mouth, suck, ever so gently while using your tongue to flick.
- Make an O around her clit, press down and use your tongue to circle her clit.
- French kiss her clit, gently.
- Gently pull her labia between your lips and use your tongue to lick.
- Combine the O, suck, flick and pull back.
- Softly press your lips around her clit and use your flat tongue to press her clit and release, press and release.
- Remember, when you find the combo she responds to, go back to that when she’s ready to cum and stick to it.
To Finger or Not to Finger
The best way to eat pussy doesn’t always require fingering. That it because some of us get distracted if we’re hammering the lady cave, and we can’t feel what you’re doing with our mouth.
Therefore, it’s best to alternate fingering with oral. Or you can place a finger or two, just inside her vagina so she feels the stretching sensation and the oral pleasure at the same time.
Finally, you can slip your finger into her vagina, to the second knuckle with your palm upward. Next, press your finger against her front vaginal wall and move your finger toward yourself, in a come-here motion.
What this does is stimulates her g-spot (an extension of her clitoris) internally, while you are licking and sucking her clitoris externally. This combination may push her over the edge quickly!
Or, as previously mentioned, it may distract from oral pleasure. So, ask her if it feels good and if she likes it.
I’m sure she’ll be happy to let you know!
Edging and Eating Pussy Don’t Go Together!
As I was looking around the internet for inspiration, I came across another blog that suggested edging while eating pussy. Seriously, NO!
You see, we can go from aroused to orgasm in a millisecond, therefore, edging is not only counterintuitive, but it can also cause her to experience loss of orgasm in a snap. As a result, you’ll have to start over, and it will likely take twice as long to get her there again.
So, if you read anywhere that edging during oral is good, hear me, as someone with a pussy who has lost many orgasms in my day, don’t do it.
Furthermore, save the edging for other activities like playing with sex toys or trying to make her squirt.
Add a Sex Toy
You can add a little spice when eating pussy by using a sex toy. For instance, a cool little tongue vibrator will bring her to orgasm quickly and give your tongue less of a workout.
Or, find a great g-spot vibrator to slide inside her, tip upward and let it run. Again, you shouldn’t thrust with it, as it will likely distract from the oral sensations.
The Best Sex Toy If You Don’t Like to Eat Pussy
For those of you who don’t enjoy going down on a pussy, there are sex toys you can use that feel just like oral sex and will get her off quickly! These pleasure products are called air pulse stimulators or clit suckers.
First, air pulse stimulators use puffs of air to simulate a sucking sensation. Second, some use a mild vibration that makes the sucking sensation feel even more intense.
Finally, all you need to do is get comfortable, slip the opening of the toy around her clit, turn it on and watch her cum like crazy.
Time for the Big-O, What to Do
So, she’s told you not to stop, meaning she’s on the verge of orgasm. What do you do?
Well, you do nothing else but exactly what you’re doing, sticking to the status quo! Therefore, don’t express your excitement by going faster or sucking harder.
Oh no, my pussy eating master. You simply keep the same rhythm without moving your head or body.
Then, once she’s in the throes of an orgasm, you can add a bit of pressure, and suck a wee bit harder, all the while keeping constant contact with that clitoris.
That way, she will not only enjoy a beautiful orgasm, but she will also cum even harder with that little extra pow at the end.
She Might Squirt if You Do This
As you notice her body starting to relax and the orgasm winding down, if you try this one little trick, she may just squirt. And that trick is to just keep going.
Sure, she may wiggle and squirm. She may even say she has to pee. But as long as she emptied her bladder before you went down on her, she most likely doesn’t have to pee.
Rather, she is about to squirt. And that, my friend, is the absolute best in orgasmic and bodily pleasure a vulva owner can ever feel!
So, do you want to learn the secrets of making her squirt too? Why not!
That way you can say you know the best way to eat pussy AND finish it off by making her squirt!
What is Squirting?
Squirting is a release that can occur pre-orgasm, post-orgasm, or even during orgasm. This release is a build up of fluid in the female bladder that comes out through the urethra.
And it will release from her urethra as anywhere from a trickle to a gush. So, be prepared, as you’re going to get wet!
Furthermore, squirting is the absolute ultimate in relaxation and release. She will feel so good after squirting, that she will never, ever forget what you did for her.
Learn the Best Techniques to Make Her Squirt
Teaching you the best ways to eat pussy is an easy one for me, as I have a pussy and I enjoy oral sex. However, knowing the techniques that will make her squirt, is best left to the experts.
I mean, I have experienced squirting and each time it occurred, it wasn’t something being pursued. In addition, I have held it back SO MANY TIMES at the end of an oral orgasm; claiming that I was overly sensitive or a little bit sore.
That’s because I knew what was coming, and he didn’t. So, I didn’t want to wet his bed and freak him out.
Therefore, I can assure you that you can possibly make her squirt by continuing oral sex after she has already climaxed and encouraging her to relax and let go. Also, you can use the g-spot fingering I told you about earlier, as that will also help her to squirt.
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The Best Positions for Eating Pussy
Now that you know the best ways to eat pussy as well as tips on arousal, the anatomy of the pussy and how to make her squirt, how about some positions for going down on her? After all, it’s important to find a comfortable position so you can work on your new skills.
Therefore, I’ve put together some basic positions that should help you along. But most importantly, go with whatever position feels right for you at the moment!
Missionary Position
The missionary position is probably the most popular position for eating pussy. The reason being, is that it supports her body completely, as well as yours.
Plus, you get easy access to all of her beautiful parts, and can easily reach her breasts too. Also, this is a great position to use a pillow under her hips to bring her bits closer to your face.
Queening
Queening is another popular position for eating pussy, as it makes her feel dominant while allowing you to hold onto her ass while burying your face into her pussy.
In the Queening position, you lie down with your head on a pillow, and she straddles your face. Further, she can hold on to the headboard for balance, as well as being able to reposition herself on your face for the optimal pressure and pleasure.
Sensual Standing
The Sensual Standing position is a hot and sexy way for you to pleasure her pussy, especially in those urgent, “got to have you now” situations. But be certain she has something to lean against, so those weak knees don’t bring her to the floor!
Therefore, position her against a counter, footboard, wall or door, and kneel down in front of her. This will allow for you to grab her butt while orally pleasuring her till she climaxes.
Take a Seat
The Take a Seat position is another way to gain full access to her vulva, while being comfortable. First, have her sit, and bring her bottom to the edge of a comfy chair or sofa.
Then, kneel or sit between her open legs and show her what you’ve learned!
The Perfect Place Setting
Ready for an oral sex position that’s hot and different from the norm? Then lay her beautiful, naked body on the dining table and pull up a chair!
This position allows for perfect access to her pussy, while you are seated and comfortable. Bonus points that this position leaves one hand free for a little under-the-table fun of your own.
So, lube up, grab your Fleshlight or use your hand to pleasure yourself at the same time.
Over Under
The best way to eat pussy is to find the most comfortable position for both the giver and receiver. The Over Under position is a combination of Queening and a flipped Missionary position.
First, have her get on all fours. Then, you slide under her legs, like on a mechanic’s creeper.
Finally, wrap your arms around her waist and pull her down, onto your face. Also, she can lean her upper body down, and rest on her arms, with pillows underneath, for more comfort.
The 69 Position
Another position that is the best way to eat pussy, allows for you both to receive oral pleasure; the 69 position! Best of all, this position allows for her to relax, while pleasuring you, making your experience wilder that ever before.
However, if you happen to get off first, roll her over, hit the Missionary oral position, and finish her off. After all, it’s the gentlemanly/womanly thing to do!
And there are the 2 ways to pull it off the 69 position.
Top and Bottom 69
First, the Top and Bottom 69 position can be executed with you on top or bottom. Simply lay down and have your partner climb on top, with her pussy within reach, while she is able to pleasure you orally, at the same time.
Furthermore, this position is fantastic for achieving that mutual orgasm! And if you’ve never climaxed at the same time as your partner, you have no idea what you’re missing!
Side to Side 69 Position
This pussy pleasing position is comfortable for both participants, as you are both lying down on your sides. Then, you curl your bodies in a way that naughty bits line up with mouths and it is game on!
So, see who gets off first, or better yet, see if you can climax at the same time!
Tips on How to Eat Pussy from People with Vulvas
Every person with a vulva is different, as I ’ve reminded you throughout this post. Therefore, I asked a few people to share their likes and dislikes when it comes to receiving oral sex.
That way, you can read and understand, that the best way to eat pussy isn’t the same for each and every partner.
Props for Isabelle
When asked if she liked particular techniques when to came to receiving oral pleasure, here’s what Isabelle Uren, one of our BedBible family members, had to say:
“Not a technique per se, but I love it when a partner compliments me or says how much they’re enjoying it. Hearing how good I taste or how much they love my body is a big turn-on for me.
I enjoy a fair amount of pressure during oral sex, and I love the feeling of a partner sucking on my clitoris, especially as I get closer to orgasm. Also, don’t stop the stimulation as I orgasm, but keep going steady all the way through, and a little after for a really strong, longer-lasting climax.
One of my favorite props for even better oral sex is a sex pillow to help give my partner better access — the Liberator Jaz works perfectly for this. I also love being tied down with my under-bed restraints, as not being able to move forces me to focus only on receiving pleasure.”
Do Not Enter
Amanda Pasciucco, a clinical sexologist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and founder of Life Coaching and Therapy, had this to say about receiving oral pleasure:
“I don’t like when the giver assumes I want something inside my body. How about we focus on the external genitalia before we go for the vagina, which has fewer nerve endings inside of it – because imagine childbirth pain.”
Specific Likes and Dislikes from Carol
Carol Queen is the staff sexologist at Good Vibrations as well as the curator for The Antique Vibrator Museum. And she has specific likes and dislikes to share, as well as tips for you:
Carol enjoys:
- “Escalating speed and pressure that tracks with increasing arousal
- Oral that settles into a rhythm
- Softly-held tongue, not pointy
- Simultaneous finger penetration (once arousal is pretty high) “
Carol dislikes:
- “A giver who starts out too hard/fast
- Oral that is all over the place even well into the activity—starting out with varying rhythms etc. is fine but sticking with that will impede my ability to build up to orgasm.
- Pointy tongue with lots of pressure (too much!)
- Too much suction”
Professional Tips for You from Carol
“Ask your partner what they like and try to follow that lead, since not everyone is the same in the kind of stimulation they respond to.
If you feel your partner scootching away from you, lighten up the pressure.
We think of oral as foreplay, but if so, there should be foreplay to the foreplay! Get both of you into a turned-on state first—making out, squeezing or caressing, etc.—then move to the genitals.
If you add finger penetration or other play, use lube.”
From Four Fab Women
Inka Winter, director, and founder at Forplay Films, recently joined 3 actors for a lesson on oral pleasure for the viewers of the camming site Streammate. Megan Mistakes (Cam model), Jasmine Teaa (adult performer), and Nicole Kitt (adult performer) joined Winter to school viewers on the best ways to eat pussy.
When asked to contribute to this post, Winter had this to say:
“I personally love oral, but it doesn’t make me cum, so for me, it is a great part of foreplay.
The main thing that we, the four fab women that did the stream together, is that please do foreplay before giving oral, build tension to “warm up” the vagina, don’t attack the vagina, try different motions to see what works for your partner.
You can try circles, the letter in the alphabet, up and down, left/right motion etc. Some might like a little sucking on the clitoris, but make sure the amount of suction is pleasant. Pay attention to their physical cues. Once you found a motion that works, DON’T stop! Or you will have to start all over again (possibly).”
The Clitoris Is a Large Organ
Susan Esco, model and founder of the #DYEfree2BME movement, has this crucial reminder for anyone giving oral pleasure to the vulva owner:
“Remember that the clitoris is a large organ running from the tippy top to the ‘bottom’. Spend time adoring ALL areas along the labia, not just the ‘special bean’. You are in for a big surprise!”
I couldn’t agree more with Susan as I love it when my partner takes his time adoring my vulva from top to bottom! So, now for my experiences and tips for you.
My Experiences
I hope you take the above advice on how to pleasure a pussy orally because I have had some terrible experiences. For instance, it’s great to pay attention to the labia, only, do so gently.
Because I had someone so into the labia that mine were sucked till they swelled up so huge, I couldn’t put on my pants! Additionally, I am one who needs only a soft touch and pressure, otherwise, I am climbing the wall behind me, and making that snake noise.
Plus, fingering during oral is alright. However, I personally get distracted and find it difficult to concentrate on the clitoris sensations, making it hard for me to orgasm.
So, in the end, you’ll want to craft your skills to each partner, as an individual, and never assume one move will work for the next.
Now You’re Ready to Dine At the Y
Now, dress your best and pull up a chair, as you are ready to dine at the Y! However, be sure and remember all of the tips above.
Then, with some practice, you’ll develop moves and skills of your own. So, good luck, follow her cues and enjoy!
10 Ways on How to Eat Pussy Like a Champ
When it comes to pleasing your woman, there is nothing that gets her going like oral sex. Cunnilingus, or eating pussy, is an incredibly intimate act that requires patience, focus, and a little bit of creativity.
If you’re learning how to eat pussy, or just looking to up your game, read on for some tips on how to eat pussy like a champ.
1. Get her aroused first
This is the most important step and one that is often overlooked. Before you go down on your woman, make sure she is already turned on. You can do this by kissing her passionately, touching her body, and talking dirty to her. Getting her aroused first will make the experience more pleasurable for both of you.
2. Start slow
Once you’re down there, take your time. Start by gently licking and sucking her clitoris and labia. Tease her with your tongue, paying special attention to her inner thighs and clitoris. Lick up and down, side to side, circles – the options are endless. As she starts to get more turned on, you can increase the pressure and speed of your tongue.
3. Find her G-spot
The G-spot is located about two inches inside the vagina on the front wall. To find it, insert your fingers into her vagina and feel for a small bump or ridged area. When you find it, apply pressure and rub in a circular motion until she reaches orgasm.
4. Use your fingers
In addition to using your tongue, you can also use your fingers to stimulate her vagina. The clitoris is full of sensitive nerve endings, and stimulating it with your fingers can feel really good. In addition, using your fingers allows you to be more precise in your stimulation. You can target the clitoris more directly and experiment with different strokes and speeds to find what feels best.
5. Pay attention to her body language
Pay attention to her body language as you’re licking and sucking her pussy. If she starts moaning or writhing in pleasure, that’s a good sign that you’re doing something right. But if she starts pushing you away or seems uninterested, it’s time to try something different.
6. Be prepared for anything
Eating pussy can be a messy business, so be prepared for anything. Have some wipes handy in case things get too wet and slippery. And if she happens to orgasm while you’re down there congratulations! You’ve just given her the best oral sex of her life!
7. Talk dirty to her
Talking dirty is a great way to get her even more aroused. Whisper naughty things in her ear as you’re licking and sucking her pussy. Tell her how hot she looks or how much you enjoy pleasing her. The dirtier the talk, the better!
8. Let her return the favour
After you’ve made your woman come, it’s only fair that she return the favour. So lay back and enjoy as she licks, sucks, and nibbles on your penis until you reach orgasm. It’s a fair trade-off and one that will leave both of you feeling satisfied. Plus, it’s just incredibly hot to watch her pleasure you like that. So go ahead and let her return the favour – you won’t regret it.
9. Practice makes perfect
Like with anything else in life, practice makes perfect. The more you eat pussy, the better you will become at it. So don’t be afraid to experiment with different techniques. The more trial and error, the better your oral sex skills will become. And trust me, your woman will be very appreciative!
10. Enjoy yourself!
Last but not least, make sure you are enjoying yourself! If you are having fun, chances are she is too. Eating pussy should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. So relax, let loose, and go with the flow. I promise you will both be glad you did!
Secret tip #11 – Give her the best orgasm of her life!
Final Thoughts
There are many different ways to eat pussy, but these ten tips are a great place to start if you want to please your woman orally. Remember to take your time, focus on quality over quantity, use your tongue and fingers simultaneously, pay attention to her body language cues, talk dirty to her, and relax and enjoy yourself.
With a bit of practice, eating pussy will become second nature – something both of you will look forward to every time!