Sexual, vaginal size play with super-sized dildos; why are you obsessed, why would you or she want it and how do you talk about it with your partner?
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Are you normal if you fantasize about using a large dildo on your partner? The answer is, yes, absolutely, you are normal. Watching your wife or girlfriend’s vagina stretch is a huge turn-on for many men. Maybe they are fascinated because they don’t have a vagina of their own or they are in awe of its magical, stretchiness.

Either way, the absolute control you have over her full-vagina bliss, as well as the way the vagina snaps right back into place like a top-of-the-line Bungy cord, is arousing and exciting for many men – and women.

And, thanks to one of our readers – and his question pertaining to using a plethora of toys on his wife as well as his desire to try a very large dildo on her – this post was born. So, let’s dive into using a large dildo on your partner so I can answer B’s question as well as present you with tips and information you can use.

I Want to Use a Large Dildo on My Partner, Is That Normal?

As mentioned above, wanting to use a large dildo on your partner is a normal thing. You’re not a freak, there’s no need to label yourself an emerging BDSM leather daddy and there’s absolutely no need to feel embarrassed or ashamed.

To the contrary, just a quick online search will lead you to plenty of men and women talking about it as well as a treasure trove of jumbo-sized sex toys to fill that growing niche’ – and her waiting vagina.

Further, my own experience with this little obsession came from my ex, which led me to do research on the subject of vagina stretching.

Check out my companion article and product guide “Using a Large Dildo on Her: My Large Dildo Lineup” below, and see products from online sex toy retailers as well as amazing, hand-created, silicone, monster dildos you’ll want to display as much as use for fun.

Why Does She Like Large Dildos?

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If you happen to be asking yourself, “Why does she like large dildos?” you may also wonder if it’s because you’re not big enough. Nothing could be further from the truth. We are completely, totally in love with your penis and the magic you create with it. However, having the completely full sensation of an extra-large dildo is different and exciting.

Think of it as a Thanksgiving dinner. You have 50 different, delectable foods to choose from and you gorge yourself on 49 of them until you’re ready to explode. Then, you go back for more.

That’s wonderful but not something you want to do at every single meal. And, using a large dildo on her is very much the same…. a special treat.

So, here is why she likes large dildos:

That total and complete vaginal fullness puts pressure on the g-spot and causes all of those nerve endings to be on fire, leading to a gargantuan orgasm that starts internally, then rocks, shakes and quakes its way externally and leaves us an exhausted, wet puddle of spent goo.

If she doesn’t like a large dildo you might want to consider a realistic dildo, a fantasy dildo, a discreet dildo, a vibrating dildo, a glass dildo, or a metal dildo.

Will Large Dildos Stretch Out Her Vagina?

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No, large dildos will not stretch out her vagina and here is why: The vagina is meant to stretch and snap back into shape. It’s lined with strong muscles that, when aroused, relax to accommodate even the girthiest penis.

It can also squeeze out a 7-10-pound, 21-inch long, 15-inch shouldered baby without losing a beat.

And if you want a professional opinion, check out what this doc has to say in Psychology Today.

In fact, the only thing that causes the vagina to lose its elasticity is the aging process. That is because we ladies begin to lose all of those young-woman hormones after menopause. But despite that, the vagina of a mature woman is still tight, cozy and comfy and ready for toe-curling sex.

So, no worries, you won’t be able to park a pick-up in there after using a huge dildo.

How to Use a Large Dildo

If you’re ready to take the next step and want to learn how to use a large dildo, keep in mind that you have to prepare yourself. You can’t just go hopping on the first fire hydrant that comes along; it takes a bit of practice and a lot of relaxation. Therefore, follow these steps:

Get Permission

If this is something you want (as the husband, wife or boyfriend, girlfriend) you must get permission. If you go pulling out a rocket that’s 12 inches long and 10 inches around, she’s likely to scream and run away. Talk about your fantasies with her. Tell her your desires. You never know, she may have the same desires as well.

Go Slow

When using a large dildo, you must start slow. For instance, begin with a dildo or vibrator that’s a few inches thicker than what you are used to. From there, you can buy a larger and larger toy until you get to the monster sex toy of your dreams. Again, you are not stretching out your vagina, just training yourself and your vaginal muscles to relax.

Use Tons of Lube

You need to have plenty of good lubricant on hand when using a large dildo. That way, you can avoid small cuts or tears in the vaginal opening and labia and ensure a comfortable ride. However, be sure and use the right lubricant for the job.

Let Her Lead

Finally, when using a large dildo on your partner, you must let her lead. If not, the force can lead to pain and tearing. So, the best thing you can do is stimulate her clitoris, play with her nipples and do things that make her hot while holding the dildo in place. The more excited she gets, the more she will open up and pull the dildo inside.

Most importantly, arousal is key. Be sure she is thoroughly hot, bothered and ready-to-go before you get started. Otherwise, her vaginal muscles will not relax enough to use a large dildo.

Vagina Stretching is a Normal Desire

The desire to use a large dildo and the fascination with vaginal stretching is a completely normal fantasy. So, don’t worry that you’re a twisted fetishist that needs to hang his (or her) head in shame. There are many people out there just like you as well as a sex toy industry that caters to that particular kink.

Got a question like B had? Feel free to email me for advice. I will be happy to counsel you privately. And, you never know if your question may spur my imagination and lead to a blog just like this one.