How to Use a Masturbator: The Basics

Let me guess, you’re either thinking of getting a masturbator, you already have one that you’re eager to use, or you’re curious about using one on your partner? Perhaps you’re here for other reasons, who knows! All I know, is that I’m here to provide you with all the information you need about how to use a masturbator.

I’m here to guide you through the basics of male masturbators and how they work. I’ll give you some concrete tips on how to elevate your masturbator-masturbation. Last but not least, we’ll go over some important guidelines for how to clean and maintain your masturbator to keep it in tip-top shape!

Table of Contents

  1. A Brief Intro to Masturbators
    • What is a Masturbator?
    • Why Use a Masturbator?
  2. How to Use a Masturbator
  3. Additional Tips for Enhanced Pleasure
  4. How to Clean and Care for Your Masturbator

A Brief Intro to Masturbators

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What is a Masturbator?

There are so many names for a lot of different types of masturbators. What they all have in common is that they’re devices designed to enhance the stimulation and pleasure during solo sessions or even with a partner. They come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, from compact and travel-friendly double-ended fleshlights to larger and more realistic masturbators.

The inside of a masturbator is usually textured with ridges, bumps, or other patterns to provide added stimulation as you move the sleeve up and down the shaft of the penis. They’re often made of soft and squishy materials, like TPE, that feel very lifelike and slightly temperature responsive.

Why Use a Masturbator?

Masturbators aren’t just about self-pleasure; they’re also about self-discovery. They can help you understand your body better, discover what you like, and generally improve your sexual experiences. Masturbators are great tools for you to practice the art of penetrative sex. Use them to figure out what tempo, rhythm, angle, level of tightness or texture you prefer. There are just some sensations you can’t creat with your hand alone! Different kinds of masturbators can help provide a unique sensation that will elevate your self-love sessions.

Masturbators aren’t only for solo sessions! They can be a great addition to your bedroom fun with a partner. Create the illusion of a threesome or play around with dual stimulation from the masturbator and your partner. Get creative with positions and enjoy how these babies let you stroke yourself while performing oral, receiving anal penetration, or while fingering someone!

Figures demonstrating a position for performig oral sex while using a masturbator.
Figures demonstrating positions for receiving anal sex while using a masturbator.

How to Use a Masturbator

Alright, this is what we’re here for right? Back to basics on how to actually use one of these bad boys. As you’ll figure out along the way, using a masturbator is quite intuitive. Yes, I have some important tips for you to keep in mind, but when it comes to stroking away, you know what you like best. So feel free to get creative!

A Step-by-Step Guide to Using a Masturbator

Preparation: Lube, Lube, Lube!

It's very important to use lube with your masturbator.

We’re going to need things to slide up and down, nice and easy. Apply a generous amount of water-based lube to both your penis and the inside of the masturbator.

This will make insertion a whole lot easier and ensure a smooth stroking experience. Reapply the lube as needed!

Arousal and Insertion

Make sure you're aroused, erect, and ready to use your masturbator.

You may already be plenty excited to get going at this point. Make sure that you’re feeling aroused, erect, and ready to slide in!

Slowly insert your penis into the masturbator. If it’s your first time using this masturbator, it can be good idea to take things slow to figure out if the texture and tightness is comfortable for you. The soft and pliable material should feel comfortable and snug around your shaft.

Movement: Find Your Rhythm!

Try out the different sensation that your masturbator offer

Now, the best part: wank away!

Move the masturbator up and down the shaft of your penis. Again, notice the sensation of the texture and tightness. Adjust the speed and pressure to your liking.

This is also the time to experiment with any special features. Perhaps your device vibrates, heats up, twists, or has an adjustable suction valve. Experiment with it and see what you like!

Explore & Enjoy!

You can combine your masturbator with other sex toys.

Take your time and enjoy the unique sensations your masturbator is pampering you with. Remember, there’s no rush!

You can even amp up your experience by exploring different insertion angles, different positions, and even pairing the masturbator with other sex toys for some beautiful blended bliss.

Additional Tips for Enhanced Pleasure

Now, that we’ve gone over the basics of how to use these pleasers, I can give you some extra tips on how to further elevate your experience with these devices!

  1. Experiment: Really, don’t be afraid to experiment with different movements, speeds, and intensity levels. You might find that certain techniques feel better than others.
  2. Combine with Other Toys: Consider combining your device with other sex toys for some extra stimulation. You could pair it with a vibrating cock ring or prostate massager!
  3. Use During Foreplay: As I mentioned earlier, masturbators aren’t just for solo play. You can totally use them with a partner! Add one to your foreplay or use it to indulge in the fantasy of a threeway.
  4. Try Out Different Positions! I know, changing positions during sex with an actual person feels much more different, but changing positions with your masturbator isn’t exactly pointless either. Maybe you’ll find an angle that’s super comfortable for you! Here’s some inspiration for different positions.
The classic masturbator position sitting down or lying down, holding the masturbator by hand.
A figuring demonstrating using a masturbator in the shower.
Photo of a male figure using a masturbator secured to the top of a small book case using duct tape.
A figurine demonstrating how to tuck your masturbator under the couch cushions during use.
Photo of a male figure using a masturbator upright, between sofa cushions.

How to Clean and Care for Your Masturbator

Cleaning your masturbator.
  1. Cleaning: After each use, clean your masturbator with warm water and a mild soap or sex toy cleaner. Most sleeves can be removed from any hard casing and turned inside out for thorough cleaning.
  2. Drying: Dry your stroker thoroughly to prevent mold or bacteria growth. After a thorough rinse, you can leave it upside down to air dry. Most of them come with a small drying rack or have a lid or packaging that doubles as a drying rack.
  3. Apply renewing powder: Some masturbator materials, like TPE, will get tacky and sticky over time after wash. You can use any type of fleshlight renewing powder or corn starch to make the surface nice and smooth again.
  4. Storage: Store your toy in a clean, dry place. Each masturbator should be stored individually, ideally in a fabric bag or its original packaging to avoid contact with other toys.
  1. Regular Cleaning: Even if you’re not using your toy regularly, it’s a good idea to clean your masturbator every couple of weeks. This will keep it fresh and ready for action.


So, there you have it! No matter which kind of masturbator you’re working with, these are some basic guidelines that will help you get the most of your toy. Knowing all this, you’ll also be prepared to provide the proper care and maintenance to make sure your new friend can please you in the long haul!

From the simple and satisfying to the high-tech and luxurious, these strokers offer a universe of pleasure possibilities for penis-owners. Every type of masturbator brings something unique to the table. With these babies, the road to self-discovery and enhanced pleasure is thrillingly diverse. So, dive in, explore, and stroke away!