The 10 Best Sex Bed Straps for Bedroom Bondage

Javier Zavala
by Javier Zavala
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If you’re interested in bringing BDSM to your bedroom—but learning the ins and outs of rope play seems too complex—then you should consider investing in a set of sex bed straps! These bondage straps are designed with the beginner in mind, utilizing easy-to-adjust restraints and cuffs to accommodate a variety of bed sizes. Most models offer either two or four restraints, allowing you to completely subdue your partner in a matter of minutes (or seconds, if you’ve already put the straps in place!). Whether you’re looking to begin your BDSM journey on a budget or you’ve got a lot of cash that you’re just itching to spend, a quality set of sex bed straps is a great investment to make. Learn which models scored the best against the competition on our list below!

The Testing Process

At Bedbible, we use three different methods to assess products: personal testing, reading manufacturer information, and scouring through real-user reviews. Hands-on testing is always the best option (if we’ve tested a product you can read about it by clicking on the “Read full review” link!). However, even if we can’t get our hands on a product, we can still fully assess a product by comparing manufacturer claims to user experience. As well all know, manufacturers love to talk about how amazing their product is, but those claims don’t always translate to real-world results. By using a variety of trusted online stores to collect and analyze customer reviews, we can compare the claims to the reality, allowing us to highlight the pros and cons of each product. With all this information conveniently gathered in one place, it should be easy for you to decide which set of sex bed restraints you want!

The Testing Process

Under Mattress vs Over Mattress Restraints

When looking for some light bondage options that involve tying your partner down to the mattress, you have the option to retrain them above or below the mattress. Under-mattress systems are great since they can be used on any type of bed (even those without bedposts), whereas over mattress setups require bedposts or a bedframe to tie your restraints to. If you’re using ropes to tie up your partner, the process will be significantly more time-consuming than using under-the-mattress sex bed straps. However, some people enjoy learning and executing new types of knots! Also, by tying the restraints yourself, you will have more options to work with than you would from using a pre-made set of sex straps. Ultimately, which option you should choose depends on your bed & the level of time you’re willing to spend restraining your partner.

FAQ

Is the sex bed straps materials safe?
Absolutely. Most of them assure you are free of materials that commonly produce allergies, but overall al the materials are safe.
Who can use sex bed straps?
Everyone who has confidence with his/her partner. Confidence is one of the keys to using sex bed straps, so if you have confidence with your partner and both agree and are willing to try sex bed straps then everything should work well.
How long can I use sex bed straps?
As long as you and your partner want. Some of the sex bed straps come with cushions and a very comfortable wrist, so it would be fair to say that it is most likely easier for you to get tired and than uncomfortable.
What are the best sex bed straps positions?
Unfortunately, the correct answer here is the one that you like the most. I personally like the St. Andrews Cross.
Are sex bed straps suitable for bondage beginners?
Sex bed straps are ideal for beginners since they use adjustable straps, rather than requiring the user(s) to get good at tying knots. They can also be used with any mattress, meaning your options won’t be limited by your type of bed.

What are sex bed straps?

Sex bed straps are an easy and intelligent way to turn your bed into a BDSM playground. Sex bed straps are easy to mount/unmount and can be taken anywhere if you travel a lot, making them perfect for BDSM beginners. These systems provide 2 to 4 restraint points where the wrist and ankles can be held. They are a great option if you don't have a proper space to have this kind of fun or if you are traveling a lot. Sex bed straps are a must-have for persons who love BDSM as well as those who are just getting into it.

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The 10 Best sex bed straps in Test

1 Test Winner

Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System

Design: 95
Ease of Use: 95
Quality: 95
Price: 0/5

Bedbible rating: 0

User rating:
N/A

If you have ever wanted to try some bondage or you are an experienced user and want to have sex bed straps, that are light and easy to carry whilst traveling, then the Sportsheets Under the Bed is a great choice for you.
It is easy to install and can fit in any bed, it is a 4 points style restraining with a 60-inch connecting strap, it is recommended for beginners because it is easy to set up and it is comfortable, you have 4 Velcro-fastened cuffs that can be adjusted and also a 60 inch restrain strap for attaching to the bedpost, chairs or even each other, so if you want bed sex strap to go or simply to have it at your place but not permanently, then this is the way to go!

Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System			 			 test
Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System			 			 features
Recommended for:
BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Sportsheets Under the Bed if you...
want a good set for good price
want a travelling set
want a comofortable restraining set
You should NOT buy the Sportsheets Under the Bed if you...
want something a top quality set
want something more sturdy
want something to set up permantly at your place
Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System			 			 features
Features
AdjustableYes, 4 Velcro cuffs can be adjusted 6 - 15 inches  
FasteningYes, velcro  
Lengthconnecting strap 60 inches / restraint straps 60  inches
Pros
Easy to mount/unmount
Velcro-fastened cuffs for easy control
Quick-release clips for safety
4 points restraint
Cons
The straps could be more sturdy
Should come with a carrying bag
Conclusion

For the price, these sex bed straps are a great option, this set is sturdy, easy to carry, easy to mount and unmount, it is pretty comfortable and it is recommended for beginners for these reasons, but that doesn’t mean advanced users can use it, the materials are great and the only downside that I found is that it doesn’t come with a carrying pouch, otherwise it would be a perfect choice for those who don’t want to spend a good amount of money for a good product.

2 Cheapest

Purple Reins Under Mattress Spreader Restrain

Design: 86
Ease of Use: 87
Quality: 85
Price: 0/5

Bedbible rating: 0

User rating:
N/A

If you want to enjoy a full-body restraint with a sex bed straps system, but don’t want to have the restraints permanently in your bed, then the Purple Reins Under Mattress is your way to go.

All sex bed straps slip on with ease for speedy use, the padded cuffs keep on their place and it is a perfect kit for persons who are just starting or that don’t want to have fun every day, just for special moments. The wrist and ankle cuffs can be adjusted between 6.5 and 10 inches and are secured via strong velcro fastenings.
The main mattress strap can be adjusted between 61 and 192 inches and fits almost any bed.
The connecting cuff straps can be adjusted between 0 and 28 inches to work with different mattress depths and sub heights.

These sex bed straps are a fair option that you must consider.

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Purple Reins Under Mattress Spreader Restrain			 			 features
Recommended for:
BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Purple Reins Under Mattress if you...
want the cheapest option
like the purple color
want something just to use from time to time
You should NOT buy the Purple Reins Under Mattress if you...
want something more sturdy
want something with more quality
don't like the purple color
Purple Reins Under Mattress Spreader Restrain			 			 features
Features
AllergiesLatex-free  
FasteningVelcro  
Length96  inches
MaterialsNylon  
Pros
Cheap
Decent quality
Purple color
Good materials
Cons
Can feel a bit cheap
Foam is too moveable (cuffs)
Recommended for ocassional use not for every day
Conclusion

For a very inexpensive and so far the cheapest option regarding sex bed straps, the Purple Reins Under Mattress is a kit that can give you fun from time to time. It is important to consider that for the price it is not recommended to use it every day because it is not going to give you the same results as some expensive options, the foam in the cuffs can easily get off with the movements so you have to be careful or find a way to fit it permanently there, it is sturdy but you can’t expect to be as sturdy as other options, overall the quality is decent and can work for those who are just starting or those who want just to have fun sometimes.

3 Beginners

Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit

Design: 93
Ease of Use: 94
Quality: 95
Price: 0/5

Bedbible rating: 0

User rating:
N/A

Fifty Shades of Grey has Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit, which are sex bed straps recommended for beginners or persons that want to take fun everywhere. The design and the quality of the materials are great, made out of polyester, the feeling is soft and nice whilst the straps are strong and sturdy. Comes with 4 soft cuffs with Velcro fastenings and includes a blindfold to add more submission to the session. It fits single, double, kingsize, and super-kingsize beds.

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Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit			 			 features
Recommended for:
BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits if you...
want a great product to start
want a good product to travel with
want good quality and comfortable materials
You should NOT buy the Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits if you...
don't want to spend that much
want something less "soft"
Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit			 			 features
Features
MaterialsPolyester  
FasteningVelcro  
AdjustableTo any size of bed  
LengthStrap system is 49  inches
Pros
Great materials
Soft and comfortable feeling
Easy to mount/unmount
Easy to travel with
Comes with a blindfold
Cons
Price, not expensive but expensier than other options
Might be too soft feeling from cuffs if you are into rougher action
More D rings would be appreciated
Conclusion

The sex bed strap set is nice, comes with a blindfold which is useful, personally, I would have changed that blindfold for a nice carrying pouch, but someone might found the blindfold more useful. It is soft and nice, the straps feel comfortable and are very easy to set up, the price is a bit high compared to other options but is not that expensive. The package is nice and can be a good erotic gift for your partner. Perhaps a few more rings would be nice to use and a bit tighter system would be even nicer, but overall is a great sex bed straps kit

4 Kit

Scandal Under Mattress Bed Restraint Kit (3 Piece)

Design: 94
Ease of Use: 94
Quality: 94
Price: 0/5

Bedbible rating: 0

User rating:
N/A

This sex bed straps kit is great for those who are planning to try a full submission, no matter if you are just starting or you have experience, the Scandal Under Mattress is going to give you a lot of fun (fun that you can take with you).
The kit includes a restraint system to bind arms and legs, a breathable ball gag, and a blindfold.
It is easy to mount and adjustable to fit up to a king-size bed, you can mount it and leave it there to keep playing some other time or just unmount it and mount it back whenever is needed.
Velcro cuffs adjust up to 14.5 inches around and gag up to 25 inches around.

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Scandal Under Mattress Bed Restraint Kit (3 Piece)			 			 features
Recommended for:
BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Scandal Under Mattress if you...
want a good looking sex bed straps kit
want a breatahable ball gag
want a double ring fastening
You should NOT buy the Scandal Under Mattress if you...
don't like the colors
are not into gagging
want a different design
Scandal Under Mattress Bed Restraint Kit (3 Piece)			 			 features
Features
AllergiesLatex-Free  
FasteningVelcro  
MaterialsVelvet  
LengthVelcro cuffs 14.5 inches around // gag up to 25 // Bed strap adjust up to 143  inches
Pros
Includes ball gag and blindfold
Nice design
Easy to adjust
Easy to mount
Cons
The design might be a bit too "nice" if you are rough user
A carrying bag would be nice
Different versions of the kit would be even better (like including more toys)
Conclusion

So far this is the most complete, well-looking, and comfortable sex bed straps kit, it comes with a blindfold and a breathable ball gag it would be very nice that would come with a carrying pouch as well but we can’t complain because the price is good!
It looks good, it looks nice, it feels even better, it is easy to mount, easy to use and you can let it be there permanently or unmount it if you need to travel and you want to take the fun with you. Overall I think it is a great option if you are starting and you want to go full in into submission or if you are experienced and want to have a nice, light, and good-looking sex bed straps traveling kit.

5

Bondage Boutique Black Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraint

Design: 92
Ease of Use: 93
Quality: 92
Price: 0/5

Bedbible rating: 0

User rating:
N/A

If you want to transform your bed permanently or temporarily into a bondage training field, then Bondage Boutique Vlack Bound are sex bed straps that you need in your collection. With 4 velcro-fastening cuffs, it is easy to strap your partner easily and fast. The easy system to unclip the cuffs allows you to change positions easily and very fast so you don’t lose the mood whilst playing.
Suitable for almost any size of the bed, these sex bed straps are going to unleash your darkest desires.

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Bondage Boutique Black Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraint			 			 features
Recommended for:
BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Bondage Boutique Black Bound if you...
want a nice and sturdy sex bed straps
want to choose the color of the sex bed straps
are a beginner and want a decent price option
You should NOT buy the Bondage Boutique Black Bound if you...
want something with top quality
want a more sturdy option
Bondage Boutique Black Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraint			 			 features
Features
AllergiesLatex-Free  
FasteningVelcro  
MaterialsPolyester  
LengthCuff straps an extend to 50 inches // connecting straps extends to 48  inches
Pros
Easy to mount
Easy to use
Unclip system for easy changes in positions
4 velcro fastening cuffs
Cons
Would be nice to include a carrying pouch
Extra set of cuffs would be nice with the unclip system to change roles fast
Conclusion

One of the best parts of these sex bed straps are the unclip system that allows you to change positions easily and fast, so you can get to the next step without having to wait, a recommendation would be to include another set of cuffs so the roles can be changed easily and fast, or that you buy two of these sex bed straps and keep one for traveling, the other permanent in your bed and you and your partner wear the cuffs at the same time for role swapping.
In any case, it is very easy to mount and the sex bed straps feel sturdy and good, the price is decent and affordable and I think this is a great option for everyone. Another thing that would be great would be a traveling pouch but is not a must, but for all the features I think this is a great sex bed straps kit to consider.

6

DOMINIX Deluxe Adjustable Leather Cuff Under Mattress Set

Design: 90
Ease of Use: 87
Quality: 90
Price: 0/5

Bedbible rating: 0

User rating:
N/A

These sex bed straps have a totally different system, two straps to mount on the bed that are placed at the bottom and top of the bed and come with bed loops to attach the handcuffs and do a perfect starfish. Made from ultra-strong Nylon and genuine leather cuffs, there is no way your partner can escape, and who doesn’t love the smell of leather?
This is a simple kit with just 2 pieces, and 4 leather cuffs, making it easier to move around and with practice easy to mount. It has a seatbelt-style clasp to release each strap very easily. The easy attaching system allows you to tight the sex bed straps once and let them be there until you need to take them with you or replace your bed.

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DOMINIX Deluxe Adjustable Leather Cuff Under Mattress Set			 			 features
Recommended for:
BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the DOMINIX Deluxe Adjustable Leather Cuff if you...
want a leather cuffs
want good priced sex bed straps
want a good quality sex bed straps
You should NOT buy the DOMINIX Deluxe Adjustable Leather Cuff if you...
don't like leather
want a differnet system
DOMINIX Deluxe Adjustable Leather Cuff Under Mattress Set			 			 features
Features
AllergiesContains nickel, Latex-free  
FasteningBuckle  
Length95  inches
MaterialsLeather  
Pros
Easy attaching system
Genuine leather
Ultra stron nylon straps
Good price
Cons
If you are not interested in leather you can find cheaper options
Mount the main straps can be hard the first time
Theres no other colors
Conclusion

If you like leather, then I’m sure you are going to like these sex bed straps, the few pieces in the system make it easy to use, but, it can be a bit tricky to mount the first time, after the first time, if you unmount it is going to be easier to mount it the next time you want to use it.
The straps might look a bit cheap but are sturdy and hold up very well, unfortunately, there is no other color than black, the price is very nice considering you get genuine leather cuffs. It is a very nice starting point if you are getting into this kind of play or a good addition to your collection if you are already in. Unless you dislike the leather, I’m sure you are going to enjoy this easy and good-priced sex bed straps system.

7

SEX & MISCHIEF BED BONDAGE RESTRAINT KIT

Design: 88
Ease of Use: 90
Quality: 90
Price: 0/5

Bedbible rating: 0

User rating:
N/A

With the Sex & Mischief Bed Bondage, you don’t need any post in your bed, this bondage playground is easy to install on your bed. You get four soft cuffs that are attached to 60-inch adjustable straps, it is totally portable which means that you can take it wherever you want, even if you make long traveling. It is made out of Polyester and plastic and even though it doesn’t look “cute” it is totally functional and resistant.

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SEX & MISCHIEF BED BONDAGE RESTRAINT KIT 		 			 features
Recommended for:
BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the SEX & MISCHIEF BED BONDAGE if you...
want a cheap sex bed straps kit
want a funcitonal kit
don't mind the materials
You should NOT buy the SEX & MISCHIEF BED BONDAGE if you...
care about how it looks
mind about the materials
want something with more quality
SEX & MISCHIEF BED BONDAGE RESTRAINT KIT 		 			 features
Features
MaterialsPolyester, ABS Plastic 
LengthAdjustable straps with cuffs and connector strap are 60  inches
Pros
Good material
Great price
Totally functional
Sturdy
Cons
Doesn't look cute
Might be a bit too stiff
Conclusion

If you don’t care that much about the esthetics of the product then the Sex & Mischief Bed Bondage is going to be great for you, especially because it is very cheap, the polyester and the plastic are a good combination and the straps feel sturdy, it is impossible you can tear them apart with your bare hands or strength, so if your only concern is about the functionality, let me tell you this works perfectly!
A little bit of design would have been nice to make it look better, but the truth is that once you are on fire, the less thing you do is to check how does the straps looks, right?

8

LIBERATOR BLACK LABEL BED BUCKLER RESTRAINT SYSTEM - MICROFIBER MIDNIGHT

Design: 94
Ease of Use: 92
Quality: 93
Price: 0/5

Bedbible rating: 0

User rating:
N/A

If you are looking for one of the best sex bed straps kits out there, let me tell you the Bed Buckler Restraint is a kit you are never going to regret having.
Designed to go anywhere and ready to use anytime, the set is built with soft cuffs that work as a web-strap restraint and the strap slips under the mattress, box spring, or futon to be discreet.
It is very easy to use and mount, with 20-inch adjustable nylon tethers that wrap around the surface of the bed, there is no chance your partner can escape, even if he/she would like to.

LIBERATOR BLACK LABEL BED BUCKLER RESTRAINT SYSTEM - MICROFIBER MIDNIGHT			 			 test
LIBERATOR BLACK LABEL BED BUCKLER RESTRAINT SYSTEM - MICROFIBER MIDNIGHT			 			 features
Recommended for:
BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Bed Buckler Tether if you...
want one of the best sex bed strap out there
want an easy system to set up
want a comfortable cuffs
are not in a budget
You should NOT buy the Bed Buckler Tether if you...
mind about the price
want a different material
LIBERATOR BLACK LABEL BED BUCKLER RESTRAINT SYSTEM - MICROFIBER MIDNIGHT			 			 features
Features
MaterialsMulti-fabric  
FasteningVelcro  
Lengthfour tethers of 20  inches
Pros
Great quality
Easy to set up
Take it everywhere
Comfortable to use
Cons
Expensive
The only way to adjust it once it is placed is by moving the whole matress
Doesn't come with assembly instructions
Conclusion

The Bed Buckler Tether and Cuff Restraint System is good quality and it feels great, it is easy to set up but…..if you have to make adjustments once it is placed you have to remove your mattress and do the adjustments, thing that might be a turn off if you are already set on fire, the price is high, but you are paying for a great quality product and you are not going to be disappointed. You can take it everywhere and place it for use, the cuffs are actually pretty comfortable and are going to give you a lot of nice experiences, so, if the price is not a concern to you, I would say you could consider this sex bed straps as a strong option for you and your partner!

9

BOUNDLESS VEGAN LEATHER BED RESTRAINT BY CALEXOTICS

Design: 90
Ease of Use: 90
Quality: 90
Price: 0/5

Bedbible rating: 0

User rating:
N/A

If you are concerned about animal cruelty and you want still to have the benefits of the leather, then the Boundless Vegan Leather Bed Restraint is something it might appeal to you.
If you don’t have space to make your own bondage dungeon then you should get sex bed straps and stop using that excuse. With these sex bed straps you can mount it and unmount it as many times you like and take the fun with you if you have to travel, it is a total adjustable restraint system that works great with the included hooks, it slides underneath your bed and it is easy to set it up.
Comes with four padded cuffs for the ankle and wrists that use velcro to secure your limbs and also with durable nylon straps and metal hardware to secure everything well. Made of polyester fabric and nickel-free, this is one of the best options for you.

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BOUNDLESS VEGAN LEATHER BED RESTRAINT BY CALEXOTICS			 			 features
Recommended for:
BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the BOUNDLESS VEGAN LEATHER if you...
are vegan and doesn't support the animal cruelty
want to have vegan leather
want a decent price
want a heavy duty sex bed straps
You should NOT buy the BOUNDLESS VEGAN LEATHER if you...
you like genuine leather
want a different system
BOUNDLESS VEGAN LEATHER BED RESTRAINT BY CALEXOTICS			 			 features
Features
FasteningVelcro 
MaterialsPolyester, iron 
AllergiesNickel-free  
LengthTether 63  inches
DiameterCuff (max) 4.5  inches
Pros
Sturdy
Good materials
Well built
Very durable
Cons
Can be a bit tricky to set up the first times
The carabiners looks a bit weak
Conclusion

The Boundless Vegan Leather Bed Restraint gives an alternative for those who are concerned about animal cruelty offering vegan leather. If you are vegan or concerned about this subject, these sex bed straps are going to be your way to go! These sex bed straps are very sturdy and last for a long time, it is a bit hard to set it up for the first time but once you do it then you are going to find a way to make it easier.
Something that I didn’t like that much was that the carabiners look a bit weak, but those are not, and of course, it is not genuine leather but otherwise, it is a good choice for you and your partner to have your own playground in your bedroom, easy and quick.

10

SCANDAL 8 POINTS OF LOVE BED RESTRAINT BY CALEXOTICS

Design: 89
Ease of Use: 88
Quality: 89
Price: 0/5

Bedbible rating: 0

User rating:
N/A

The Scandal 8 Points of Love Bed Restraint is an excellent and adjustable bondage system of sex bed straps that will turn your bedroom into a scene of a bondage fantasy. Packed with 4 tethers for wrist and ankles and a very nice looking red and black brocade. The tethers are equipped with swivel snap hook connectors that you can use to connect them to one another and get them set up for playing very fast. It is fully adjustable and can be used up to a king-sized mattress (180”).

SCANDAL 8 POINTS OF LOVE BED RESTRAINT BY CALEXOTICS			 			 test
SCANDAL 8 POINTS OF LOVE BED RESTRAINT BY CALEXOTICS			 			 features
Recommended for:
BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Scandal 8 Points of Love Bed Restraint if you...
want a good price sex bed straps
want a very good looking design
want good working strap system
You should NOT buy the Scandal 8 Points of Love Bed Restraint if you...
don't like the design
want something with more quality
if you don't like carabiners
SCANDAL 8 POINTS OF LOVE BED RESTRAINT BY CALEXOTICS			 			 features
Features
LengthStraps: 200 inches by 180  inches
LengthTeathers: 24  inches
MaterialsPolyester, Iron, Polypropylene  
AllergiesNickel-free  
Pros
Good looking design
Great price
Easy to set up
Cons
First times setting it up can take a while
Carabiners look weak
Conclusion

You can get a good-looking sex bed straps system for a reasonable price. The Scandal 8 Points of Love is an excellent option if you are on a budget or don’t want to spend much. It is an 8 point system that gets down to offer the same possibilities that a 4 point system can do. It is made of polyester, polypropylene, and iron. It looks sturdy, but the carabiners are different. Carabiners don’t look sturdy, but those really are. It is hard to mount it the first time but with practice comes easy, one thing that I would have liked to see would be a different design, perhaps different options of colors, but overall I can’t complain, if you are looking for a sex bed straps that have good quality and decent a price, then perhaps this might be your option to go.

Get All Tied Up

Sometimes we are not ready for a full sex bed straps kit to restrain our partner (or get restrained).

Sometimes the only thing that we are looking for is to spice things up a bit and give a small turn in some new things to enhance our pleasure.

Or, if you have already a sex bed strap kit that you use to restrain your partner and you are looking for an extra attachment, then take a look at the next product!

Get adventurous

Not everything is sex bed straps, maybe you are an intermediate or advanced user that is looking for something else, or perhaps sex bed straps are not appealing to you and you need something else to get adventurous.

Below I’m going to show you two options that are going to blow your mind and you will be wanting to do a test drive!

Are you inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey?

When Fifty Shades of Grey came to light with the first book, everyone (mostly women) were out of their minds.

Fifty Shades of Grey came in a popular way to show that BDSM is not that bad after all and that we all have our kinks, especially if you are super-rich (pun intended).

If you are like me, and you have read the books, or maybe not like me but you have watched the movie, or even totally different you haven’t ever watched the movie or read the books, but you know about the topic, at least for “common knowledge”. Then you must admit there are some good and bad things about it. Below I will list a few things from my perspective about the subject.

What is it about?

What is it about?

What is it about?

Fifty Shades of Grey is a novel that nowadays has a movie also about a  21-year-old student called Anastasia who begins a relationship with a 27-year-old man called Christian Grey, who is a successful, powerful, rich, businessman, who later offers a non-disclosure agreement to her for a private sexual relationship where she is going to discover some of the kinks of him, mostly BDSM.

Is it actually BDSM?

Is it actually BDSM?

Is it actually BDSM?

Well, that depends on your conception of BDSM, for many it can be, for others it is just a joke, and many others can consider it as a vanilla BDSM, personally, I consider this last one as it is a fictional story targeting women from all ages and all cultures, so real BDSM would be a bit too much for a public audience.

Is it an interest story then?

Is it an interest story then?

Is it an interest story then?

Well, I think it is, actually what I most like it is was to see the perspective from a woman since I’m a man, I think it is something we as men are always interested in, as for the sexual parts I think it was more like a “general” women dream while the character of Christian is a stereotype many men wants to be.

So if you ask me if you should read the book, perhaps you should, there isn’t anything wrong as long as you keep it as fictional, but you have to keep your mind open knowing it is not true BDSM and if you move the story to a real-life can be a very scary, manipulative and sexual abuse story.

Is there anything good about it?

Is there anything good about it?

Is there anything good about it?

I believe so since the story came out, it has been one of the best sellers and the movie was very welcome, but you might be wonder, what’s good on that if you are not even appealed to know about it? well, persons who read the book are starting to be more open about those subjects, which, in case you are into it, it might be good because you can find easily a partner that might want to try at least a soft BDSM. But on the other hand, if you consider the story from a real perspective it is not much than sexual abuse, harassment, and violence, which is a totally different concept from BDSM.

Restraints and BDSM

Restraints and BDSM

Restraints and BDSM

So most likely, if you are alone and looking for a partner in crime, you might found actually women that have read the book or seen the movie that wouldn’t think it is weird to use a set of sex bed straps to be like Anatasia and Grey or even some other BDSM toys, like these, so, the activities in the book might be a vanilla BDSM for some, but the truth is that it has open opportunities for some others to explore, and who knows, maybe your new partner could like it more than you expect!

Just please bear this in mind!

Just please bear this in mind!

Just please bear this in mind!

The story is fictional, if you hear this story without knowing it you can be sure it is a story from a violented woman who needs help ASAP, Christian the male character, is abusive, possessive, and violent, Anastasia, on the other hand, sounds like a woman who can’t stand against a man like him. In BDSM this never happens, in order to have a relationship of this kind, you must speak with your partner, communication is everything as well as respect.

So what do we need to have a BDSM relationship?

So what do we need to have a BDSM relationship?

So what do we need to have a BDSM relationship?

In order to have a proper BDSM relationship, you must know there are healthy and ethical ways to combine pain and pleasure. A BDSM relationship requires communication, self-knowledge, being emotionally stable, mature, self-awareness, trust, and independence. It’s not just about harming other ones in order to have pleasure, but to take care of your partner and both get pleasure from the same things, or would you like to get violated, harmed, or even raped just to give pleasure to others? Don’t get misled, a fictional story is going to be always fictional, learn to separate good things from bad things. What will always help you is to put yourself in the other one’s shoes with something you don’t like (or you are not sure if you like it or not).

How to be safe with Sex Bed Straps?

So let’s think that you have a partner already that likes to play with sex bed straps or that you found a person that connects with you in that way.

How can you make it a safe and good experience to repeat again?

I’m going to write down a list of things I consider to be things you should always do in order to have a nice, safe, and wonderful time with sex bed straps.

 

Trust

Trust

Trust

One of the most important things to have in a relationship, especially if you are using sex bed straps or you are into BDSM is trust.

Basically, you are submitting yourself to your partner (or your partner to you) giving free will to do whatever you (your partner) want with the other bodies, it is not just about tying up somebody to a bed but to know the one that is not tied up is going to use the confidence to seek pleasure for both without harming or putting anyone at risk.

So if your partner is confident and trusts you and you trust your partner, it means your relationship is on a different level and you are going to enjoy it more.

What do you like and what you don't

What do you like and what you don't

What do you like and what you don't

It is satisfying to know the kinks of the other one, but it is good to know what your partner doesn’t like as well as you let your partner know what you don’t like.

In this way, none of you are going to get a bad experience and probably an awkward moment and you are going to use your time wiser to get more pleasure, never do anything your partner doesn’t like.

Safewords

Safewords

Safewords

Safewords are a topic that might be silly nowadays for many due to Fifty Shades of Gray as it turned to be a mainstream topic. But beyond that having safewords might actually improve your experience and keep you safe and happy.

We know sometimes we lose control when we are enjoying and we believe often we can give more pleasure by doing something that might not be perhaps the best call, but we are so excited that our brain doesn’t work well and we do it thinking it is something good.

Having safewords will control these situations if there is anything you or your partner doesn’t like, and as safewords are usually something non-sexual related, it is easy to realize you are doing something wrong (or to let your partner know there is something wrong).

Levels are often suggested, one for something you might be aware of but you can keep going, something to be aware it might not be grateful, and the last one when it is totally not okay and you or your partner should stop.

Always have an emergency back up plan

Always have an emergency back up plan

Always have an emergency back up plan

It is unusual to face a situation that turns to be dangerous but sometimes it is just enough to be prepared in case face something it is out of control. One of the accessories it is recommended to always have bondage scissors. Bondage scissors are just medical scissors made especially to ensure this experience can be safe always, especially when using ropes or lockable straps, the scissors will allow you to cut pretty much through everything without harming your partner or yourself in the intent if something goes wrong.

Aftercare, cuddles

Aftercare, cuddles

Aftercare, cuddles

In the end, we both are pleased, it is possible, depending on how rough the session is, to start to feel not okay about something, perhaps physical pain or even psychological remorse. It is totally normal to feel like that, but what can help you both is to understand it was just an experience and nothing that was said or done was intended to harm the other one, aftercare means to let the other understand it is okay to have fun like that but that you actually care for the other one beyond your needs and cuddling is a good way to make this process work flawlessly.

How to use sex bed straps

Sex bed straps are easy to use, perhaps, the most complicated part is to learn how to mount them on your bed, but once you figure it out, next time is going to be an easy cake.

In any way, if you are finding trouble with this, I’m going to tell you how to use sex bed straps to take advantage and enjoy your experience!

How to use sex bed straps

Mount your sex bed straps

Mount your sex bed straps

Most of the sex bed straps come with instructions, it is not that is rocket science but when you can actually see the process it is faster, if you are one of the unlucky ones that got sex bed straps without instructions, as I said before, it is not rocket science, you can figure it out how to sort your problem but it will take more time, just ask yourself if you want to keep the sex bed straps attached to your bed for a lifetime or if you want to remove, so it is easy for you to remember how to unmount it and how to mount it again if you need to do so.

Gather everything you might need

How to use sex bed straps

Having handy everything you need is useful so you don’t have to stop in the middle of the experience to try to find something, especially if you are not good at keeping your things in their place. Think about what you might need and ask your partner to be sure nothing is forgotten. Things like any kind of toys, lubricant, wet wipes, towels, paper, and any other thing that might be a tool for your experience are always nice to keep it close.

How to use sex bed straps
How to use sex bed straps

Set up rules and remember safe words

Set up rules and remember safe words

Rules are often important to make sure, no matter how excited you or your partner are, that there are some things that must not be done or certain limits that shouldn’t be trespassed.

Safewords are important too and are an “on-time” sign that something it might not feel okay, is not feeling okay, or that the whole action should be stopped immediately.

But what happens if you or your partner are using a ball gag? Well, you find a way to show the other you are not agreeing to do something or to keep going, snapping fingers, tapping something with your hand, even a peace and love sign can do the trick, the important part is to be safe in order to enjoy more.

Agreements

How to use sex bed straps

Something that might add fun and enjoyment to your experience is to know who is going to be tied up and who doesn’t and if there is a chance to swap roles, which often is interesting. Speak about turns, roles, or any other idea that might add fun in order to know when it is okay to change and do totally differently.

How to use sex bed straps
How to use sex bed straps

Caring is good but showing it is even better.

Caring is good but showing it is even better.

After all the fun, caring about your partner is good in other to show there is respect and that nothing said or done was mean in any way to harm him/her. Even when your relationship could be merely to have fun or even a friendship it is very important to know the other you care about him/her in order to have a healthy and good relationship. If you are enjoying and your partner as well, it would be silly to end up your relationship just because of something small like this. Besides, who doesn’t love to have a lovely moment and be spoiled when both of you are cuddling and just post-enjoying.

How to clean sex bed straps

There is no big deal when it comes to cleaning your sex bed straps, mainly because it is unusual those get dirty, but if something messy happens, you can clean them out with warm water and regular clothing soap. You can use a small brush to brush it and let it dry. Try to avoid wetting the metallic parts of the sex bed straps; otherwise, you get the risk of getting those rusty. As usual, I will show you an infographic with a few tips on "how to clean" certain materials.

Porous
materials

Soft plastic, hard plastic, jelly, rubber, Cyberskin are all porous materials, meaning that small particles and bacteria can penetrate the surface. This makes it impossible to completely clean these types of materials.

Therefore, it is recommended that you use a condom with these types of toys, especially if you are sharing them. Clean these toys with mild soapy water and dry gently with a towel. These materials are more easily damaged, so be sure to be gentle and make sure your toys are completely dry before storing.

Non-propous
materials

Silicone, glass, stainless steel and some hard plastics can all be washed using a mild soap (like you would use on your body) and warm water. Just be careful if your toy contains electrical parts.

Silicone and stainless steel toys without any electrical parts can also be boiled for sterilisation.

The toys with electrical
components

If your toys contain electrical components, be extra careful when cleaning them and always check the instructions provided with the toy. You can use a gentle cloth and soap to wipe or sex toy cleaner or cleaning wipe to down your toy, making sure that no water comes into contact with the electrical parts.