10 Best BDSM Toys
Over my years of reviewing sex toys, I’ve amassed a few drawers full of BDSM toys. Some I go back to time and time again, while others are just gathering dust! To save you time and money, I’m sharing the best BDSM toys to build your very own BDSM tool kit for all kinds of kinky adventures.
Best Spanking Paddle | Best Flogger | Best Bondage Tape | Best Nipple/Clit Clamps | Best Handcuffs | Best Bed Restraints | Best Bondage Furniture | Best Ball Gag | Best Chastity Belt | Best Chastity Cage |
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Saffron Loop Paddle | DOMINIX Deluxe Thick Leather Flogger | Ouch! Bondage Tape | Sportsheets Saffron Nipple to Clit Set | Quickie Cuffs | Sportsheets Bed Restraints | Wedge Ramp Combo | Sportsheets Saffron Ball Gag | DOMINIX Deluxe Female Chastity Belt | HolyTrainer Chastity Cage |
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Best Spanking Paddle Sportsheets Saffron Loop Paddle
- Loop-style spanking paddle with a smooth surface
- Made from vegan leather
- Wrist loop for a secure grip.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Double layer design creates a loud noise on impact
- ✅ Stylish design
- ✅ Handle and loop provides good grip
- ✅ Great for those who want to avoid leather products
Cons
- ❌ Too big to travel with
- ❌ Not as durable as real leather
Why I Chose It
I picked the Saffron Loop paddle as the best overall spanking paddle as I think it’s a great entry level impact play tool that’s also pretty versatile! I think the red design is also really elegant!
The Saffron Loop ticked all of Cassie’s spanking paddle requirements too! She was impressed “in terms of aesthetics, functionality, performance, and price.”
She really enjoyed being able to explore a range of sensations from “more thuddy” to “quite sharp and more stingy” depending on the intensity of the swing. This makes it a great all-rounder that I would recommend for all tastes.
As well as the actual feel of the toy, the other big win for Cassie was the exciting “volume with every smack!” I think something people don’t realize about impact play, is just how much of the sexual excitement comes the psychological thrill, and there’s nothing quite like a loud slap to get that tension building!
Best Flogger DOMINIX Deluxe Thick Leather Flogger
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- Large flogger with 48 thick falls
- Made of genuine leather
- Leather wrapped handle with a metal ring at the end
- 20 inches long.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Real leather is very durable and long-lasting with proper care
- ✅ Has a good weight to it
- ✅ Great for more heavy-duty impact play
- ✅ Still able to create varied sensations
Cons
- ❌ May not be suitable for complete beginners
- ❌ Takes some practice to get into the swing of things
- ❌ Real leather requires more maintenance
Why I Chose It
Now, the DOMINIX Deluxe Thick Leather Flogger takes things up a notch with its satisfying weight and thick leather falls. Compared to the spanking paddle, I would say this flogger is more suited for those who love heavy-duty impact and intense sensations.
Our tester, Lea, found that it’s “a good quality leather flogger with a nice design”. The weight of it really adds to the intensity and the real leather “can be very impactful if manipulated well.”
“Because of its size, it requires more distance to be able to target where one wants the impact to land on the body. I used it to flog my partner’s buttocks and I had to practice a few times before finding the right angle, but in the end we had a fun sexy time.”
I appreciate the metal ring at the base of the handle that allows you to attach your own wrist loop for added security.
Best Bondage Tape Ouch! Bondage Tape
- Reusable bondage tape
- Doesn’t stick directly to hair or skin but clings only to itself
- Made of glossy PVC
- Available in black, pink, and red
- The roll is 65 ft long and 2 inches wide.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Good selection of colors to suit different tastes
- ✅ The tape feels thick and strong
- ✅ The self-adhesive power is impressive
- ✅ The width makes it comfortable to wear
Cons
- ❌ Does smell a bit like plastic
Why I Chose It
Bondage tape is a severely underrated piece of BDSM gear. It’s incredibly versatile and can help you tie up any body part or create a makeshift blindfold or mouth cover in a jiffy! It’s also a great tool for creating elaborate body harness designs on any willing victim.
When I tested the Ouch! Bondage Tape, I was surprised by how much I enjoyed this versatility. It’s so much easier to use than bondage rope and doesn’t require any elaborate knot tying skills.
I was impressed by how well it stuck to itself while still being very easy to unravel. I love that it’s reusable and doesn’t lose its adhesive quality after a while. The width covers a larger area of skin which means that it doesn’t dig in when it gets tightened. This definitely adds to the overall comfort.
My favorite part is probably the color. The pink was perfect for me! Luckily, it’s also available in black and red, if you prefer a different aesthetic. All in all, this bondage tape gives you a lot of bang for your buck and I highly recommend trying it out regardless of your experience level.
Best Nipple/Clit Clamps Sportsheets Saffron Nipple to Clit Set
- Adjustable set of nipple and clit clamps with a collar
- Two a crocodile-style nipple clamps and one tweezer-style clit clamp
- Black, matte metal chains
- Soft PVC tips on the clamps
- O-ring in the center can be opened so each clamp can be removed to create a customized version. Additional BDSM gear can even be attached to the o-ring!
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Looks incredibly sexy!
- ✅ All the clamps are fully adjustable and beginner-friendly
- ✅ Can be used as a full set or just nipple clamps
- ✅ The collar helps carry the weight of the chains while walking around
Cons
- ❌ The clamp tips are made of porous PVC
- ❌ The clit clamp doesn't stay in place as well as the nipple clamps
Why I Chose It
I think nipple clamps are a staple item in your BDSM arsenal. I love that they usually are pretty small and cheap. As well as the physical sensation, they look great and add to psychological element as well. All that for around $20 is a pretty good deal to me!
I picked out the Sportsheets Saffron Nipple to Clit Set because it has a lot to offer for a lot of different experience levels. Since all the parts are removable, you can customize it to fit your needs. Remove the clit clamp and collar and simply use the nipple clamps, opt for only using the clit clamp and collar, or get creative and add extra BDSM gear, like cuffs or a leash!
Cassie, who tested this set, pointed out that “the chain collar added an unexpectedly aesthetic touch to the whole product and made it wearable while walking and moving around.” That said, if you want that added weight from the chains to tug on the clamps, the collar is also removable!
The main drawback of this set is that the clamp tips are made of PVC, which is a porous material. I always prefer to see silicone tips, especially for clit clamps, since it’s more durable and body-safe. Still, Cassie found that the clamps were incredibly comfortable and easy to use.
Best Handcuffs Quickie Cuffs
- Stretchy handcuffs with a simple design
- Made of smooth and stretchy silicone
- Available in two sizes: M & L
- Available in both red and black.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Quick to get on/off
- ✅ Comfortable to wear
- ✅ Travel/airport-friendly
- ✅ Waterproof
Cons
- ❌ Nowhere to attach other restraints
- ❌ Only good for light bondage
- ❌ Not the sexiest design
Why I Chose It
If you are looking for a BDSM toy to fulfil you need for speed and your need for bondage, I highly recommend the Quickie Cuffs! Rachel tested them out for us and loved they were “easy and approachable” for BDSM beginners like herself!
They were the perfect fun addition to throw in her suitcase and take on vacation as they are light and “won’t set off any security alarms.” If I was looking for some fantastic handcuffs for sex on the go, these would be it!
She was also pleasantly surprised that were “sturdier” and less stretchy than they look, so they still gave a good amount of restriction.
Overall, the simple design was a hit, but she did “wish they had a way to attach them to other things” for more intense restraint.
Best Bed Restraints Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System
- Adjustable straps fit most mattress sizes
- Lined wrist and ankle cuffs
- Velcro fastenings
- Removable cuffs.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Quick and easy to install
- ✅ Easy to adjust
- ✅ Portable
- ✅ Strong
- ✅ Comfortable
Cons
- ❌ Might not satisfy more extreme bondage tastes
Why I Chose It
Sex bed straps tend to be quite similar in design, but I picked these ones in particular because they aren’t crazy expensive and still offer great quality and comfort. I like they are basic black without any cheap-looking details and they are nicely lined.
I reviewed these bed restraint for Bedbible over a year ago and this set has become a permanent fixture on my bed. I love that they are always ready to go with no messing about! There’s nothing more frustrating than getting caught up in the moment and then having to deal with the logistics of getting restraints set up!
I really enjoy that its velcro cuffs are easy to get on and off and can even be detached from the restraint points. One thing I find surprisingly sexy about this kit is when my partner pulls the restraints tight to the bed. The sound of the straps tightening and feeling my wrists and ankles pulled tightly to the bed definitely add to the excitement!
I would absolutely recommend this to anyone who asked me for a fun bondage set. However, if you prefer restraints with buckles instead of velcro, I would check out the Dominix Deluxe Leather Under Mattress Restraints.
Best Bondage Furniture Liberator Black Label Wedge Ramp Combo
- Two sex pillows of different sizes
- 4 lined velcro cuffs and eye mask
- Multiple attachment points
- Water-resistant, machine-washable lining.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Firm cushions don't collapse under body weight
- ✅ Velvet cover feels fantastic
- ✅ Easy to clean
- ✅ Versatile
Cons
- ❌ Takes up a lot of storage space
- ❌ Restraints points aren't super strong
Why I Chose It
This is by far my favorite of all the Liberator items in my collection and that’s why I had to choose it as the best piece of BDSM sex furniture as well! It’s versatile, practical, and oh so luxurious! The combination of added support and quick and easy bondage is a real winner in my books!
Don’t get me wrong, I love more advanced bondage with buckles and locks, but being able to tied up and held by the comfy supportive foam in a matter minutes really fulfils all my pillow princess desires! The velcro cuffs are lovely and soft and can clip into any of the restraint points for a lot of variation in positions.
As well as being great being great for sex, I really love these pillows for giving/receiving oral sex as you get both the thrill of being tied down and it makes it easier on the neck if you’re the one giving.
The pillows are super supportive and as the Ramp is sizeable, I would happily recommend to bodies of all sizes. I’m also a fan of ease when it comes to cleaning, and I love that I can just throw the covers in the washing machine.
My only slight complaint is that I don’t think the attachment points would hold up to a huge amount of tugging a and pulling.
Best Ball Gag Sportsheets Saffron Ball Gag
- Solid silicone ball
- Adjustable vegan leather straps
- Buckle fastening
- Can be used with a padlock.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Solid silicone ball is comfortable to bite on
- ✅ Lockable buckle design
- ✅ Easy to use and easy to clean
- ✅ High quality materials
Cons
- ❌ May not be ideal for complete beginners
- ❌ The brand tag can feel a bit uncomfortable
Why I Chose It
I chose the Sportsheets Saffron Ball Gag as the best ball gag as I think it’s made from quality materials, has a classic yet simple design, and it’s available at a really great price!
Joseph tested it out for us and was really impressed by the overall quality! He had “zero complaints about the quality of the straps” and commented that the “silicone feels soft and has a nice weight to it.”
When using it with his partner, he “enjoyed how this added to [their] dynamic” and how it helped him “sink into submission!”.
Joseph also commented on how easy it is to clean, and as a sex toy expert, I will only ever use silicone gags for this reason alone!
I would say this is a gag is relatively beginner friendly, but if you are still a bit nervous, I would go for the Sportsheets Saffron Breathable Ball Gag instead.
Best Chastity Belt DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Lockable Female Chastity Belt
- Adjustable leather chastity belt
- Thong-style belt with two waist straps that fasten at the back with buckles
- Heart-shaped cut-out in the front that doubles as an o-ring for strap-on play.
- Comes with two small padlocks that each have two keys.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Good quality construction
- ✅ Very comfortable to wear
- ✅ The cut-out in the front adds a cute touch!
- ✅ The thong-style design looks very sexy
Cons
- ❌ The padlocks are poor quality and not very durable
- ❌ Leather requires more maintenance and care than silicone or faux leather
Why I Chose It
I had the pleasure of testing the DOMINIX Deluxe Female Chastity Belt out myself and I was very impressed by it! It’s definitely more suitable for beginners who are looking to play around with the idea of chastity, and less for those lookin for a seriously impenetrable chastity belt–you can wiggle a finger in there if you try hard enough! That said, very few non-metal chastity belts will ensure full restriction.
I really like the design and thought that it looked really cute with the heart-shaped cut-out in the front and very sexy with the thong-style back. The two waist straps are adjustable but they do tend to slide down a bit if it’s not tight enough. Keep in mind that it’s not the most size-inclusive product, since it only adjusts up to a 47 inch waist.
The harness itself is a good quality construction and I like the fact that it’s made of real leather. Of course, this does mean that it requires a bit more maintenance and care over time, but it also means that it will last longer and have more durability than faux leather.
My main point of critique is how flimsy the included padlocks are. They remind me of those small ones that came with your secret diaries as a kid! If you need something strong and reliable, I recommend replacing them with your own.
Best Chastity Cage HolyTrainer Chastity Cage
- Penis-shaped chastity cage made of firm plastic resin
- Consist of two parts connected via the brass locking mechanism: a large ring that fits around the base of the penis and scrotum, and a tube that keeps the penis from extending.
- Comes with two keys for the locking mechanism
- Available in different sizes and three colors: clear, pink, and black.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Simple to use and beginner-friendly
- ✅ Affordable
- ✅ Very solid and durable when locked in place
- ✅ Easy to clean and maintain
Cons
- ❌ Requires patience to use at first
Why I Chose It
The HolyTrainer Chastity Cage is one of my best recommendations for a penis chastity cage. This BDSM toy is designed to prevent a full erection and keep you tucked nicely under lock and key for however long you or your partner wants. Aaron tested this chastity cage out for us and it was his very first experience with a full-on cage like this. He was very impressed with the overall quality and ease of use!
“I can confidently say that it’s beginner-friendly. I honestly can’t find a single major thing about it that I think can or should be improved. This thing is durable, effective, and well-designed.”
As far as the comfort goes, Aaron also shared that he “honestly barely feel any tension or pressure from the ring. The tube does exert and enormous amount of pressure, but in the way one would imagine before buying a chastity cage. […] I can wear it for hours already, with no issues.” And in the name of comfort, I really appreciate that it’s available in a few different sizes and colors so you’re able to find something that suits you and your size and preferences.
Comparison
Best | Best Spanking Paddle | Best Flogger | Best Bondage Tape | Best Nipple/Clit Clamps | Best Handcuffs | Best Bed Restraints | Best Bondage Furniture | Best Ball Gag | Best Chastity Belt | Best Chastity Cage |
Overall score | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.7 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | - | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.9 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.9 / 5.0 |
Bedbible rating | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.5 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.7 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.7 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 |
User rating | 5 / 5.0 from 1 users | 4.9 / 5.0 from 23 users | 4.5 / 5.0 from 4 users | - | 4.8 / 5.0 from 40 users | 4.8 / 5.0 from 1205.9 users | 4.9 / 5.0 from 109 users | 4.8 / 5.0 from 13 users | 5 / 5.0 from 3.8 users | 4.8 / 5.0 from 27 users |
Price | Affordable | Affordable | Cheap | Affordable | Cheap | Moderate | Premium | Affordable | Affordable | Cheap |
Design | 100 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 |
Ease of use | 97 / 100 | 60 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 80 / 100 |
Quality | 95 / 100 | 70 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 95 / 100 |
Sound | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | - |
Power | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | - |
Buzzy/Rumbly | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | - |
Length | 17 inches | 20 inches | 65 ft/ 787 inches | Collar chain: 21.6 inches, Nipple chains: 14 inches, Clit chain: 31.8 inches | Medium: 7.5 inches, Large: 9 inches | Connector strap: 60 inches; Straps 60 inches inches | Wedge: 14 inches, Ramp: 34 inches | Total: 24 inches | - | 1.88 - 2.36 inches |
Width | 3 inches | - | 2 inches | - | Wrist loop - Medium: 1.95 inches, Large: 2.3 inches | - | Wedge: 24 inches, Ramp: 24 inches | - | - | 1.3 inches |
Materials | Vegan PU leather | Leather | PVC | Iron, Zinc Alloy, PVC | Silicone | Polypropylene, polyester, nickel free metal, hook and loop, ABS plastic | Polyurethane foam, nylon microfiber cover, polyester lining | Silicone, PU, Nickel-free metal | Leather | Plastic resin |
Waterproof | Splashproof | Splashproof | Yes | Splashproof | Yes | Splashproof | Moisture-resistant lining | Yes | Splashproof | Yes |
Colors Available | Red | Black | Black, Pink, Red | Black | Black, Red | Black | Black, Cream, Mauve, Purple, Blue, Turqoise | Black/Red | Black | Black, Pink, Clear |
Storage Bag Included | - | - | - | No | No | No | No | Yes | - | No |
Fastening | - | - | - | Tweezer clamps, crocodile clamps | - | Lobster clasps & velcro | Cuffs: Velcro, plastic clips | Buckle | Buckles and padlocks | Integrated Padlock |
Height | - | - | - | - | - | - | Wedge: 7 inches, Ramp: 12 inches | - | - | - |
Diameter | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | 1.8 inches | - | Cage: 1.34 inches, Rings: 1.41, 1.57, 1.77 and 1.96 inches |
Harness Size | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | - | Waist: 31.5- 47 inches inches | - |
Which Type of BDSM Toy is Right For You?
This review is a mix the best BDSM toys of different types, so I’ve put together some considerations to help you choose which one you should go for. Alternatively, get the lot and have an instant BDSM kit at your disposal!
I’ve specifically chosen products that are beginner-friendly but can also be enjoyed by more advanced tastes as well.
The Best BDSM Toy For…
- Sensation play: The Sportsheets Saffron Nipple to Clit Set is great for exploring a range of sensations from a light pinch to a torturous tug. The customizable design allows you to get creative with different combinations and intensities, and you can even use the cold, metal chains as a teasing tickler or for temperature play.
- Impact play: If you’re into hard spanking, flogging, and whipping, I’d highly recommend the Saffron Loop Paddle or the DOMINIX Deluxe Thick Leather Flogger if you’re looking for something more heavy-duty made of genuine leather.
- Bondage: The Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System is a great all-rounder for full-body bondage and partial bondage. The straps can go under your mattress to create a restraint anchor and the cuffs are removable, so you can use them independently as well.
Where to Buy the Best Bondage Gear?
Most sex toy stores have a decent selection of bondage supplies these days, but there are some that cater to more specific needs or different budgets. Here are my favorite places to get new bondage gear.
Lovehoney
Lovehoney has a broad selection of bondage gear catering to complete beginners as well as intermediate levels. They also have some very affordable options!
SheVibe
SheVibe have a great selection of bondage items on offer as well as some more niche fantasy options that are perfect for role play.
The Stockroom
The Stockroom has a lot more options for advanced level bondage and extreme BDSM gear with an amazing range of hand made leather restraints and even bondage furniture fit for a dungeon!
Oxy-Shop
Oxy-shop stocks more niche and extreme bondage items and BDSM gear for those looking to push their limits!
Buying Guide for Finding the Best Bondage Gear
There’s a whole lot of bondage gear out there but not all are made equal!
When stocking up your bondage supplies, it’s important to buy safe, quality gear that’s going to let you fulfil your desires. I’ve put together some things to consider when shopping for new bondage equipment.
Safety
Safety should always be your main priority! Whether you are shopping for restraints or toys to use on your tied up partner, always look for bondage supplies made from body-safe, sturdy materials and stick to trustworthy shops and brands.
Function
Really consider what you want to achieve before deciding which bit of bondage gear you buy.
Think about whether you have a specific fantasy you want to act out and what you need to make it come to life!
For example, do you want restraints that restrict the whole body or just one specific body part?
What sexual activities do you want to enjoy while restrained?
Restraint compatibility
If you already have some bondage gear at home, you might want to look for restraints that can be used together with what you already have to save on money and storage space!
Size
While most restraints are designed to be adjustable to fit most bodies, if you have a larger or smaller than average body, you might need to look for more size-specific bondage gear.
Beginner’s Tips!
Since you’re here, you’re probably already aware of what BDSM is and why some people really enjoy engaging in it. If you want to know a bit more, read our blog about basic BDSM for beginners.
In this blog post, however, we will be focusing on BDSM toys and how to use them.
BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism.
The term more commonly refers to any type of sexual act that might be considered especially “kinky”, “rough”, or “hardcore”. BDSM activities often involve some type of sexual power play, expanding the possibilities you have to either dominate or submit to (or both!) to a special someone.
BDSM toys are any kind of tool, accessory, equipment, or toy used to play around with BDSM activities and hopefully enhance the experience!
Don’t Be Intimidated…
Some people may initially be cautious when learning about these toys. Although, I assure you, BDSM play can also be super gentle, slow, and soft.
Actually, it can be whatever you want it to be. You’re the boss. Start slow, play around, do what makes you feel good, and be willing to explore what that means to you while learning about these toys and how to use them.
Before you begin using one of these toys, I would recommend getting to know it outside of the bedroom first. Touch it, examine it, test it, and explore its features – the texture, the weight, the sensation. This way, you will be much more familiar with the product before you introduce it to a sexually charged situation where one might be a bit distracted from examining a toy’s safety features…
24 Different Types of BDSM Toys
The world of BDSM toys can seem overwhelming at times. So, for any confused kinksters out there, I’m here with the ultimate guide to all the different types of BDSM toys out there!
BDSM itself is a very broad term encompassing all sorts of sexual practices that involve some kind of bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism. Kinky sex can be practiced at many different levels of intensity and generally in many ways!
These types of BDSM toys are simply creative tools that enhance these experiences. Although, the wide range of BDSM practices means that BDSM toys come in a lot of different types and styles. Each designed to cater to specific preferences and kinks.
Below, I will delve into the different types of BDSM toys and their uses. Of course, I will also go over some basic BDSM safety tips to ensure a pleasurable and safe kinky experience.
Reviewed by:
Cassie Mørch