6 Best Dildos for Beginners to Start Your Journey

Cassie Mørch
by Cassie MørchUpdated:

I’ve tried a lot of different dildos over the years – silicone, glass, metal, textured, small, and large – you name it! Although, I remember the struggle of finding my first ever dildo. I had no idea what size range to aim for or which materials were best. That’s why I’ve created the ultimate guide for picking one out! I’ve lined up the very best options on the market for you below.

Test Winner4.8Lovehoney Curved Suction Cup Dildo rating 4.8
Runner-Up4.7Tantus Charmer rating 4.7
Expert Pick4.9Lovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass Dildo rating 4.9
Most Realistic4.9Blush Neo Elite rating 4.9
Adjustable Shaft4.6Fun Factory Limba Flex M rating 4.6
Girthy4.7Fun Factory The Boss rating 4.7
Lovehoney Curved Suction Cup DildoTantus CharmerLovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass DildoBlush Neo EliteFun Factory Limba Flex MFun Factory The Boss
Lovehoney Curved Suction Cup DildoTantus CharmerLovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass DildoBlush Neo EliteFun Factory Limba Flex MFun Factory The Boss
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  • High-quality silicone
  • Easy to clean and sterilize
  • Extremely versatile
  • Beginner-friendly but entertaining for experienced users as well
  • The flexibility means that it doesn't provide a super firm internal massage
  • Suction cup strength can be a bit unreliable
  • Beautiful metallic lavender color
  • Flexible and comfortable
  • Ridges are easy to clean
  • No suction cup
  • Lack of colour options
  • Super smooth and frictionless glide
  • Compatible with all types of lube
  • Anal safe
  • Great for temperature play
  • Could be too firm or stiff for some
  • Must be handled with care
  • Soft and flexible silicone that's super comfortable for newbies
  • Size is a perfect medium that isn't intimidating but still satisfying
  • Strong suction cup base
  • Isn't great for firm internal massage
  • The hyper-realistic design adds some texture to the trusting experience
  • Poseable feature
  • Non-representational design
  • Great for both solo play and partnered fun
  • Suction cup base for hands-free fun
  • Tapered tip isn't ideal for deep internal massage
  • Dust and lint tends to stick to the surface
  • Avaliable in both black and pink
  • Great for anal play and using with a harness
  • Firm internal massage
  • May be too firm for those with absolutely no penetration experience
  • Surface easily attracts dust and lint

How We Test dildos for beginners

We’re a team of 264 sex toy testers and 13 sex toy experts.

To find the very best dildos for beginners, our testers tried and reviewed 79 different products in this category.

Bad or even just mediocre dildos for beginners didn’t make the list!

In total, we’ve thoroughly tested and reviewed 797 toys over the past 6 years.

We even lab-tested some to get objective data.

Read more about how we test products.
Why You Should Trust Our Reviews of the Best Dildos for Beginners

If You’re Looking For…

  • The cheapest dildo for beginners – The most budget-friendly option on this list is actually also our Test Winner, the Lovehoney Curved Suction Cup Dildo. It’s a great option that combines quality with great performance and affordability.
  • The smallest dildo – The Tantus Charmer is 1.25 inches in diameter at its widest point. The Fun Factory Limba Flex M has a diameter of 1.26 inches. These two are the best options for those wo need a slim shaft.
  • The best for g-spot massage – The Lovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass Dildo is my best recommendation for g-spot massage. The firmness of the glass feels amazing  against all of your internal erogenous zones.

What Size is Best for a Complete Beginner?

If you are looking for your very first insertable toy, and don’t have much experience with penetrative sex or masturbation, you’ll definitely want to start out small.

If you’re planning on using your dildo vaginally then I’d recommend starting with a dildo between 4 to 5.1 inches in length, with a girth of 1.5 inches or less.

For anal use I’d shoot for 3 to 5 inches in length with a maximum girth of 1.5 (although I’d suggest closer to 1 inch in most cases!).

Check out this full guide on dildo sizes for more info!

Test Winner Lovehoney Curved 7" Suction Cup Dildo

4.8/5

Overall RatingBedbible Rating

Overall Rating

4.8/5

Bedbible Rating:

5/5

Reviewed by: 

Ashley Snyder

User Ratings:

4.5/5

Based on 343 user reviews

100/100
DesignBeginner

Rating: Lovehoney Curved 7" Suction Cup Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the dildo for beginners.

100/100
Ease of UseEase of Use

Rating: Lovehoney Curved 7" Suction Cup Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

100/100
QualityQuality

Rating: Lovehoney Curved 7" Suction Cup Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

Affordable

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PricePrice

Rating: Lovehoney Curved 7" Suction Cup Dildo was rated 2 out of 5, which means it is moderately priced, neither expensive nor cheap.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

BeginnerBeginner

Beginner: Suited for those new to the world of sex toys. These products are designed with simplicity and ease of use in mind, providing a gentle introduction to enhance your experiences. Whether you're exploring for the first time or looking for something straightforward, these items are a perfect starting point.

IntermediateIntermediate

Intermediate: Tailored for individuals who have some familiarity with sex toys and are looking to explore further. These products offer a balance between comfort and new sensations, allowing you to expand your horizons and discover new pleasures. Ideal for those ready to take the next step in their journey.

AdvancedAdvanced

Advanced: Designed for the experienced and adventurous. These products cater to those who are well-acquainted with sex toys and are seeking more intense or diverse sensations. If you're looking to push boundaries and explore the depths of pleasure, these items are crafted just for you.

A Closer Look
  • Flexible silicone dildo with a strong suction cup base
  • Curved shaft with a  for enhanced g-spot or p-spot stimulation
  • Small hole in the base can fit a bullet vibrator for added vibrations (bullet vibrator not included)

Pros

  • High-quality silicone
  • Easy to clean and sterilize
  • Extremely versatile
  • Beginner-friendly but entertaining for experienced users as well

Cons

  • The flexibility means that it doesn't provide a super firm internal massage
  • Suction cup strength can be a bit unreliable

Why I Chose It

I picked out the Lovehoney Curved Suction Cup Dildo as the Test Winner of this review because it’s a great all-rounder. It combines quality materials, ergonomic design, and ease of use in one easily accessible (and affordable) product. It may look very simple but it offers more than meets the eye. Our tester, Ashley, was also a bit skeptical at first:

“My first impression of the Lovehoney Curved 7″ Silicone Suction Cup Dildo was a little underwhelming at first. It didn’t look like much, and I wasn’t sure what to think about it. After using it however, I changed my mind pretty quick!”

It’s a great dildo for beginners because of the slim shape and diameter of 1.5 at the widest point. It’s also super flexible which makes it seem a lot less intimidating to complete beginners. While it isn’t the slimmest dildo on this list, it’s the kind of dildo you can grow with as you get more and more comfortable with penetrative play.

One of the reasons why it can be entertaining for intermediate users as well is the versatility. The flared suction cup base allows you to use it for anal penetration (and prostate stimulation), strap-on play, and for vigorous hands-free riding! The cherry on top? The small space for a bullet vibrator really amps up the pleasure you get to experience with this dildo. I know that most basic silicone dildos don’t offer this feature. It’s a minor detail but it make a lot of difference for those wanting to explore internal vibrations. According to the online reviews on Lovehoney, the vibrations also travel pretty well through the silicone which isn’t always the case with poorer quality silicone dildos.

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Runner-Up Tantus Charmer Silicone G-Spot and P-Spot Dildo

4.7/5

Overall RatingBedbible Rating

Overall Rating

4.7/5

Bedbible Rating:

4.7/5

Reviewed by: 

Isabelle Uren

User Ratings:

4.6/5

Based on 45 user reviews

90/100
DesignBeginner

Rating:  Tantus Charmer Silicone G-Spot and P-Spot Dildo was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the dildo for beginners.

90/100
Ease of UseEase of Use

Rating:  Tantus Charmer Silicone G-Spot and P-Spot Dildo was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

100/100
QualityQuality

Rating:  Tantus Charmer Silicone G-Spot and P-Spot Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

Affordable

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PricePrice

Rating:  Tantus Charmer Silicone G-Spot and P-Spot Dildo was rated 2 out of 5, which means it is moderately priced, neither expensive nor cheap.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

BeginnerBeginner

Beginner: Suited for those new to the world of sex toys. These products are designed with simplicity and ease of use in mind, providing a gentle introduction to enhance your experiences. Whether you're exploring for the first time or looking for something straightforward, these items are a perfect starting point.

IntermediateIntermediate

Intermediate: Tailored for individuals who have some familiarity with sex toys and are looking to explore further. These products offer a balance between comfort and new sensations, allowing you to expand your horizons and discover new pleasures. Ideal for those ready to take the next step in their journey.

AdvancedAdvanced

Advanced: Designed for the experienced and adventurous. These products cater to those who are well-acquainted with sex toys and are seeking more intense or diverse sensations. If you're looking to push boundaries and explore the depths of pleasure, these items are crafted just for you.

A Closer Look
  • Uniquely ridged dildo for varied stimulation during penetration
  • Flared base makes it suitable for anal play and using with a strap-on harness
  • Tapered tip allows for easy insertion.

Pros

  • Beautiful metallic lavender color
  • Flexible and comfortable
  • Ridges are easy to clean

Cons

  • No suction cup
  • Lack of colour options

Why I Chose It

The Tantus Charmer is a fantastic choice for beginners. I picked it out as the runner-up to our Test Winner because it’s also a popular choice according to all the online reviewers. Isabelle, who tested it, had great things to say about it as well:

“I really like the Tantus Charmer as an anal dildo, and think it’s well worth the investment. If you are looking for a dildo to use vaginally, bear in mind that, unlike many dildos, the shaft gets narrower towards the base, so you might not get that full feeling with the whole dildo inserted. You can use the tip for some good G-spot stimulation though.”

The slim, tapered shaft makes it super easy and comfortable to insert, which is perfect if you’re just starting out. While the narrower base might not give you that full feeling when using it vaginally, it’s great for targeted G-spot stimulation with its tip.

Having tried a Tantus dildo myself (the Tantus Cush), I know that they always deliver on high-quality silicone and generally feel very comfortable to use. The Charmer is no exception—it feels soft, body-safe, and just really nice to use. The subtle ridges on the shaft add a gentle, bead-like stimulation that’s noticeable but not too intense. As Isabelle mentioned:

“The ridges have the slight feel of anal beads, as the shaft is inserted but not as intense, and they add some subtle stimulation while the toy is inside as well.”

I think these ridges make the Charmer stand out compared to other beginner-friendly dildos. This is a beginner-friendly dildo that offers a little extra stimulation during thrusting but doesn’t have an overwhelming texture.

I would have loved if the base featured a suction cup. In my book, dildos should always have a suction cup base! It just makes solo play that much more fun. Luckily, you can still use this dildo in a strap-on harness and for safe anal play.

Expert Pick Lovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass Dildo

4.9/5

Overall RatingBedbible Rating

Overall Rating

4.9/5

Bedbible Rating:

5/5

Reviewed by: 

Ashley Snyder

User Ratings:

4.8/5

Based on 93 user reviews

100/100
DesignBeginner

Rating: Lovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the dildo for beginners.

100/100
Ease of UseEase of Use

Rating: Lovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

100/100
QualityQuality

Rating: Lovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

Cheap

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Rating: Lovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass Dildo was rated 1 out of 5, which means it is affordable compared to other dildos for beginners.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

BeginnerBeginner

Beginner: Suited for those new to the world of sex toys. These products are designed with simplicity and ease of use in mind, providing a gentle introduction to enhance your experiences. Whether you're exploring for the first time or looking for something straightforward, these items are a perfect starting point.

IntermediateIntermediate

Intermediate: Tailored for individuals who have some familiarity with sex toys and are looking to explore further. These products offer a balance between comfort and new sensations, allowing you to expand your horizons and discover new pleasures. Ideal for those ready to take the next step in their journey.

AdvancedAdvanced

Advanced: Designed for the experienced and adventurous. These products cater to those who are well-acquainted with sex toys and are seeking more intense or diverse sensations. If you're looking to push boundaries and explore the depths of pleasure, these items are crafted just for you.

A Closer Look
  • Smooth glass dildo with a slim diameter
  • The firm glass is amazing for deep internal massage
  • Double-ended design allows you to experiment with two different shapes and sizes.

Pros

  • Super smooth and frictionless glide
  • Compatible with all types of lube
  • Anal safe
  • Great for temperature play

Cons

  • Could be too firm or stiff for some
  • Must be handled with care

Why I Chose It

The Lovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass Dildo is my expert pick for this round-up review. Out of all the best beginner-friendly dildos out there, I simply couldn’t resist including a slim glass dildo to the mix. As an avid dildo user, I wholeheartedly recommend trying out a glass dildo – yes, even as a beginner! For those who are completely new to penetration, it may be a lot more intimidating than a flexible silicone dildo. But if you, like me, absolutely love manual g-spot or a-spot stimulation, a glass dildo like this will change your life.

First of all, glass is just an amazing material for insertable sex toys. It’s non-porous, easy to clean, and can be fully sterilized. It can be used with all kinds of lube, so if you want to use it for anal penetration you can still use a nice, thick silicone lube. It’s super temperature responsive and ideal for playing around with hot and cold sensations. Last but not least, the firmness is perfect for some intense internal massage. I personally love all the benefits that glass offers. It may not be as flexible and “lifelike” as silicone, but the pros outweigh the cons for me!

The double-ended design also let’s you experience different penetration sensations in one toy! Even though you won’t be able to use it in a harness, it offers more versatility for solo play. The curved tip is designed for optimal g-spot, a-spot, and even prostate massage.

In terms of price, Ashley, who tested this dildo, shared her overall take:

“The Lovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass Dildo is listed at $24.99 on the Lovehoney website. It comes with a storage bag, and the toy and bag for the price is a steal!”.

I totally agree with Ashley on this one. For the amount of pleasure you get to enjoy with this product, it’s a freaking steal! Most of the glass dildos that I have don’t actually come with storage bags (which does make it difficult to keep them safe from shattering, in my opinion) so that’s a big plus for such a low price.

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Most Realistic Blush Neo Elite 7.5″ Dual Density Dildo

5.0/5

Overall RatingBedbible Rating

Overall Rating

5.0/5

Bedbible Rating:

5/5

Reviewed by: 

Alice Lainey

User Ratings:

4.9/5

Based on 41 user reviews

100/100
DesignBeginner

Rating: Blush Neo Elite 7.5″ Dual Density Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the dildo for beginners.

100/100
Ease of UseEase of Use

Rating: Blush Neo Elite 7.5″ Dual Density Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

100/100
QualityQuality

Rating: Blush Neo Elite 7.5″ Dual Density Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

Affordable

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Rating: Blush Neo Elite 7.5″ Dual Density Dildo was rated 2 out of 5, which means it is moderately priced, neither expensive nor cheap.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

BeginnerBeginner

Beginner: Suited for those new to the world of sex toys. These products are designed with simplicity and ease of use in mind, providing a gentle introduction to enhance your experiences. Whether you're exploring for the first time or looking for something straightforward, these items are a perfect starting point.

IntermediateIntermediate

Intermediate: Tailored for individuals who have some familiarity with sex toys and are looking to explore further. These products offer a balance between comfort and new sensations, allowing you to expand your horizons and discover new pleasures. Ideal for those ready to take the next step in their journey.

AdvancedAdvanced

Advanced: Designed for the experienced and adventurous. These products cater to those who are well-acquainted with sex toys and are seeking more intense or diverse sensations. If you're looking to push boundaries and explore the depths of pleasure, these items are crafted just for you.

A Closer Look
  • Realistic silicone dildo with pronounced veins and glans for a lifelike feel
  • Dual density design features a solid core and a soft outer layer of silicone.

Pros

  • Soft and flexible silicone that's super comfortable for newbies
  • Size is a perfect medium that isn't intimidating but still satisfying
  • Strong suction cup base

Cons

  • Isn't great for firm internal massage
  • The hyper-realistic design adds some texture to the trusting experience

Why I Chose It

I chose to include the Blush Neo Elite 7.5″ Dual Density Dildo in this review because it’s one of the overall best realistic dildos for beginners out there. Now, in terms of the design, I’ve definitely seen more realistically detailed dildos (like the Vixen Johnny). Although, for the low price it’s available at, I think the details are still well made. The veins and the head also add some nice texture to the experience. This obviously isn’t ideal for those who prefer a completely smooth shaft.

Now, there are a lot of realistic dildos for beginners out there, but I picked out this one because it’s a dual density dildo. The solid core with the squishy exterior adds a different layer of realism that regular silicone dildo can’t deliver. After having tried a few dual density dildos myself, I’m never going back. They just feel a lot more lifelike! However, our tester, Alice, did have one note on this:

“As a small point of personal preference, I did occasionally feel as though the dual density feature of this dildo, which feels so nice on the skin and is a fantastic quality, left me with the sensation that the penis I had inside of me was a bit flaccid. I usually prefer a sturdier dildo, but that didn’t deter my enjoyment of the Blush Neo Elite 7.5″ Dual Density Dildo.”

I imagine that this sensation comes from the fact that this is a slimmer dildo. Either way, it’s something to keep in mind if you know that a firmer sensation is what you need.

Alice really tested this dildo thoroughly and explored it for solo use, riding the suction cup, for partnered play, and for anal. Here’s what she had to say about the versatility:

“I used the Blush Neo Elite 7.5″ Dual Density Dildo in a number of ways, and each of them worked wonderfully. This is a high-performance dildo with many useful applications, and I highly recommend not only this product, but creatively exploring what this product can do for you!”.

Adjustable Shaft Fun Factory Limba Flex M

4.7/5

Overall RatingBedbible Rating

Overall Rating

4.7/5

Bedbible Rating:

4.8/5

Reviewed by: 

Mike Ortiz

User Ratings:

4.5/5

Based on 28 user reviews

95/100
DesignBeginner

Rating: Fun Factory Limba Flex M was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the dildo for beginners.

95/100
Ease of UseEase of Use

Rating: Fun Factory Limba Flex M was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

100/100
QualityQuality

Rating: Fun Factory Limba Flex M was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

Pricey

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Rating: Fun Factory Limba Flex M was rated 4 out of 5, which means it is in the premium price range.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

BeginnerBeginner

Beginner: Suited for those new to the world of sex toys. These products are designed with simplicity and ease of use in mind, providing a gentle introduction to enhance your experiences. Whether you're exploring for the first time or looking for something straightforward, these items are a perfect starting point.

IntermediateIntermediate

Intermediate: Tailored for individuals who have some familiarity with sex toys and are looking to explore further. These products offer a balance between comfort and new sensations, allowing you to expand your horizons and discover new pleasures. Ideal for those ready to take the next step in their journey.

AdvancedAdvanced

Advanced: Designed for the experienced and adventurous. These products cater to those who are well-acquainted with sex toys and are seeking more intense or diverse sensations. If you're looking to push boundaries and explore the depths of pleasure, these items are crafted just for you.

A Closer Look
  • Adjustable shaft allows you to customize your dildo experience
  • Very tapered tip makes for easy insertion (and ideal for anal adventures).

Pros

  • Poseable feature
  • Non-representational design
  • Great for both solo play and partnered fun
  • Suction cup base for hands-free fun

Cons

  • Tapered tip isn't ideal for deep internal massage
  • Dust and lint tends to stick to the surface

Why I Chose It

This unique toy deserves a spot on any ‘best dildos for beginners’ list. I love all that the Fun Factory Limba Flex M has to offer. While it definitely is on the pricier side when it comes to beginner-dildos, I really think it’s worth splurging on! Let’s dive into some of the key features that make this dildo stand out.

An adjustable shaft is actually extremely rare in dildos. It’s a more common feature in rabbit vibrators. So, I’m really stoked how customizable this beginner dildo is. Our tester, Mike, tested out the Limba Flex M with his wife. According to them, once posed in the right position, it held its shape pretty well during use.

“What I appreciate most is how modular this toy is. Depending on what my partner is in the mood for, we can easily bend and shape it to accommodate her desires. This adaptability is a significant advantage, as it allows us to explore various angles and positions to find what suits her best.”

The modest girth and tapered tip also make this a great fit for anyone just looking to dip their toes into the world of flexible beginner dildos. The taper is definitely a pros for complete beginners, those who generally struggle with insertable toys, or for more comfortable anal play. However, if you enjoy deep g-spot massage like me, I’d opt for something with a more bulbous tip.

Though the price is a little steep for beginners, it’s a worthy investment, especially if versatility is important for you! To conclude my verdict, I’ll leave you with Mike’s closing statement on this dildo:

“To summarize, my experience with the Fun Factory Limba Flex M has been overwhelmingly positive. Its versatility, comfortable feel, and elegant design have enriched our intimate moments. While it has its quirks, such as strong suction and lint attraction, these minor inconveniences don’t diminish its overall appeal. This toy has brought a new level of excitement and intimacy to our relationship, and we can’t get enough of it.”

Girthy Fun Factory The Boss

4.7/5

Overall RatingBedbible Rating

Overall Rating

4.7/5

Bedbible Rating:

4.9/5

Reviewed by: 

Cassie Mørch

User Ratings:

4.5/5

Based on 31 user reviews

100/100
DesignBeginner

Rating:  Fun Factory The Boss was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the dildo for beginners.

95/100
Ease of UseEase of Use

Rating:  Fun Factory The Boss was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

97/100
QualityQuality

Rating:  Fun Factory The Boss was rated 97 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

Moderate

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PricePrice

Rating:  Fun Factory The Boss was rated 3 out of 5, which means it is pricier than the rest, but not the most expensive.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

BeginnerBeginner

Beginner: Suited for those new to the world of sex toys. These products are designed with simplicity and ease of use in mind, providing a gentle introduction to enhance your experiences. Whether you're exploring for the first time or looking for something straightforward, these items are a perfect starting point.

IntermediateIntermediate

Intermediate: Tailored for individuals who have some familiarity with sex toys and are looking to explore further. These products offer a balance between comfort and new sensations, allowing you to expand your horizons and discover new pleasures. Ideal for those ready to take the next step in their journey.

AdvancedAdvanced

Advanced: Designed for the experienced and adventurous. These products cater to those who are well-acquainted with sex toys and are seeking more intense or diverse sensations. If you're looking to push boundaries and explore the depths of pleasure, these items are crafted just for you.

A Closer Look
  • Firm silicone dildo with a smooth, semi-realistic design
  • Pronounced tip is great for g-spot and a-spot stimulation
  • Powerful suction cup base.

Pros

  • Avaliable in both black and pink
  • Great for anal play and using with a harness
  • Firm internal massage

Cons

  • May be too firm for those with absolutely no penetration experience
  • Surface easily attracts dust and lint

Why I Chose It

Alright, you may not think this is the most beginner-friendly dildo. I agree. It’s not my first choice for anyone who has zero experience with penetration. However, for someone who enjoys penetration during partnered sex or fingering, I do think The Boss would be a good option. It’s for those who know that they like deep penetration and g-spot massage, and are looking for their first every dildo to use solo (or to share with a partner).

What I like the most about The Boss is that it’s a dildo for beginners that you can grow with. It’s still accessible for beginners but satisfying to use for more experienced users because of the firm silicone. It’s a dildo that will keep you pleased as you expand your sexual horizons! The tip is great for targeted g-spot, a-spot, and p-spot massage. It’s also anal safe and ideal for using with a strap-on harness.

I actually had the pleasure of testing The Boss for myself. It was also one of my first ever dildos! I had a great experience with it. While I personally tend to reach for the dual density dildos I’ve acquired since then, I will always be grateful to this dildo for showing me how amazing internal stimulation can be. As I wrote in my review, I wish I could give The Boss a “World’s Best Boss”-mug!

The suction cup base is by far the most powerful suction cup I’ve every used. Once stuck on a flat surface, that baby isn’t going anywhere! So, remember to release the seal before you yank on it (you might drag the whole chair or dresser with you!).

Comparison

BestTest Winner Runner-Up Expert Pick Most Realistic Adjustable Shaft Girthy
Overall score4.8 / 5.0 4.7 / 5.0 4.9 / 5.0 5.0 / 5.0 4.7 / 5.0 4.7 / 5.0
Bedbible rating5.0 / 5.0 4.7 / 5.0 5.0 / 5.0 5.0 / 5.0 4.8 / 5.0 4.9 / 5.0
User rating4.5 / 5.0
from 343 users
4.6 / 5.0
from 45 users
4.8 / 5.0
from 93 users
4.9 / 5.0
from 41 users
4.5 / 5.0
from 28 users
4.5 / 5.0
from 31 users
PriceAffordable Affordable Cheap Affordable Pricey Moderate
Design100 / 100 90 / 100 100 / 100 100 / 100 95 / 100 100 / 100
Ease of use100 / 100 90 / 100 100 / 100 100 / 100 95 / 100 95 / 100
Quality100 / 100 100 / 100 100 / 100 100 / 100 100 / 100 97 / 100
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Power------
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Length7 inches7 inches8 inches7.5 inches7 inches8 inches
Insertable length6.5 inches6.5 inches7 inches7 inches6.8 inches7.5 inches
Diameter1.5 inches1.2 inches1.4 inches1.5 inches1.26 inches1.7 inches
FlexibilityFlexible Firm None Very Flexible Poseable Firm
MaterialsSilicone Silicone Borosilicate Glass Platinum-Cured Silicone Silicone Silicone
WaterproofYes Submersible Yes Yes Yes Submersible
Storage Bag IncludedNo No Yes No Yes No
Colors AvailablePurple, orange, blue Purple Clear Vanilla, Blue, Pink Deep Sea Blue Pink, Black
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From Smallest to Largest

Here are some other beginner dildos I simply couldn’t resist including in this review. I’ve listed them from smallest to largest in terms of girth in diameter.

0.95" - Lovehoney Slimline Silicone Suction Cup Dildo

0.95" - Lovehoney Slimline Silicone Suction Cup Dildo

0.95" - Lovehoney Slimline Silicone Suction Cup Dildo

Ideal for absolute penetration beginners, this slim silicone suction cup dildo provides a soft and smooth penetration experience with a slight curve for some g-spot massage. This is also a great anal toy!

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1.1" - Le Wand Bow Steel Dildo

1.1" - Le Wand Bow Steel Dildo

1.1" - Le Wand Bow Steel Dildo

Just a tad girthier than the previous product, the Le Wand Bow Steel Dildo is the perfect tier up dildo. The small end is about 1.1″ in diameter where the bigger, ridged end is 1.3″. Ideal for firm g-spot stimulation, anal play, and temperature play as well!

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1.6" - Vixen Vixskin Mustang

1.6" - Vixen Vixskin Mustang

1.6" - Vixen Vixskin Mustang

The Vixen Vixskin Mustang is great for anyone looking to try out something slightly large. Available in this beautiful multicolored design and made of super lifelike dual-density Vixskin silicone for a realistic and comfortable feel.

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1.75" - Maia Kendall Dildo

1.75" - Maia Kendall Dildo

1.75" - Maia Kendall Dildo

Perfect for anyone looking for a girthy dildo that still feels soft and smooth. The Maia Kendall dildo is super versatile with its suction cup base and delivers great varied stimulating with its many ridges and pronounced “head”.

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How to Choose a Dildo for Beginners 

You might not be 100% sure what to consider when trying to select your first dildo.

Here are a few things to think about while comparing your options!

  • Size – If you’ve never used a dildo before then you’ll probably want to start off with something smaller. However, if you already own a dildo (or are having penetrative sex with a partner and used to the sensation) then a standard, six-inch dildo is always a good option!
  • Material – Non-porous materials like silicone, metal, or glass are the safest options for body-safe dildos. Toys without internal electronics can be sterilized easily simply by dropping them into a pot of boiling water! Porous materials (such as TPE, PVC, or jelly) can’t be sterilized; they can only be cleaned. You’ll want to make sure to completely clean porous toys in-between uses, as these materials can harbor bacteria.
  • Shape – You’ll be able to choose between straight and curved dildos. Curved models are better at g-spot targeting (they’re also called g-spot dildos), whereas straight dildos are best for training up to larger toys, big dildos (or large body parts).
  • Design – There are plenty of designs to choose from! There are realistic dildos for lifelike pleasure, non-phallic dildos for anyone who does not want a realistic look or feel. There are also colorful dildos and even rainbow dildos for a fun splash of color. You’ll have plenty of designs to choose from!
  • Hard vs. Soft – Hard dildos work better during penetration since they can be easily angled. However, soft dildos feel more realistic to the touch. Dual-density dildos offer both advantages, being firm enough to be easily inserted but soft enough to feel realistic.
  • Use – For vaginal use, any body-safe dildo will do. However, if you’re planning on using your new dildo as an anal dildo then having a flared base (or a dildo with a handle) is a must. This will prevent the dildo from slipping inside of you, making it very difficult to retrieve!
  • Features – Even with beginner dildos, you might be able to get a few extra features for your toy! Suction cup dildos, harnesses for pegging dildos, and vibrating dildos are all features you can consider.

Best Types of Dildos for Beginners

Not sure where to start?

Here’s a rundown of the best types of dildos for beginners!

Realistic

Realistic

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This is the best type of dildo for those looking to simulate the real experience. A high-quality, well-lubed toy can feel just like the real thing!

While realistic dildos are often made of PVC or other plastics, you’re best sticking with a silicone toy, as these are far more body safe and will last much longer.

Non-Realistic

Non-Realistic

Non-Realistic
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If the veiny shafts of realistic dildos turn you off, non-phallic dildos are right for you.

Not confined to realism, this kind of dildo can come in all sorts of shapes and sizes.

This is the type to go for if you’re looking for an ultra-smooth or non-realistic texture (ribbed, beaded, etc).

Anal

Anal

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Technically, any dildo can be used anally.

But many dildos are designed with anal in mind – these often will be a little shorter, more tapered, and have a wide, flared base to ensure safe extraction.

If you’re eyeing up a dildo for anal, these qualities will ensure the most pleasurable experience.

Double-Ended

Double-Ended

Double-Ended
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Double-ended dildos are great for beginners because you get to experience two different sensations.

There are often differences in texture and size so beginners can explore the penetrative pleasure at their own whim.

Choosing Between a Hard or Soft Dildo as Your Starter

It’s all about your comfort level, but if you’re having trouble making up your mind, here’s a few tips!

Hard

Hard

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Hard doesn’t have to mean rough! If you’re looking at hard toys, you’re likely looking at a non-realistic, and/or smaller toy (not always!).

This is because larger, hard toys with lots of detail DO end up being quite rough. Hard dildos are often easier to clean and harbour fewer harmful bacteria.

Soft

Soft

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On the other hand, soft dildos hit just the spot if you’re after something realistic in aesthetic and texture.

When you’re shopping for soft toys, make sure the material you’re looking at is body safe – many cheaper, soft toys will not be.

Should You Go For a Vibrator Instead?

If you’re a complete beginner to sex toys, it may feel difficult to pick between the two.

It comes down to this. Which sensation do you enjoy the most? Penetration (insertion into the anus, mouth, or vagina), or vibration (internal or external)?

It’s important to get to know the difference, especially if you’re on a budget and don’t want to shell out for both…

Dildo

Dildo

Dildo
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Typically, dildos will be shaped like a penis, with the express purpose of penetration.

With dildos, you get to play around with realism, non-realism, colours, shapes, sizes, etc. Some even vibrate!

Dildos are all about wanting that feeling of fullness, so if that’s something you’re after (for instance, if you’ve enjoyed fingering), you’re in the right place.

Vibrator

Vibrator

Vibrator
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Vibrators can come in all shapes and sizes (we list them all in our blog post about all the different types of vibrators you need to know about).

The benefit to vibrators, however, is that they can provide external as well as internal stimulation.

Vibrating dildos are typically referred to as such, whereas a bespoke vibrator is a vibrating toy with the express purpose of providing stimulation that way.

Author
Cassie Mørch
Cassie Mørch

Content Specialist | Anthropologist with a passion for exploring how humans understand sex, pleasure, and intimacy. I believe sexual well-being and pleasure is intricately linked to our overall health and well-being in ways that we probably can’t even comprehend! That’s why I love being able to write about all things related to sex, masturbation, and kink. Hopefully, our informative and sex positive approach here at Bedbible will allow you to explore your true desires – and help you fulfill them!

Age: 25
Gender: Female
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Sex toy experience: Experienced
All-time favorite sex toy: Le Wand Hoop Stainless Steel Dildo
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