The 11 Best BDSM Spreader Bars for Bondage and Restraint
Testing the best BDSM spreader bars
Testing the BDSM spreader bars for this review is not the easiest thing in the world, but with our team of amazing sex toy testers and an army of freaky freelancers out there, we made it look like a piece of cake! Great to use alongside BDSM furniture, spreader bars offer a whole range of sexy options. We looked at all aspects of the BDSM spreader bars, and highlighted not only the positives but the negatives in order for you to get an honest and unbiased review.
We combine expert knowledge, customer reviews, and first-hand testing from our sex toy testers to you a balanced and reliable view of each product, so you know exactly what you are buying!
What to consider when buying a BDSM spreader bar
If you’re thinking about buying a BDSM spreader bar then you’re going to want to think about a few different things. You want to be sure you’re getting something that’s perfect for you and your partner, right? So here are a few things to take into consideration!
- Fixed or expandable – Having a BDSM spreader bar where you can set the width is a handy option to have. With fixed ones you’re tied to a certain width (no pun intended), but with expandable ones you can change and customize the experience.
- Does it come with cuffs -Some BDSM spreader bars require you to buy additional cuffs to help you use them. This is different from product to product, so just be sure to check that you’re getting everything you need!
- How many o-rings – Depending on which spreader bar you get, it might contain a different amount of O rings. That is, rings that you can strap lets/wrists etc. Think about that kind of BDSM experience you want and buy a spreader bar with the right amount of O rings!
- How secure are the restraints – You don’t want your sub slipping free, right? This is a common problem with homemade restraints. Making sure the BDSM spreader bar restraints are firm and won’t become loose or broken is essential if you want to remain in charge!
- Comfort – This is an important one. As much as you want to have all kinds of naughty fun, it’s important that whoever is wearing the spreader bar is comfortable. Finding a BDSM spreader bar that feels nice against the body is important for everyone’s enjoyment!
Spreader bar vs Bed restraints
There are two main camps when it comes to getting awesome access to the fun bits on the body: those that love spreader bars, and those that love bed restraints. We’re going to take a little look at the two and weigh up the pros and cons of each!
- Spreader bar -The primary focus of this review is the spreader bar, and we think we’ve touched on some of the awesome points about them. They are easy to be used, can be used anywhere, and require no additional apparatus to get them to work. One issue that you might have with spreader bars is that the bar itself may get in the way when you’re getting down to it! That can be quite the annoyance!
- Bed restraints – Strap your partner to the bed with these kinds of restraints. Sex bed straps are great if you have an actual bed to strap them to. They are a little fiddly to get tight enough and get your partner in the right position, but it offers unobstructed access to whatever you want! As we said though, you need a bed or something similar to strap them to, so they’re not so great to use on their own!
Keep reading to find out why BDSM spreader bars are an incredible sex accessory. Start spreading the word, not just your legs!
FAQ
What is a sex spreader bar?
A spreader bar, sex spreader bar or BDSM spreader bar is an item used to keep a sexual partner's limbs - arms, legs or both akimbo, or literally spread apart, so that they're on display or so that their partner has easy access to their naughty, fun bits. Will you feel exposed while strapped into a BDSM spreader bar? Yes - and that's the whole point. For vulnerability and the sensation of being laid bare for someone else to completely enjoy. It's a deliciously helpless feeling that you and your partner are sure to revel in!
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The 11 Best bdsm spreader bars in Test
Bondage Boutique Extreme Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs
Bondage Boutique’s extreme spreader bar is the perfect tool for a little bit of loving ‘cruelty’ in your BDSM play! With an ankle spreader bar that expands from 18 to 26 inches, you can expose your partner just a little bit or really put the blush on things with a full Monty style spread.
The cuffs in between really allow for a full ‘southern exposure’ and uninhibited play with your partner’s body, particularly when locked and the keys taken away. If giving up (or receiving) power is your bag, this BDSM spreader bar is right up your street.
The wrist cuffs are static, which is one downside to the construction, but you can always play around with restraints tied to the bars if need be. The really fab thing is that the ankle restraints allow for a full 180 degree rotation – just think of the sexy scenarios!
The Bondage Boutique Extreme Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs was rated 60 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for someone with some experience
are ready to spread 'em!want to take your kink play up a levellove the idea of exposure kinks
don't want to buy real leatherare daunted by time-consuming locking and unlockinghate fiddly devices| Length | spreader bar - 26 inches |
| Width | spreader bar extension - 18-26 inches |
| Length | cuffs - 7-12 inches |
| Openings | 4 |
| Materials | leather |
| Materials | metal |
full 180° ankle cuff rotation4 padlocks8 keys
padlocks can be time-consumingstatic wrist cuffsspreader bar may not be strong enoughBased on some of the reviews, you may want to think twice before splashing out on a spreader bar some describe as difficult (locks) and not as durable as they’d like. However, most users have reported a sturdy construction and really fun play-time depending upon how far the bar is spread. With the holiday season coming up, this is probably one to add to your wishlist!
Liberator Talea Spreader Bar Cushion with Cuffs
Nothing says “I love you” more than spreading yourself open like a sexy buffet for your partner! The Liberator Talea opens up a whole new world of fun – literally. The centrepiece of this BDSM spreader bar is the elegant crimson cushion (foam with a supporting bar inside) that allows you to maintain difficult sexual positions for longer with an added element of comfort.
It comes with ankle and wrist cuffs which can be used in more angles and scenarios than you can do in a week of nights! You can get deeper during penetration and maintain oral sex positions for longer with this sex spreader bar.
The Liberator Talea Spreader Bar Cushion with Cuffs was rated 20 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for a complete beginner
are new to spreader barslike to try different sex positionswant a pillow with your spreader barmainly want a spreader barlike adjustable cuffs or barwant to restrain your partner| Length | cushion - 30 x 5 inches |
| Materials | Faux leather and metal |
| Materials | Foam |
| Adjustable | No |
| Flexibility | Some |
| Fastening | Velcro |
cute red pillowgood intro spreader barankle and wrist cuffsslightly unstable constructionfragile bar in cushiononly velcro straps on cuffsWith two D-ring connectors that can be used with a variety of cuffs, leashes, ropes and chains, plus a comfy pillow to add to the sexiness without the discomfort, this spreader bar is the luxury item you need. The price is pretty high, but hey, who says good sex comes cheap?
Sportsheets Spreader Bar with Cuffs
If you want to quickly get down and dirty with your sex spreader bar, Sportsheets has you covered – well, exposed, to be honest. With a no-nonsense, no-frills approach, this handy little restraint bar will have you and your partner arguing about who gets to be restrained first! The neoprene and Velcro cuffs are simple to use, making this BDSM spreader bar perfect for first-timers or old-timers who want it fast and dirty. There are two stiff metal spreader bars inside the neoprene case, so this is not for people who want a flexible hold on their bondage gear.
The Sportsheets Spreader Bar with Cuffs was rated 20 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for a complete beginner
want to engage in simple bondage and spreadagelove a no-frills lookare into saving moneywant secure fasteningshave particular spreader bar needsfancy adjustability| Length | Bar: 16 inches |
| Length | Cuffs: 6-14 inches |
| Fastening | Velcro |
| Materials | Neoprene |
| Materials | Metal |
cheap and cheerful16-inch spread widthno-frills funnot adjustableonly Velcro fasteningssimple constructionFor the low price, you need to get involved, bent over, tied up and shagged rotten with Sportsheets’ lovely, simple approach to bondage and exposure! There are no frills and no time like the present on this straightforward bondage bar. The best thing about is is the simple construction and that it doesn’t take very long to get into or out of. Perfect for the super horny pair who can’t wait any longer.
Purple Reins 12-Inch Thigh Spreader Bar
Purple Reins is a wonderful company, simply for the fact that they got a punny reference to a Prince song into their company name – and who doesn’t love bondage-related puns! The company has released this handy dandy little contraption that forces you to keep your thighs open for business all. night. long. Just like Lionel Richie.
Crafted from sturdy purple nylon with a small, 12-inch spreader bar in between the cuffs, this is perfect for beginners or for more advanced users who don’t want all the fuss and drama of typical BDSM equipment. Plus, it’s insanely cheap!
The Purple Reins 12-Inch Thigh Spreader Bar was rated 20 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for a complete beginner
love purple restraintsare a sucker for a good punwant a simple spreader barwant wrist restraintsdesire lots of configurationshate puns| Length | 12 inches |
| Materials | Neoprene |
| Materials | Metal |
| Fastening | Velctro |
| Length | Cuff: 12-20 inches |
simple constructioncheap as chipsstrong and effectivebar not adjustablecuffs not suitable for all sizesrough materialWith such a low price, this is egalitarian bondage gear at its finest! You can literally spread the love with this inexpensive, yet high-quality piece of BDSM kit. It’s particularly wonderful for couples or groups who have a wide variety of wrist and ankle sizes, as it’s just adjustable. There really isn’t anything to complain about here. Happy spanking!
Dominix Deluxe Inflatable Spreader Bar, Cuff and Blindfold Set
A fun alternative to a metal sex spreader bar, this fun little gadget inflates to a whopping 29 inches – an extreme spread width, not for the faint of heart. Lacking any metal in the bar at all, your partner’s legs are kept apart by this cute little bondage ‘balloon’! The plastic inflatable ‘bar’ is encased in soft velvet for a luxury feel. Fully deflatable and compact, this is the perfect little BDSM travel gadget! Assisted adorably by matching cuffs and a blindfold (or sleeping mask, depending on your proclivities), this baby sports an O-ring on each cuff.
The Dominix Deluxe Inflatable Spreader Bar, Cuff and Blindfold Set was rated 20 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for a complete beginner
want a fold-away spreader barlove blowing thingswant a BDSM lite spreaderwant an intense spreaderwant to keep your sub's legs apartdon't like plastic inflatable things| Length | spreader bar - 29 inches |
| Fastening | clip |
| Materials | velvet |
| Materials | plastic |
fully deflatablehuge spread widthcute balloon shapeit's not really a spreader barthe bar length isn't adjustablethe balloon can bend and twistWith the price tag the same as other spreader bars with a higher quality of material and construction, this may not be the main item you use for your “stop and spread ’em” activities. However, for travel and for gentle, no-metal-included spreading BDSM play, it may be just the ticket! Particularly if you and your partner are often on the road, or want to transport between your home and theirs, this is ideal.
Bondage Boutique Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs
Bondage Boutique’s more cost-effective model of its is a straightforward, yet sassy solution to your spreader bar woes! Made from high-quality leather, the best thing about this sex spreader is its extreme adjustability. Literally every bit of this can be adjusted, moved or modified, making it perfect for multiple partners and multiple scenarios. Doesn’t matter if you’re rocking a thruple, a his and hers, a hers and hers or a theirs and theirs!
The 2.5 inch high leather cuffs are lined with faux fur so that you’re comfortable while still being as ‘used and abused’ as you want to be. The bar breaks down into three pieces as well, making it perfect for Bondage-Cons, meet-ups and munches.
The Bondage Boutique Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs was rated 70 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for someone with some experience
want high quality but low costwant to spread your 'wings'love super adjustable gearare veganwant wrist cuffs includeddon't want locking cuffs| Length | spreader bar - 26 inches |
| Width | spreader bar - 1.5 inches |
| Length | cuffs - 7.5-12.5 inches |
| Openings | 2 padlocks |
| Materials | leather |
| Materials | metal |
| Materials | faux fur |
completely adjustable2 padlocks4 keysit's hard to think of anynot cruelty-freehonestly, this is a bargainAn easy ‘cheat’ if you can’t afford Bondage Boutique’s full wrist-and-ankle spreader bar is to pick up this one and use your own wrist cuffs! Kink on a budget is still just as fulfilling. Plus, this is a luxury item for half the price. With two padlocks and adjustable lengths plus comfy faux fur, you can’t beat this one. Get spreading!
XR Brands Master Series Deluxe Wrist and Ankle Spreader Bar
This beauty is for the bravest of bondage babes! XR Brands has produced another fabulous accoutrement for your BDSM play, this time in the deluxe wrist and ankle spreader bar with matching luxury cuffs. Each part of it is detachable, meaning you can lock up your sub by the wrists, by the ankles, or by both. There are a variety of fun positions to try with this sex spreader and you should definitely collect ’em all.
All four cuffs are crafted from fine leather with soft inners so you don’t cause any (intentional) damage to your precious sub. And the best bit? It comes with a 30-day warranty should your friskiness get a little too frisky.
The XR Brands Master Series Deluxe Wrist and Ankle Spreader Bar was rated 80 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for someone with some experience
want a deluxe spreader bardesire configurable spreader toyswant a full exposureare new to spreader barshave a tight budgetdon't like metal toys| Length | leg spreader bar - 25 inches |
| Length | arm spreader bar - 13.75 inches |
| Length | connector bars - 8 inches |
| Length | ankle cuffs - 13 inches |
| Length | wrist cuffs - 10 inches |
| Materials | leather |
| Materials | metal |
beautiful constructiondetachable spreader barluxury leather cuffs