The 11 Best BDSM Spreader Bars for Bondage and Restraint
Testing the best BDSM spreader bars
Testing the BDSM spreader bars for this review is not the easiest thing in the world, but with our team of amazing sex toy testers and an army of freaky freelancers out there, we made it look like a piece of cake! Great to use alongside BDSM furniture, spreader bars offer a whole range of sexy options. We looked at all aspects of the BDSM spreader bars, and highlighted not only the positives but the negatives in order for you to get an honest and unbiased review.
We combine expert knowledge, customer reviews, and first-hand testing from our sex toy testers to you a balanced and reliable view of each product, so you know exactly what you are buying!
What to consider when buying a BDSM spreader bar
If you’re thinking about buying a BDSM spreader bar then you’re going to want to think about a few different things. You want to be sure you’re getting something that’s perfect for you and your partner, right? So here are a few things to take into consideration!
- Fixed or expandable – Having a BDSM spreader bar where you can set the width is a handy option to have. With fixed ones you’re tied to a certain width (no pun intended), but with expandable ones you can change and customize the experience.
- Does it come with cuffs -Some BDSM spreader bars require you to buy additional cuffs to help you use them. This is different from product to product, so just be sure to check that you’re getting everything you need!
- How many o-rings – Depending on which spreader bar you get, it might contain a different amount of O rings. That is, rings that you can strap lets/wrists etc. Think about that kind of BDSM experience you want and buy a spreader bar with the right amount of O rings!
- How secure are the restraints – You don’t want your sub slipping free, right? This is a common problem with homemade restraints. Making sure the BDSM spreader bar restraints are firm and won’t become loose or broken is essential if you want to remain in charge!
- Comfort – This is an important one. As much as you want to have all kinds of naughty fun, it’s important that whoever is wearing the spreader bar is comfortable. Finding a BDSM spreader bar that feels nice against the body is important for everyone’s enjoyment!
Spreader bar vs Bed restraints
There are two main camps when it comes to getting awesome access to the fun bits on the body: those that love spreader bars, and those that love bed restraints. We’re going to take a little look at the two and weigh up the pros and cons of each!
- Spreader bar -The primary focus of this review is the spreader bar, and we think we’ve touched on some of the awesome points about them. They are easy to be used, can be used anywhere, and require no additional apparatus to get them to work. One issue that you might have with spreader bars is that the bar itself may get in the way when you’re getting down to it! That can be quite the annoyance!
- Bed restraints – Strap your partner to the bed with these kinds of restraints. Sex bed straps are great if you have an actual bed to strap them to. They are a little fiddly to get tight enough and get your partner in the right position, but it offers unobstructed access to whatever you want! As we said though, you need a bed or something similar to strap them to, so they’re not so great to use on their own!
Keep reading to find out why BDSM spreader bars are an incredible sex accessory. Start spreading the word, not just your legs!
FAQ
What is a sex spreader bar?
A spreader bar, sex spreader bar or BDSM spreader bar is an item used to keep a sexual partner's limbs - arms, legs or both akimbo, or literally spread apart, so that they're on display or so that their partner has easy access to their naughty, fun bits. Will you feel exposed while strapped into a BDSM spreader bar? Yes - and that's the whole point. For vulnerability and the sensation of being laid bare for someone else to completely enjoy. It's a deliciously helpless feeling that you and your partner are sure to revel in!
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The 11 Best bdsm spreader bars in Test
Bondage Boutique Extreme Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs
Bondage Boutique’s extreme spreader bar is the perfect tool for a little bit of loving ‘cruelty’ in your BDSM play! With an ankle spreader bar that expands from 18 to 26 inches, you can expose your partner just a little bit or really put the blush on things with a full Monty style spread.
The cuffs in between really allow for a full ‘southern exposure’ and uninhibited play with your partner’s body, particularly when locked and the keys taken away. If giving up (or receiving) power is your bag, this BDSM spreader bar is right up your street.
The wrist cuffs are static, which is one downside to the construction, but you can always play around with restraints tied to the bars if need be. The really fab thing is that the ankle restraints allow for a full 180 degree rotation – just think of the sexy scenarios!
Pros
Cons
Based on some of the reviews, you may want to think twice before splashing out on a spreader bar some describe as difficult (locks) and not as durable as they’d like. However, most users have reported a sturdy construction and really fun play-time depending upon how far the bar is spread. With the holiday season coming up, this is probably one to add to your wishlist!
Liberator Talea Spreader Bar Cushion with Cuffs
Nothing says “I love you” more than spreading yourself open like a sexy buffet for your partner! The Liberator Talea opens up a whole new world of fun – literally. The centrepiece of this BDSM spreader bar is the elegant crimson cushion (foam with a supporting bar inside) that allows you to maintain difficult sexual positions for longer with an added element of comfort.
It comes with ankle and wrist cuffs which can be used in more angles and scenarios than you can do in a week of nights! You can get deeper during penetration and maintain oral sex positions for longer with this sex spreader bar.
Pros
Cons
With two D-ring connectors that can be used with a variety of cuffs, leashes, ropes and chains, plus a comfy pillow to add to the sexiness without the discomfort, this spreader bar is the luxury item you need. The price is pretty high, but hey, who says good sex comes cheap?
Sportsheets Spreader Bar with Cuffs
If you want to quickly get down and dirty with your sex spreader bar, Sportsheets has you covered – well, exposed, to be honest. With a no-nonsense, no-frills approach, this handy little restraint bar will have you and your partner arguing about who gets to be restrained first! The neoprene and Velcro cuffs are simple to use, making this BDSM spreader bar perfect for first-timers or old-timers who want it fast and dirty. There are two stiff metal spreader bars inside the neoprene case, so this is not for people who want a flexible hold on their bondage gear.
Pros
Cons
For the low price, you need to get involved, bent over, tied up and shagged rotten with Sportsheets’ lovely, simple approach to bondage and exposure! There are no frills and no time like the present on this straightforward bondage bar. The best thing about is is the simple construction and that it doesn’t take very long to get into or out of. Perfect for the super horny pair who can’t wait any longer.
Purple Reins 12-Inch Thigh Spreader Bar
Purple Reins is a wonderful company, simply for the fact that they got a punny reference to a Prince song into their company name – and who doesn’t love bondage-related puns! The company has released this handy dandy little contraption that forces you to keep your thighs open for business all. night. long. Just like Lionel Richie.
Crafted from sturdy purple nylon with a small, 12-inch spreader bar in between the cuffs, this is perfect for beginners or for more advanced users who don’t want all the fuss and drama of typical BDSM equipment. Plus, it’s insanely cheap!
Pros
Cons
With such a low price, this is egalitarian bondage gear at its finest! You can literally spread the love with this inexpensive, yet high-quality piece of BDSM kit. It’s particularly wonderful for couples or groups who have a wide variety of wrist and ankle sizes, as it’s just adjustable. There really isn’t anything to complain about here. Happy spanking!
Dominix Deluxe Inflatable Spreader Bar, Cuff and Blindfold Set
A fun alternative to a metal sex spreader bar, this fun little gadget inflates to a whopping 29 inches – an extreme spread width, not for the faint of heart. Lacking any metal in the bar at all, your partner’s legs are kept apart by this cute little bondage ‘balloon’! The plastic inflatable ‘bar’ is encased in soft velvet for a luxury feel. Fully deflatable and compact, this is the perfect little BDSM travel gadget! Assisted adorably by matching cuffs and a blindfold (or sleeping mask, depending on your proclivities), this baby sports an O-ring on each cuff.
Pros
Cons
With the price tag the same as other spreader bars with a higher quality of material and construction, this may not be the main item you use for your “stop and spread ’em” activities. However, for travel and for gentle, no-metal-included spreading BDSM play, it may be just the ticket! Particularly if you and your partner are often on the road, or want to transport between your home and theirs, this is ideal.
Bondage Boutique Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs
Bondage Boutique’s more cost-effective model of its is a straightforward, yet sassy solution to your spreader bar woes! Made from high-quality leather, the best thing about this sex spreader is its extreme adjustability. Literally every bit of this can be adjusted, moved or modified, making it perfect for multiple partners and multiple scenarios. Doesn’t matter if you’re rocking a thruple, a his and hers, a hers and hers or a theirs and theirs!
The 2.5 inch high leather cuffs are lined with faux fur so that you’re comfortable while still being as ‘used and abused’ as you want to be. The bar breaks down into three pieces as well, making it perfect for Bondage-Cons, meet-ups and munches.
Pros
Cons
An easy ‘cheat’ if you can’t afford Bondage Boutique’s full wrist-and-ankle spreader bar is to pick up this one and use your own wrist cuffs! Kink on a budget is still just as fulfilling. Plus, this is a luxury item for half the price. With two padlocks and adjustable lengths plus comfy faux fur, you can’t beat this one. Get spreading!
XR Brands Master Series Deluxe Wrist and Ankle Spreader Bar
This beauty is for the bravest of bondage babes! XR Brands has produced another fabulous accoutrement for your BDSM play, this time in the deluxe wrist and ankle spreader bar with matching luxury cuffs. Each part of it is detachable, meaning you can lock up your sub by the wrists, by the ankles, or by both. There are a variety of fun positions to try with this sex spreader and you should definitely collect ’em all.
All four cuffs are crafted from fine leather with soft inners so you don’t cause any (intentional) damage to your precious sub. And the best bit? It comes with a 30-day warranty should your friskiness get a little too frisky.
Pros
Cons
While it may be on the pricier side of the BDSM accoutrement spectrum, this beautifully constructed, luxury spreader bar is worth the splurge. Time to tell Santa you’ve been a very good (naughty) boy or girl!
Sportsheets Bondage Spreader Bar with Metal Cuffs
Oh baby, you’re so metal! This new handcuff spreader bar is the perfect gift for the metal lover in your life. Featuring a 14″ metal bar with handcuffs at each end, this is intended for use on the wrists, but can also be used on smaller ankles (please be careful and don’t twist or bend your ankles if this is how you use it!). The metal is nickel-free, which is great for those with allergies or who find nickel an irritant.
With unyielding metal at your wrists, you’ll love the feeling of giving up full control and being completely at your lover’s mercy with this sexy spreader bar!
Pros
Cons
While it may only be a one-trick pony, what a sexy trick it does! This is the back-to-brass-tacks, no-comfort tool for fun roleplaying for all your cop-and-robber fantasies, or just for good old fashioned bondage sex spreader bar use.
Fetish Fantasy 24-Inch Spreader Bar and Handcuff Set
The folks at Fetish Fantasy have brought a great toy to kinsters around the world! Featuring a brave 24-inch ankle spreader bar, detachable smaller 10″ bar and enough possibilities, you might not have time to try them all out. The central strap that links the two bars together is adjustable and removable and there are two central O-rings and two end rings as well.
You can literally put your partner in just about any position you desire, making it perfect for sexy people who believe that variety is the spice of a sex life. This sexy set also includes a storage bag with padlock and keys, a detachable collar and a free blindfold. Ding dong!
Pros
Cons
Despite being a little pricey, this spreader bar is so configurable, it could end up being the only one you need! It’s a beautiful item and we just love the connecting bar and four O-rings for lots of additional fun. With the extras (locking storage bag, collar and blindfold) and the incredible variety of ways this can be used, it really is a ‘must-buy’.
Fifty Shades of Grey Bound to You Faux Leather Spreader Bar
This bondage spreader bar has the luxury look normally reserved for Victorian lamps and medical equipment! While it sadly only comes with the spreader bar and can’t be used for the purpose unless you splash out for the accompanying cuffs, it’s still a beautiful piece of kit. Probably best for beginners and newbies to BDSM, as dedicated kinksters prefer a solid spreader bar that does what it says on the tin.
With beautiful faux leather that looks like the real deal and gorgeous gold accents, this is one for the youngsters and dedicated Fifty Shades of Grey fans. It comes with four clips, two on the bottom and two each on the side. You can buy the accompanying cuffs here.
Pros
Cons
While the idea of a fan fiction branded bit of BDSM kit probably won’t appeal to most dedicated kinksters, and the price point is pretty high, especially as it doesn’t come with cuffs, this could be good for those new to the world of kink. Particularly if your BDSM is more bodice-ripper, romance novel style!
Dominix Deluxe Adjustable Leather Cuff Under-mattress Set
Any kinkster worth their salt or sugar knows that an under-mattress bondage spreader kit needs to be part of the furniture. If you don’t have one, do you really even BDSM?! This kit from Dominix offers full body or partial restraint, with fully adjustable ankle and wrist cuffs attached to uber firm but flexible neoprene straps.
Simply loop the top and bottom portions around and under your mattress, then belt your partner in by any configuration you want and get ready for the read of your life!
Pros
Cons
If you’re a casual or serious BDSM player, you really do need an under-mattress bondage and spreader kit, so get cracking and order this one! It features really strong, no-breakage neoprene straps, which is perfect for vigorous play and if you want to attempt to get away. It’s long, it’s strong and it’ll help you get the sexual friction on!
How to use a sex spreader bar or kit
There’s no one way to use a spreader bar, mainly because they’re all so different from one another! The main thing to remember is that it doesn’t have to be for BDSM or kinky play. You can do all sorts of things with a spreader bar (though cleaning windows isn’t as fun as bending over and getting pounded!), and they’re good for posture training a submissive.
Letting go
Spreader bars are great for increasing intimacy via trust. How? Well, it’s simple! Just like with any relationship, if you trust your partner to bind you and to make sure the two of you both experience pleasure, rather than to do anything non-consensual, then boom! Trust increases.
It's tough out here for a sub
Remember that most spreader bars are made of an unyielding, hard substance such as metal or plastic, and that you should never tug or pull your partner’s limbs – to do so can result in breakages, sprains and the bad kind of bruising or pain. Move with ease and always consider how the body moves and in which directions limbs and joints are supposed to move, before you try a position – particularly with ankles and wrists bound tightly.
Hit it!
Spreader bars can be particularly good for hitting the G-spot during penetration, if the person with a G-spot bends the right way. They can be great for standing sex or for light humiliation play, and of course, the people who are spreader bar devotees love the restrained feel of a bondage spreader bar.
Take turns seeing which one of you loves being submissive and have a ball!
How to clean a sex spreader bar
Most spreader bars are metal, so use a wet cloth or a little bit of mild soap such as hand soap and a damp cloth and then rinse with another wet cloth. The same cleaning method applies to neoprene straps, which should be cleaned with just water, or a tiny bit of gentle household spray cleaner. At all times, make sure you read the manufacturer's instructions, which will include cleaning and storage - and make sure you don't stray from them. It's important to clean ALL your sextoys every time you use them, and this includes spreader bars. Not cleaning up sexual fluids can result in infections in both men and women, so keep it tidy!
materials
Soft plastic, hard plastic, jelly, rubber, Cyberskin are all porous materials, meaning that small particles and bacteria can penetrate the surface. This makes it impossible to completely clean these types of materials.
Therefore, it is recommended that you use a condom with these types of toys, especially if you are sharing them. Clean these toys with mild soapy water and dry gently with a towel. These materials are more easily damaged, so be sure to be gentle and make sure your toys are completely dry before storing.
materials
Silicone, glass, stainless steel and some hard plastics can all be washed using a mild soap (like you would use on your body) and warm water. Just be careful if your toy contains electrical parts.
Silicone and stainless steel toys without any electrical parts can also be boiled for sterilisation.
components
If your toys contain electrical components, be extra careful when cleaning them and always check the instructions provided with the toy. You can use a gentle cloth and soap to wipe or sex toy cleaner or cleaning wipe to down your toy, making sure that no water comes into contact with the electrical parts.