From the BDSM scene to mainstream fashion, it’s likely you’ve come across at least some hint of breast bondage, but what really is it and how can you try it out?
If you are wondering how to do breast bondage, you are in the right place.
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What is Breast Bondage?
Breast bondage involves tying the breasts, typically using rope or a harness. The purpose of breast bondage isn’t to restrict movement but to frame and accentuate the breasts, making them the center of attention and extra sensitive to any type of touch.
Rope bondage is an art form that ranges from simple designs that can be tied by a beginner to intricate patterns that take a lot of time to master. Many of the decorative bondage rope forms are derived from the Japanese practices of Kinbaku or Shibari rope bondage.
Breast Bondage – it’s not only for extreme kinksters
At first glance, this may seem like a pretty extreme kink only to be lived out in the dark depths of a BDSM dungeon, but breast rope bondage doesn’t have to be as kinky as it sounds unless you want it to be of course! We’ve even seen breast bondage-style harnesses make their way into mainstream fashion with Vogue even declaring them to be an official fall trend in 2020.
These harnesses draw attention to the form of the breasts, and breast bondage, with rope or a harness, essentially does the same thing, just a little or a lot spicier, depending on how you like it! Breast bondage often involves breast and nipple stimulation and can cross over into other aspects of BDSM, combining elements of pleasure, pain, and power play.
Why Practice Breast Bondage?
The Visual Turn-on
Breast of all shapes and sizes already look amazing, but breast bondage frames your breasts, putting all attention on them, ready and waiting to be touched and teased. It frames the breasts as sexual objects within this context, often taking the concept of breasts to the extreme by making them stand out or bulge. There’s also something so sexy about the contrast between hard, industrial-looking rope and soft round breasts.
Breast Stimulation
Breasts and nipples can be extremely sensitive and feel fantastic when stimulated with different types of touch. This sensitivity varies from person to person, with some people even being lucky enough to experience breast or nipple orgasms. Breast bondage can increase sensitivity by increasing and trapping blood flow in the breast, making every touch feel incredible. Having your breasts bound may also help to create a more sexual association with them, and in doing, so focus your attention on the sensations you feel there.
Domination and Submission
Having your breasts bound also enhances the feeling that they are there for your partner to enjoy as they please, feeding into the pleasure of power play. A dom may tie their subs breasts and then stimulate them using their hands, mouth, or sex toys or require that their sub be tied underneath their clothing. Breast bondage is often combined with other restrictive forms of bondage that limit the sub’s movements, such as having their hands tied behind their back to create a greater sense of submission.
Breast Bondage Materials
While rope is the most commonly used material for breast bondage, it can be a little intimidating for a complete beginner, so we’ve got three options of varying spiciness. Whether you just want to test the waters or dive in at the deep end, there are plenty of ways to enjoy breast bondage.
Harness style bras
Bra’s with open cups and harness style straps are great for getting used to the intimate feeling of having your breasts exposed for breast and nipple play. This is the perfect first step if you are intrigued about breast bondage but aren’t quite ready to go all in.
Cottelli’s Wet Look and Lace Open Cup Bra Set takes some of the mystery out of breast bondage, with no need to figure out how to tie bondage ropes. The open cups leave you exposed for your partner to play with, while the wrist ties keep you in position and at their mercy!
Leather Harnesses
Leather harnesses take it up a notch, with firm leather straps that are more restrictive than fabric. You can find harnesses that are for breast bondage only or full body harnesses. A harness is a quick and easy option that only requires a few buckles, making them great if you want to try breast bondage but aren’t up for learning rope tying or you are on a time limit.
This full-body harness from DOMINIX Deluxe features adjustable leather straps that frame your breasts, leg straps, and o-rings to combine with your favorite restraints. This incredibly sexy harness highlights your breasts and puts them center stage ready to be lavished with attention.
Bondage Rope
Bondage rope is the classic material used for breast bondage. Used to create beautiful patterns of ropes, twists, and knots that look stunning against the body, and highlight your natural shape. Bondage rope can be made of natural fibers, such as cotton, hemp, or jute, or synthetic fibers, like nylon.
What type of rope to use for breast bondage?
Choosing your rope involves many different factors such as price, how smooth or abrasive you want the rope to be, and what you are using it for. As the skin around the breast can be very sensitive, you might want to go for a soft, smooth rope. If you are just getting started with ropes and aren’t sure which rope to buy, it’s best to stick to buying a rope specifically designed for bondage.
Rope thickness
Importantly, the rope should be at least 5mm in diameter to prevent it from cutting into your skin. Aside from that, the thickness you choose will also depend on the tying technique you choose. Using a thicker rope under the breasts will prop, giving them more lift.
Bondage Boutique’s Soft Bondage Rope is a great option for anyone just starting out with rope bondage as well more advanced users. It’s made from soft but strong woven cotton that stays firmly in place. Choose between red or black to get the perfect look for your breast bondage play.
How to Tie Breast Bondage
There are loads of fantastic breast bondage tutorial videos available on Youtube to help you get started. TheDuchy is a wealth of rope bondage wisdom, with a focus on safety and sharing knowledge without the porn-style images you can find on many sites. They also have a really fantastic YouTube channel that takes you through different types of bondage step by step.
Here are some breast rope bondage videos from three great bondage ropework channels, Zed Ropework, Lazarus Redmayne (from the TheDuchy), and Anatomie Studio, to help you get started:
Simple Chest Harness by Zed Ropework
Bikini Harness 2 Lazarus Redmayne (TheDuchy)
Figure of 8 Chest Harness Anatomie Studio
Breast Bondage Play
Once you’ve mastered tying up your partner’s breasts, there’s no doubt you’ll want to experiment with a little breast and nipple play, what with them being presented so beautifully! This can be intensely pleasurable for the partner on the receiving end and thrilling for the partner in control.
Breasts and nipple play can feel totally different from person to person, from people who don’t enjoy it right up to those who can orgasm from nip stimulation alone, so be sure to check in with your partner when trying out new sensations.
Here are some different ways you can stimulate your partner’s breasts when you have them tied up. Don’t forget that breast bondage can enhance the sensations, so your partner may respond more strongly than usual. Always agree on what types of touch and stimulation your partner is comfortable with beforehand and practice ongoing consent.
Massage
Breast massage is a fantastic way to get more blood flowing to the breasts and wake up all nerve endings, getting your partner excited and wanting more. This can also include massaging the nipple and surrounding area, slowly increasing the intensity.
Oral Stimulation
Just like oral sex, stimulating your partner’s breasts and nipples with your mouth can feel incredible. Try a combination of sucking your partner’s nipples to increase blood flow, flicking with your tongue, and gentle biting or nibbling.
Floggers
While floggers can seem intimidating to some, especially if pain isn’t part of your play, they are just as effective when used gently. You can choose to gently drag the flogger across your partner’s breast, letting them experience the tingling sensation of cold leather on their soft skin, or increase the intensity with small whips of the flogger.
Bondage Boutique’s Slap and Tickle Rubber Flogger is a fantastic first flogger, as the rubber has a gentler feel than leather. If you are looking for something a little spicier, they also make a great faux leather flogger.
Vibrator
You can use a traditional vibrator, like a bullet vibrator, to stimulate your partner’s nipples by circling the vibrator around the outside of the nipple. Clitoral suction vibrators are also fantastic for nipple stimulation, as they create an almost sucking feeling.
Mantric’s rechargeable bullet vibrator has a flat, angled tip, so you can vary the vibrations between pinpoint and broad stimulation, making it great for teasing the nips. It’s also waterproof and covered in velvety silicone!
Nipple Clamps and Nipple Suckers
Breast bondage and nipple clamps are a classic pairing. The clamps add more intensity by enhancing the sensation in the nipples. They also look wonderfully seductive next to the contrast of the industrial rope. If you are into nipple clamps, nipple suckers are another great way to increase sensitivity.
Bondage Boutique’s nipple clamps are simple, stylish, and adjustable so you can get the perfect amount of pinch.
For more options, check out this review of all the top nipple clamps, including nipple suckers, advanced clamps, and a gag, clamp combo!
Temperature Play
You can experiment with using warm and cold to tease your partner’s breasts. Let your partner enjoy the warm dripping wax of a massage candle or give them a tingling shock with an ice cube. Glass or stainless steel sex toys are also fantastic for temperature play, as they are easy to heat or cool.
Earthly Body’s set of skin-nourishing massage candles come in three sensual scents and are even edible. Drip the warm wax over your partner’s breast and combine it with a massage or some teasing licks.
Breast Bondage Safety
As with any type of bondage, or any sexual activity for that matter, safety is vital. Bondage and BDSM in general should always be based on mutual trust and respect. Here are some guidelines for safe breast bondage:
- The foundational rule of BDSM is safe, sane, and consensual. Unless all partners meet these requirements, you should not engage in any sexual activity.
- Set clear boundaries with your partner beforehand to agree on what activities (e.g. type of stimulation or level of pain) you want to engage in and what things are off limit beforehand.
- Remember that consent is ongoing and can change. Just because your partner agreed to something before, it doesn’t mean they will enjoy or want to engage in it in the moment.
- Have a safeword that is a clear signal that you want the activity to end immediately. Make sure it’s a word that is easy to say and remember and there’s no risk of it getting mixed up in the play. Fruits and household objects make good choices. If you are wearing a gag, go for a safe signal instead.
- Always have a pair of medical shears on hand in case you need to cut your partner out of the rope in an emergency.
- Do not tie the rope too tightly. Your partner needs to be able to breathe freely and you don’t want to cut off their circulation. You should be able to fit a finger or two comfortably between the rope and their body. The tighter the rope is tied, the shorter the time your partner should be in the rope.
- The rope should be at least 5mm thick to prevent it from cutting into the skin. If you start to notice damage to the skin, remove the rope, clean the skin and let it heal, making sure it doesn’t get infected.
- You should not experience numbness, tingling, or the breasts turning blue or purple. This is a sign that the rope is tied too tightly and is cutting off the blood flow. If this starts to happen, remove the rope.
Have you tried breast bondage before or fantasized about trying it? I’d love to hear your experiences in the comments section.