How to Use A Ball Gag – Basics for Beginners
By Cassie Mørch / December 19, 2022
Okay, so you’ve scoured the internet for some detailed guidance on how to use a ball gag.
You’ve found tons of information out there on different types of ball gags and safety guidelines for using ball gags.
Of course, this information is very important!
But it might just be overlooking the fact that someone might be in need of the complete basics of how to actually use a ball gag!
Well, your search has ended. I’m here to take you through the very fundamental aspects of using ball gags!
In this post, I will take you through the following points:
- Bringing out That Bad Boy in the Bedroom!
- How to Put On a Ball Gag
- How to Use a Ball Gag During Playful Sessions
- How to Take it Off and Clean it
Bringing out That Bad Boy in the Bedroom!
So how do we go from thoughts and desires about using a ball gag to actually doing it? There are few things to remember in that process…
Communicate with your partner beforehand!
You’ve probably had the talk with your partner about why you want to introduce a ball gag into your sex life – and if not – you should do it now!
Have an open conversation about what you would like about it. What you could do to each other and why it would feel nice! Maybe you want to try using gags for (consensual) punishment during your kinky play, or maybe you’re really excited about the thought of drool play!
It could be a good idea to go online and find a suitable ball gag together. Make the process an intimate and exciting activity for you both! Here’s a list of the best sex stores online that we love and trust!
Setting the scene and getting in the mood…
Once you’ve gotten your hands on your new little kinky accessory, you shoud get familiar with it together. Examine the fastening mechanism. Figure out how to adjust the strap to fit you. It’s good to get a hang of the practical aspect before you’re getting all hot and heavy!
Set the mood like you would usually. Start arousing each other as you would normally. Perhaps you want to include a little kinky energy into the dynamic. Hair pulling, spanks, and light slaps can do wonders to establish a Dom/sub power dynamic! Include
How to Put On a Ball Gag
Whenever you’re ready to put the ball gag on, you’ll both be excited for the added sensations after getting each other stirred up with some light kinky play!
So how do you actually put it on when the time comes?
The easiest way is to make the sub put the ball in their mouth (behind their teeth) first. When the ball is secured, the Dom can fasten the strap aroud their head.
- Right fit – Make sure the ball is not too big for the wearer. It will have to go behind their teeth and will restrict their breathing. Start small with beginner ball gags or breathable ball gag!
- Secure – When fastening the strap, don’t make it too tight for comfort for the wearer, but if it’s too loose, you risk the ball falling out mid-play. Balance is key!
- Constant supervision – A golden rule during any sort of bondage play is to never leave your sub unattended while they’re being restrained. you never know when they would feel uncomfortable or an emergency will occur!
How to Use a Ball Gag During Playful Sessions
Okay, so it’s on, we’re wearing the gag, and… now what? Of course, you can carry on with your regularly scheduled sex programme and enjoy the added look and feel of the ball gag! But here are few tips to elevate your BDSM gag experience with some kinky behavior!
Play around with your new power dynamic…
Once the ball gag is on, you might notice how that instantly intensifies your power dynamic as a Dom and a sub. So lean into it and see how far you want it to go!
- Teasing questions – Your sub will obviously be unable to speak while wearing the gag. If it’s their first time wearing one, it might be fun to show them just how little they have to say. Ask them questions, you know they won’t be able answer to tease them. Ask them about what they want you to do to them and how it feels!
- Provoke muffled moans – You might want to continue your little kinky “foreplay” and see how your sub reacts to a little spanking, hair pulling, or even more direct stimulation. Press their buttons and watch them squirm to react with deliciously muffled moans! Use their favorite powerful vibrator, like a wand vibrator, to give them intense orgasms while gagged!
Combine with other BDSM toys
If you’re looking to up the level of kinky play during your gagged experience, there’s a number of other BDSM accessories to use during your session! Give your sub a more intense bondage experience with some tools for sensation play and impact play:
Elevate your pleasure from these devious devices by using them attachments! There are many options for spicing up your gag game. Check out these ball gags with nipple clamps, or ball gag harnesses for more intense submission!
Keep an eye on your sub!
Enjoy the muffled sounds, the drooling, the look and feel of your new gagged experience but be sure to check in with your sub throughout your play session.
Make sure they’re okay and comfortable, and that they want to keep going.
If you’re a ball gag beginner, be sure to keep an eye on the time, and don’t let your sub wear the ball gag for more than 15-20 minutes at a time.
Jaw fatigue is real!
How to Take Off a Ball Gag and Clean it
Alright, so you’re done with all of your teasing, playing, gagging, and you’re ready to take off the ball gag.
Easy does it…
Open the strap or harness and slowly let your sub release the ball from their mouth. Now, an important step of properly using ball gag is providing good aftercare.
Your sub’s jaw might be sore after your session. They might be cold and need a blanket after potentially being tied up. You both might need to reconnect physically and emotionally after experimenting with a new dynamic.
Massage your sub’s jaw and face, get warm under the covers, and have a cuddle and talk about what you liked (or disliked) about your session. These could be great ways to provide proper aftercare to your partner after kinkier sessions!
Cleaning & Care
Drool and sweat may very well have soiled your ball gag after the first use – understandably so! And, of course, it’s important to keep any sex accessories you have nice and clean after every use!
The cleaning and care of all gags very much depend on the materials and design. Provided the ball is made from non-porous materials like silicone, metal, glass, or ABS plastic, you can easily wash it with warm water and a mild soap or any sex toy cleaner!
The strap will often by made of nylon or leather. Both can be gently wiped down with a damp cloth. Leave all components to dry completely before storing your ball gag in compartment that protects it from dust and lint.
Now it’s all clean and ready to go for the next time you feel the urge to sexily silence your sub!
