How to Use a Vibrator on Your Wife: My Product Guide

In this blog post I’ll guide you on 1) how to use a vibrator on your wife/girlfriend, and secondly, 2) what products to choose.

After all, knowing what to do and how to do it is useless if you don’t have the right tools.

Therefore, I put together a list of products you can use as a guide when you’re shopping for the perfect sex toy for her.

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Be-Be and Grey demonstrating one position for using a vibrator on a woman

The Bullet Vibrator

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Screaming O Soft Touch Vooom Bullet

Bullet vibrators are the perfect, compact sex toy when you’re learning how to use a vibrator on her.

Not only are they small, many bullet vibrators are extremely powerful and have several settings. That way, you can discover the vibration level that sends her through the roof.

Plus, bullet vibrators can be used for massages as well as on your body too!

The Screaming O Soft Touch Vooom Bullet is a fantastic value, price wise, and offers a great deal more than most bullet vibrators. First, the soft coating glides smoothly across even the most delicate skin (think her clitoris). And, with several settings of vibration, you’re sure to find the one she likes the most.

Most importantly, this bullet vibrator has Screaming O’s exclusive Vooom motor. The Vooom motor has a deeper, more rumbly vibration, rather than a buzzing sensation which oftentimes will make a woman go numb. Therefore, this little toy’s sensations are more amplified throughout her nerve endings, allowing for more intense orgasms.

So, when you are discovering how to use a vibrator on your wife or girlfriend, going small, in the beginning, is a great way to introduce a toy into the bedroom and learn exactly what gets her off. But remember, bullet vibrators are for external use only.

Fingertip Vibrators

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The Color Pop Fingo Tips

While bullet vibrators are the perfect first sex toy to use on your lady, finger vibrators allow for all of the tingly sensations without the worry of dropping the toy in the heat of the moment.

So, when you’re discovering what gets her excited and learning how to use a vibrator on her, a fingertip vibrator is very easy to use. Just slip it on your preferred finger and turn it on!

The Color Pop Fingo Tips are super small, cost under $10 and have a nice, textured covering that’s just the thing for gently rubbing her clitoris or teasing her nipples.

They have one powerful setting, so no need to search for the perfect speed. Just follow her cues or ask her to guide you to the right spot to bring her to the big-o.

Clitoral Stimulators

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Tri-It Charged Vibe

Clitoral stimulators are small vibrators created specifically to stimulate that bundle of nerve endings in her clitoris. They come in all shapes and sizes, many of which are made for her to use as a masturbation toy.

However, there is no reason why you can’t use this sex toy on her and rock her world while watching every expression on her face!

Sure, you can use bullet vibrators on her as well as internal vibrators. But isn’t it nice to have a few tools in your tool box?

I believe one of the best clitoral vibrators on the market is the Screaming O Tri-It Vibe. It’s a rechargeable sex toy, so you never have to worry about replacing batteries. Best of all, it has that rumbly Vooom motor and patterns of vibration, pulsation and escalation.

Most importantly, the 3 points of contact on this amazing clitoral stimulator, cover the clitoris and the sensitive points around that sweet spot for the ultimate in tingly sensations. Plus, she may use it on herself and let you watch as she brings herself to climactic bliss.

Trust me, I own one.

Internal Vibrators

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The Shimmers Vibrator

Internal vibrators are the type of sex toy that you can use on your wife or girlfriend both internally and externally. Use just the tip to tease her clitoris. Then, once she is on the brink, you can use the toy internally to bring her to orgasm.

Just remember to follow her moans, groans and cues as not to thrust too hard.

When figuring out how to use a vibrator on your wife or girlfriend, be sure and find the right internal vibrator for her. They come in all materials, from plastic to silicone as well as missel shapes and realistic penises.

And yes, we ladies do understand that some of you have a problem handing any penis but your own, and that’s okay! Find a vibe like this one.

The Shimmers vibrator is a simple, plastic vibrator that is waterproof so you can take your fun into the shower or tub too. It has easy, multi-speed operation by twisting the bottom and it is under 20 bucks. Plus, it’s a great option for a first sex toy.

The G-Spot Vibrator

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Scarlet G-Spot Vibrator

G-spot vibrators are made to stimulate her internally. And, when learning how to use a vibrator on her, bringing her to a g-spot orgasm with a sex toy will help you master your own technique when you are making love to her!

A g-spot vibrator looks a bit different as it has a curved tip that will rest against the right spot when you slide it a few inches in (not all the way!)

In addition, that curved tip allows for you to vibrate her clitoris externally.

The Scarlet G-Spot Vibrator is a great first sex toy as it’s inexpensive – under $25 – and has a firm core with a silky-smooth coating. It has 3 speeds of vibrations and the larger, bulbed tip allows for a greater area to be covered.

The Multi-Function Vibrator

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My First Jackrabbit

The multi-function vibrator may look like a crazy sex toy. But, if you want to give her both a clitoral and a g-spot orgasm at the same time, this is the perfect tool for the job.

See, the shaft of a multi-function vibrator rotates to rub against her g-spot. And, externally, there is a clitoral stimulator that’s situated perfectly with no work on your part.

However, using a multi-function vibrator on her may take a bit more practice as they have separate controls for both the shaft and the clitoral stimulator. But I’m sure you’ll get the hang of it pretty quickly.

Now, there are a ton of different types of multi-function vibrators to choose from so where do you begin?

In my opinion, you can never go wrong with a rabbit vibrator. My First Jackrabbit is under $50 and has easy-to-use controls on the handle. The shaft is shorter for maximum g-spot contact and the bunny ears cradle and tantalize her clitoris without you having to put in much effort at all.

Using the Right Vibrator for Fantastic Orgasms

If you’re just now learning how to use a vibrator on her, be sure and get the right sex toy for the job. The best way to know which one to use is to talk to her and find out what she likes. However, if this is a first vibrator for the both of you, I would suggest to start small. Either way, you’ll both have fun while you navigate her body and learn how to bring her to orgasm.

Plus, once you learn how to use a vibrator on your wife or girlfriend, you’ll have even more knowledge you can apply when you are using your own body to pleasure her.

Also, do us ladies a huge favor and share with your friends.

How to use a vibrator on her

Knowing how to use a vibrator on your wife is an exciting way to add a spark to your intimate life. Just like shaking things up and having sex in new places, trying new positions or even role playing, learning how to use a vibrator on her can take sex to an entirely new level.

Okay, it doesn’t have to be a wife, for those of you who are single, knowing how to use a vibrator of your girlfriend is an awesome skill to have too.

So, if you are looking for tips on how to use a vibrator on her, you’ve landed in the right spot.; as I am going to show you the right spots – internally and externally – to stimulate her with a vibrator. Plus, with the help of Be-Be and Grey, I will share photos of positions you can use to rock her world with a vibrator all night long.

But first, there is something important to keep in mind….

You’re All She Wants; Vibrators Are the Icing on the Cake

If she’s the one asking for a vibrator, don’t take it personally! She’s not asking for a new sex toy because you’re not enough. On the contrary, you are all she wants and vibrators are simply the icing on the cake. So, if you’re worried that you’re not satisfying your wife or girlfriend, stop. The lady in your life just wants to make a good thing even better.

How Using a Vibrator on Your Wife Enhances Sex

There are many ways using a vibrator on her enhances sex. Sure, you have seriously, mad skills but can you vibrate? Can you stimulate her clitoris with pulsating bliss while making love to her? Or can you manage double penetration on your own?

The answer is yes to all of the above if you add a vibrator to your time between the sheets. And, depending on the type of vibrator you choose, you can bring her to screaming, squirming orgasms in so many different ways.

Types of Vibrators to Use on Her

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Screaming O Tri-It Vibe

There are several types of vibrators that you can use on her depending on the type of stimulation you’d like to give her. Each and every one of them can create an exciting, yet intimate evening while giving her the best you have to offer with a little twist of wow. Here is a list of vibrators and how you can use them on your wife of girlfriend.

  • Bullet Vibrator: These small but mighty little vibes are great for massage and clitoral stimulation and you can use them on one another.
  • Clitoral Stimulator: Clitoral stimulators, usually a girl’s number 1 go-to for masturbation, can be used on her for amazing climaxes. Or use a clitoral stimulator on her during intercourse for mutual orgasms that will blow both your minds.
  • Internal Vibrators: These phallic shaped vibrators can be used for all-over stimulation, clitoral stimulation and penetration (vaginal and anal). You can find them in all sizes, shapes and colors as well as vibrators that look like a realistic penis.
  • G-Spot Vibrators: Perfect for reaching and stimulating her g-spot alone or giving her a dual orgasm during oral sex.
  • Multi-Function Vibrators: These types of vibrators do it all – stimulating the clitoris and penetrating the vagina and g-spot – and are great for couples that experience erectile dysfunction or allow you to have complete and total control over her orgasm while you sit back and watch the fireworks happen.
  • Some other suggestion could include remote control egg vibrators, panty vibrators, Magic wand vibrators, or any other beginner vibrator.

Click here to read my product guide for this article. You’ll find suggestions and photos of each type of vibrator listed above.

How to Use a Vibrator on Her

Now that you know the basic why’s of how to use a vibrator on her and the right tools for the job, it’s time to get down to the nitty-gritty and show you exactly how it’s done. Our models, Be-Be and Grey, will show how to use a vibrator on a woman and the best positions to maximize her pleasure as well as your own.

But first, let’s take a close-up and intimate look at her vagina. That way, you’ll know how to use a vibrator on her clitoris and other, sensitive, erogenous zones that surround that sweet spot.

How to Use a Vibrator on Her Clitoris and Vagina

When using a vibrator on your wife or girlfriend, hitting the right spots is crucial for her to have maximum enjoyment without getting numb. They key to giving her an incredible clitoral orgasm is to be gentle and not to use too high of a speed. Follow her verbal and physical cues or ask her which spot feels the best.

Furthermore, when using a vibrator for penetration, it’s very much like using your penis but you get to see her excitement without worrying about finishing before her. However, remember to use plenty of lubricant and start slow, watching and listening for her cues and don’t push too hard as you might hurt her.

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How to Use a Vibrator on Her

Use a bullet vibrator, clitoral stimulator or other vibrator against her clitoris. Some women like more pressure, some like less. In addition, she may enjoy direct stimulation or just above the clitoris (the clitoral hood) or just below the clitoris. Just be cautious around the urethral opening with any type of stimulation of penetration as it can cause irritation, soreness and painful cystitis.

How to Use a Vibrator on a Woman for Massage

Knowing how to use a vibrator on her for massage is important in that it relaxes her and is the perfect foreplay before bringing her to the big-o manually. Start by using a nice massage oil then run a vibrator over each of her most sensitive spots. Just think about the spots that you stroke or kiss that make her moan and apply different amounts of pressure.

The Best Positions for Using a Vibrator on Your Wife

Now, Be-Be and Grey are going to show you how to use a vibrator on her and the best positions for watching her squirm, giving her oral sex while using a vibrator and penetrating her while using a vibrator on her clitoris.

How to Use a Vibrator on Her Missionary Style

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How to use a vibrator on her missionary style

Using a vibrator on her in the missionary position allows you to watch her body and her expressions as you rub her clitoris or penetrate her vagina or anus. Plus, this position gives you full access to her breasts and sensitive nipples so you can send her over-the-top with the trifecta of sexual stimulation.

How to Use a Vibrator on Your Girlfriend Doggy Style

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How to use a vibrator on your wife in the doggy-style position
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Using a vibrator on her in the doggy-style position

Using a vibrator on her in the doggy-style position gives you the most thrilling views. Plus, you can stimulate her clitoris, penetrate her vagina or her anus. In addition, this position makes it easy for her to rock back against the vibrator, a cue to you that she wants more.

How to Use a Vibrator on Her During Oral Sex

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How to use a vibrator on a woman during oral sex

The vast majority of we ladies’ love receiving oral sex. And if you’re good at it, you can make yourself the king or oral gratification by penetrating her with a vibrator while using your cunninglingus skills.

How to Use a Vibrator on a Woman During Intercourse

The best way to use a vibrator or your wife is by stimulating her clitoris while you are inside her. Not only do you get the thrill of having intercourse, you will be stimulating her in two ways which very-well could lead to explosive, mutual orgasms. Plus, these positions bring you physically closer for that sensual, skin-to-skin contact.

Doggy Style with a Twist

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How to use a vibrator on your wife during sex

Slip it to her doggy-style while reaching around and holding a vibrator against her clitoris. To change things up and give her deeper penetration, have her lay with her chest on the pillow and bottom in the air.

Spectacular Spooning

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How to use a vibrator on a woman during sex

Spooning is the one way to get super close to your girl while making love. But, by holding a vibrator against her clitoris while spooning, you may both hot the big-o at the same time.

Missionary Buzz

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How to use a vibrator on your girlfriend during sex

This position isn’t as easy to pull off, but if you can do it, this is the best position for hitting her g-spot while using a vibrator to make her clitoris tingle.

The Electric Cowgirl

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How to use a vibrator on her during sex

Using a vibrator on her clitoris in the cowgirl position is easy to do! Plus, as she grinds on you, she will put more pressure against the vibrator. And the best part is that you have a free hand to squeeze her rear and breasts.

Be Creative When Using a Vibrator on Her

Learning how to use a vibrator on a woman is just the first step to really spicing up your relationship in the bedroom. It will not only allow you to learn her body better, it will give you a whole new way of getting her off. So, start with whatever vibrator you’re comfortable with. Then, get creative with positions and places where you have your alone time.

From there, sex will be more thrilling, more intimate and the orgasms will be like nothing you’ve experienced before.

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