Sex frequency statistics

By Farid N. / February 08, 2022

It is said that the frequency of sex is closely related to a happy relationship. However, connection and satisfaction are also both crucial factors to have a healthy and happy sexual relationship.

Whether you are in a committed or casual relationship, you may be wondering how frequent other couples having sex.

Statistics on the Average Sexual Frequency of Americans Per Week, by Relationship Status

  • Married (1.2 times per week)
  • Cohabiting couples (1.6 times per week)
  • Dating (1.1 time per week)
  • Unpartnered (0.3 times per week)

Statistics on the Average Number of Times Couples Have Sex Per Week

  • 25% of Americans had sex weekly
  • 19% of Americans had sex twice or thrice per month
  • 17% of Americans had sex once a month
  • 16% of Americans had sex twice or thrice each week
  • 10% of Americans didn’t have sex in the past year
  • 7% of American adults had sex 1-2 times in the last year
  • 5% of Americans had sex four or more times per week

Statistics on the Estimated Times Per Year American Adults had Sex, 1989–2014

Americans have been found out to have sex in about nine fewer times per year in 2010 compared to 1990s. It continues to decline until 2014, as shown in the figure below:

Statistics on the Sex Frequency of People Between Ages 50-80 

  • On average, people who are between 50-80 years old have sex two times a month
  • 37% of individuals aged 50-80 were reported not having sex anymore
  • 27% said that they had sex at least once per month
  • 14% of the singles in the age group 50-80 said that they were down to have sex on the first date
  • 30% of the singles in the same age group stated that they had sex within the first three dates

Statistics on American Men Who Had Sex with Someone in a Public Place (2015)

The below are based on the 2,857 surveyed respondents last March-May 2009; 18 years old and above:

  • 45.4% of American men had sex with someone in public in their lifetime
  • 6% of American men had sex in public in the past year
  • 1.5% stated that they had sex in public in the past month

Statistics on the Intercourse Rates Amongst Single and Married Persons in the U.S. (by age group)

Married Couples

  • 18-24 years old (79.4%)
  • 25-29 years old (93.2%)
  • 30-39 years old (90.2%)
  • 40-49 years old (83.3%)
  • 50-59 years old (67.6%)
  • 60-69 years old (53.7%)
  • Over 70 years old (31.9%)

Singles

  • 18-24 years old (28.6%)
  • 25-29 years old (26.2%)
  • 30-39 years old (10.5%)
  • 40-49 years old (7.5%)
  • 50-59 years old (5%)
  • 60-69 years old (4.3%)
  • Over 70 years old (0%)

Statistics on the Impact of Coronavirus Pandemic on Sexual Life of Women in the U.S. (2021)

Based on the 3,435 respondents (women aged 18-55 years old) surveyed last January 2021, the following data have been revealed:

  • 46% stated that their quality of sex life has improved
  • 44% said that they had orgasm more often
  • 42% revealed that they had a healthy sexual self-esteem more often

Statistics on the Impact of Pandemic on Interaction with American Women

  • Cohabiting couples who mentioned that they have sexual desire less often (64%)
  • Solo-living couples who said that they have sexual desire more often (64%)
  • Cohabiting couples who were positively impacted by the pandemic to the way they interact with their partners (61%)
  • Solo-living couples who stated that the pandemic has brought negative impact to the way they interact with their partners (54%)

Factors Most Often Associated with the Frequency of Sexual Intercourse

  • Age
  • Time
  • Parity
  • Pregnancy
  • Duration of Relationship
  • Fertility Intentions
  • Relationship Status
  • Contraception

Common Reasons of Lack of Frequent Sex in Marriage

  • Natural libido levels
  • Age
  • Health status of each partner
  • The overall condition and quality of the relationship

Other Factors That May Affect Sex Life 

  • Stress
  • Being busy with kids, career, and family
  • Having a routine that becomes boring
  • Lack of communication
  • Changes in the body due to health conditions
  • Not feeling heard or seen by the partner

Statistics on Married Sex and Satisfaction

  • 96% of respondents said being emotionally connected results in the best sex
  • 61% of women and 80% of men say “the sex is pretty good.”
  • 90% believe it is possible for sex to get better after years of being together
  • 2% are turned on by their partner, showing vulnerability

Ways on How to Have a Happy and Healthy Sex Life

A satisfying sex life can help improve the quality of your relationship. The following tips can aid in achieving a happy and healthy sex life:

  • Have an open conversation with your partner.
  • Feel free to make suggestions to your partner about your insights.
  • Talk about what’s working and what’s not.
  • Be honest in telling what you want.
  • Be open to each other’s thoughts and ideas.
  • Maintain physical affection.
  • Experiment with different positions.
  • Try self-help materials and other resources about improving your sex life.

You might be wondering how often should a couple have sex. If you’re satisfied and happy with the frequency of sex in your relationship, then you are having the proper amount of sex for you and your partner. But if you’re not, you should start discussing the problem. With the help of good communication and the intention to build a stronger relationship, you can come up with the right solutions, such as trying sex therapy and other experiments.

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