The 13 Best Sex Toy Kits for Every Occasion (and Every Kind of Orgasm)
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Our Approach to Rating Sex Toy Kits
Sex is a very personal topic. As such, what one person enjoys another might not (and vice versa). When it comes to making recommendations, it can be very easy to rate a product based on personal bias, rather than individual product value. Recognizing this potential issue, the team here at Bedbible has come up with the “Bedbible Rating” system! Our system produces a numerical score from 1 to 5 for each product, based on that specific product’s design, ease of use, and quality. This means that you (the reader) can easily see how a particular product stacks up against the competition, without needing to read through our thoughts on that particular product! Of course, if you want to learn more then you need only to read our expanded thoughts on that particular product. If we’ve tested a product personally, you can click the “Read full review” link to hear how our hands-on experience went!
What Kinds of Sex Toy Kit Are There?
There are many different types of sex toy kits, and each is created to cater to a specific audience. For example, most vibrator kits focus on female pleasure: specifically, clitoral stimulation! On the other hand, a dildo sex kit could be enjoyed by anyone regardless of their genitalia (the same goes for butt plug kits!). Although a bit different, bondage kits are often a great choice. While not everyone will be into hardcore BDSM play, many people enjoy light bondage with a trusted partner. Generally speaking, most sex kits will fall under the following types:
- Vibrator – These kits are great for people who want to focus on clitoral pleasures. Depending on the specific kit, you might receive multiple types of vibrators or a single, premium vibrator.
- Dildos – Generally, these kits contain multiple dildos of various sizes. The sizing variation allows the user(s) to pick a size that they’re most comfortable with, and work their way up to large toys if they choose to. However, some dildo kits like Clone-A-Willy, can help you make your own custom dildo at home!
- Butt Plugs – These kits generally contain multiple butt plugs of increasingly larger sizes, making them ideal for people interested in anal training kit.
- Bondage – Depending on the kit in question, these could be great for some light BDSM play centered around blindfolds and wrist cuffs, or crafted for the more adventurous with items such as floggers, gags, clips, and clamps!
How to Choose a Sex Toy Kit
When choosing a sex kit, you should first consider who you’re purchasing the kit for. Is it for yourself? Is it for your partner? Perhaps it’s a gift for some freaky friends? Regardless of who the intended recipient is, it’s vital that you choose a kit that meets their specific needs. Once you’ve identified which type of sex toy kit to purchase, you’ll want to consider how much potential kits include and what the price difference is. While it may seem tempting to purchase the kit with the most items, it’s generally better to choose a kit containing fewer, high-quality items than many low-quality items. However, you should once again consider the audience when choosing a kit, especially if you’re planning on giving this as a gag gift that they might use.
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What is a sex toy kit?
A sex toy kit is typically a selection of toys and accessories curated around a specific theme. The kits covered in this round-up include ones tailored toward introductory BDSM, anal training, pegging, and much more. Sex toy kits can be a great way to quickly and confidently build up your collection with everything you need for a new experience.
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The 13 Best sex toy kits in Test
Womanizer X We-Vibe Golden Moments
The Golden Moments Collection combines two of the world’s most sought-after sex toys into one of the most elegant packages we have ever seen. The Womanizer Premium represents one of the best Clitoral suction stimulators money can buy – with 14 orgasmic levels of vibrating intensity.
The Smart Silence function also means the Womanizer automatically turns off when not in contact with skin.
Meanwhile, the We-Vibe Chorus is a technological revelation. Perfect for couples, the device delivers pinpoint G-spot and clitoral stimulation and is fully controllable from anywhere in the world.
All this comes ensconced in the finest, silky smooth, black and gold silicone for a truly refined product.
| Clitoral suction | 12 levels of power modes modes |
| Vibration modes | Speeds and patterns |
| Rechargeable | Yes |
| Materials | Silicone |
| Waterproof | Yes |
Elegant. Sophisticated. Intense. The Golden Moments is the perfect sex toy kit for couples. Two of the world’s greatest pleasurers join forces, laced in matching silky smooth silicone.
The Womanizer Premium is perfect for focused clitoral stimulation. The We-Vibe chorus is suitable for dual clitoral and G-spot teasing and can be used during intercourse to simultaneously provide thrumming vibrations to your partner’s penis. Varied intensity, modes, and possibilities abound when combining these two titans of the sex world.
All this tucked into a delectably premium storage box and specifically designed dual charging base, for less money than purchasing the two products separately. This is the perfect gift for your better half – wherever they may be.
Fifty Shades of Grey 10 Days of Play Gift Set
Are you looking for the perfect, unintimidating introduction to BDSM? The 50 Shades of Grey sex toy kit introduces ten of the most commonly used bondage toys and accessories. Take your time opening one door a day and unveiling another exciting new addition to your bedroom.
Learn more about restraint and sensory play, experience the pleasure of giving up control or taking the reigns. Every session offers a new experience to revel in.
Discover whether you are the type of kinky couple who enjoy whipping, orgasm denial, restraints or blindfolding; with a kit endorsed and approved by E L James herself. Unleash your inner Christian or Anastasia and open the door to a new realm of dominance and submission.
| Allergies | Latex and Phthalate-Free |
| Storage Bag Included | Yes |
The world of BDSM can be intimidating for any newcomer. Yet, Fifty Shades of Grey has flung the door wide open for millions of new submissives and dominants alike to explore a new realm of intense intimacy.
Flogger, restraints, blindfold, anal toys and much more awaits as you open each door. At the end of your 10 days of play, chances are you will have awoken something new and primal.
All toys have been designed to give beginners their first taste of power play – as such some of them (such as the flogger) may seem a little unimpressive to the more experienced. For those, one of these bondage sex toy kits may be more suitable.
Lovehoney All Tied Up Bondage Play Kit
Like the idea of being tied up and at the mercy of your partner? Lovehoney has produced the perfect bondage sex toy kit for beginners. Feel the power of restraint with included wrist and ankle cuffs, blindfold and under-mattress strapping. Awaken heightened sense with a vibrating cock ring, nipple suckers, finger ring, and flogger.
All restraints are internally lined with velvet-smooth fabric, attached with velcro and quick-release straps for maximum physical and psychological comfort. Take your time or dive straight in and leave your partner no room to escape!
The choice is yours with everything included to begin your dream bondage journey.
| Allergies | Latex and Phthalate-Free |
| Waterproof | Yes |
| Vibration modes | Speed and patterns |
| Materials | Silicone |
You couldn’t ask for more from a bondage sex toy kit for beginners. All the restraints you need to fully tie up your partner, with beautifully soft lining and safe release mechanisms designed to put your mind at ease. Coupled with sensory toys for both participants, including a vibrating cock ring, finger vibrator and gentle flogger – the boundless realm of sensation play is within your grasp. Batteries are even included!
What was once spoken in hushed whispers during post-coital pillow talk is now the mainstream. Countless bedrooms have awoken to what heightened sensory and bondage play can offer. With sex toy kits like this, there is no excuse for not making those fantasies a reality.
Temptasia Twist Dildo Kit
Combining silky smooth silicone with a powerful suction cup, this dildo sex toy kit has countless applications. The set includes all three Temptasia Twist Dildos – dildos made famous for the unique swirling texture, perfect for targeted g-spot and anal stimulation.
Graduated in size from a comfortable 4.5 inches length and 0.75 inches in width, up to a satisfyingly meaty 6 inches and 1.25 inches in width.
The heart-shaped base incorporates a powerful suction cup, making all three ideal for hands-free riding. They are also fully compatible with an o-ring harness, making this a great training set for pegging.
| Insertable length | 4-6 inches |
| Length | 4.5-7 inches |
| Width | 0.75-1.25 inches |
| Materials | Silicone |
The Temptasia Twist sex toy kit oozes versatility. Each dildo is quality made from the finest silicone for smooth vaginal or anal play. The distinct swirl pattern makes for amazing sensations and targeted pleasure point stimulation. The quality suction cup is great for hands-free riding and the harness compatibility is an added bonus.
Gradually increasing in size, this is a great kit for beginners exploring anal play, pegging or vaginal penetration.
These are not for those who like realism from their dildos. They are also fairly stiff (particularly the smallest size) so if you prefer a bit of give, this sex toy kit may not be for you.
b-Vibe Anal Training and Education Butt Plug Set
Three premium silicone plugs ranging in size from 4 inches in length and 3.25 inches for beginners, all the way up to 5.5 inches length and 5 inches in girth for a real challenge.
Each plug brings a different aspect to anal play, with the medium plug featuring 6 variable vibration patterns and the largest containing a satisfyingly weighted base for additional pleasure and challenge.
In addition, the set also includes a lubricant applicator for those hard-to-reach spots and an anal douche for clean, safe play. All this is held in a quality storage bag. There is even an exclusive booklet chocked full of tips and suggestions to help you get more out of your newfound anal obsession.
| Length | 4-5.5 inches |
| Diameter | 1.3-1.6 inches |
| Materials | Silicone |
| Waterproof | Splashproof |
| Flexibility | Flexible |
| Rechargeable | Yes |
For our money, this offering from b-vibe is the best anal training sex toy kit on the market. b-vibe just doesn’t miss. Each plug is perfectly sized for even the most inexperienced ass, while still providing a realistic challenge for beginners to increase their tolerance to a desirable and pleasurable level.
Each plug is silky smooth silicone perfection and the different experience each brings to the table (basic, vibrating, and weighted) is an inspired touch. Even the included guide to anal play has clearly been carefully designed with the beginner in mind.
For beginners, this is the ideal sex toy kit – look to our round-up of great beginner’s plugs for more inspiration.
Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit
Famed sexpert Tracey Cox does it again with the ultimate strap-on sex toy kit. Includes two dildos, a bullet vibrator, adjustable harness, and 3 O-rings to fit different sized appendages.
The first dildo comes in the form of a lightly curved, smooth shaft boasting 4.5 inches of insertable length and measuring 0.9 inches in diameter – perfect for beginners looking to find their feet.
The second dildo measures 6 inches insertable and 1.5 inches in diameter with a deeply ridged texture – take your experience to the next level when your partner is ready.
The powerful 7-function bullet vibrator can be slotted into the harness or the larger dildo for added pleasure.
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| Length | 5-7 inches |
| Diameter | 0.9-1.5 inches |
| Materials | Silicone |
| Waterproof | Yes |
| Flexibility | Flexible |
| Vibration modes | 7 |
Rated one of our best strap-on kits for beginners, the Tracey Cox pegging bundle offers phenomenal value for money. The smaller dildo has been particularly singled out by happy customers as the perfect starting point for eager and trepidatious partners alike. The larger dildo represents an aspirational, realistic target to strive for as you both gain in confidence.
The powerful vibrator is a fine addition, insertable in either the harness or larger appendage dependent on who you want feeling the benefits. The harness is functional and dependable – though there are certainly more attractive ones available.
Get your hands on one of the best value strap-on sex toy kits available, brush up on how to prepare for pegging, and ride into the sunset!
Screamer Bondage Swing Kit
It’s impossible not to have a great time while on a sex swing. One of the best-selling swing sex toy kits, the Screamer is just as suited to be your first swing as it is to be your last. Built on a dual hook design the swing is sturdier and more controllable, as well as being more comfortable for people with wider hips.
All cuffs and restraints are made from quality leather, with a soft faux fur lining for a restraining experience kind on the skin and even kinder on the eye. Each strap can be firmly secured with a buckle – far more sophisticated than commonly used velcro.
Pair with a ball gag and blindfold and prepare for a night neither of you will ever forget.
| Materials | Leather, cotton canvas, faux fur |
| Storage Bag Included | Yes |
| Maximum Weight | 140 kg (300 lbs) lbs |
| Fastening | Strap and buckle |
Eyeing a sex-swing sex toy kit but unsure where to begin? Look no further. The Screamer kit is an internationally best-selling swing for a reason. The dual hook design is a huge bonus (provide you aren’t after a swiveling swing) as it is much more comfortable and controllable.
The restraints are pure quality. Leather straps, secure buckles (no velcro in sight), and a beautifully soft faux fur lining. Rigging is straightforward and once assembled correctly, very secure. It may take a little practice, but we challenge you to find a better way to spend an afternoon.
As with most sex swings, you are going to need plenty of room and ideally, a sex swing stand for the safest experience.
Ouch! Beginner's Silicone Hollow Urethral Plug Set
Interested in sounding? The ‘Ouch! sounding sex toy kit’ is ideal then. Progressively experiment with deeper and wider penetration until you find that sweet spot for you. Pay no mind to the rather ominous branding, as long as you take your time, the soft pliable silicone makes these perfect for newbies – just make sure not to skimp on the lube!
The finger ring also serves the dual purpose of making removal easy, whilst preventing over-insertion. As each plug is hollow they also allow for urinating and ejaculation without the need to stop and take them out.
The shortest plug measures 2 inches insertable, while the largest boasts 4.5 inches. Each sounding plug is ribbed in a unique way for maximum enjoyment.
| Materials | Silicone |
| Waterproof | Yes |
| Insertable length | 2-4.5 inches |
| Diameter | 4-4.5 inches |
Questionable marketing aside, the Ouch! sounding sex toy kit is ideal for newbies looking to make their first foray into sounding. Urethra stimulation can be an incredibly intense, unimaginable experience but comes with risks when not treated with the care it deserves.
Sounding requires a patient hand. The different insertable lengths and widths on offer here enable users to take their time and find the right size for them. The external ring is a great safety feature and makes over-insertion impossible, while the hollow design allows for an orgasmic finish without having to break rhythm to remove the plug.
Suitable for both men and women, look no further for your first sounding sex toy kit. More experienced? You may want to consider our best urethra vibrator options.
Clone-A-Willy Vibrator Penis Moulding Kit
Love your partner’s penis but wish it could vibrate? Want to remind your better half why they are with you? Don’t know what gift to get the new employee for secret Santa? We got you – with the Clone a willy sex toy kit.
Perfectly molds to your partner’s manhood and creates an exact copy, veins and all, just 24 hours later. Add the powerful vibrator to the base and never look back. The algae-based molding powder and silicone material are perfectly body-safe, making this the perfect gift for a long-distance partner or insatiable lover.
Choose from a range of eye-catching colors and give the gift of a throbbing, vibrating, replicant penis today. Alternatively, opt for the clone-a-pussy sex toy kit for one very lucky partner.
| Materials | Silicone |
| Flexibility | Firm |
| Vibration modes | Single Speed |
| Rechargeable | No |
| Diameter | No inches |
What better gift to give your significant other than a silicone copy of your own penis? Imagine the look of shock come elation on their face as they open this sex toy kit – we just recommend that you open this gift in private!
The only worry is that they grow more attached to the replica than the original; nature has cruelly burdened us with non-vibrating rods. Just make sure to do your X-rated arts and crafts somewhere that is easy to clean – messy fun is inevitable.
The silicone is also very quick setting so make sure you read the instructions first as there is little margin for error.
Mood Naughty Pride Trainer Set by Doc Johnson
Now here’s a little treat for your rear end. Tired of the same old, uninspired black and pink butt plugs? Profess your love of butt stuff loud and proud with the Doc Johnson Anal Training sex toy kit.
Explore your forbidden hole and find the perfect fit for you with three plugs ranging from 3-4.75 inches in insertable length and 0.75-1.25 inches in diameter. The tapered tips make insertion far easier compared to other more rounded models. The curved base is also perfectly contoured, making this comfortable and safe to wear for extended periods.
If you are looking for a silicone-based plug rather than a metal one, this anal training sex toy kit really stands out. From esteemed sex toy manufacturer Doc Johnson, what we have here is a statement piece. Beautifully crafted from firm yet flexible silicone, with a unique twist on the traditional one-tone design of other plugs.
The tapered tip and tapered base make these extremely comfortable even during the longest of sessions. The sizes are perfect for beginners and those who prefer a firm insertion over anal stretching.
They even warm to body temperature for added comfort and subtle sensations. The only downside is that the large rocker can obscure vaginal play – not ideal for double penetration.
Tracey Cox Supersex Anal Beginner
The comprehensive anal sex toy kit comes packed with everything you need for first-time exploration.
Includes: Beginner’s butt plug – sleek and slender design with a maximum insertable length of 3 inches and space at the base for a powerful bullet vibrator
Anal beads – With an insertable length of 4.5 inches, these intensely bulbous anal beads are rounded and smooth enough to be inserted and pulled from even the tightest of anuses.
Remote control vibrator – Insertable into both the beads and plug with 3 speeds and 7 vibration patterns.
Douche – Designed for easy insertion and a hygienic, distraction-free session.
All this designed and endorsed by famed sexpert Tracey Cox.
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| Materials | Silicone |
| Insertable length | Butt plug: 3 inches, Anal beads: 4.5 inches |
| Diameter | But plug: 1.6 inches, Anal beads: 1.6 inches |
| Rechargeable | Yes |
| Battery Life | 60 minutes minutes |
| Vibration speeds | 3 |
| Vibration patterns | 7 |
| Waterproof | Yes |
Tracey Cox hits the mark yet again with a lovely little anal sex toy kit. It’s rare to find anal beads included in similar sets for beginners, which is a crying shame as no anal aficionado should be without them.
The vibrator is no cheap addition either. This is a serious bit of kit with several variable levels of vibration. The main gripe is that it can be a little hard to insert and remove from the base of each toy which can be a minor mood killer mid-session.
This is not a size training sex toy kit. If you’re looking to increase the size you are comfortable with, the b-Vibe anal training sex toy kit is more suitable.
Lovehoney Bind Date Bondage Kit
Add a little kink to the bedroom and unleash your inner beast with the Blindate sex toy kit. A delightfully fun set packed with everything you need for an exciting new romp.
Feather tickler, blindfold, and bullet vibrator for teasing sensory play. Silky soft wrist and ankle restraints, complete with an under-mattress harness so you can bind your partner like a regular Christian Grey. A set of dice and Karma Sutra playing cards for spontaneous, mature fun.
Tease, deny, restrain, and delight – all thanks to this all encapsulating sex toy kit. Satisfied beginners have nothing but great things to say about this neat, cost-effective bedroom addition.
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| Materials | Silk |
| Vibration modes | Speeds and patterns |
| Waterproof | Yes |
| Rechargeable | No |
| Allergies | Latex and Phthalate free |
We rated the Blind Bondage sex toy kit the best set for BDSM newbies. Why? Because it’s just fun. There’s nothing intimidating here. Less of a blind shove more of a guiding hand walking you and your partner through what this enticing new world has to offer. Have fun, explore each other’s body share a laugh, and hopefully an orgasm or two – the way great sex should be.
Quality sensory and bondage sessions are possible with this comprehensive set. It could not be simpler to use. The Karma Sutra dice and card set may not be to everyone’s taste. For us though, it’s a great little addition that takes some of the autonomy away from unsure participants and adds a whole lot of fun.
Lovehoney Jewelled Butt Plug Set
Who said anal play couldn’t be elegant? This bejeweled anal sex toy kit is here to add some serious class to your ass. Carved from seriously rigid yet mirror-smooth metal these plugs have less flexibility in order to give you the most intense pressure possible.
Gradually upgrade your butt game as you cycle through each size. Start small and finish big with sizes that range from 2.5-3.5 inches in insertable length and 1.1-1.5 inches in diameter.
Shaped for ultimate pleasure with a sensually slender neck and exaggeratedly bulbous head – don’t let those jewels fool you, these plugs can rough it with the best of them.
Due to the metal construction and shape, this sex toy kit is best suited for the more confident anal connoisseur.
| Flexibility | Rigid |
| Materials | Metal |
| Waterproof | Yes |
| Insertable length | 2.5, 3, 3.5 inches |
| Diameter | 1.4, 1.7, 2 inches |
Metal is a much more unforgiving material than silicone. The upside of this is that it applies firmer pressure, resulting in a more intense sensation. The downside is it can quickly become uncomfortable and is a little more daunting for beginners.
If you weigh up those considerations and come to the conclusion that a weighty, solid, quality metal plug is what your anus is missing then look no further. This metal butt plug sex toy kit is as stylish as it is orgasmic. Your ass has never looked as good as it will once the light catches that glittering jewel on the base.
Just be wary, the small base can make it a challenge to remove when the time comes.
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It's the Season for Giving
Nothing says you truly care quite like a vibrating cock ring. Except maybe a mini-massage wand, or a bullet vibrator, or a quality set of anal beads, or…fortunately, we don’t have to choose between all the finest gifts on offer this holiday season. With the Lovehoney gift sex toy kits, we can have a new toy every single day! All for a fraction of the price they should be.
Lovehoney Sweet Seduction Couple's Gift Set
Stuffed with 12 X-rated treats from light bondage items to an amazing mini wand vibrator, this sex toy kit makes the perfect gift set for anyone who plans to be on Santa’s naughty list this year.
This could be perfect if you’re trying to get your partner more involved/comfortable with sex toys in general or if you’re just looking to inject something new into the bedroom.
This is a couple’s set with toys for all sexes to enjoy. 12 days of surprises. 12 days of new experiences. 12 of the best days of your life.
Lovehoney 12 Days of Play Sex Toy Gift Set for Men
Penis-owners, this sex toy kit is all about you – somebody out there must really love what you’re packing. Everything from cock rings to prostate massagers are within your grasp. Just one thin card door stands between them and your eagerly awaiting penis.
Lovehoney favorite – the Hot Shot Warming masturbator is even included in the price of admission – bringing the overall value of this advent calendar to over $250!
New experiences, old favorites, and regular climaxes await all those lucky enough to be gifted this gem of a sex toy kit.
Looking for Your First Vibrator?
Many of the sex toy kits featured here are complimented by bullet vibrator compatibility. While some of these sex toy kits come with a vibrator included, they are often nowhere near as powerful/effective as quality standalone models.
Whether completely debauched, a little kinky, or mostly vanilla, no satisfied bedroom is complete without a proper bullet vibrator. Below we have given you a little taste of some of the best on offer, just to wet your whistle.
We-Vibe Tango X Lipstick
The Tango X Lipstick is sheer class – just pop it in your handbag and nobody would be any the wiser.
An upgraded version of We-Vibes best selling bullet vibrator, the Tango X features 7 spine-tingling vibration modes and 8 levels of sheer, rumbly bliss.
It is completely waterproof and whisper-quiet making it suitable for some naughty self-indulgence, wherever you may find yourself.
Near perfect in every way, the Tango X received 5-stars from us in our in-depth Test & review of the We-Vibe Tango X.
Mantric Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator
The Mantric Bullet Vibrator boasts frankly unbelievable power from a near-silent bullet no larger than your average lipstick.
A full 10-modes of intensifying, vibrating ecstasy are at your fingertips. Flicking between levels of pleasure has never been easier thanks to the Mantric’s intuitive one-button design.
Seamlessly ramp up and down your sensational stimulation without being taken out of the moment for a second.
The Mantric bullet vibrator is fully waterproof, extra quiet, and rechargeable, meaning you never have to be without your best friend again.
Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Bullet Vibrator
Where do you turn when 10 modes of vibration simply aren’t enough? As always, Lovehoney has you covered. The Ignite comes complete with 20 levels (yes – 20!) of rumbly fun.
Divided into 3 levels of speed and 17 vibration patterns, it has never been easier to fine-tune your experience and find that oh so sweet spot.
Small and discreet, suitable for solo and partnered play. The Ignite even comes with a quality travel bag – perfect for those steamy weekends away when you need a little helping hand.
How to Get into BDSM
Here at Bedbible, we are on a mission to break down the boundaries between our readers and their fantasies once and for all. It is unfortunate that a lot of taboo still surrounds the open discussion of sexuality. Many of us feel fear, even shame at the prospect of openly sharing our innermost desires with another.
No longer we say! Life is too short not to live it to the fullest and a healthy sex life is central to that. Let’s discuss how you can add a little extra kink between the sheets.
Talk about it
The first step is to open up to your partner. Preface your discussion with something that makes clear what you are about to talk about is serious to you; ‘I want to talk to you about something really important to me’ or ‘are you in the mindset to have a serious conversation?’
Take your time, go into detail, explain what you want and why you want it. Be open to what your partner has to say too. They may surprise you by how receptive they are or they may be more reserved than you expected.
This should be an open discussion, without blame or pressure. Regardless of where it takes you, talking things out is always a step in the right direction.
Do your research
There are countless blogs and posts out there catered specifically to real couples looking to start there first foray into BDSM.
Start by dispelling some of the myths around BDSM. Pornography and popular media have warped what it means to be dominant or submissive. Consider the psychological aspect of it as much as (if not more than) the physical.
Educate yourself on the different aspects of BDSM – dominance, sensory play/deprivation, pet play, degradation, light pain and so on.
BDSM is a sort of catch all term within which countless different kinks and experiences exist. Find the one(s) that appeal to you the most.
Set your boundaries
Is there anything you simply know you are not willing to do? Set a hard limit. We will not cross this line.
Is there something you think you could be interested in at a later date but aren’t quite ready for yet? Set a soft limit. You can always revisit this later when you’re feeling a little more confident.
Create a list of things you are and are not interested in exploring. Set a safe word that will immediately bring the session to an end at a moments notice.
Finally, make doubly sure you and your partner or on the same page.
Get the kit
Now that you and your partner see eye to eye, it’s time to get kitted up.
Many of the sex toy kits featured in this article are perfect for beginners in a range of different BDSM kinks. These selections are also ideal for newbies as they give you numerous options and variations to try. Explore, have fun and find what you’re into. Don’t worry if you’re not a fan of one thing or another. For example, being restrained is very popular but it is absolutely not for everyone. Trust us, you will find what really turns you on soon.
Practice positive aftercare
When all is said and done, one of the most important aspects of a healthy BDSM relationship is the aftercare.
Post coital, the emotions both you and your partner feel can be intense. This is particularly true if you have incorporated heavy aspects of domination and submission.
Now is the time to reassure your partner and reflect. Be receptive to each other’s needs, remind them that they are loved and you are happy to have them. When the time is right, reflect upon your experiences both as individuals and a collection. What were your likes and dislikes. What would you like to see more of or less of next time. What was going through your mind at each point.
A BDSM relationship in only successful when the communication is.
How to use a sex toy kit
The most exciting thing about purchasing a new sex toy kit is that it can open your bedroom to a whole host of new experiences, pleasures, and emotions. Many of the kits featured here are specifically aim to provide beginners with everything they need to get started. Don’t be nervous, we’re here to guide you every step of the way!