The 5 Best Thigh Spreaders for Easy Access to Your Sweet Spots
Find the perfect thigh spreader to keeper your lovers legs akimbo. In this review you’ll find the very best thigh spreader bars, thigh spreading slings and thigh restraint harnesses. I’ve also included a guide on exactly how to use a thigh spreader and different thigh spreader sex positions to explore, so you’ve got everything you need to dive into some thrilling, thigh-spreading fun.
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How did we test and review the thigh spreaders in this review?
From start to finish, our sex toy expert used their extensive knowledge to research and hunt out the best thigh spreaders out there for all levels of experience and budgets.
Each spreader was assessed on its overall quality and ease of use as well as which types of BDSM play it is best suited to. We also make sure to pay special attention to the length of the bar as you want to choose one that matches your level of flexibility!
Each thigh spreader gets a Bedbible score based on either our expert’s opinion or a testers evaluation and a user score, which is an average taken from all of the user reviews.
Reviews of the 6 best thigh spreaders
Test Winner Stockroom Thigh Spreader Bar
This is a serious thigh spreader that will leave your sub’s legs stretched wide open and ready for your attention!
The bar measures 18 inches across and has adjustable leather cuffs at either end that are secured using padlocks. For even deeper submission, you can attach your own wrist restraints to the eyebolts on the bar.
The thigh cuffs are adjustable from 12.5″-25″ and you can choose between a black or chrome finish.
- ✅ Can withstand heavy duty play
- ✅ Lockable
- ✅ Swivel mounted cuffs
- ✅ Eye bolts to add more restraints
- ❌ Locks are needed but not included
This is definitely a more advanced spreader bar for someone who knows they love restraint play and are ready to spread wide open. While it’s more expensive than the other options in this review, it’s a very high-quality thigh spreader that’s made by The Stockroom’s leather team in LA. The extra eyelets are also a great addition if you want to restrain your partner’s wrists as well.
You should buy the Stockroom Thigh Spreader Bar if you...
- are looking to invest in a quality thigh spreader
- love leather
- want a lockable thigh spreader
- crave a more intense stretch
You should not buy the Stockroom Thigh Spreader Bar if you...
- are new to thigh spreaders
- are on a budget
- can't stretch 18 inches
Cheapest Purple Reins 12 Inch Thigh Spreader Bar
Open up your submissive side…and your legs!
This pleasing purple spreader bar is 12 inches wide, making it beginner-friendly. The cuffs are adjustable between 13 – 20 inches and have neoprene padding to keep you comfortable while you play. The cuffs fasten using velcro so you can get the bar on and off quickly.
- ✅ Beginner-friendly
- ✅ Velcro restraints are quick to get on
- ✅ Unintimidating purple design
- ✅ Padded thigh cuffs
- ❌ Restraints can slip during use
- ❌ Not the strongest construction
- ❌ Design looks a little cheap
The price and size make this a great introduction to thigh spreader bars. You get a decent stretch without feeling too overwhelmed and the velcro fastening isn’t as intense as being locked in. While this is well suited to beginners or light bondage, it won’t hold up to more heavy duty play and the restraints can slip out of place when you move too much.
You should buy the Purple Reins 12 Inch Thigh Spreader Bar if you...
- are new to thigh spreaders
- are on a budget
You should not buy the Purple Reins 12 Inch Thigh Spreader Bar if you...
- need a heavy duty thigh spreader
- want lockable thigh restraints
- crave a more extreme stretch
- have a larger body
Beginner Bondage Boutique Soft Wrist-to-Thigh Cuffs
Explore thigh restraint with a bit more freedom of movement with these soft wrist to thigh restraints from Bondage Boutique. The lack of bar lets you dip your toes into thigh spreading play without diving straight in!
The adjustable straps fasten with velcro and the wrist restraints are lined with soft fleecy material.
- ✅ Beginner-friendly
- ✅ Easy to get on and off
- ✅ Travel-friendly
- ✅ Soft fleece lining
- ❌ Small size won't fit bigger thighs
- ❌ Thigh straps can be a little scratchy
- ❌ Don't stretch thighs in the same way as a bar
These restraints are a great option for anyone totally new to bondage that want’s to explore thigh spreading but have more control over the position. As your thighs are attached to your wrists, you get to decide how wide you want to go. The velcro fastening also gives you peace of mind that you can get out if you want to. That being said, these wrist to thigh restraints probably won’t satisfy more advanced tastes. The lack of bar makes these easier to pack for fun on the go!
You should buy the Bondage Boutique Soft Wrist-to-Thigh Cuffs if you...
- want a gentle intro to thigh restraint
- prefer velcro cuffs
You should not buy the Bondage Boutique Soft Wrist-to-Thigh Cuffs if you...
- want actual restraint bar
- have larger thighs
Sling Sportsheets Saffron Thigh Sling
Let the Saffron Thigh Sling from Sportsheets keep your legs exactly where you want them, while you lie back and enjoy they fun!
The red vegan leather neck strap is padded to add some comfortable support, while the two stirrups can be used to support your thighs, lower legs or feet.
Both the main straps and stirrups are adjustable, so you can get the right fit in a range of positions. The neck support has also got two D-rings to make it even more easy to attach wrist restrains or what else you might want to secure.
- ✅ Easy to use during penetrative sex
- ✅ Neck rest supports head
- ✅ Can be used around thighs, legs, or feet
- ✅ D-rings neck rest for hand cuffs
- ✅ Comfortable vegan leather
- ✅ Fully adjustable straps
- ✅ Storage bag!
- ❌ Might not be suitable for more advanced bondage
- ❌ Not lockable
- ❌ Straps can slip mid session
- ❌ You WILL get sticky thighs/neck
This is a great thigh sling that both looks the part and performs well. The padded neck rest makes it comfortable to lie back on and stops the sling from pulling too much on your neck. It’s also nice and easy to adjust. While it doesn’t have a fixed spreader bar, it is more versatile in the ways you can use it! You also have the opportunity to attach your own handcuffs to restrain your partner’s wrists to the collar. This sling is best suited to light to moderate bondage.
You should buy the Sportsheets Saffron Thigh Sling if you...
- want to explore thigh and leg restraint
- prefer the sling style
- want to use it during penetrative sex
- Want deeper penetration
- Have mobility issues
- Want the option for hands free positions
You should not buy the Sportsheets Saffron Thigh Sling if you...
- want lockable cuffs
- Have neck issues
- Want a more rigid positioning device
- Don't enjoy leather feel
Harness Fetish Fantasy Series Heavy Duty Position Master
Explore heavy duty thigh-spreading restraint with the Position Master from Fetish Fantasy!
The velcro wrist and thigh cuffs clip onto the central body harness for some quick and dirty restraint! The extra D-rings on the back of the harness also mean you can clip your partner’s hands behind their back.
- ✅ Wrist and thigh restraints
- ✅ Velcro is quick and easy to use
- ✅ Comfortable neoprene padding
- ❌ Neoprene can smell at first
- ❌ The harness section can be loose on smaller bodies
This is a great little restraint harness that’s easy to get on and off. It has a sturdy construction, and it’s great that it comes with wrist restraints. This design is best suited to penetrative partner play and can help you achieve deeper penetration. The main thing that lets this thigh spreader harness down is the sizing. The chest harness seems to be relatively big, meaning it will be loose on smaller bodies.
You should buy the Fetish Fantasy Series Heavy Duty Position Master if you...
- want a full body harness
- want thigh restraints for penetrative play
- want wrist restraints as well
You should not buy the Fetish Fantasy Series Heavy Duty Position Master if you...
- want lockable cuffs
- have a plus-sized body
Spreader bar Fifty Shades of Grey Bound to You Faux Leather Spreader Bar
Live out your Fifty Shades fantasies of total submission with this spreader bar.
The strong metal bar measures 20 inches and has attachment points for both ankle and wrist restraints. The bar is covered in elegant looking faux leather and it even comes with a luxurious storage bag.
- ✅ Well-made
- ✅ Elegant design
- ✅ Beginner friendly
- ❌ Doesn't come with cuffs
- ❌ Might not be wide enough for some tastes
Unlike the other thigh spreaders in this review, this BDSM spreader bar attaches to your ankles to keep your legs splayed open. This design can make it easier to enjoy penetrative play as the bar is further out of the way. It’s well built and has a nice finish, especially if you are fan of Fifty Shades of Grey. Unfortunately, it doesn’t come with any wrist and ankle restraints, so you will either need to have some already or be prepared to buy some to use with it.
You should buy the Fifty Shades of Grey Bound to You Faux Leather Spreader Bar if you...
- prefer to be restrained at the ankles
- want an bar to use during penetrative sex
You should not buy the Fifty Shades of Grey Bound to You Faux Leather Spreader Bar if you...
- want thigh restraints
- don't have your own cuffs
Comparison of the 6 best thigh spreaders
|Best||Test Winner||Cheapest||Beginner||Sling||Harness||Spreader bar|
|Overall score||-||4.0 / 5.0||4.2 / 5.0||4.3 / 5.0||-||4.8 / 5.0|
|Bedbible rating||5.0 / 5.0||4.0 / 5.0||4.2 / 5.0||4.0 / 5.0||4.8 / 5.0||4.8 / 5.0|
|User rating||-||3.9 / 5.0|
from 17 users
|4.1 / 5.0|
from 40 users
|4.5 / 5.0|
from 6 users
|-||4.8 / 5.0|
from 5 users
|Design||100 / 100||70 / 100||80 / 100||90 / 100||100 / 100||100 / 100|
|Ease of use||100 / 100||75 / 100||100 / 100||100 / 100||85 / 100||95 / 100|
|Quality||100 / 100||75 / 100||80 / 100||80 / 100||80 / 100||85 / 100|
|Length||18 inches||12 inches||15 inches||Straps: up to 48 inches, Thigh Cuffs: up to 32 inches||-||20 inches|
|Adjustable||Cuffs: 12.5 inches - 25||Cuffs: 13 - 20 inches||-||-||-||No|
|Materials||Leather & metal||Nylon, velcro, metal||-||PU Vegan Leather, Nylon||-||Faux leather|
|Colors Available||Black or Chrome||-||-||Black & Red||-||-|
|Storage Bag Included||-||-||-||Yes||-||Yes|
Full Spreader Bars for Full on Restraint
If you want easier access to your partner’s genitals, particularly for penetrative play, while still keeping their legs wide open, you might be better off going for a full spreader bar. These restraints are worn around the ankles instead of the thighs, making it easier to access different penetrative sex positions.
Bondage Boutique Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs
This metal spreader bar comes with ankle and wrist cuffs for more extreme restraint! Both the bar and the cuffs are adjustable, so you can get just the right fit! Plus, it comes with 2 padlocks so you can lock your partner in with no chance of escape!
Purple Reins 20 Inch Spreader Bar
Keep your lovers legs wide open and secured in place with the Purple Reins spreader bar. The velcro cuffs mean you can have your their legs locked in in no time!
DOMINIX Deluxe Inflatable Spreader Bar, Cuff and Blindfold Set
This inflatable spreader bar is the perfect portable bondage travel buddy! When fully inflated, the bar measures 29 inches for some wide open pleasure!
Thigh Spreader Sex Positions
Once you’ve got your spreader bar, it’s time to get down to the fun stuff! Here are some positions to try!
The partner being restrained lies back on the bed, propped up on some pillows against the wall. Their partner can then apply the spreader bar. This position is great for power play and teasing.
Keep your partner’s thighs spread and in place during doggy style by putting the thigh spreader on once they are in position.
Lie back on the bed and lift your legs in to a V shape. You partner can then attach the thigh spreader. This also works very well with a thigh sling or full spreader bar.
How to use a thigh spreader
Thigh spreaders are usually part of BDSM play and are a great way to explore deeper submission through restraint. Here’s how to get started and some fun ways to play!
Consent and boundaries
Before anyone gets locked into a thigh spreader, you need to make sure you have clear and enthusiastic consent. You should also discuss what activities/ types of stimulation you want to explore while restrained
Get into position
Get into your chosen thigh spreader sex position and secure the cuffs around your thighs, making sure they aren’t too tight. You should be able to fit a couple of fingers between your thigh and the cuff.
How to clean a thigh spreader
Most thigh spreader should be wiped down with mild soap and a damp cloth. Some will have detachable cuffs that can be washed separately. Always check the cleaning instructions that come with your particular thigh spreader. If your restraints are made of leather, you will need to use saddle soap and a conditioner to keep the leather from drying and cracking.
Soft plastic, hard plastic, jelly, rubber, Cyberskin are all porous materials, meaning that small particles and bacteria can penetrate the surface. This makes it impossible to completely clean these types of materials.
Therefore, it is recommended that you use a condom with these types of toys, especially if you are sharing them. Clean these toys with mild soapy water and dry gently with a towel. These materials are more easily damaged, so be sure to be gentle and make sure your toys are completely dry before storing.
Silicone, glass, stainless steel and some hard plastics can all be washed using a mild soap (like you would use on your body) and warm water. Just be careful if your toy contains electrical parts.
Silicone and stainless steel toys without any electrical parts can also be boiled for sterilisation.
If your toys contain electrical components, be extra careful when cleaning them and always check the instructions provided with the toy. You can use a gentle cloth and soap to wipe or sex toy cleaner or cleaning wipe to down your toy, making sure that no water comes into contact with the electrical parts.
What is a thigh spreader?
A thigh spreader is a type of restraint used to hold the wearer's thighs open. It consists of a solid bar with thigh cuffs at either end. They are most commonly used during BDSM play and worn by the submissive partner, immobilising them and giving their partner access to their genitals.