The 5 Best Thigh Spreaders for Easy Access to Your Sweet Spots
How did we test and review the thigh spreaders in this review?
From start to finish, our sex toy expert used their extensive knowledge to research and hunt out the best thigh spreaders out there for all levels of experience and budgets.
Each spreader was assessed on its overall quality and ease of use as well as which types of BDSM play it is best suited to. We also make sure to pay special attention to the length of the bar as you want to choose one that matches your level of flexibility!
Each thigh spreader gets a Bedbible score based on either our expert’s opinion or a testers evaluation and a user score, which is an average taken from all of the user reviews.
What’s the difference between thigh spreaders and full spreader bars?
Both thigh spreaders and BDSM spreader bars can be used to hold your legs open and are worn by the submissive partner during BDSM play, but what are the differences?
- Restraints are worn around the thighs
- Can be a bar or sling
- Great for teasing
- Not as versatile for penetrative sex
- Easier to use for self bondage
- Restraints worn around the ankles
- Can come in adjustable versions
- Sometimes have wrist restraints as well
- More versatile for penetrative sex
What is a thigh spreader?
A thigh spreader is a type of restraint used to hold the wearer's thighs open. It consists of a solid bar with thigh cuffs at either end. They are most commonly used during BDSM play and worn by the submissive partner, immobilising them and giving their partner access to their genitals.
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The 6 Best thigh spreaders in Test
Stockroom Thigh Spreader Bar
This is a serious thigh spreader that will leave your sub’s legs stretched wide open and ready for your attention!
The bar measures 18 inches across and has adjustable leather cuffs at either end that are secured using padlocks. For even deeper submission, you can attach your own wrist restraints to the eyebolts on the bar.
The thigh cuffs are adjustable from 12.5″-25″ and you can choose between a black or chrome finish.
This is definitely a more advanced spreader bar for someone who knows they love restraint play and are ready to spread wide open. While it’s more expensive than the other options in this review, it’s a very high-quality thigh spreader that’s made by The Stockroom’s leather team in LA. The extra eyelets are also a great addition if you want to restrain your partner’s wrists as well.
Purple Reins 12 Inch Thigh Spreader Bar
Open up your submissive side…and your legs!
This pleasing purple spreader bar is 12 inches wide, making it beginner-friendly. The cuffs are adjustable between 13 – 20 inches and have neoprene padding to keep you comfortable while you play. The cuffs fasten using velcro so you can get the bar on and off quickly.
The price and size make this a great introduction to thigh spreader bars. You get a decent stretch without feeling too overwhelmed and the velcro fastening isn’t as intense as being locked in. While this is well suited to beginners or light bondage, it won’t hold up to more heavy duty play and the restraints can slip out of place when you move too much.
Bondage Boutique Soft Wrist-to-Thigh Cuffs
Explore thigh restraint with a bit more freedom of movement with these soft wrist to thigh restraints from Bondage Boutique. The lack of bar lets you dip your toes into thigh spreading play without diving straight in!
The adjustable straps fasten with velcro and the wrist restraints are lined with soft fleecy material.
These restraints are a great option for anyone totally new to bondage that want’s to explore thigh spreading but have more control over the position. As your thighs are attached to your wrists, you get to decide how wide you want to go. The velcro fastening also gives you peace of mind that you can get out if you want to. That being said, these wrist to thigh restraints probably won’t satisfy more advanced tastes. The lack of bar makes these easier to pack for fun on the go!
Sportsheets Saffron Thigh Sling
Let the Saffron Thigh Sling from Sportsheets keep your legs exactly where you want them, while you lie back and enjoy they fun!
The red vegan leather neck strap is padded to add some comfortable support, while the two stirrups can be used to support your thighs, lower legs or feet.
Both the main straps and stirrups are adjustable, so you can get the right fit in a range of positions.
This is a great thigh sling that both looks the part and performs well. The padded neck rest makes it comfortable to lie back on and stops the sling from pulling too much on your neck. It’s also nice and easy to adjust. While it doesn’t have a fixed spreader bar, it is more versatile in the ways you can use it! You also have the opportunity to attach your own handcuffs to restrain your partner’s wrists to the collar. This sling is best suited to light to moderate bondage.
Fetish Fantasy Series Heavy Duty Position Master
Explore heavy duty thigh-spreading restraint with the Position Master from Fetish Fantasy!
The velcro wrist and thigh cuffs clip onto the central body harness for some quick and dirty restraint! The extra D-rings on the back of the harness also mean you can clip your partner’s hands behind their back.
This is a great little restraint harness that’s easy to get on and off. It has a sturdy construction, and it’s great that it comes with wrist restraints. This design is best suited to penetrative partner play and can help you achieve deeper penetration. The main thing that lets this thigh spreader harness down is the sizing. The chest harness seems to be relatively big, meaning it will be loose on smaller bodies.
Fifty Shades of Grey Bound to You Faux Leather Spreader Bar
Live out your Fifty Shades fantasies of total submission with this spreader bar.
The strong metal bar measures 20 inches and has attachment points for both ankle and wrist restraints. The bar is covered in elegant looking faux leather and it even comes with a luxurious storage bag.
Unlike the other thigh spreaders in this review, this BDSM spreader bar attaches to your ankles to keep your legs splayed open. This design can make it easier to enjoy penetrative play as the bar is further out of the way. It’s well built and has a nice finish, especially if you are fan of Fifty Shades of Grey. Unfortunately, it doesn’t come with any wrist and ankle restraints, so you will either need to have some already or be prepared to buy some to use with it.
Comparison of the 6 best thigh spreaders
|Best||Test Winner||Cheapest||Beginner||Sling||Harness||Spreader bar|
|Overall score||-||4.0 / 5.0||4.2 / 5.0||4.9 / 5.0||-||4.8 / 5.0|
|Bedbible rating||5.0 / 5.0||4.0 / 5.0||4.2 / 5.0||4.8 / 5.0||4.8 / 5.0||4.8 / 5.0|
|User rating||-||3.9 / 5.0|
from 17 users
|4.1 / 5.0|
from 40 users
|5 / 5.0|
from 4 users
|-||4.8 / 5.0|
from 5 users
|Design||100 / 100||70 / 100||80 / 100||95 / 100||100 / 100||100 / 100|
|Ease of use||100 / 100||75 / 100||100 / 100||90 / 100||85 / 100||95 / 100|
|Quality||100 / 100||75 / 100||80 / 100||85 / 100||80 / 100||85 / 100|
|Sound||50 / 100||50 / 100||50 / 100||50 / 100||50 / 100||50 / 100|
|Power||60 / 100||60 / 100||60 / 100||60 / 100||60 / 100||60 / 100|
|Adjustable||Cuffs: 12.5 inches - 25||Cuffs: 13 - 20 inches||-||Thighs: Up to 32 inches||-||No|
|Materials||Leather & metal||Nylon, velcro, metal||-||PU vegan leather||-||Faux leather|
|Colors Available||Black or Chrome||-||-||-||-||-|
|Storage Bag Included||-||-||-||-||-||Yes|
Full Spreader Bars for Full on Restraint
If you want easier access to your partner’s genitals, particularly for penetrative play, while still keeping their legs wide open, you might be better off going for a full spreader bar. These restraints are worn around the ankles instead of the thighs, making it easier to access different penetrative sex positions.
Bondage Boutique Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs
This metal spreader bar comes with ankle and wrist cuffs for more extreme restraint! Both the bar and the cuffs are adjustable, so you can get just the right fit! Plus, it comes with 2 padlocks so you can lock your partner in with no chance of escape!
Purple Reins 20 Inch Spreader Bar
Keep your lovers legs wide open and secured in place with the Purple Reins spreader bar. The velcro cuffs mean you can have your their legs locked in in no time!
DOMINIX Deluxe Inflatable Spreader Bar, Cuff and Blindfold Set
This inflatable spreader bar is the perfect portable bondage travel buddy! When fully inflated, the bar measures 29 inches for some wide open pleasure!
Thigh Spreader Sex Positions
Once you’ve got your spreader bar, it’s time to get down to the fun stuff! Here are some positions to try!
The partner being restrained lies back on the bed, propped up on some pillows against the wall. Their partner can then apply the spreader bar. This position is great for power play and teasing.
Keep your partner’s thighs spread and in place during doggy style by putting the thigh spreader on once they are in position.
Lie back on the bed and lift your legs in to a V shape. You partner can then attach the thigh spreader. This also works very well with a thigh sling or full spreader bar.
How to use a thigh spreader
Thigh spreaders are usually part of BDSM play and are a great way to explore deeper submission through restraint. Here’s how to get started and some fun ways to play!
Consent and boundaries
Before anyone gets locked into a thigh spreader, you need to make sure you have clear and enthusiastic consent. You should also discuss what activities/ types of stimulation you want to explore while restrained
Get into position
Get into your chosen thigh spreader sex position and secure the cuffs around your thighs, making sure they aren’t too tight. You should be able to fit a couple of fingers between your thigh and the cuff.
Explore impact play
Thigh spreaders can be a great addition to impact play. You can explore using a BDSM crop to lightly spank your partners inner thighs and genitals or use a whip or flogger on their butt.