The 9 Best BDSM Day Collars to Bring Submission Out From the Shadows
How We Tested and Reviewed These BDSM Day Collars
I’ve scoured through the internet to find the best BDSM day collars available out there right now, so you don’t have to! Here at Bedbible, we strive to be our readers’ one and only source on the journey towards better sex. We care about giving you all the information you need about a product to make an informed decision about your next naughty purchase.
For this review, I’ve done this by using our (s)expert team of testers and writers to collect all the information I can about a certain product and rate it properly. I look into the user ratings, the design, the quality, the price range, and the performance of individual products. This way I can tell you what you need to know, while giving tips on which level of experience the product is best suited for.
How are Day Collars Different from Other Types of BDSM Collars?
So BDSM collars can be many things – they can look very different and also have very different meanings and purposes. If you want an in-depth guide to all the different meanings, functions and features of different types of BDSM collars, I’ve actually written a whole blog post about it!
For now, I’ll just tell you about how BDSM day collars are different from other BDSM collars. First things first, there are many different types of bondage collars out there (again, check out the blog post for more info!):
- Consideration Collars
- Training Collars
- Protection Collars
- Play Collars
- Permanent Collars
- Day Collars
Apart from day collars and permanent collars, most of these collars will often be used during some BDSM play time and need to be functional for bondage or leash play. Functional sub collars for play time might even have some extra bells and whistles attached to them. Some are collars with nipple clamps or collars with a ball gag.
Day collars differ from these other types of collars since they are not neccessarily meant for play. They rarely require any functionality for bondage play at all. Day collars are moreso worn as a personal symbol one’s status as a sub in a Dom/sub relationship. A personal signifier for just you and your Dom (and maybe other kinksters you see out and about) but subtle enough to not attract unwanted attentin in public.
Can Anything Be a BDSM Day Collar?
The short answer is YES. Since BDSM day collars have mostly symbolic function, the requirements for what it could be is extremely open for interpretation. It’s totally up to you and your Dom what appropriately signifies your status and doesn’t compromise your anonymity at the same time.
BDSM day collars could even be:
- An actual collar that is just very slim, subtle, an comfortable to wear
- Chokers – in different materials, with pendants or ornamental patterns, or simply a ribbon tied (safely!) around the neck.
- Jewelry – necklaces, rings, bracelets – subtle or over the top (whatever you feel like!)
- Other accessories – like watches, hand bags, or even a brouch!
In this review we’ve focused on picking out the best kind of day collars that can’t easily be fashioned out of existing jewelry or household items. We’ve found some of the best BDSM collars out there that can also be used as day collars, in case you want to buy something that has a bit more of that BDSM-y look!
FAQ
What is a BDSM day collar?
A day collar is the type of BDSM collar that can be worn on the daily while you're out and about in the world. They are often subtle enough to pass as jewelry or regular accessories and mostly work as a token of one's status as a collared submissive. A discreet mark that might be recognized by other kinksters but will raise no eyebrows among other people. The point of wearing a day collar is often just for the wearer (and their Dom) to proudly wear a symbol of their relationship out and about, without it being too NFSW.
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The 9 Best bdsm day collars in Test
Red Leather Choker With O-Ring
This Red Leather Choker collar is very much a functional BDSM collar, although it is only half an inch wide, making it a perfect size to wear out and about as well! Super cute and stylish in public, and kinky and fuctional behind closed doors… The O-ring attachment point allows you to include lots of other tools and gadgets into play with this one! Available in three sizes so you get just the right fit for you… or your sub!
The Red Leather Choker With O-Ring was rated 20 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for a complete beginner
are looking a subtle yet functional collarlike a pop of color in your day collarwant an O-ring for extra attachments
want a very very discreet day collarprefer a day collar that is purely decorative| Length | Small: 15.5 inches |
| Length | Medium: 17 inches |
| Length | Large: 18.5 inches |
| Width | 0.5 inches |
| Waterproof | No |
| Materials | Leather, metal |
| Fastening | Buckle |
| Adjustable | Yes |
| Colors Available | Red, Black |
Super slim collar for a subtle lookAvailable in two colorsFunctional for (non heavy duty) play
Can seem a bit bulky by the O-ringThis is a great BDSM day collar for anyone who wants to feel like they’re staying true to their inner collared sub but also want something that’s fashinably inconspicuous when they’re out and about. In terms of design, the center of the collar where the O-ring is attached can seem a bit bulky, if you’re looking for ultimate subtlety. There is a small compromise to be made in terms of subtlety VS functionality, so keep that in mind!
Master Series Lush Pet Silver Ring Choker
The Master Series Lush Pet choker can provide you with just the right amount of kinky expression for you to proudly wear your badge of ownership out in public. The classic O-ring design is a well-known symbol of submission in the world of BDSM and this slim and subtle choker allows you to showcase that in the shape of a necklace. The lobster-clasp fastening mechanism is what makes this product mostly ornamental since it is not meant for heavy-duty use.
The Master Series Lush Pet Silver Ring Choker was rated 10 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for a complete beginner
want a collar that's more like a necklacewant something easily removablelike this silver O-ring designneed a day collar that's also functional for bondage playwant a collar that has a lock| Length | Total length: 16.25 inches |
| Length | Shortest point: 12.5 inches |
| Length | Longest point: 15.5 inches |
| Width | O-ring: 0.75 inches |
| Waterproof | No |
| Materials | Vegan leather, metal |
| Fastening | Lobster-clasp |
| Adjustable | Yes |
| Colors Available | Black |
Cute classic O-ring design Passes as a cool statement necklaceEasy fastening with the lobstar-claspVegan leatherNot suitable for heavy duty bondage playI wouldn’t say this choker is suitable for actual BDSM play time. It has the cute and kinky look for it, but it’s more decorative than functional. The lobster-clasp fastening is more suitable for a piece of static jewelry and is not designed to withstand any substantial pulling or tugging. Although you can easily attach some static pieces, like nipple clamps with chains, for some extra stimulation during play time!
Clear CTRL Vinyl Choker with O-Ring
This clear choker opens up so many doors for your themed BDSM play sessions! Giving kinky cyberspace princess vibes, you’re free to explore some futuristic roleplay and space roleplay, along with your regular old sub training. With a very similar design to the Red Leather Choker from Stockroom, this is a super slim and subtle product that will clearly (pun intended) pass the test of staying incognito as a true BDSM day collar in public!
The Clear CTRL Vinyl Choker with O-Ring was rated 20 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for a complete beginner
love the look and feel of clear vinylwant a day collar that really blends in with other accessorieswant a collar that doesn't have the classic BDSM lookwant a lot of sizing optionsdon't like the sensation of vinyl on your skinreally want that classic BDSM look| Length | Small size fits necks from: 11-14.5 inches |
| Length | Medium size fits necks from: 13-16.5 inches |
| Length | Large size fits necks from: 13.5-18 inches |
| Length | XL size fits necks from: 14.5-19 inches |
| Width | 1 inches |
| Waterproof | Splashproof |
| Materials | Vinyl and nickel-plated hardware |
| Fastening | Buckle |
| Adjustable | Yes |
Clear material for ideal discreet kinkIdeal for any sci-fi, space, or futuristic roleplaySubtle yet functionalVinyl may not be comfortable to wear for a long timeNot suitable for heavy duty collar playThis Clear CTRL Choker really is a great option for a BDSM day collar for anyone who perhaps wants to explore other options in terms of BDSM aesthetic. Black leather is not for everyone! Very similar to the Red Leather Choker, this little gadget is both a cool accessory and a functional sub collar. It does have a slightly wider collar, but still scores points on the subtlety scale because of the clear vinyl.
Rouge Garments Stainless Steel Collar
Although this would typically be the style of a permanent collar, we’ve included it in this review of day collars because it could be an ideal day collar for an event or style that fashionably incorporates the “cool silver necklace”-vibe. This collar can be a cool accessory or a super functional sub collar! With an allen key lock and an O-ring in the front, this collar is totally suitable for obndage play. Stainless steel also has the advantage of being super temperature absorbant. Use it for some thrilling temperature play during your session, if you like!
The Rouge Garments Stainless Steel Collar was rated 60 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for someone with some experience
like the look of a metal collarneed a collar that lockswant a functional day collarlike collars that don't sit snugly around the neckneed a very subtle day collarwant a collar that's easy to remove by yourselfdon't like the sensation of stainless steel on your skin| Diameter (internal) | 4.75 inches |
| Waterproof | Splashproof |
| Materials | Stainless Steel |
| Storage Bag Included | Storage case |
| Fastening | Allen key lock |
| Adjustable | No |
Closes with a lockLightweight and comfortableTemperature absorbant Not adjustableNot available in different sizesAlright, so there are a lot of features in this collar that also makes it a great options for a permanent collar, if that also might be of interest to you. That does not mean that it is unsuitable as a fun day collar! If you’re into this look and feel for a day collar, this lightweight little thing could be a great option. It is definitely on the pricier side of the products in this review but it also is one of the only products here that is actually suitable for some actual BDSM use. One thing I will note is that this collar is not adjustable and it is not available in different sizes either. Make sure this collar will fit you before spending the big bucks on it!
Stupid Cute Heart Lock Choker
This Stupid Cute Heart Lock Choker really is stupid cute. The kind of adorable aesthetic that one might not usually associate with BDSM. But here we are – free to explore some dark kink while keeping it cute. Made of high quality baby pink leather, this choker wraps around your neck and is secured with a heart-shaped padlock. With a design that is super versatile, it’s perfect for both private bondage play and stylish everyday-wear and BDSM fashion.
The Stupid Cute Heart Lock Choker was rated 20 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for a complete beginner
love a cute collar design want a padlock on your collarwant a leather collardon't enjoy this style of BDSM collarprefer an adjustable collardon't need a padlock closing| Length | Small size: 12.5 inches |
| Length | Medium size: 13.5 inches |
| Length | Large size: 14.5 inches |
| Length | XL size: 15.5 inches |
| Length | XXL size: 16.5 inches |
| Waterproof | No |
| Materials | High-quality leather & nickel-plated hardware |
| Fastening | Padlock |
| Adjustable | No |
Adorable designPadlock fasteningIdeal for DD/lg play Available in many different sizesNot adjustableThis choker really is a crowd pleaser! A super cute, secure and functional, yet subtle, collar at an affordable price – what’s not to like? In terms of design, there are just a few things to keep in mind. The collar is not adjustable, so you’ll have to be sure to get the size that’s best for you. Second, as cute as the heart-shaped lock is, it is quite large. Subtlety probably isn’t the point with this collar, but the cute design does make it just a tad more palatable for the vanilla world out there!
Spike Leather Choker with D-ring
This spikey wonder will definitely elevate your kinky look – both in private and in public. Decorate your neck with some stylish leather and silver-colored spiked to go with your cool outfit or add to your kinky fantasies with these dangerous looking spikes and a functional D-ring attachment point by the neck. This cool collar is ajustable and available in three different sizes.
The Spike Leather Choker with D-ring was rated 40 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for someone with some experience
love the look and feel of spikeswant a collar that's also a fashion accessorywant a collar that's also functional for leash playprefer something with a padlockprefer a smooth collar| Length | Small size fits necks: 11-14.5 inches |
| Length | Medium size fits necks: 13-16.5 inches |
| Length | Large size fits necks: 13.5-18 inches |
| Width | 0.5 inches |
| Waterproof | No |
| Materials | High-quality leather & nickel-plated hardware |
| Fastening | Buckle |
| Adjustable | Yes |
Spikes are blunt for safetyCollar is adjustableIdeal for different levels of experienceNot suitable for heavy duty useThe great thing about this collar is that as intimidating as it can seem, it is totally suitable for less experienced spiked collar wearers since the spikes are quite blunt. I also think that the small width of the collar makes it appear very subtle during every-day use. I wouldn’t mind using this as cool accessory by day and transform it into… a different kind of cool accessory by night!
Heart Lock Choker
Want to add some adorably kinky romance to your Dom/sub dynamic? Looking for a cute little choker with heart-shaped pendant to wear out and about? Nothing says true flirtacious devotion like wearing your heart around your neck. This choker is super similar to the Stupid Cute Heart Lock choker but this product offers a little more variety in color. If the baby pink is not your thing, the same design is basically available in black and red leather as well!
The Heart Lock Choker was rated 50 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for someone with some experience
want a collar with a padlocklike the heart-shaped designwant a cute yet functional day collarprefer a regular padlockneed an adjustable day collar| Length | Small size: 12.5 inches |
| Length | Medium size: 13.5 inches |
| Length | Large size: 14.5 inches |
| Length | XL size: 15.5 inches |
| Length | 2XL size: 16.5 inches |
| Waterproof | No |
| Materials | Latigo leather & nickel-plated hardware |
| Fastening | Padlock |
| Adjustable | No |
Available in more colorsPadlock closing Available in many different sizesOrnamental yet functionalNot adjustableOh, you thought getting a heart lock choker in other colors than baby pink was not possible? Luckily this Heart Lock Choker is here to offer you some variety. Like, the Stupid Cute choker, this is a really great product available at a really great price. Sublte enough to wear as merely a spicy little accessory, yet sturdy enough to be functional during some light BDSM play!
Bijoux Indiscrets Maze Tassel Choker Black
What is it? A piece of statement jewelry? A really sexy kink collar? With this beautiful Bijoux Indiscrets choker, you’ll get both without compromising on that classic BDSM look. A stylish accesorry for a cool event and a somewhat multi-functional bondage collar in private.
There’s even a built in leash with the long tassels in the front! Of course, this product might not be suitable for extreme pulling and tugging, but it will do just fine for gently leading your sub across the room. You can also use the tassels as a flogger or whip!
The Bijoux Indiscrets Maze Tassel Choker Black was rated 30 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for someone with some experience
want a super versatile day collarlove a cool statement necklacewant a day collar that's easy to remove by yourselfwant a collar for heavy duty usedon't enjoy longer rope necklacesdon't want anything that's too edgy| Materials | 100% vegan leather, metal |
| Waterproof | No |
| Fastening | Clasp |
| Adjustable | Yes |
Super versatile collarIdeal for bondage playBeautiful for both everyday-wear and BDSM fashionAdjustableNot for heavy duty useNot very subtleOne-sizeThis is a great day collar that lets you decorate your neck in incospicuous ways by day and also let’s you engage in some light bondage play by night!
The versatility really is a bonus with this collar. With the long tassels available to you for leash play, sensation play, or impact playm the world is your kinky little oyster! Even though it is a tad more expensive than some of the other products in this review, I’d say you get your money’s worth with all of these benefits.
Bijoux Indiscrets Magnifique Tickler Pendant
This beautiful piece of jewelry is the kind of day collar you will want to wear out and about before you change into an actual collar for play time. The kind of symbolic day collar that doesn’t scream BDSM to anyone who lays eyes on it, and yet has a (not purely) decorative mini-whip at the end that can also be used for some light teasing. Ideal for wearing out and about as an elegant accessory or for pairing with your favorite lingerie (or nothing) for play time with your Dom.
