Do strapless strap-ons work? Well, you would think with the advances in the sex toy industry that a strapless strap-on would work and work well. After all, some vibrators can get someone off from the other side of the world, sex toys that sync up with virtual reality goggles, and sex dolls with artificial intelligence.
What Is a Strapless Strap-On?
A strapless strap-on is a dildo or vibrator created without harnesses and straps and used by couples of all genders for intercourse and pegging. I’m sure if you’ve never seen a strapless strap-on before, you’re probably thinking, “What the heck?” And yes, you would be correct as that’s the first thing that went through my head when I saw one.
Is a Strapless Dildo the Same as a Strapless Strap-On?
Yes, a strapless dildo is the same thing as a strapless strap-on. I have seen them referred to as both. But in searching for this particular sex toy, I found that the term strapless strap-on is the term most frequently used.
How Did the Strapless Strap-On Come About?
Necessity is the mother of invention! And thanks to a wide-eyed, eager lesbian named Mia, who wanted nothing more than to feel pleasure while giving pleasure, the first strapless, strap-on was born. The Feeldoe was created in the early 00’s and is still popular today. Of course, every other sex toy company has put their own spin on the toy, but the original purpose remains; a chick with a dick who gets pleasure from that dick while sharing it with another.
How Do Strapless Strap-Ons Work?
Strapless strap-ons are a fantastic idea…. in theory. But how do strapless strap-ons work? They work like this: As you can see in the illustration above, the strapless strap-on is a 2 ended sex toy. The bulbous end is inserted into the vagina and eased forward, toward the g-spot and pelvic bone.
Then, the ribbed area, which serves to hold the sex toy in place against the pubis, is also ribbed to stimulate the clitoris. The weight of the phallus, or dildo, pulls downward, rocking the bulb forward and pressing it against the wearers pubic bone; kind of like a counter weight.
The idea is that the strapless strap-on looks more natural and as if the wearer has a penis. Plus, this sex toy is created to give both the wearer and the receiver pleasure, which would make sense, especially with the addition of a clitoral stimulator for the wearer.
How Well Do Strapless Strap-Ons Work?
So, now it’s time to get down to the nitty-gritty, how well do strapless strap-ons work? Although I have never tried a strapless strap-on myself, I have actually pondered what owning a penis would feel like. (I’ve come to the consensus it may feel like having a giant clitoris) However, after birthing 4 children, the thought of holding such a large sex toy inside me feels like it would be a huge, comedic fail.
But that’s just me.
So, I would believe you must have vaginal muscles of steel and do your Kegel exercises several times a day, every single day in order to use a strapless strap-on. Furthermore, here are some other things I feel may help or hinder the use of a strapless strap on dildo:
- That vagina gets slippery when excited, plus you need lube to put it in
- The strapless strap-on would be heavy and may wiggle around a lot or fall out
- You’d possibly have to hold your legs together, not an optimal position for thrusting
- It would probably work better in the cowboy/cowgirl position
- You may have to hold it in place
- The inner bulbs may be uncomfortable
- Just the constant concentration may sour the sexy-time mood for the wearer
What Strapless Strap-On Users Have to Say
Since I haven’t used a strapless strap-on personally, I set out to find answers for you, from people who have used them; some successful, some not so much.
Patricia had this to say:
“We’ve tried the strapless dildo and for me personally, it was really uncomfortable. It was difficult to get it positioned correctly.”
This one is from username ahatmadeofshoes12:
“I have a strapless strap on. It doesn’t stay in or remain stable enough to be effective. You’d have to have pelvic floor muscles of steel. I find it too much of a pain because to keep it stable you have to focus all of your energy on clenching your Kegel muscles and then it’s impossible to use it to thrust and focus on your partner.
I still use it but I wear it with my harness. I like it since it stimulates both me and my partner at the same time.”
Reba’s experience with a strapless strap-on:
“I really wanted a double ender, but my girlfriend had owned and worn a Feeldoe prior to our relationship and said she didn’t like it, so we did some investigating for other options. We ended up ordering the Fuze Tango. It’s a smaller company out of Canada, we had to dig to find reviews, and it was hard to find a website to buy it from- but it’s got ridges for clitoral stimulation of the wearer AND space for a bullet vibrator! We HAD to try it.
Unfortunately, my girlfriend is more petite and the bulb end is a bit much for her when she wears it, but I’m a sturdy 5’10” farm girl with a vagina of steel and I fucking LOVE wearing it. I can go harness free if we aren’t doing anything too wild, but we are usually pretty vigorous and I prefer to use a harness for those occasions because my pelvic floor muscles suck and I need to do Kegels. It provides so much stimulation and control for me, and my girlfriend loves receiving, it carries vibrations from the bullet like a dream. Her only critique is that she wishes the receivers end was more ridged.”
Franklin weighs in on pegging with a strapless strap-on and if they really work:
“Sometimes. Maybe. Possibly.
My partners Zaiah and Maxine have both pegged me with a Feeldoe. However, it takes some pretty strong pelvic floor muscles to hang onto it. (Kegels. Lots of Kegels.)
A lot of women will use improvised harnesses with them. You can make one fairly easily with a scarf. Insert the Feeldoe. Drape the scarf over the base. Take the two ends of the **scarf, bring them between your legs, around your hips, then tie them together under the Feeldoe.”
**Read to the end for tips on making a scarf harness for your strapless strap-on.
Do Strapless Strap-On Dildos Really Work? The Consensus
So, do strapless strap-ons really work? The answer to that is yes and no. The reason being is that it depends on several factors; such as how sensitive your vagina is, the strength of your pelvic floor and the weight and angle of the dildo itself.
In addition, there’s a lot riding on how you are using your strapless strap-on dildo, the sexual positions you are in and whether you are using it for vaginal intercourse or for pegging. Either way, if you are looking for a sex toy that allows you to give exciting penetration while feeling those delicious sensations of vaginal and clitoral stimulation, trying a strapless strap-on is well worth a go.
After all, isn’t sex all about discovering thrilling new adventures with your partner and having stronger, more intense orgasms? So, open those sexual imaginations and try something new and SINsational.