The title, “How to use an anal vibrator” reaches right out there and smacks you in the face. The reason being is that any sort of anal play can be a sensitive and extremely private subject for many people. However, I feel this type of article is crucial for anyone curious about anal play and the use of an anal vibrator or anal toy of any kind. But why?
To put it bluntly, you can’t just shove anything in your bottom without a bit of education and guidance.
You could suffer serious injuries, spread infection and Heaven forbid, end up being the Emergency Room winner for “the best thing ever found in a bodily orifice.”
Therefore, I want to convey the seriousness of the subject, all the while being a little cheeky. (See what I did there?) So, let’s get comfortable and discuss how to use an anal vibrator. I have tips for those of you whom are single as well as bottom curious couples.
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Rules for Using an Anal Vibrator
There are no official rules for using an anal vibrator. So, no worries, the butt play referee won’t enter your bedroom with a whistle and an orange flag. However, there are unwritten rules for using an anal vibrator, or any anal sex toy, that should be followed to ensure the comfort and safety for everyone’s bottom and colon.
So, before you pull the vibrating butt plug or anal vibrator out of your bedside toy box, read on to make sure you are following the rules for using an anal vibrator or sex toy.
Consent is Key When Using an Anal Vibrator
Consent is key when using an anal vibrator, sex toy or body part on another person. Seriously, I cannot possibly count how many times I have gotten the “accidental” dick slip and I’ve had to whisper, “Wrong hole, darling.” Accident or not, I was completely unprepared for that uninvited entrance and I had not consented to any sort of bottom play prior to that bedroom session.
Therefore, it’s important to discuss the use of an anal vibrator, anal sex toy, penis or finger before actually doing it. For example, ask your partner, “Have you ever wondered what bottom sex feels like?” Or, you can express your own interest and see if your partner is game.
No matter how you approach the subject, getting the green light before poking your partner in the bottom is key to exciting and consensual anal sex of any kind.
WARNING! Use Anal Sex Toys Only! No Carrots, Candles or Small Rodents Please
As we discuss how to use an anal vibrator, it’s equally as important to talk about things you should not put up your butt. For example, when you are curious about anal play, you can’t just gaze around your bedroom and seek out anything that may fit including candles, food items and small, pet rodents.
Anal vibrators, anal sex toys, fingers and penises are the only acceptable items for bottom play. The reason for this is that the aforementioned items all have a safety feature that keeps those things from getting pulled into your rectum and colon far enough that you’ll need a doctor and a miner’s hat to retrieve.
Yes, I said pulled in.
My Anus Does What?!
To further explain what I mean by things getting pulled further into the body, you must first understand how your backside works. You see, the anal sphincter is an extremely tight muscle that works to keep bodily waste inside your body until it’s time for it to be expelled.
And, when that time comes, your colon and rectum contract, pushing things toward the sphincter and giving you the urge to grab a magazine or your phone to keep yourself occupied as you evacuate your bowels.
Therefore, when you place something into the sphincter and rectum, your body reacts by contracting, which actually pulls things in. Plus, during arousal and genital touching, everything down there contracts in preparation of climax…. yet another bodily function that causes muscular spasm.
This is why anal beads work so well; you don’t have to poke each and every bead into the anus. Rather, you place the first inside, hold onto the ring and continue foreplay. Before you know it, the beads have disappeared, having been pulled in by the anus.
So, anything that doesn’t have a fail safe attached (like a flared design, wide base or human body) shouldn’t be put in your butt, because whatever you slide in there can get pulled all the way inside.
Never Numb Your Bum
Products exist that claim to numb your anus in preparation for anal sex. Well, that’s like numbing your skin and sticking your hand into a fire. Pain is our body’s way of telling us to stop. If you don’t feel those pain signals, you’ll be injured. The same rule applies to anal sex of any kind. If it hurts, you need to stop, relax and ease back into it.
Therefore, just because you see a numbing agent on the market, doesn’t mean that it’s safe to use! Anal sex is possible for most people. But it takes time, patience and practice.
How to Use an Anal Vibrator
Now that the all-important rules have been discussed, let talk about how to use an anal vibrator or other anal sex toy.
1. Relax and Drop the Stigma
Believe it or not, anal sex of any kind is often seen as taboo or associated solely with pornography and homosexuality. However, nothing could be further from the truth.
You see, both men and women have genital zones that are teaming with blood vessels and excitable nerve endings. And, since the anus is down there, hanging around our naughty bits, it wants in on the action as well and reacts by sending tingles of pleasure throughout the area resulting in intense and amazingly powerful orgasms.
Plus, men have the added bonus of having the prostate gland. Accessible directly through the rectum, this wonderful little spot should be marked, “Touch here to orgasm”, as it triggers extremely deep and powerful climaxes.
So, relax and drop the stigma. Bottom play doesn’t mean you are doomed to an afterlife in hell nor does it mean you are a sexual deviant or pervert. On the contrary, you are a curious, exciting sexual being simply seeking greater thrills from an already good thing.
2. Anal Vibrators and Cleanliness
As many articles that are out there covering how to use an anal vibrator, rarely do they breech the subject of cleanliness. Yes, it absolutely is a concern for people! Some often ask, “Will I get poop on my partner’s penis?” Or, they are curious as to whether their anal vibrator or sex toy will get dirty.
Well, the answer is, yes, it can happen.
However, there are steps you can take to avoid fecal matter on your sex toys, bed and partner.
- Make sure you’ve evacuated your bowels fully that day
- You can use a mini enema or anal douche prior to any anal play
- Place a condom on your anal vibrator, sex toy or partner
- Keep a package of personal wipes nearby for quick clean up
3. Use the Right Lube
The anus and colon do not create natural lubricant like other parts of the body. Therefore, it is important to use the proper lubricant to make anal play comfortable and to avoid minor cuts, tears and injuries to your bottom.
And you should use that lubricant in copious amounts.
Just be sure to use the right type of lubricant for your anal vibrator. If your anal vibrator or sex toy is made from silicone (which most are) always use a water-based lubricant as not to break down the material and cause microscopic cracks and tears where harmful bacteria can hide.
Look for a water-based lube specifically formulated for anal play as they are created at a thicker consistency that lasts much longer.
However, if your anal vibrator or toy is made from any other material that is non-porous (like wood, metal, stainless steel or glass), you can use oil and silicone-based lubricants formulated for anal sex.
4. Start Small
When first using an anal vibrator, it’s important to start small and train your body to relax and accept something without pain and discomfort. Therefore, choose a small vibrating butt plug, graduated anal beads (that start small and gradually get bigger) or thin anal vibrator.
Once you learn to relax and grow accustomed to having something slipped into your rear, you can gradually increase the size of the anal vibrator. One great tip is to find an anal training kit that includes anal vibrators from small to large.
How to Use an Anal Vibrator for Women Flying Solo
For my single, female readers, the following will describe how to use an anal vibrator for women. So, before entering the world of anal play, you must choose an anal vibrator that suits you. This article explains the wide variety of anal vibrators available including hand-held, butt plugs and multi-function vibrators.
Then, after following the 4 steps above, find a comfortable position. I would suggest simply lying on your back, as you would use a vaginal vibrator. However, you could also squat, get into the doggy-style position, or chest down and bottom in the air position (whichever allows you to have easier access to your bottom).
Finally, take it slow and easy, taking time to get yourself fully aroused before slipping in your anal vibrator. I would also suggest to keep your anal vibrator turned off until you get used to having something in your backside. Once you feel comfortable and enjoy the feeling, then try different levels of vibration until you find that sweet setting that sends you over-the-top.
How to Use an Anal Vibrator for Men Flying Solo
If you’re a man that’s curious about anal stimulation and that coveted p-spot orgasm, the following is how to use an anal vibrator for men. Just as I suggested for single gals, you guys need to find the perfect anal vibrator that suits your needs. There are several male vibrators on the market as well as prostate stimulators.
Next, after choosing your anal vibrator, follow the steps above. Then, find a comfortable position to try your anal toy. The best positions for men are whatever you’re comfortable with like standing in the shower, squatting, lying on your back or standing with one foot up on a stool. From there, it’s simply a matter of relaxing and easing the toy inside.
Oftentimes, male anal vibrators and prostate stimulators have a remote control. This allows for you to slip the vibrator in and control the level of stimulation with one hand as you pleasure yourself with the other. However, some men say they don’t need penile stimulation during anal penetration because the p-spot stimulation does the trick.
How to Use an Anal Vibrator for Couples
Anal sex between couples is an intense sexual act that requires a great deal of trust. But it does give you the unique ability to pleasure one another in a different way. So, here are my tips on how to use an anal vibrator as a couple. Just remember, consent is important and dick slips aren’t fooling any of us.
Anal Stimulation
Anal stimulation for both men and women can induce some pretty incredible orgasms. For women, the act of anal stimulation can take her from being on the verge of orgasm, to exploding in a split second. Additionally, men have the same reaction or can climax from stimulation of their p-spot alone.
So, finding an anal vibrator for him and her can enhance your bedroom sessions and spice up foreplay, oral sex and intercourse. Take turns stimulating one another or find his and her vibrating butt plugs and turn sex from ordinary to extraordinary.
However, keep in mind that you should never use the same anal vibrator in the vagina as it can cause urinary tract infections and bacterial infections in the vagina.
Double Penetration
Double penetration is something that many women find exciting. The sensation of being completely full as well as the pressure on the g-spot makes for earth-shattering climaxes. As a couple, you can achieve double penetration a few ways. For instance, she can use an anal vibrator in the missionary position while you enter her vagina.
Or, you can hold an anal vibrator in place, while in the doggy-style position. Additionally, there are cock ring style anal vibrators that allow you to either enter her vagina or anus, depending on how you wear the device, while using the vibrating attachment in her other opening.
Pegging
Pegging is a term used to describe the act of anal intercourse with him by his female partner. This is achieved by using a strap on dildo or anal vibrator. Again, this can be a very touchy subject and isn’t something all men are willing to do. Therefore, as mentioned above, it is crucial that you discuss this with your partner first, in a loving, safe and comfortable environment.
The best part of pegging for couples is that you can get into the same positions you do when having vaginal intercourse. So, there are no special positions you have to master and no magic way of doing things. It’s simply a matter of finding the positions that you enjoy and are most comfortable for you both.
And the bonus? Being in the other person’s shoes… then you’ll know why he gets those calf cramps or she why she complains of getting her head banged against the headboard.
The Bottom Line on How to Use an Anal Vibrator
The bottom line on how to use an anal vibrator is, in summary, to enjoy it. After all, that is what sex is all about, right? So, take a look around at the types of anal vibrators that are available. Then, be sure and find a lubricant that is long lasting and compatible with your anal vibrator. Then, relax, take your time and slowly learn how fantastic using an anal vibrator can be.
Coming Soon: A Guide to All Things Anal!
As many of you probably know, this is my fledgling blog; in its early stages and preparing for big things in the very near future. One of those big things will be another blog on anal sex. No, I’m not obsessed with booty sex. It’s simply that I want my readers to enjoy a full, fabulous and fun sex life in the safest ways possible. So, while this blog may not be for you, the next one may be.
And if you have any suggestions, please feel free to leave a comment.
That being said, over the next weeks you’re going to see an exciting change. I will be including exclusive graphics and photographs to enhance the words and help you see what I am writing about. Plus, I am working on some really fun blogs including DIY sex toys as well as tutorials on how to use a vibrator on a woman and much more. So, stay tuned and share with your friends!
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