Types of Sexual Restraints

By Cassie Mørch / June 14, 2023

The world of sexual restraints is as diverse as it is exhilarating. From bondage ropes to genital restraints, there are so many types of sexual restraints for exploring dominance, submission, and the thrill of the taboo within the safety of your own boundaries.

In this comprehensive guide, we’ll delve into the many types of restraints available, discuss the materials they’re made from, and explore different fastening mechanisms. This guide caters to both novices just starting their journey into BDSM and seasoned enthusiasts looking to expand their knowledge.

Safety and consent are cornerstones of any form of BDSM play, so I will also offer some essential advice on practicing bondage play safely and consensually. Let’s buckle up and get to it, shall we?

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Different Types of Restraints: A Spectrum

From the classic allure of handcuffs to the intricate artistry of bondage ropes, the world of sexual restraints is as diverse as it is thrilling. Let’s explore some popular types!

Bondage Rope

Bondage rope is the Picasso of restraints – versatile, expressive, and perfect for creating intricate designs on the human canvas. It’s ideal for a simple sexy knot and also for those who want to weave a deeper sense of artistry into their BDSM play.

Not only does it allow for a virtually unlimited number of binding positions, but it also adds a sensual aesthetic element to your playtime.

One word: versatility. A bondage rope gives you the freedom to explore various positions and restraints without the need for additional equipment. Plus, the process of tying and being tied can be an intimate, sensual experience.

However, you might not be able to enjoy all the benefits of boindage rope if you’re a complete bondage beginner or just not that into all the tying and knots. Let’s check out some more beginner-friendly restraints below!

Bondage Tape

Simple yet effective, bondage tape is another versatile addition to any restraint repertoire. What makes bondage tape different from your regular duct tape? It sticks to itself, not your skin, making it a great choice for those new to the world of restraints. It’s super safe and easy to use!

If you’re looking for a gentle introduction into the world of bondage, look no further. Bondage tape is easy to apply, comfortable to wear, and just as easy to remove without any residue. If you’re in a hurry to remove it, a pair of safety scissors will easily cut you free.


Nothing screams authority and dominance like a pair of shiny handcuffs for sex. They’re simple to use, sexy, and can transform your bedroom into a realm of playful power dynamics.

They’re a staple in many a bedroom drawer and offer a quick and easy way to experiment with restraints. They come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. There are silicone cuffs, metal cuffs, leather cuffs, and even cuffs made specifically for your ankles! Some are flexible, some are adjustable, and some even have a lockable feature for some serious submission.

Handcuffs provide a sense of control and submission that’s both tangible and immediate. Plus, they’re relatively easy to use, making them perfect for beginners and experienced kinksters alike!

Types of Full Body Sexual Restraint Systems

Ready to take it up a notch? A full-body restraint system is your next step. Typically featuring cuffs for the wrists and ankles attached to straps or harnesses, a full-body restraint system allows for numerous positions and a whole lot of fun.

These are the comprehensive packages of the restraint world, offering a multitude of options to restrict movement in one device! Perfect for those craving total surrender or control but want everything they need in one product.

Full-body restraint systems are often a great way to engage in some light predicament bondage, as the arms, wrists, or legs are restrained to another body part that will be then be pulled on if the cuffed bits are tugged on. You will be be restrained by your own body with these devices. The sense of surrender and the eroticism that comes with full-body restraint can be a massive turn-on for some. Plus these systems are adjustable to comfortably fit a range of body sizes and types.

Under the Bed Sexual Restraints

Why bother with a four-poster bed when you can turn your regular one into a playground of pleasure with under the bed restraints?

These systems are versatile, easy to install and remove, and they don’t require any permanent fixtures to your furniture. They’re great for spontaneous fun whenever the mood strikes.

The mere convenience of under-the-bed restraint systems is very impressive. The straps are fully adjustable to fit any size mattress, they’re machine washable, and you can simply store the straps under your bed and put the cuffs away when you’re not using it!

Sportsheets Under The Bed Restraint System
Sportsheets Under The Bed Restraint System


Bringing together the wrists and ankles in a classic bondage position, the hogtie restraint is an all-time favorite amongst many BDSM enthusiasts.

If you enjoy vulnerability and helplessness as part of your play, the hogtie will deliver. Remember to check in with your partner and ensure they’re comfortable at all times. The positions you can explore with hogtie are limited but they are great for exploring a very vulnerable disposition during your kinky sessions.

Strap your sub in and play with them however you would like with this little device!

Spreader Bar

A BDSM spreader bar is designed to keep the legs or arms apart, offering an enticing view and easy access.

From a visual and psychological standpoint, spreader bars can be incredibly stimulating. They limit mobility and enhance vulnerability, which can be a thrilling dynamic in the bedroom.

Spreader bars will often have extra attachment points that allow you to secure your wrists to the spreader bar while your ankles are restricted as well!

You’re probably wondering what sex with a spreader could look like with so many options and positions available. Check out Edwina’s blog post on the best spreader bare positions for some inspiration!

Types of Over the Door Sexual Restraints

Turn your bedroom door into a bondage playground (suitable for aerial acrobatics) with these over door restraints. Drape these babies over a closed door and enjoy a plethora of new sex positions and enhanced angles with this vertical bondage play.

Most over the door restraints are fairly easy to set up and remove. No fixtures or permanent home renovations needed for this kind of fun! Since they mostly consist of straps and hooks, they’re also super easy to store without taking up too much space.

They’re often quite versatile, and can add a new level of excitement to your play. Plus, they’re perfect for those with limited space or who need to keep their kink on the down-low.

Bondage Board

This portable piece of furniture allows for many different positions and is perfect for those looking to explore more intense bondage scenarios, again, without any permanent fixtures required in your home!

Bondage boards are a great way to safely explore more advanced bondage positions. Plus, the portability means you can bring the board wherever your naughty adventures take you. It’s like having a tiny BDSM dungeon with you on the go!

Bondage Pillows

Designed with comfort and flexibility in mind, bondage pillows can help make certain positions easier and more enjoyable. You can use them enhance your regular sexual routine with better angles for more comfort and deeper penetration. And if you’re looking for a little more spice, these sex pillows offer attachment points and different accessories to restrict your mobility.

Whether you’re looking to spice up your sex life or relieve some physical strain during your kinky play, a bondage pillow can be a fantastic addition to your sexual restraint play!

Thigh Sling

These clever devices take the stress off your legs and lower back (perhaps even your own arms), making certain positions more comfortable and sustainable.

If you enjoy positions that require a bit of leg lift, but find holding them up a chore, a thigh sling could be your new best friend. Fully adjustable to encourage the angles that feel the best for you!

Thigh Cuffs

Similar to handcuffs, but adding your thighs into the mix! Thigh cuffs provide a new layer of control and can be used in conjunction with other restraints for added excitement.

They’re a great way to introduce a new element of restraint without becoming too complicated or intimidating.

Types of Genital Sexual Restraints

Yes, you read that right. These devices add a whole new level of intensity to your play. For all those advanced kinksters who enjoy a bit of pain with their pleasure.

There are several kinds of gential restraints:

  • Vulva restraints: A clamp of some sort attached to either the labia or the clitoris with a leash or a different sexual restraint attached. Ideal for anyone who want to involve their most sensitive spots in their bondage play.
  • Penis or ball restraints: There are so many variations of cock and ball devices that are ideal to attach to any other sexual restraint. Some of them are designed to pinch, stretch, or restrict the genital in some way in addition to being attached to restraints. Although, some are relatively simple and allow you to take your penis out for a little walk or tug, like the one pictured below.
  • Restraints with nipple clamps: While nipple clamps in themselves can provide quite a bit of stimulation, imagine what intense sensations could arise when you attach them to a collar, a ball gag, or a leash!

If you’re looking to push boundaries and explore some spicy new sensations, genital restraints can provide a tantalizing mix of pleasure and pain.

Materials for Different Types of Sexual Restraints

When it comes to sexual restraints, the material can make a big difference in how suitable a product is for your personal level of experience. So, let’s go over some common materials and their pros and cons!


Aesthetically and tactilely pleasing, leather brings a sense of classic BDSM enticement. It’s often a bit more suitable for heavy duty bondage, but can be pricier and requires special care and maintenance to keep it supple.


Metal restraints like handcuffs or shackles offer a high level of control. They’re durable and easy to clean but can be uncomfortable if worn for extended periods. Metal sexual restraints are not my go-to for bondage beginners.


A softer alternative to leather or metal, nylon restraints are often super adjustable, comfortable to wear, more affordable, and easy to clean. However, they may not provide the same aesthetic appeal.


Silk restraints ofte come in the shape of blindfolds or scarves that can be used to tie someones wrists or ankles. They’re super soft, smooth to the touch, and often very visually appealing. While they are perfect for sensual kinkster, they are, on the other hand, not suitable for heavy duty restraint play and can be a bit difficult to clean. Be careful when tying knots using silk scarves as the slippery slik may cause the knots to tighten.

Types of Fastening Mechanisms on Sexual Restraints

The choice of fastening mechanism can drastically impact your BDSM experience. Again, some mechanisms are much ore suitable for beginners, while advanced users crave extreme solutions. Let’s compare the most common ones!


  • Pros: Ideal for beginners. Velcro restraints are easy to adjust and remove. Comfortable to wear.
  • Cons: May not provide a strong sense of restraint, less durable.


  • Pros: Buckles offer a higher level of security and stronger sense of restraint. Authentic BDSM aesthetic.
  • Cons: Can be difficult to adjust and remove in the moment, higher level of restraint can lead to potential discomfort.

Lock and Key

  • Pros: Provides a very strong sense of restraint, can add a psychological element of control.
  • Cons: Potential for accidental lock-ins, can be difficult to remove quickly.

Safety First: Guidelines for Restraint Play

Guidelines of practicing safe restraint play.

Before diving into restraint play, remember that safety and consent are paramount. Here are some guidelines to keep your play safe and enjoyable:

  1. Consent: All parties must agree to what’s happening. Establish clear boundaries and safewords before starting.
  2. Comfort: Ensure that you’re restraints aren’t too tight. You should be able to slide a finger or two between the restraint and the skin.
  3. Care: Regularly check in with your partner. If anything feels uncomfortable, stop immediately. Never leave someone who is in sexual restraints alone in the room.
  4. Caution: Have a plan for quick release, such as safety scissors or a spare key, in case of an emergency.

Conclusion: Embracing a Tied-and-True Experience

Embracing the world of sexual restraints can open doors to new levels of pleasure, control, and intimacy. While the array of options might seem overwhelming, remember – there’s no rush. Take your time to explore, communicate openly with your partner, and most importantly, have fun.

Whether you’re a beginner looking for a gentle introduction or an experienced kinkster looking to add to your collection, there’s something out there for everyone. Always remember, safety and consent are paramount.