How to Use a Panty Vibrator – 12 Exciting Ways to Play
By Isabelle Uren / September 26, 2023
I would like to extend to you, an invitation to the Pants Party. The party, the pants …with the pants. Party with pants? Yes, that is Anchorman’s quote, but if you are looking to create your very own pants party, then you are in the right place.
Whether you choose to invite anyone else is completely up to you!
Whether you are looking for the thrill of some discreet fun out on the town or a hands-free addition to your solo routine, there are so many great panty vibrators to choose from and so many ways to enjoy them!
12 Ways to Use Your Panty for Hands-Free Thrills
The versatility of panty vibrators means they can add some excitement to pretty much any task, your creativity really is the limit here! Here are some ways you have a little more fun with your panty vibrator.
1. Discreet Public Play
Panty vibrators are ideal for some secret sexy sensations when you are out and about. Whether you enjoy the forbidden pleasure of public sex or the thrill of getting caught, getting your vibe on outside the house can be exhilarating.
What better way to take date night to the next level! Set yourself up with your panty vibrator in place and head with your partner in control of the remote. The anticipation of that first buzz will electrify your evening. You get to enjoy the sweet sensations while your partner can enjoy making squirm with the push of a button.
Other great places for discreet public play are public transport, a picnic, or a nightclub — you can even get panty vibrators that will buzz in time to the music!
2. Long-Distance Sex
Plenty of sex toys, panty vibrators included, can now be controlled from anywhere in the world. The bonus of using a long-distance panty vibrator is that it leaves your hands completely free for whatever you like. Use them to control your partner’s sex toy or stimulate other areas while putting on a sexy show for your partner!
3. Power Play
A remote-controlled vibrator is the perfect tool for some exciting power play with your partner.
Get in position and hand the controls over to them.
They are free to toy with you for as long as you can take. To up the intensity and surrender fully, you can add in some restraints and a blindfold.
You may also want to explore edging during this dynamic by having your partner stimulate you to the brink of orgasm and then letting the sensation subside before repeating the process.
The Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Vibrations Panty Vibrator comes with powerful vibrations and an easy-to-use remote, making it perfect for a little power play in the bedroom.
4. Hands-Free Masturbation
A big pro of panty vibrators is you can get hands-free stimulation during solo masturbation, which opens up a lot of possibilities.
You can use your hands for any other type of stimulation you are craving — add in some anal or nipple stimulation or even both to make for an intensely pleasurable solo session!
Also, many vulva owners also find that rocking their hips and having something to grind against can help them orgasm. Panty vibrators are great for some pillow-riding fun.
You can use any pillow but a bolster-style pillow works fantastically!
If you love rumbly vibrations from your vibrators, the We-Vibe Moxie is a great option for hands-free solo play, and the silicone is divinely soft!
5. Get Some Added Stimulation When Giving Oral
While the gift of giving is sometimes enough, it’s also nice to get a little treat of your own as you go down on your partner. A hands-free panty vibrator lets you use your hands and mouth to give your partner some loving while you let the vibrator take care of you. You can set your vibrator to your favorite setting, give your partner the control or some will even vibrate to music if you’ve got your sexy playlist in the background!
6. Dual Stimulation During Penetrative Sex
If you need clitoral stimulation to orgasm or just love the feeling of blended orgasms, a panty vibrator can be a great addition to penetrative sex (either anal or vaginal). Some are more practical than others for this and of course, you want to choose one that doesn’t get in the way of your partner’s penis or dildo. The Dame Eva II is designed to be worn as a panty vibrator but it also nestles against your clitoris during penetrative sex.
7. Slip it Inside a Strap-On Harness
If you enjoy using a strap-on dildo with your partner but want some clitoral stimulation while wearing it, a panty vibrator can be a great addition. Some harnesses come with an inbuilt pocket for a bullet vibrator, but it can be difficult to line it up with our clitoris and keep it in place as you thrust. A flat saddle-shaped panty vibrator will work best for this and might be more secure in an underwear-style harness.
8. Get a Head Start on the Foreplay
Know your partner’s coming home soon and want to give them a sexy surprise? Send them a sexy message to let them know you’ll be ready and waiting, and use your panty vibrator to get yourself going. Can you resist orgasming before they get home? Or, maybe you are ready to enjoy multiple orgasms. Either way, you’ll be especially happy when they walk through the door and so will they!
9. Add Some Excitement to Excercise Routine
Struggling to get on your yoga mat or get out for a walk? Give yourself the added motivation of an orgasm or two to help you get going! This works especially well for a little at-home yoga — wouldn’t recommend it for a studio class though! As you move through the different postures, the pressure will change and you will soon figure out which position and movements feel best! Not only does the movement add a new dimension to self-pleasure, connecting with your breath and body can make enhance those pleasurable sensations.
10. Meditation and Masturbation
Both mediation and masturbation are powerful ways to connect with your body and both have fantastic feel-good, stress-relieving qualities so why not combine them! There’s no one way to try this, but here’s an idea to get started. This works
- Once you’ve got your panty vibrator in place, find a comfy position lying on your back or propped up on some pillows.
- Begin by taking a deep breath in through your nose and sighing it out through your mouth as you relax your body. Do this a few times and as you settle into your position.
- Take slow deep breaths and feel the breath traveling all the way down to your vulva, focusing on the sensations you feel in this area.
- When you feel ready, you can turn on your panty vibrator, maybe choosing a low setting as you continue to breathe deeply and slowly, sending the energy of your breath to your vulva.
- Slowly increase the settings but try to keep breathing deeply as you orgasm.
- After you orgasm, don’t rush to get up but lie down and soak in all of that orgasmic energy!
10. Wear it While Writing an Erotic Story
Writing an erotic story for yourself or your partner can be incredibly arousing. It gives you a way to explore your fantasies — ones you would want to try or ones you are happy to keep as fantasies. It can also be a great way to share your desires with a partner. Combing the mental stimulation of writing your hottest fantasies and the physical stimulation of some vibrating panties can make for a very hot a steamy solo session!
12. Add a Little Fun to the Housework
We’ve all been there — a list of chores we know have to get done at some point but with zero motivation to do any of it! Slip your panty vibrator into your underwear and get going! Can you finish your job before your vibrator finishes you off? Ok, so this might not be the most efficient way to work, but it certainly makes it more fun!
How Do You Control Them?
Almost all panty vibrators also have some kind of remote controls. Think about it: it would be pretty hard to reach down into your underwear to press a button each time you wanted to adjust a setting!
Some come with a physical remote with buttons to control the vibration patterns and speeds, while others also have the ability to connect to an app on your phone via Bluetooth. Then, you can unlock all kinds of cool functions, including syncing the vibrations to music or your partner’s voice! You can even connect with another phone anywhere in the world through WiFi — the perfect long-distance toy.
How Exactly Do They Stay in Your Panties?
As you can imagine, vibrating panties need some kind of mechanism to stop them falling out of your panties or moving around too much.
Different types of vibrating panties secure in different ways, and some of the most common are…
A Magnet
Many panty vibrators have a magnetic disc that sticks to the underside of the vibrator through your panties. You might have already noticed this on the We-Vibe Moxie above! Just place it on the outside of the gusset of your panties with the vibrator on the inside. Of course, how well it sticks depends on the thickness of the fabric, and might not work as well with g-strings.
Our Pick: Lovense Ferri
Wings
Yeah, just like a maxi pad! Some vibrating panties secure to the sides of your panty gusset with posable wings that wrap around the fabric. These work best with gussets that are a similar width to the vibrator — not too wide, not too narrow.
Our Pick: Lock-N-Play Remote Panty Teaser
A Pocket in the Panties
There’s also another type of vibrating panties: those that come with their own panties! These are usually highly adjustable panties with a pocket in the gusset that can accommodate a small vibrator, usually a bullet vibrator or small flat vibrator. They can be super fun, but sometimes it can be a bit of a gamble whether the pocket will be in right place for you.
Our Pick: Lovehoney Hot Date Vibrating Panties
Insertable Vibrators
If you prefer some more g-spot rumbles, then you can opt for an insertable wearable vibrator. These are usually egg-shaped vibrators that buzz up against your g-spot, and sometimes also have an arm or tail that sits next to the clitoris, too. Since these don’t have to attach to your panties, you don’t have to worry about them falling out or moving too much.
Our Pick: Lovense Lush 3
Butterfly Vibrators
Finally, we have butterfly vibrators, which are just as cute as the sound! These are most often clitoral vibrators, but instead of attaching to your panties, they have their own straps that go around your thighs and hips. Some also have insertable, dildo-like parts that help them stay anchored in the right place. They can be more secure than other vibrating panties, but might not be the most practical for wearing under clothes.
Choosing Your Panty Vibrator
Now you know all the fun you can have with the simple panty vibrator, here are my top picks. When choosing a panty vibrator, much like any sex toy, it’s important to know what type of stimulation you enjoy and what you want to use it for to help you get the perfect match.
Best Long-Distance Panty Vibrator: Lovense Ferri
The Lovense Ferri is an app-enabled panty vibrator that uses a magnet to attach the device securely to your underwear so you don’t have to worry about it moving around or falling out. The Lovense app is known for being one of the most reliable for long-distance sex toys and offers a pretty amazing range of functions, including sync to music and unlimited patterns.
Best Rumbly Vibrator: We-Vibe Moxie
We-Vibe is known for high-quality vibrators with deliciously rumbly vibrations, and the Moxie is definitely one of the rumblier panty vibrators out there. The silky soft vibrator attaches to your underwear with the magnetic clip and can be controlled using the remote or app. I will say this isn’t the quietest panty vibrator out there, so it’s best for at-home use rather than for discreet public play.
Best for Wearing During Penetrative Sex: Dame Eva
The small shape and flexible arms make the Dame Eva a perfect addition to penetrative sex. You don’t even need to wear pants to enjoy its vibrations! The flexible arms nestle inside your labia holding the body against your clitoris as you enjoy hands-free vibrations during penetrative sex. This vibrator is ideal for anyone who needs clitoral stimulation to orgasm, but it probably isn ’t the best option for taking out and about due to its lack of attachment.
Best Panty Vibrator on a Budget: Satisfyer Sexy Secret Panty Vibrator
For a sex toy under $50, the Sexy Secret from Satisfyer has a lot to offer. For one, it’s app-enabled which is pretty impressive for a toy of this price! It offers some decent vibrations, although it isn’t the strongest, so it might not be the best option if you crave power. It’s also pretty quiet making a great option for discreet public play!
