How to Use a Prostate Massager for Prostate Milking

By Rachel Worthington / April 21, 2022

Prostate massage and prostate milking is something that can be super pleasurable for those with penises. But, it can also come with a lot of baggage…

If you’re curious about the best way to give your prostate some love, then you’re in exactly the right place.

We all deserve to try out an anal adventure or two!

We’ve collected everything you need to know about prostate milking and how to give yourself (or your partner) a mind-blowing prostate orgasm with a prostate massager. It is one of the best anal toys for men.

What is the Prostate?

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Let’s start at the very beginning. The prostate is part of the reproductive system of penis-owners, located between the penis and the bladder.

It’s walnut-sized gland whose job it is to secrete an enzyme called prostate-specific antigen. This makes your semen into a liquid for ejaculation and ensures that it’s fertile.

Only AMAB (assigned male at birth) people have a prostate! That means cisgender men, trans women and more.

How Do I Find It?

The prostate is located just inside the rectum, towards the front side of the body.

To find it with a finger, slowly insert a well-lubed finger 1-2 inches into the anus. The prostate will feel like a fleshy bulb on the front wall of the rectum.

What Does a Prostate Orgasm Feel Like?

If it wasn’t clear, I am not a prostate-owner. That means, very unfortunately, that I can’t give you my first-hand experience on what a prostate orgasm feels like.

However, there are lots of accounts across the internet from people who do have prostates!

Some men describe prostate orgasms as feeling like a deeper, more intense orgasm than what you might be used to. After all, it’s stimulation coming from inside the body, which can feel a lot different than stimulation of the penis or testicles. Some say that the feeling can last a lot longer, too!

Prostate orgasms also don’t have the same refractory period as penile orgasms. That means that you have the potential to orgasm again and again in quick succession — no more gatekeeping multiple orgasms, ladies!

Plus, the anus and the surrounding area are absolutely filled with nerve endings, which can feel amazing when stimulated. Not only are you getting pleasure from the prostate, but from the whole anal region.

What is Prostate Milking?

You may or may not have come across the phrase prostate milking before, but what does it actually mean?

In short, it’s where you, or a special someone, massages the prostate to the point where fluid is released. That’s right — a prostate orgasm can result in liquid coming out of your penis.

This liquid is prostatic fluid, and is pretty much ejaculate, just without the sperm, and is a natural result of the prostate being activated.

Not every prostate orgasm is guaranteed to end in this kind of ‘ejaculation’. Just like ‘squirting’ in women, it’s no indication of anything being wrong if it doesn’t happen!

How to Use a Prostate Massager for Prostate Milking

If you’re looking for something to give you that sweet p-spot pleasure, than you need a prostate massager!

There are two main types of prostate massager: manual and vibrating.

Manual prostate massagers are like dildos — they’re curved, usually with a bulbous tip, and require you to do the massaging yourself. Vibrating prostate massagers have motors that rumble up against the prostate, or rotating shafts that do the hard work for you!

Many of them can be used hands-free, kind of like a butt plug, and have extra perineum stimulation, too.

When it comes to using a prostate massager, the first step is to lube up! The anus is not self-lubricating, and it needs some help to prevent any injuries or discomfort.

We recommend using a purpose-made anal lube, which is thicker and lasts longer than regular lube. If you’re using a silicone prostate massager, stick to water-based lube to avoid damaging your toy.

Make sure to apply lube to yourself and the massager, and don’t be afraid to re-apply mid-session!

If haven’t already, you should also warm up before inserting a prostate massager.

Even if you’re an anal veteran, taking some time with a finger or smaller toy to tease the anus and relax your muscles will make it much easier to insert something bigger.

Once you’re ready, gently and slowly insert your prostate massager. If it’s a manual prostate dildo, try moving it around in small circles close to the prostate.

You can vary the pressure you apply and the patterns you make until you find what works best for you or your partner. You can also do this with a vibrating prostate massager, or you can go hands-free.

Don’t neglect other areas, either!

If you’re giving your partner a prostate massage, try using one hand to stimulate their penis or testicles at the same time for incredible blended sensations.

If you’re having a solo session, position yourself in a way that you can easily access the front and back to get the same effect.

Here are Some Prostate Massagers We Love!

Aneros Helix Syn V

This little prostate massager is perfect for beginner and experienced prostate players alike. Despite its size, the Aneros Helix Syn V has a sturdy inner frame and can deliver powerful vibrations to your prostate. The T-shaped arms give your perineum some love too, while also stopping it from going too far in.

Lovense Edge 2

If you want to go all-in on hands-free, then check out this prostate massager from Lovense, the masters of long-distance sex toys. This anal vibrator is perfect for partner play, and can be controlled from anywhere in the world by using its app controls. Create your own vibration patterns, sync the vibrations to music or even to the sound of your partner’s voice!

Lovehoney High Roller

If you want powerful vibrations without the high price tag, then this prostate massager from Lovehoney may just be for you. The high-quality silicone feels silky smooth to insert, and the curved shaft is design to hit your prostate perfectly. It’s a bit girthier than the previous massagers, so it may not suitable for complete beginners.

Lelo Loki Wave

For something with a bit more maneuverability, the Loki Wave probe from Lelo checks a lot of boxes. As well as rumbly vibrations, the Loki’s shaft moves back and forth in a beckoning motion for a prostate massage like no other. The rabbit vibrator-like design means that your perineum doesn’t get left out either! The Loki may not work so well for those who want a hands-free experience, however. But it is one of the most powerful prostate massagers.

nJoy Pure Wand

And finally, the mother of all massagers. The nJoy Pure Wand is famous in the sex toy world for being one of the most versatile and effective dildos out there. Some even call it ‘the squirting dildo’ for its ability to give a firm and satisfying massage. It’s equally good for manual prostate massage — it’s curved design makes it easy to use it in solo sessions as well as with a partner. Just make sure not to insert it in too far, as it doesn’t have a pronounced flared base.

If you feel like leveling up your prostate stimulation game you can try out a thrusting butt plug, a rotating butt plug, or anal beads for men.

How to Prepare for Prostate Milking

As well as what I outlined above, here are some things you can do to prepare for a prostate massage, whether you’re using a prostate massager for prostate milking, or just your finger:

  • Trim and file your nails. The anus consists of delicate tissue, and you don’t want to cause any injuries that could get infected.
  • Don’t want to go in alone? Use a finger condom or wear gloves (latex or nitrile) as an added barrier.
  • Using a prostate massage toy? Clean it first with water and a mild, fragrance-free soap.
  • If you’re the receiver, empty your bladder and bowels first before you start playing. This lowers the risks of an accident mid-massage. You can also give your anus and rectum a quick rinse in the shower with a finger to get rid of any remnants.