The 3 Best Dildos for Lesbians for Delights Without the D

Amanda Nilsen
by Amanda Nilsen
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We know it´s hard to find a good dildo for lesbians, especially in this normative society where most products are marketed for heterosexual use (not created). But luckily this is changing, and the products that are being developed now have all types of sexualities in mind and there is quite a lot to choose from. In this test, you will find the top-rated dildos for lesbians, what´s their best features and what there is to improve, how to use them, and how to take care of them.

How was the dildo for lesbians tested?

You might be asking yourself, how do we at Bedbible rate our toys, has one person tested over 500 toys? No, of course not, but have we at Bedbible reviewed over 500 toys? The answer is Yes! When we do our research, we dig deep, and we spend a lot of time and it’s not just the author of this review involved, there are multiple people.

First, this review has been set up by experts in the sex toy market, there are many many many reviews done by these experts. Then Bedbible has got their own sex toy testers, and they are not afraid to spill the T. They will give their honest opinion about the products, and explain why it’s good or bad.

But we don’t want our review to be based on one single person’s experience, so we do some more research, we read external reviews on other websites. We compare them with others and we compare them with our testers’ experiences. Then finally, more than 50 hours later, we summarize all of this, and finally, it ends up in this review.

How was the dildo for lesbians tested?

To find the best lesbian dildo for lesbians, one who matches your preferences, or even one that fits both you and your partner, you can ask yourself these questions below:

  • What size on the dildo do you want? Which length is the optimal and which girth are you looking for? If you want a long dildo, maybe you should even consider buying a double dildo. Some have more girth, some have less. If you look into Tantus Chamber (reviewed further down), you will soon see that it doesn´t have to be mega girthy for it to feel filling.
  • What kind of stimulation are you looking for? Some dildos you can do temperature play with, some have extra ridges, and if you want g-spot stimulation you should look for a bulbous tip.
  • Which material do you prefer? Always prioritize body-safe materials, that would be non-porous materials that are free from chemicals such as phthalates, such as 100% silicone, borosilicate glass, and stainless steel.
  • How do you want to use it? Do you want to use it in a harness, then you should consider one with a suction cup or flared base. Or, if you prefer masturbating in the shower, then you need a waterproof one, yeah, the list goes on…
  • What’s your budget? You will soon realize that there is a wide price range when it comes to dildos for lesbians, you can find those for less than 20 dollars and those for over 100…

So, when you know your answer to all these questions then you will know exactly what you are looking for. It’s just to find that one dildo that ticks all the boxes, but please be open-minded, some dildos will surprise you.

If you are new to sex toys, don’t worry, these questions might seem overwhelming, but we’ve got your back. In our tests we always write about the best dildo for beginners, one that is easy to use and not too pricy.

FAQ

Can you use pegging dildo for lesbian sex?
Yes, you can use a pegging dildo for lesbian sex. The pegging dildos are developed up to be used anally, but this means they can also be used vaginally. All dildos are safe for vaginal use, but only dildos with a flared base are anal safe.
Which are the best positions for lesbians using a dildo are good?
There are quite a few, and as always it's up to the imagination. But, we do think cowgirl is a good position to start of with, as it puts the receiving partner in control of how deep/hard/fast it goes. Then we can also recommend doggy style, which is the easiest to get into the thrusting movement. Here you have the space you need and possible to hold onto something for balance if needed. It also works OK when using it in missionary.
How to find a dildo for lesbians that doesn´t hurt?
When looking for a dildo you could look at how rigid and firm the core is, some find very rigid dildos uncomfortable and might need a soft one. It´s also a good idea to check if it´s got a heavy texture. But, have in mind, most of the time when it hurts to use a penetrative toy it´s because your body isn´t prepared for it. Foreplay is always important no matter if you´re by yourself or with a partner. So maybe start with caressing your body with your hands, start soft and slowly and then continue with more movements and at last internal penetration, here you can use a finger or a small dildo.
Which is the best dildo for lesbians that feels real?
We found that Tantus Chamber is the best dildo for lesbians when it comes to a realistic feeling. We recommend a bit softer dildos and just a bit of squishiness. Not too much, then it will be hard to penetrate with.

What is a dildo for lesbians?

This question could be answered differently depending on who you´re asking, but it is pretty much like any other dildo, but there might be some features that people prefer over others. Some might think that it should not be a penis replica, that it instead should be made with a more discrete look. It could be other colours, other textures and so on. Another feature that´s good for a dildo for lesbians is the possibility to use it as a strap-on, and which means it needs a flared base to fit in an O-ring. Also, this does not apply to all, but some want it to be a double-ended dildo, so two people can use it at the same time.

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The 3 Best dildo for lesbians in Test

1 Test Winner

Tantus Charmer

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This is a dildo for lesbians that´s perfect for inexperienced and experienced users and perfect for g-spotting. Of course, you can always use it for p-spotting, in other words, this is a dildo for everyone and we even want to say the best lesbian dildo!

It´s made out of a firm material, Tantus own ultra-premium silicone, always high quality with toys from that brand. It´s got a classic dildo shape but with some unique ridges. The ridges create a filling sensation as no other toy does.

Tantus Charmer works both for vaginal and anal use and is also great to use in a harness thanks to the flared base, just remember it needs to be attached to an O-ring (1,25-inch diameter).

Tantus Charmer test
Tantus Charmer features
Recommended for

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Tantus Charmer if you...
Would like to use it in a harness
Enjoy colourful dildos
Like dildos with a flexible core
Want a non-penis shaped design
Want a dildo that fills you up without having a big girth
You should NOT buy the Tantus Charmer if you...
Like dildos with flat surface
Want a dildo that´s easy to thrust
Looking for a dildo with hard core
Tantus Charmer features
Features
Length7 inches
Insertable length6,5 inches
Width1,2 inches
MaterialsSilicone 
WaterproofSubmersible  
Pros
Unique design with ridges
Possible to use for anal play
Nice texture
Firm enough to use in a strapon
Triggers muscular contraction, the same feeling as when having an orgasm
Cons
Not good for quick thrust motions
Can be difficult for beginners to use analy
Only available in one colour
Conclusion

For those who like the sensational feeling of being filled this is the perfect dildo. It´s a great dildo for lesbians thanks to its multiple ways to use it. You can use it anally, vaginally and in a harness. The flared base makes it easy to attach to an O-ring (1,25-inch diameter) and even its flexible, it´s a good strapon dildo for lesbians.

Normally when the “filled feeling” occurs it´s because of a dildo with a big girth, but not this time. This time it´s a normal-sized dildo with ridges, ridges that provides you with a unique penetrating sensation. Although the flexible core together with the ridges can be a bit inconvenient for fast thrusting movements. The ridges are also nice for rubbing against your genital parts, especially on the clitoris.

In fact, no matter if you know the feeling already or have never felt the feeling of orgasm this dildo for lesbians is a great way to trigger that feeling due to the ridges. It all begins with a slightly wider head and then the ridges go up and down, which means it will the muscles will contract. The body will react in the same way as an orgasm.

It´s got a bigger pointy tip which means it makes the perfect job for stimulating the g-spot, and even the p-spot (only people with prostate have a p-spot) is possible to stimulate.

 

2 Cheapest

Lovehoney Satisfy Me

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90/100
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80/100
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85/100
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For the one on a budget looking for a dildo for lesbians, this is it, you don´t have to look more. This is double sided dildo for lesbians, a dildo that can be used from two different ends, which means when you´re tired of it, just turn it around and use the other end.

This dildo comes with one slender slim side and one with a bulbous beginning, for both of the ends it’s hard to avoid the mid-part that also has a bit more girth.

It doesn´t have a flared base and that´s why we don´t recommend using this analy. And that´s also why it doesn´t fit in a harness. But it works fine for solo play and couples play.

Remember to only use lube on one end at a time, otherwise, it can be difficult to hold it when using, the surface becomes too slippery for normal handholding on one end.

Lovehoney Satisfy Me test
Lovehoney Satisfy Me features
Recommended for

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Lovehoney Satisfy Me if you...
Are on a budget
Like bulbous dildos
Want to have two dildos in one
Like a varied surface
Want a dildo many people can enjoy
You should NOT buy the Lovehoney Satisfy Me if you...
Want a dildo with vibrations
Want to choose from different colours
Looking for a non-flexible core
Prefer a non-varied siurface
Lovehoney Satisfy Me features
Features
Length7 inches
Insertable length7 inches
Width1,35 inches
MaterialsSilicone 
WaterproofSubmersible 
Pros
Flexible cores
Two usable ends
Nice colour
Smooth high-quality dildo
Cons
No flared base
Slippery to hold when lubed up
Conclusion

For a low price you can get two dildos for lesbians in one, the perfect dildo if you want to share with your partner but prefer different types of dildos.

One end is more of a classic dildo, with slightly noticeable small contours. The other end which seems to be the most popular one has a larger bulbous head and the middle part is also a bulbous bit.

So one end has a bit more girth and the other one is a bit slimmer, and the middle part is also with a bit more girth. It´s a smooth high-quality dildo even if it´s a cheap dildo for lesbians. The colour makes it nice to look at and also nice that it´s not shaped like a penis.

The core is very flexible and makes it great if you want to use it for g-spot stimulation. Although it doesn’t have a flared base, the bulbous side isn´t enough so we do not recommend it for anal use.

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nJoy Pure Wand

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100/100
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95/100
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100/100
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Njoy Pure Wand is a luxurious dildo for lesbians, it´s expensive but the experience itself is worth it. Njoy Pure Wand is not a classic dildo, not when it comes to materials, not when it comes to shape and not feeling, but what makes it so extraordinary?

First, it´s made from steel and is heavy. The heaviness both adds a nice feeling to your hand when holding it and a nice feeling to your body parts when using it for penetration. It might seem very slim but the big ball has got 1.75 inches in diameter and feels more intense due to the weight — this makes it great for deep massage. This is also why it´s known as the squirting dildo.

The shape is very curved, and it makes it perfect for g-spot stimulation, also because of the two round heads you can use both ends for penetration and it works fine for anal stimulation too. The weight might make your hand a bit more tired than normal, but thanks to the curve it doesn´t take much effort to find the right angle.

 

nJoy Pure Wand test
nJoy Pure Wand features
Recommended for

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the nJoy Pure Wand if you...
Love g-spot stimulation
Enjoy toys that feels a bit heavy
Want to stimulat both vaginally and anally
Want to experiment with temperature play
Want to explore internal massage
You should NOT buy the nJoy Pure Wand if you...
Are looking for a soft squishy dildo
Want a bendable dildo
Like dildos with big girth
nJoy Pure Wand features
Features
Length9 inches
Insertable length8 inches
Diameter1,75 inches
WaterproofYes 
MaterialsMedical-grade stainless steel  
Weight1,51 lbs
Pros
Possible to heat and cool
Great for both anally and vaginal pleasure
You can use all lubes for this
Great for internal massage
Cons
It´s difficult to get the perfect temperature
Some might think it´s to heavy
It´s very expensive
Conclusion

This dildo for lesbians is a Delight the G-spot, thanks to the curved shaft you will find your g-spot with greater ease. It´s heavier than most dildos and together with the curved shaft, these features make a perfect lesbian dildo for an internal massage.

Deep internal massage requires deep pressure, which the weight of these toys helps to make possible. You can also try internal anal massage with this toy, and for the ones that have a prostate, that will be great for stimulating that too.

When using this we don´t find the classic thrust motion to be the best way, it´s better to use a kind of rocking motion, where you rock the toy back and forth. This movement will make it less heavy for your wrist and easier to use for a longer time.

Steel material heats up as quickly as it can get cold, you can easily warm it up in your hands but you can also hold it under warm water.

If you want to know more and get a personal review, have a look at this.

Show your pride!

Most people that are a part of the queer community own at least one thing with the pride colours on, some have a flag, some have a shirt, and some have got paintings. Yeah, there are a lot of different things to get with the beautiful pride colours, and it´s a great way to show your pride!

Another way to show your pride is through sex toys, and why not then choose a beautiful Lesbian Pride Dild0?

Enjoy Vibrations Together

Shared joy is double joy, right? So a great way to enjoy this is by using the same sex toy, at the same time. The double dildo is a great way to do it, and of course, when your partner isn´t in the mood you can still enjoy it by yourself. Why not use it for double penetration and maximize the stimulation?

Strap-Ons Perfect for Lesbians

It can be difficult to find strapons for lesbians, some are too much a penis look-a-like, some have a too stiff core which can be a bit uncomfortable when used vaginally, and some are just too flexible. Also, a perfect strapon depends on the mode, just like all the other sex toys. There are so many out there and some are definitely better than others so here are three products we recommend for lesbians.

How to use a dildo for lesbians

There are different didos for lesbians and therefore, different ways to use them. Some are easier to use and some require both patience and practice. Most of the recommended dildos for lesbians can be used solo and together with a partner. There is one thing to always remember when using sex toys  – use lube, and choose one that´s right for the material of your sex toy. For example, if you are using a silicone dildo you should not use a silicone lube, you need to use a water-based lube instead. Always use the opposite.

How to use a dildo for lesbians

Use it solo

Use it solo

You can use a dildo for lesbians solo, then you don’´t have to have anyone else in mind, just me, myself and I. If you get a dildo with suction cup you can stick it to any flat surface and ride it, or you can hold it in your hand and penetrate yourself, or just caress your sensitive erogenous zones with it. If you use it for penetration, we recommend you to use it with a vibrator – be prepared for a great orgasm explosion.

Use it as a strapon

How to use a dildo for lesbians

If you buy a dildo with a suction cup you can easily use it in a harness and then you´ve got a strap-on. This gives you the option to use it in different positions for lesbians, and penetrate with the thrust motion

How to use a dildo for lesbians
How to use a dildo for lesbians

Use it with your partner

Use it with your partner

If you buy a double dildo for lesbians, you can both use it at the same time. This is one of the few positions where you easily can have eye contact. The best position to use a double dildo for lesbians is when you sit face to face and wrap your legs around each other.

How to clean a dildo for lesbians

You should always clean your lesbian dildo before you use it for the first time and after every time you use it. If it´s waterproof you should rinse it under water, soap it in, rinse it off and then let it air-dry. If it´s not waterproof, then you can use a damp cloth and wipe it, also buy some cleaning spray made especially for sex toys.

Porous
materials

Soft plastic, hard plastic, jelly, rubber, Cyberskin are all porous materials, meaning that small particles and bacteria can penetrate the surface. This makes it impossible to completely clean these types of materials.

Therefore, it is recommended that you use a condom with these types of toys, especially if you are sharing them. Clean these toys with mild soapy water and dry gently with a towel. These materials are more easily damaged, so be sure to be gentle and make sure your toys are completely dry before storing.

Non-propous
materials

Silicone, glass, stainless steel and some hard plastics can all be washed using a mild soap (like you would use on your body) and warm water. Just be careful if your toy contains electrical parts.

Silicone and stainless steel toys without any electrical parts can also be boiled for sterilisation.

The toys with electrical
components

If your toys contain electrical components, be extra careful when cleaning them and always check the instructions provided with the toy. You can use a gentle cloth and soap to wipe or sex toy cleaner or cleaning wipe to down your toy, making sure that no water comes into contact with the electrical parts.

Author
Amanda Nilsen
Amanda Nilsen
Age: 26
Gender: Female
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Sex toy experience: Experienced
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