10 Best Gay Male Sex Toys
I’ve consulted with our Bedbible Tester Team to find the best gay male sex toys out there. I’ve picked out a bunch of different types of sex toys, from large anal toys to ass masturbators, so there should be something for everyone in this review. I’ve gone over the main pros and cons of each item, and included some insights from our testers’ in-depth reviews so you know exactly what you’re getting!
Best Butt Plug | Best Dildo | Best Vibrating Plug | Best Prostate Massager | Best Prostate Vibrator | Best Anal Beads | Best Tunnel Plug | Best Inflatable Toy | Best Cock Ring | Best Anal Masturbator |
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Colt XL Big Boy Butt Plug | Tantus General | Lovense Hush 2 | SquarePegToys Mega Milk’it | Nexus Revo Extreme | Cannonballs Large Anal Beads | Oxy Ass Anchor Expanding Butt Plug | b-Vibe Expand Plug | Oxballs Tri-Sport | Fleshlight Ice Butt |
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How We Test gay male sex toys
We’re a team of 340 sex toy testers and 13 sex toy experts.
To find the very best gay male sex toys, our testers tried and reviewed 285 different products in this category.
Bad or even just mediocre gay male sex toys didn’t make the list!
In total, we’ve thoroughly tested and reviewed 1255 toys over the past 6 years.
We even lab-tested some to get objective data.
Read more about how we test products.Table of contents (16)
Best Butt Plug Colt XL Big Boy Butt Plug
- Large silicone butt plug
- Slim neck and flared base for wearable comfort
- 3 inches in diameter at widest point.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Comfortable to wear long-term
- ✅ Made of body-safe silicone
- ✅ Firm enough to provide some good stretching
- ✅ The weight helps put pressure on the prostate
Cons
- ❌ Requires plenty of experience and warm-up
Why I Chose It
The Colt XL Big Boy Butt Plug takes the cake as the Test Winner in this review because it’s a great crowd-pleaser as far as gay male sex toys go. It’s made of body-safe silicone so you know it’s very durable and long-lasting compared to to TPE or PVC toys. Our tester, Devon, who is very experienced with anal play, was very impressed as he found it “gives a unique feeling of being very filled without being overwhelming.”
Thanks to the slim neck, it is “more comfortable for longer term wear such as walking around the house or engaging in other physical activities”, so it’s also perfect to wear during solo play, or as a warm-up for sex.
Devon really appreciated how the large body could put pressure on his sphincters and prostate without being overwhelming. This constant pressure on the prostate also meant that “engaging in coitus is a wonderful and unique experience” while wearing this butt plug.
Best Dildo Tantus General
- Large, beaded dildo with a flared base
- Rounded tip and smooth texture along the shaft
- Diameter of 2.2 inches at widest point.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Rounded tip makes insertion more intense
- ✅ Premium quality silicone
- ✅ Can be used with a strap-on harness
- ✅ Beaded design offers a varied sensation during penetration
Cons
- ❌ No suction cup base
- ❌ Dust and lint stick to it very easily
- ❌ Not very curved for targeted p-spot massage
Why I Chose It
I actually had the pleasure of testing the Tantus General myself. Despite using it only vaginally, I immediately knew it would be much better suited for more advanced anal play. It definitely deserved a spot in this list of gay male sex toys. The slightly beaded design makes penetration feel slightly more dynamic than a regular dildo. The length and girth are also perfect for those who have plenty of anal experience.
The rounded tip could be both a pro and a con. Newbies may be a bit intimidated by the blunt shape. However, advanced users may enjoy the challenge of the lack of a taper to help them insert the dildo, since this puts more pressure on the sphincter and makes for a more intense experience.
I always prefer it when dildos have a suction cup base, and this, sadly, does not. Still, the flared base can easily fit into a strap-on harness with an appropriately sized o-ring. It’s made of high quality silicone and therefore super easy to keep clean in between uses. With very little maintenance, the Tantus General could last a lifetime!
Best Vibrating Plug Lovense Hush 2 Large
- Large vibrating butt plug
- Tapered tip and neck with a T-bar base
- Diameter of 2.2 inches at widest point
- Connect to the Lovense Remote app for unlimited vibration settings, interactive features, and long-distance play.
Vibrations
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ High quality construction
- ✅ Sleek and elegant design
- ✅ App-controls really add to the versatility
- ✅ Reliable app connectivity
Cons
- ❌ Too loud for public play
- ❌ Firm material can make it difficult to insert and remove
Why I Chose It
The Lovense Hush 2 Large is a premium quality vibrating butt plug with an impressive size and some impressive app-controlled features. Looking for a gay male sex toy that will rumble you into oblivion? You’re in the right place.
I think the size is perfect for very experienced anal adventurers looking for an advanced level butt plug. The size and firmness of the plug is stimulating enough as is. Our tester, James, thought it felt amazing and especially liked how the tapered neck of the plug means that “it feels so good when it’s in place”.
In terms of vibrations, the sensations are powerful and super fun to use because of the app controlled settings. James and his partner had a lot of fun playing with these controls but “unfortunately the vibration is just too loud to use in public”, which was one of its main appeals to him originally.
The drawbacks are definitely the firmness. With something so large, the firmness can make it uncomfortable during insertion and removal. Luckily, the Lovense Hush 2 is available in a few different sizes!
Best Prostate Massager SquarePegToys Mega Milk’it Prostate Massager
- Large silicone prostate massager
- Wearable design with a curved T-bar base
- Soft and squishy
- Diameter of 2.25 inches at its widest point.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ 100% platinum-cured silicone
- ✅ Intense sensations and pressure on the prostate
- ✅ Suitable for long-term wear
- ✅ Super easy to clean and sterilize
Cons
- ❌ Even experienced users can find it difficult to insert
Why I Chose It
I picked out the SquarePegToys Mega Milk’it as the best prostate massager out of all the gay male sex toys because of the intense pressure it puts on the prostate. That’s right, it’s not vibrations or rotations that massage the prostate directly, it’s the sensation of fullness and the unique pressure that stimulates the area. It is definitely not a beginner-friendly shape or size, but it’s a perfect match for those with plenty of experience looking for something a bit extreme to play with.
The unique egg-like shape with the spikey texture on one side felt amazing according to our tester, Allen. He already owns a few prostate massagers, and he noted that all work the same way and provide the same kind of stimulation that’s limited to one small area. When he first inserted the Mega Milk’It, he said: “I think my brain short circuited”.
“The Mega Milk’it due to it’s overall size and its concave side with ample ridges felt like someone was simultaneously fisting me while trying to squeeze my prostate”.
Because of how soft and squishy the silicone is, it doesn’t feel as intimidating as it looks. However, along with the lack of taper, this does mean it’s difficult to insert at first. Allen did have to experiment with his approach a few times before he had some luck.
Best Prostate Vibrator Nexus Revo Extreme
- Vibrating and rotating prostate massager
- Textured perineum stimulator
- Two motors power the 6 vibration settings and the multi-directional rotations
- Physical remote control included.
Vibrations
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Ergonomic shape targets and massages the prostate well
- ✅ Powerful motors
- ✅ Great quality construction
Cons
- ❌ No give or flexibility
- ❌ Can slip out easily
Why I Chose It
If you prefer vibrating prostate massagers over manual ones, I highly recommend the Nexus Revo Extreme. This gay male sex toy offers two-directional rotations as well as vibrations. All settings can be controlled independently of each other with the included remote control. The textured pad on the base also provides some additional stimulation to the perineum.
At first, our tester, Jason, had a hard time inserting the tip “due to how blunt the head is”, as well as the size and firmness of the toy. Even more advanced users might need some warm-up before embarking on this journey.
Once the Nexus Revo Extreme is in all the way, though, “you will have an amazing very full feeling with really good contact to the prostate.” As far the motorized elements go, Jason was taken a bit aback by the sensations:
“The combination of the size and the double whammy of the vibrating and rotating motors made me get lost in a world of pleasure that lasted as long as I could take it.”
Best Anal Beads Cannonballs Large Anal Beads
- Large silicone anal beads
- Thick safety loop
- Each bead is 1.6 inches in diameter.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Plenty of space between each bead for an intense removal
- ✅ Made of body-safe silicone
- ✅ Easy to clean
Cons
- ❌ Lack of taper could make the first bead tricky to insert
Why I Chose It
The Cannonballs Large Anal Beads definitely take the cake as the best anal beads in this review of gay male sex toys. The beads are large and in charge, made of super firm silicone, and with no taper whatsoever. They’re designed to feel very intense and be enjoyed by those with lots of anal experience.
While our tester, Tom, was a bit intimidated by the rigid feel, but, apparently, “the firmness of the silicone made it easy to guide in deeper” as he tried to insert the beads at first.
Of course, anal beads don’t feel like much when they’re inside (yes, even these large ones!). But Tom noted that “with a little tug and push, the balls gave a delightful feeling moving inside of me”
The lack of taper may deter less experienced users, but this design combined with the amount of space between each bead makes for a pretty intense sensation both during insertion and removal. For Tom, the winning move was when his partner pulled out the beads a at “steady medium speed” while he reached orgasm!
Best Tunnel Plug Oxy Ass Anchor Expanding Butt Plug
- Hollow ass anchor with a tulip shape design
- Made of smooth liquid silicone
- Bulb diameter is 1.6″ when collapsed and 2.95″ when fully expanded.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Makes you feel incredibly full
- ✅ Hollow design allows for creative anal play
- ✅ A great way to warm up for larger objects
Cons
- ❌ Difficult to use my yourself
- ❌ Not ideal for anyone with mobility or grip issues
Why I Chose It
The Oxy Ass Anchor Expanding Butt Plug is one of the best hollow butt plugs that we’ve tested here at Bedbible. It’s made of super smooth and soft silicone so it durable, easy to sterilize, and not as intimidating as a metal or glass one. It’s a high quality gay male sex toy that has a pretty good size for most experienced anal adventurers.
Our tester, Felicia, was surprised by how much she loved the feel of the plug once it was in, and expanded: “The large base it has is far more comfortable than I expected it to be, and the hole in the bottom made it so that there was a bit of a “breeze” coming up the tunnel. This was a wild sensation for me, and definitely shivered my timbers!”
This hollow design helps with the ‘full’ sensation but also gives full access to the rectum so you can explore more creative anal play.
Since you have to squeeze the bulb together to insert the plug, it can be difficult to do alone. As far as cleaning goes, it can also be tricky to clean as you have to get in between each “petal” and they natural want to be in an expanded position.
Best Inflatable Toy b-Vibe Expand Plug
- Inflatable prostate massager
- Vibrations in the shaft and the base
- Diameter of 1.5 inches at the widest point (not inflated)
- Physical remote control works up to 30 ft away.
Vibrations
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Inflates to 3 different set sizes
- ✅ Storage bag included
- ✅ Made of body-safe silicone
Cons
- ❌ Does not inflate to a very large size
- ❌ Vibrations are mostly felt in the base of the toy
Why I Chose It
Of all the inflatable anal toys I have seen in my time as a sex toy reviewer, the b-Vibe Expand Plug is one of the most impressive ones I’ve encountered. It doesn’t offer the largest size ever, but it is without a doubt a high quality item with some wonderful added vibrations. Most inflatable toys are made of latex, so the b-Vibe Expand Plug starts off by getting some points from being made of non-porous silicone. This makes it super easy to keep clean even though it’s only splashproof.
Allen, our tester, loved this plug. After years of trying to find a plug that would fit perfectly and stay put during use, he found the perfect product. Although, he didn’t find the vibrations to be quite powerful enough and the size wasn’t satisfying: “I love the creativeness, but sadly for a size king like myself, the expanding element doesn’t really feel like much for me”.
Still, I think the features could be a hit for less experienced users. The vibrations are felt in both the shaft and the perineum stimulator, and they’re even controlled by a remote that works form up to 30 ft away! The ergonomic shape is designed to put pressure on the prostate even when it isn’t inflated.
In my humble opinion, this plug is very much worth trying out as a gay male sex toy. Luckily, Allen also shared that “the Expand Plug is still one of the best plugs I’ve used to this day, so I don’t really mind if all the other features aren’t instantly sending me into orgasmic bliss.”
Best Cock Ring Oxballs Tri-Sport Cock Ring and Ball Sling
- 3-in-1 cock ring and ball sling
- Made of stretchy TPE
- Fits most penises.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Surprisingly easy to use
- ✅ Very stretchy and durable
- ✅ Enhances and maintains your erection
Cons
- ❌ Can get slippery with lube
- ❌ Surface attracts dust
Why I Chose It
I picked out the Oxballs Tri-Sport Cock Ring because it’s a great quality product. It’s one of the most sturdy yet comfortable cock rings we’ve tested here at Bedbible. Even though it can look a bit complicated to use, our tester, James, “didn’t really have much of an issue and although it might look slightly intimidating in photos, it’s surprisingly easy to use and feels great!”.
Putting it on actually is a “a nice experience because the material of the Oxballs Tri-Sport is incredibly stretchy”. While I would prefer this to be made of non-porous silicone, this kind of stretch is mostly available with TPE products. Since it’s not being used internally, the porous material shouldn’t be a huge problem if cleaned properly between uses.
“The Tri-Sport felt very much like a regular cock ring and I liked how thick the rings were because they provided more pressure over a larger area. Overall, it felt snug and like everything was supported”.
It doesn’t feel too bulky during sex but keep in mind that the thick rings do sacrifice a bit of penis length.
Best Anal Masturbator Fleshlight Ice Butt Masturbator
- Clear anal Fleshlight
- “Crystal”-sleeve
- Hard outer case and cap for storage
- Internal diameter is 0.4 inches.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Feels very realistic
- ✅ Inner sleeve is super tight and very textured
- ✅ Great for both masturbation and partnered play
- ✅ Clear design adds visual stimulation
Cons
- ❌ The TPE is sticky and needs renewal powder to stay fresh
- ❌ Cleaning and drying takes a long time
Why I Chose It
The best masturbator in a review of the best male gay sex toys had to be an anal fleshlight. Not just any anal fleshlight. I’ve picked one that, in my expert opinion, best replicates the sensation of anal sex. Introducing the Fleshlight Ice Butt!
The Fleshlight Ice Butt is a clear fleshlight that still has realistic design features. The opening looks like an anus and the clear material allows you to see your penis going in and out of the sleeve. Having tried a few clear Fleshlights with my partner, I know how great the added visuals are for partnered play.
As far as the performance goes, our tester, Andrew, describes that “the soft sleeve has a suction feeling that grips your shaft tightly and it is lined with 4 intensity chambers along with dozens of ticklers, teasers, pleasure nubs and ribs”. The “Crystal”-sleeve is pretty impressive, especially with the internal diameter of 0.4 inches. It feels nice and tight, just like the real thing.
Comparison
Best | Best Butt Plug | Best Dildo | Best Vibrating Plug | Best Prostate Massager | Best Prostate Vibrator | Best Anal Beads | Best Tunnel Plug | Best Inflatable Toy | Best Cock Ring | Best Anal Masturbator |
Overall score | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.7 / 5.0 | 4.9 / 5.0 | - | 4.0 / 5.0 | 4.3 / 5.0 | 4.7 / 5.0 | 4.5 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 |
Bedbible rating | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.5 / 5.0 | 4.9 / 5.0 | 4.5 / 5.0 | 4.0 / 5.0 | 4.0 / 5.0 | 4.4 / 5.0 | 4.0 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 |
User rating | 4.5 / 5.0 from 2 users | 4.9 / 5.0 from 17 users | 4.9 / 5.0 from 145 users | - | 4 / 5.0 from 57 users | 4.6 / 5.0 from 42 users | 5 / 5.0 from 10 users | 5 / 5.0 from 1 users | 4.5 / 5.0 from 114 users | 4.7 / 5.0 from 115 users |
Price | Moderate | Pricey | Premium | Cheap | Premium | Pricey | Affordable | Pricey | Affordable | Affordable |
Design | 100 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 65 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 90 / 100 |
Ease of use | 80 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 60 / 100 | 60 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 30 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 75 / 100 |
Quality | 100 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 70 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 90 / 100 |
Sound | - | - | 100 / 100 | - | 80 / 100 | - | - | 60 / 100 | - | - |
Power | - | - | 100 / 100 | - | 80 / 100 | - | - | 80 / 100 | - | - |
Buzzy/Rumbly | - | - | very rumbly | - | somewhat rumbly | - | - | somewhat rumbly | - | - |
Length | 5.5 inches | 8 inches | 6 inches | 5.5 inches | 5.5 inches | 15 inches | 3 inches | 5.22 inches | 2.25 inches | 9.75 inches |
Insertable length | 4.5 inches | 7 inches | 5 inches | 5 inches | 3.75 inches | 13 inches | 2.8 inches | 4.13 inches | - | 8.5 inches |
Diameter | 3 inches | 1st bump: 1.9 inches, 2nd bump: 2.1 inches, 3rd bump: 2.2 inches | 2.22 inches | 2.4 inches | 2.1 inches | 1.59 inches | Collapsed: 1.6 inches, Expanded: 2.95 inches | 1.5 inches | Cock/Ball Holes: 1.1-1.3 inches | 0.4 inches |
Waterproof | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Splashproof | Yes | Yes |
Materials | Medical-grade silicone | Premium silicone | Silicone | Platinum silicone | Silicone, ABS Plastic | Silicone | Liquid Silicone | Silicone | TPR | Sleeve: Superskin (TPE Blend), Case: ABS Plastic |
Vibration patterns | - | - | 7 | - | 1 Steady Vibration Pattern, 2 Rotation Directions | - | - | 6 | - | - |
Vibration speeds | - | - | 3 | - | 6 Vibration Modes, 2 Rotation Speeds | - | - | 6 | - | - |
Rechargeable | - | - | Yes | - | Yes | - | - | Yes | - | - |
Battery Life | - | - | 600 minutes | - | 75 minutes | - | - | 120 minutes | - | - |
Travel Lock | - | - | Yes | - | No | - | - | Yes | - | - |
Storage Bag Included | - | - | Yes | - | Yes | - | - | Yes | - | - |
App Controls | - | - | Yes | - | - | - | - | - | - | - |
Charging Time | - | - | - | - | 70 minutes | - | - | 60 minutes | - | - |
Remote Controls | - | - | - | - | Yes | - | - | Yes | - | - |
If You’re Looking For…
- The most affordable option – The Oxballs Tri-Sport Cock Ring and Ball Sling is the cheapest option in this review.
- The best for couples – The Oxballs Tri-Sport Cock Ring and Ball Sling is great for enhancing and maintaining erections during sex, and the Lovense Hush 2 Large offers app control features that are always fun to use with a partner.
- The best option for anal stretching – The b-Vibe Expand Plug is is great for anal stretching because of the somewhat customizable girth.
Will My Sex Toy be Shipped Discreetly?
Of course it will! Discretion is always a priority when buying sex toys.
After all you don’t particularly want your mailman or neighbors knowing what you like to get up to in the bedroom!
So all shops will ship their toys in discreet packaging that will be indescernable from any other average package. In fact we’ve done a few posts that explore this very thing, reviewing the packaging from companies such as TooTimid, SheVibe, Adam&Eve, and Lovehoney.
So don’t fret, your gay sex toy won’t be shipped in a vibrating neon pink flashing box wrapped with feather boas and playing “I Want To Break Free” by Queen! Like Frankie Goes To Hollywood said: Relax!
Materials
It’s important to know what your new “best friend” is made of.
More specifically, is he porous or non-porous? Porous toys have tiny little holes (pores) in them, making it impossible to sterilize them.
They also tend to collect more dirt and debris, which can be irritating without a proper place to store your toys. Non-porous toys, on the other hand, don’t have any pores, allowing them to be both washed and sterilized. This is ideal for internal use toys since it reduces your risk of introducing unwanted bacteria into the mix.
Not to mention, soft plastics, jelly, rubber, PVC and vinyl often contain phthalates that can leach into your body!
- Porous: TPE, TPR, Fanta Flesh, Cyberskin, Superskin, vinyl, PVC, rubber, and jelly (among others!)
- Non-Porous: Silicone, stainless steel, ABS plastic, and glass.
Different Types of Gay Vibrators
There are many different types of vibrators for gay men. However, designs can vary quite a bit, and the type of toy you purchase will have a major effect on your overall enjoyment of the product.
Read through the short list below to learn about the different toy types!
- Cock Rings – These toys are designed to wrap around the penis, restricting blood flow. This causes harder, more impressive erections while also delaying orgasm for increased stamina!
- Butt Plugs – These toys are inserted inside the anus, providing a “full” feeling that can be used to enhance orgasm.
- Prostate Massagers – These toys specifically target the “P Spot”, giving users additional pleasure during sexual activities. Alternatively, these toys can also be used to achieve prostate orgasm!
- Dildos – Designed to look like a penis, these toys work great for solo and partner-based activities. Dildos can also be used for pegging.
- Strokers/Masturbators – These types of toys are designed to enhance masturbation. Designs vary, but they generally use physical movement to provide stimulation.
Reviewed by:
Devon Scott