7 Best Strap On Dildos & Harnesses
Together with the Bedbible review team, I’ve tested out a whole load of strap-on kits, strapless strap-ons, harnesses, and dildos and I’ve been through them all and selected the very best for this review! Whether you want to try strap-on sex or pegging for the first time or you are looking for your ultimate strap-on set up, I’ve got all bases covered!
Test Winner | Best for Beginners | Best Strapless Strap-On | Best Vibrating | Best Rabbit | Best Harness | Best Strap-On Dildo |
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Desire Strap On Kit | Bend Over Beginners | Strap-On-Me Bendable | Lovense Lapis | Lovehoney Desire Strapless Strap-On | Strap-On-Me Diva | Vixen Mustang |
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How We Test strap ons
We’re a team of 331 sex toy testers and 13 sex toy experts.
To find the very best strap ons, our testers tried and reviewed 90 different products in this category.
Bad or even just mediocre strap ons didn’t make the list!
In total, we’ve thoroughly tested and reviewed 1136 toys over the past 6 years.
We even lab-tested some to get objective data.
Read more about how we test products.Which Type of Strap-On Should You Buy?
- Strap-On Kits, like the Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap On Kit and the Tantus Bend Over Beginner Strap-On Kit are the most versatile come with everything you need to get started, including a strap-style harness and dildo. Some have optional vibrations and even a choice of dildos. You can also use the O-ring harness with other dildos.
- Strapless strap-ons, like the Strap-On-Me Bendable Strap-On and the Lovense Lapis, have insertable parts for the wearer and the receiver, providing stimulation for both partners at the same time.
- Strap-on harnessed, like the Strap-On-Me Diva Harness, only come with the harness and you need to add your own dildo.
- Strap-on dildos, like the Vixen Mustang, is any dildo that is harness compatible. To be able to use a dildo in a harness with an O-ring, it should have a flared or suction cup base. You will need to have your own harness.
Test Winner Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap On Kit
- Silicone vibrating dildo
- Wireless remote control
- Fully adjustable harness with 3 O-rings
Pros
- ✅ Stylish storage and charging case
- ✅ Great range of vibration settings
- ✅ Dildo is a good length
- ✅ Will fit most sizes
- ✅ Great battery life
Cons
- ❌ Button can get pressed during use
- ❌ No stimulation for the wearer
Vibrations:
Why I Chose It
I chose the Desire Strap On Kit as the overall best strap-on as it really is the full package and I think it will satisfy many different desires! I love that you can use the dildo with or without vibrations, with or without the harness, and the harness can even be used with other dildos! It’s sex toy versatility at it’s finest!
It’s also super quality for a very reasonable price! Our tester, Peter, loved it! He gave it a perfect 5/5, commenting that it put him “in absolute heaven with its powerful vibration and nice size.” He was impressed that the vibration “packs a punch” while the “sound is minimal,” so it’s nice and discreet!
I was also impressed to see the harness lives up to it’s claims that it will fit most body sizes as Peter’s partner has a bigger body and found the harness comfortable to wear! I also love that it comes with a remote control so you can easily change the settings during use! The icing on the cake is the sleek storage bag that also functions as a discreet charging bag! I’m a sucker for a good sex toy bag!
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Best for Beginners Tantus Bend Over Beginners Strap-On Kit
- Two different sized dildos
- Adjustable harness
- Bullet vibrator that fits in his mouth
Pros
- ✅ Comes with almost everything you need to get started
- ✅ Harness can be used with larger dildos as well
- ✅ Securely fits a variety of hip sizes, from narrow to 60" wide
- ✅ Everything can be well-cleaned if you are using with different partners
Cons
- ❌ Vibrator pocket does not stay in place
- ❌ Small dildo is similar to a long finger — just wear a glove and have more control
- ❌ Harness may be uncomfortable for long-term wear
Vibrations:
Why I Chose It
I love that the Bend Over Beginner Strap-On Kit comes with everything you need to get started with strap-on sex and more! It’s so great that it comes with two different sized dildos so the kit can grow with you. Or you have one to use anally and one vaginally!
Christina reviewed it for us and agrees that “this is a great beginner strap-on kit for anal or vaginal insertion.” She liked that the “reasonably-sized and über-smooth dildos” were unintimidating but still satisfying for her partner.
She also appreciated that the harness “fits quite a range of hip sizes and allows control without coming loose.” However, she did wish the some of the straps were a little softer around the edges, although it didn’t rub at all during use.
Even though they thought that the vibrator didn’t look the highest quality, they were pleasantly surprised that it had “a decently strong buzz.”
I think the versatility of this kit is where it really shines, giving strap-on newbies plenty to explore!
Best Strapless Strap-On Strap-On-Me Bendable Strap-On Small
- Egg-shaped pony
- Adjustable joint with position memory
- Flexible shaft with slightly sculpted tip
Pros
- ✅ Great quality
- ✅ Comes in four different sizes
- ✅ Stimulates both partners
- ✅ Stays in well
Cons
- ❌ Shaft was a little too flexible
Why I Chose It
One of the main complaints I see with strapless strap-ons is that they just don’t stay in — even if you can Kegel at an olympic level! However, Strap-On-Me’s egg-shaped pony seems to be much easier to hold in place!
Cassie reviewed it for us and reported that she was pleasantly surprised that it “require[d] less support than [she] thought a strapless strap-on would require!” She found that the posable mid section was “a huge win” and like that it “allowed [her] to find the perfect fit for my specific anatomy.”
As well as helping it stay in place, she commented that the “large egg-shaped bulb feels amazing since it puts so much pressure on the g-spot.” It was also nice that “the movements of the dildo could be felt in the internal pony,” adding more stimulation for the wearer.
Cassie tested out the small size and thought the shaft was “great for beginners since it’s so slim and smooth” but it’s also nice that it comes in four bigger sizes for more advanced tastes.
Best Vibrating Lovense Lapis Strapless Strap On Dildo
- 3 independently controlled vibrating motors
- Flexible neck
- App controls
Pros
- ✅ Very powerful motor
- ✅ App gives a lot of customisation
- ✅ Customizable vibrations modes
- ✅ Adjustable angles
Cons
- ❌ It can slip out
- ❌ Comes with a learning curve
- ❌ Can be tricky to adjust settings without app
- ❌ No travel lock
Vibrations:
Why I Chose It
I picked the Lapis as the best vibrating strap-on because it scored top marks for vibration – a perfect 100/100 for strength and an almost perfect 90/100 for rumbliness, which most people prefer over buzzy vibrations! It also has an impressive 3 vibrating motors that stimulate both partners. On top of that, I think the option for app control makes it so much easier to control all the settings.
Joseph reviewed the Lapis for Bedbible and was taken aback that he “could feel the motor all through [his] whole body even on the lowest setting.” He was also impressed that even though “the motors are very strong they are also surprisingly quiet,” so this is a vibrating strap-on I wouldn’t be scared to use in a shared living situation!
He also enjoyed the strapless strap-on design, commenting that it gave him “some gendergood feelings about having a penis with no obvious straps holding it up” so I can see this being a great accessory for anyone struggling with ftm genital dysphoria. Unfortunately, as is often the case with strapless strap-ons, he experienced that it slipped out and he “still needed a hand to hold it in place.”
I often recommend using a harness with a strapless strap-on for this specific reason and Joseph actually found that using a harness with the Lapis increased their pleasure as it “really presses the ribbed bottom of the shaft against you” and increases the vibration intensity.
If I was going to use the Lapis, I would only use the app to control it as the strap-on itself only has one power button, which Joseph found “can be tricky to find, especially if you’re already wearing it.” Plus, the app allows for a lot more customisation!
Best Rabbit Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On
- 2 vibrating motors in pony and shaft
- Rabbit ears to stimulate the wearer’s clitoris
- Adjustable angles
Pros
- ✅ Feels more intimate
- ✅ Stimulates both partners
- ✅ Quiet vibrations
- ✅ Lockable storage bag
Cons
- ❌ Very rigid
- ❌ Can slide out
- ❌ Difficult to change settings while using
Vibrations:
Why I Chose It
In my experience, most strap-ons focus the stimulation on the receiving partner, but I really like that this one has a lot going on for the wearer as well, with internal and clitoral vibrations!
Vicki and her partner reviewed it for us and were happy that they could “both experience some great sensations!” They thought “the vibrations [were] amazing” and definitely “increased the pleasure” they felt while using it!
They did find that it came with a bit of a learning curve and like most strapless strap-ons, it was a challenge to get it to stay in. However, “both ends hit the right spots and it was a connecting experience” that had them on the “brink of orgasm at the same time.” While strapless strap-ons can be tricky to use, they do have the advantage of feeling more intimate!
The also found that the “buttons are a bit confusing” so it’s good spend a bit of time working them out before diving in.
Vicki also discovered that she could use the strap-on as a “G-spot vibrator and a vibrating dildo,” making it a fun toy to use solo as well!
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Best Harness Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness
- Open back design
- Adjustable garters
- O-ring for dildos up to 1.6 inches
Pros
- ✅ Sexy design
- ✅ Available in 5 sizes
- ✅ Snug, comfortable fit
- ✅ Compatible with dildos up to 1.6 inches in diameter
Cons
- ❌ Requires a little extra stablization
- ❌ Doesn't come with a dildo
Why I Chose It
I reviewed the Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness and loved how sexy it looked! It was my first foray into the world of strap-ons and it really was a fantastic place to start! It’s as easy as wearing a pair of panties! It’s also super easy to slip your dildo of choice through the stretchy O-ring and you are good to go! It will work with dildos up to 1.6 inches and I found a few of my dildos worked well, including the Sportsheets Galaxie and the Vixen Mustang.
I loved the lace details and open back design and felt really sexy while wearing the harness, which added a lot to the experience! It also means it’s great for wearing a butt plug, especially a cute one, like the Rosebuds Butt Plug, because you can see the gem peeking out through the open back design. The suspenders were a little fiddly and have since been lost somewhere in a drawer but I like that you can easily remove them.
The harness is quite stable, but as the material is stretchy, I found myself needing to use my hand to stabilise the dildo at times. Another big plus is that it’s machine washable!
Best Strap-On Dildo Vixen VixSkin Mustang
- Dual density silicone
- Realistic details
- Flared base
Pros
- ✅ Feels realistic
- ✅ Hand poured platinum grade silicone
- ✅ Good amount of length
- ✅ Choice of realistic and non-realistic color designs
Cons
- ❌ Requires a lot of lube
- ❌ No storage bag
Why I Chose It
I’ve tried a whole lot of dildos in my time, and this is still my favorite! The dual density silicone is just *mwah chefs kiss!* It feels so wonderfully realistic! I really like that it’s firm enough for easy control but the soft outer layer feels satisfyingly squishy and comfortable.
I’m not a fan of realistic skin tone dildos, so I was super happy to get this in the Tie Bright design, but it also comes in three skin tones and other plain colors.
On top of all that, flared base, good length, and slight curve all make this dreamy dildo a fantastic strap-on dildo in any harness with an O-ring!
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Comparison
Best | Test Winner | Best for Beginners | Best Strapless Strap-On | Best Vibrating | Best Rabbit | Best Harness | Best Strap-On Dildo |
Overall score | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.3 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | - | 4.3 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 |
Bedbible rating | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.1 / 5.0 | 4.9 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 |
User rating | 4.5 / 5.0 from 19 users | 4.5 / 5.0 from 70 users | 5 / 5.0 from 3 users | - | 4.1 / 5.0 from 249 users | 5 / 5.0 from 1 users | 4.7 / 5.0 from 89 users |
Price | Moderate | Affordable | Cheap | Premium | Moderate | Cheap | Pricey |
Design | 100 / 100 | 60 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 100 / 100 |
Ease of use | 100 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 40 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 95 / 100 |
Quality | 100 / 100 | 75 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 100 / 100 |
Sound | 20 / 100 | 40 / 100 | - | 40 / 100 | 40 / 100 | - | - |
Power | 100 / 100 | 40 / 100 | - | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | - | - |
Buzzy/Rumbly | very rumbly | somewhat buzzy | - | very rumbly | very rumbly | - | - |
Vibration speeds | 12 | 3 | - | Preset: 3 | 12 | - | - |
Vibration patterns | 8 | None | - | Preset: 4 | 8 | - | - |
Insertable length | 7 inches | Small Dildo: 4.25 inches, Medium Dildo: 5.5 inches | Shaft: 6.1, Pony: 2.55 inches | Shaft: 5.43 inches, Pony: 3.43 inches | Shaft: 5, Pony: 4.5 inches | - | 6.5 inches |
Diameter | 1.6 inches | Small Dildo: 0.8 inches, Medium Dildo: 1 inches | Shaft: 1.06, Pony: 1.53 inches | Shaft: 1.61 inches, Pony: 1.52 inches | Shaft: 1.35, Pony: 1.51 inches | O-ring: up to 1.6 inches | - |
Waterproof | Yes (not remote) | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Machine washable | Yes |
Rechargeable | USB | No, requires 1 N-type battery | - | Yes | Yes | - | - |
Storage Bag Included | Yes | No | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | No |
Materials | Silicone | Dildos: Silicone, Harness: Polyester, Hard Plastic | Exterior: Premium silicone, Interior: ABS plastic | Silicone | Silicone | Microfibre and lace | Platinum grade silicone |
Battery Life | 45 minutes | - | - | Up to 150 minutes | 60 minutes | - | - |
Charging Time | 90 minutes | - | - | 105 minutes | - | - | - |
Remote Controls | Yes | - | - | App controls | No | - | - |
Harness Size | - | Fits hips up to 60 inches and legs up to 26.5 inches inches | - | - | - | Waist: (S) 26.7, (M) 28.3, (L) 29.9, (XL) 31.4, (2XL) 32.28 inches | - |
Adjustable | - | - | - | Yes | - | No | - |
Length | - | - | - | - | - | - | 7.5 inches |
Width | - | - | - | - | - | - | 1.6 inches |
Thigh Strap-On Harness
Thigh strap on harnesses are a great option for anyone who is unable to use a traditional strap-on harness or for anyone who enjoys riding and grinding on their partners lap!
SportsSheets Ultra Thigh Strap-On Harness
The SportsSheets Ultra Thigh Strap-On Harness is a fully adjustable thigh strap that wraps around the thigh, securing any dildo with a flared based to the wearer’s thigh.
It’s made of soft, comfortable neoprene with a velcro fastening, and can accommodate dildos of up to 1.75 inches.
Things to consider when buying a strap on
- Harness Style — You want a harness that is going to be comfortable, and supportive! There are two main options. First, strap-style harnesses, which are the most supportive but can be fiddly. Secondly, underwear-style harnesses, which offer a little less support but can feel more natural.
- Harness Material — If you want a strap on for everyday use, I would recommend going for something machine washable. However, if you are looking for more of BDMS style, a leather harness definitely looks the part!
- Dildo Size — Whoever is on the receiving end should pick the dildo. If you are using your strap-on for anal play/pegging, or you are just getting into penetrative play, I recommend going for something smaller. Check out the beginner’s option in the review for my favorite first time strap on.
- Dildo Shape — If you are looking for some delicious g-spot or p-spot stimulation, shop for a strap on that comes with a curved dildo.
- Dildo Material — As always, we recommend buying a non-toxic, non-porous dildo, such as silicone dildo.
- Dildo Compatibility — Harnesses that use O-rings can be used with any dildo with a flared base. So typically more diverse than those harnesses with a suction cup base.
- Vibrations — Some strap ons come with bullet vibrators that can be inserted into the dildo or the harness for some extra stimulation. If you crave strong vibrations I would recommend you pick a strap on with built in vibrations as the quality and strength of the vibrations tend to be better.
Strap On Sizes: Which is Right For You?
When it comes to strap-ons and strap-on kits, sizing can feel more than confusing!
That’s why we’ve created this handy guide to help you choose the best size for you and your partner.
Sizing and measuring, though it may sound boring, is an essential part of finding a strap on that feels comfortable and suits your needs perfectly.
From strapless to hollow we’ll cover the best ways to measure, get comfortable, and find your perfect strap on!
Dildo Size
- Beginners — a length of between 5-7 inches and a diameter of around 1 -1.5 inches.
- Intermediate — a length of 8-9 inches and a diameter of 1.5 – 2 inches
- Experienced — Upwards of 9 inches in length and 2 inches in diameter
A good way to tell what size you would like is by seeing how many fingers you feel inserting and using that as a rough estimate
How to measure for a hollow strap on
To do this, you’ll only need to measure for the diameter of your erect penis; the length does not matter. The canal in a hollow strap on can range from 1.25-2 inches.
Note: Use a soft, flexible measuring tape for safety!
- For this bit, you need to have an erection or as close to an erection as you can
- Take the measuring tape and wrap it around the girthiest part of your penis
- This is now your measurement in circumference, however you need to convert this to diameter
- To find the diameter, you can divide the number by 3.14 or use an online converter
- Once you have the diameter, you can shop for your new hollow strap on!
How to measure for a harness
Measuring for a harness is super easy; all you’ll need is a measuring tape!
Underwear Harness
Measuring for strap on underwear is as simple as knowing your underwear size! Sizes usually range from 4-30 in US.
Strap-Style Harness
Simply wrap the measuring tape around your waist and make a note of the size; next, do the same thing but around the upper thighs- these are the places where the harness sits. You now have your measurements and can purchase a harness that fits perfectly!
Reviewed by:
Peter Wenham