The 9 Best Strap-Ons for Lesbians, Whatever Your Style
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Types of Strap Ons Popular with Lesbians
Different types of straps ons for lesbians are held in place using different methods. We’ve included a brief overview of the different types available below for you to compare.
- Strapless Strap-On – These strap ons use a dual-end design, where one end functions as the actual “dildo” that will penetrate your partner. The other end is curved and often features a bulbed end, which is designed to be held in place by your vaginal muscles during use. Though these don’t specifically require using a harness, they can often be used alongside a harness for the best combination of control and stimulation.
- Traditional Harness – These strap ons use adjustable harnesses to hold the dildo in place. If you prefer adjustability then you’ll likely want to purchase this style. Many harnesses allow the wearer to adjust the mounting position and the band size of the harness, reducing the likelihood of your new purchase not fitting properly.
- Underwear/Boxer Harness – Essentially, this type of harness is underwear or boxers that are designed to support a strap-on dildo during use. Although more comfortable than a traditional harness design, they lack any reasonable level of adjustability.
- Vibrating Strap-On – These harnesses utilize vibrations in the harness design to provide clitoral stimulation to the wearer, often by using a bullet vibrator.
What to Consider When Buying a Lesbian Strap-On
When selecting a lesbian strap-on there are a few different factors you’ll want to take into consideration. Below, we’ve gathered a few different items for you to refer to when comparing potential toy options!
- Harness Type – Different harness designs will offer different experiences, varying in levels of comfort and control over the dildo. Some strap-ons can even be used without a harness, which may present an option worth looking into.
- Dildo Length & Girth – Although many strap-ons include a dildo alongside the strap, it’s also possible to buy a standalone harness. Regardless, strap-on sizes vary widely, giving you plenty of options when selecting a dildo. Just make sure that your dildo will fit inside of the harness if purchasing the harness and dildo separately!
- Materials – Non-porous, body-safe materials like silicone, metal, and glass are always best for internal use toys. The material used will affect how the toy “feels” when inserted, so it’s best to put some thought into this factor.
- Adjustability – Different types of harnesses will offer different levels of adjustability. Traditional harnesses have the most adjustability since they use actual straps, whereas strap-on underwear and strapless strap-ons can’t really be adjusted that much.
- Dildo Realism – This all comes down to personal preference: do you want your dildo to look like a genuine penis, or do you prefer more fantasy-inspired toys? The world is your oyster!
- Features – Many strap ons for lesbians offer additional features like vibrations (inside of the dildo itself), bullet vibrators to stimulate the wearer, and even remote controls for less-invasive operations. Consider these available options when making your selection.
- Price – Prices vary widely, so you should establish a set budget before comparing your options. Remember, bearing a brand name alone doesn’t justify paying a premium! If your preferred strap-on meets all of your requirements but exceeds your preferred price range, check to see if financing options are available.
FAQ
What Is A Strap On For Lesbians?
A strap on for lesbians is a dildo that is worn by a woman to penetrate her female partner. Strap-ons can be held in place by harnesses or harness briefs or they can also be strapless. “Strapless” strap-ons are held in place by a woman's kegel muscles so both partners are experiencing penetration simultaneously (although they can also be used in harnesses for additional support). Strap ons come in a variety of different sizes and shapes, can be used for vaginal and/or anal penetration, and can be packaged individually or with a harness.
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The 9 Best strap ons for lesbians in Test
Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Harness Kit
The Tantus Bend Over strap-on harness kit contains a washable durable harness with a soft pad at the front, 2 high-quality silicone dildos, 2 different sized O rings and a waterproof bullet vibrator. The single-speed bullet vibrator fits into a pocket in the harness itself to give the wearer some gorgeous tingly vibes. The harness itself is comfortable and is adjustable between 15-inches and 60-inches (approximately US dress sizes 4-30). It has poppers at the front and is suitable for other strap on toys. The dildos themselves are 5-inches and 6.5 inches in length and they are both curved with bulbous heads for the ultimate in sweet spot stimulation.
Pros
Cons
The Tantus Bend Over Intermediate strap on harness kit is a fabulous combination of great quality at a great price. The dildos are silky smooth silicone and the harness is completely adjustable. Some reviewers say that the bullet vibrator can’t be felt that well, if you already have a favourite bullet vibrator then you could use that instead. If you have other dildos, or want to buy other dildos then this harness will accommodate them too. As a strap on harness for lesbians, this Tantus product has the comfort, quality and versatility that you’re looking for alongside some incredible toe-curling penetration from the superb quality dildos.
Sportsheets Bikini Harness and Dildo Strap On Kit
The Sportsheets Bikini Harness and Dildo Strap On Kit is a great budget priced set. It consists of an adjustable harness – fits up to 60-inch hips, that has a decorative thong back, a silicone dildo that is 6.5-inches in length and 1.25-inches diameter. The harness is machine washable and you can use any dildo of the same diameter with it. The dildo is a fabulous colour and is the Sportsheets “Skyn” range. It has a luscious bulbous head that’s perfect for G-spot stimulation.
Pros
Cons
If you’re looking for a harness and dildo kit and don’t want to break the budget then the Sportsheets Bikini harness and strap on dildo kit is worth a look. It’s an adjustable harness with a decorative thong back and comes with a body-safe purple dildo. The harness will only accommodate 1.25-inch diameter dildos if you want to try a different dildo, so it does limit what you can use. As a strap on for lesbians, this kit is a fabulous price and looks fantastic. It’s really comfortable and simple to use, pull it on, lube up and you’re good to go!
Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit
The Tracey Cox Supersex strap on pegging kit is ideal for beginners. It’s fully adjustable – able to fit hips up to 65-inches. The harness is also fully washable and can fit a variety of different sized dildos. The dildos that come with the set are both made from body-safe silicone and have suction cup bases. The smaller is 4.5 inches insertable length and 0.87 inches diameter. It’s a smooth, gently curved petite dildo, perfect for first time vaginal or anal use. The larger dildo has gentle, undulating curves, a tapered head and is a filling 6 inches insertable length and 1.5 inch diameter. This larger dildo has a hole in the base where a bullet vibrator can fit. Speaking of which, there is a bullet vibrator in this particular kit too. It’s battery operated and has 7 different functions. If you don’t want a vibrating dildo you can place it in the special pocket of the harness so that the wearer of the harness can enjoy the vibes. Finally, the kit contains 3 different sized O rings so that you can use any different sized dildos that you have, or would like to buy.
Pros
Cons
The Tracey Cox Supersex strap on pegging kit is a perfect beginner strap on for lesbians. The different sized dildos give you the opportunity for both vaginal and anal play and you can choose whether you have a vibrating larger dildo, or if your partner wears the vibrator in her harness. Of course, if you have your own bullet vibrator then you can have both! As the harness is fully adjustable and can fit different sized dildos, you can be sure that it will be compatible with any dildos that you already have, or ones that you wish to buy. It’s a kit that will grow with your experience and your exploration. The dildos themselves can be used in hands-free solo play too. It’s a truly versatile strap on kit that is guaranteed to bring pleasure into your lives for quite some time.
Wet For Her Union Double Ended Dildo
The Wet For Her Union is strap on for lesbians with a difference. Both ends are bendable and stay in the position that they are put into, making it easily adjustable and comfortable for everyone. The dildo measures 5.9-inches of insertable length with a diameter of 1.6 inches. The shorter, more bulbous end is 2.75-inches of insertable length and has a diameter of 1.45- inches. These measurements are for the large size Union. It is also available in small and medium. The Union also comes with a USB rechargeable bullet vibrator that sends vibrations cascading through an ergonomic stimulator that is located above the vibrator, increasing sensations for the wearer. The thrusting end of the dildo is rounded and smooth for easy vaginal or anal insertion. This dildo is designed to be strapless, but it is also compatible with a number of harnesses for added control. It’s made of silky smooth silicone and is beautifully soft and designed to bring you and your lover closer together.
Pros
Cons
The Wet For Her Union is a beautifully designed strap on for lesbians. It’s made for enhancing intimacy and closeness with its strapless design. There may well be a learning curve with this dildo as some may find it difficult to keep firm control of it while thrusting into their partner. Some reviewers have said that it’s easier for the wearer to be lying on their back with their legs together while their partner rides the dildo. It is also harness compatible though. As it’s fully posable you’re going to be able to get a great fit from it and it does also come in 3 different sizes. Overall it’s a fabulous design, make sure you use enough water-based lube, for comfort as the silicone can feel a little ‘draggy’, and enjoy!
Happy Rabbit Vibrating Strap-On Harness Set
Lovehoney’s Happy Rabbit rechargeable vibrating strap-on harness set incorporates your love of rabbit vibrators with a versatile and very comfortable harness. What more could you want? This kit comes with a washable adjustable harness that fits up to a waist size of 57-inches. It also comes with 3 different sized O rings so you can use other sized dildos with it. The rabbit vibrator itself is made of velvety smooth silicone and has a beautifully shaped head that’s perfect for G-spot stimulation. It has an insertable length of 5 inches and a diameter of 1.27 inches. The shaft has 3 speeds and 9 vibration patterns and the ears have 3 rumbly speeds for some luscious clitoral stimulation. The rabbit dildo also has a suction cup base for some added hands-free play, is fully waterproof and has a travel lock for safe journeys.
Pros
Cons
The Happy Rabbit strap on kit is a perfect strap on kit for lesbians who want a versatile vibrator and a versatile harness. It’s ideal for beginners as the vibrator isn’t particularly girthy but it also offers great dual stimulation. The harness itself is fully adjustable and will accommodate up to a 2-inch diameter dildo. It’s comfortable to wear and is a secure fit, ensuring that you have full control. As it’s a rabbit vibrator, it’s not that great for thrusting, but it is incredibly stimulating either in or out of the harness. For rabbit vibrator lovers, this is a fabulously fun strap on kit.
Lovehoney Double Delight Strapless Strap-On Dildo
The Lovehoney Double Delight strapless strap-on dildo has dual sculpted shafts and a vibrating clitoral stimulator. It is adjustable too, ensuring a good close fit between you and your partner. The Double Delight is made of body-safe silicone and is fully waterproof. The thrusting shaft has 6-inches of insertable length with a 1.35 diameter. The smaller ‘pony’ shaft that is worn by the penetrating partner is 4.5-inches in insertable length. This dildo also comes with a single-speed battery-operated bullet vibrator for extra stimulation.
Pros
Cons
The Lovehoney Double Delight strapless strap-on dildo lets you have close, intimate penetration without the interference of straps. It’s adjustable and it provides a comfortable and sensual experience with added clitoral stimulation from the bullet vibrator. Some reviewers have found that it’s difficult to keep in place once aroused and some have bought harness underwear in order to make it work better. The bullet vibrator adds more stimulation and if you prefer, you could use a different vibrator with more speeds and patterns. Overall it’s a good lower priced strap on for lesbians if you want closeness without harnesses getting in between you.
Desire Luxury Remote Control Vibrating Strap-On Kit
The Desire Luxury remote control vibrating strap-on kit is a great quality product that’s going to give you a fantastic level of stimulation. The fully adjustable harness is machine washable and once adjusted to fit, holds everything in place perfectly. The dildo is a fabulous 7-inches of insertable length with a diameter of 1.59-inches. It boasts powerful vibrations with two motors, 12 different vibration intensities and 8 vibration patterns giving you customizable pleasure. The remote control is a perfect palm-size, giving you the control that you want when you want it. The dildo also has a suction cup base so you can have hands-free fun with or without the harness. The kit comes with an extra 3 O rings of different sizes so you can use whichever dildo you please with the harness. The cherry on the top of this kit is its handy storage case that lets you discreetly store this rather special kit.
Pros
Cons
The Desire Luxury remote control vibrating strap-on kit gives you everything you need for toe-curling orgasms for you and your partner. The powerful vibrator gives extra stimulation to both the wearer and the receiver and the remote control allows either one of you to control the experience. The fully adjustable harness is comfortable to wear and is easily adjustable to fit a wide range of sizes. If you wanted fun without the harness, the dildo is fully waterproof with a suction cup base allowing for more hands-free fun. Altogether this is a fabulous strap on kit for lesbians, offering a versatile and secure harness with a very powerful and enjoyable remote control dildo.
Doc Johnson Gal Pal Strapless Strap On
Doc Johnson’s Gal Pal is a strapless strap on dildo made from body-safe silicone. It’s a super-flexible dildo that has a longer insertable length of 5.5-inches and a diameter of 1.25- inches. It’s designed to hit the G-spot of the wearer and provides clitoral stimulation for both partners. The slimmer head makes for easy insertion for both vaginal and anal use and the rounded beads give you that bit more stimulation. It’s fully waterproof and it can also be used in a harness.
Pros
Cons
Doc Johnson’s Gal Pal is a flexible silicone strapless strap on dildo. Its slimmer size makes it suitable for beginners in both vaginal and anal penetrative sex. It is a very flexible dildo and some may find that it doesn’t provide the firmness needed to stay in place and to thrust well. If you’re a lover of softer toys then this could be ideal for you.
Calexotics Scandal Crotchless Pegging Panty Set
The Calexotics Scandal crotchless pegging panty set is a fantastically well-made and very sexy pair of open back panties that stretch and fit beautifully. They’re have a soft polyester red lining with black stretchy nylon lace. The wide waistband stretches and moves with you and of course, they’re machine washable. At the front of the panties is a reinforced stretchy O ring to accommodate the dildo. For your comfort, there is also some padding on the back so that the dildo doesn’t press uncomfortably on your body. The dildo itself is made from silicone and is 5-inches insertable in length and 1.25-inches in diameter. It’s beautifully curved to hit your G-spot and slender enough for anal play. The panties come in two different sizes S/M which fits waists of 26 inches and can stretch an extra 18 inches and L/XL which fits waists up to 31 inches and can stretch an extra 23 inches.
Pros
Cons
Calexotics Scandal crotchless pegging panty set is a perfect strap on for lesbians who want something sexy, comfortable and fun to use. This very stretchy pair of crotchless panties has a fabulous open back and can accommodate different sized dildos because of its stretchy O ring. It might not be able to support heavier dildos quite as well as lighter ones, so this is something to bear in mind. Overall, it’s a great set for beginners and more experienced alike, all you need to do is put the dildo in place in the panties, pull them on and you’re ready to go. To clean up just take out your dildo to clean and throw the panties in the wash. The dildo is slim and ideal for beginners or for anyone embarking on their anal play journey. It’s super smooth, gently curved and just needs a dash or two of lube for amazing hands-free strap on fun.
Choose Your Own Harness
If you already own a favourite dildo, or a few favourite dildos and are looking for a harness to enjoy some hands-free strap on fun, then take a look at these products. They’re all designed to give you the ultimate in lesbian strap on play.
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Perfect Positions for Lesbian Strap-Ons
Now that you’ve had a good look at some of the best strap ons for lesbians available, let’s see some of the different positions that you can use them in. Strap on sex doesn’t have to be complicated and you don’t have to be a contortionist to enjoy the intimacy that penetrative sex can bring.
Missionary
The old favourite missionary position is ideal for strap on sex because the body of the person being penetrated is fully supported. This makes it much easier to control the dildo.
- In this position it’s also possible to slip a vibrator between your bodies – if your strap on dildo doesn’t have a vibrating option.
- It’s easier to control the depth of penetration in this position,
- Plus you can pop a pillow under your hips to allow for deeper penetration.
Heels to Ears
A variation on the missionary position is ‘heels to ears’. This is where the receiver is laying on her back and then places her feet onto her partners shoulders.
It’s a great position that enables you to maintain eye contact and control the depth of penetration.
Climb Aboard
The cowgirl or reverse cowgirl postition is a fabulous position.
- The partner wearing the strap-on lays down on their back and their partner straddles them.
- For the reverse cowgirl, the woman on top simply turns around to face her partners feet.
- It’s a great way for the partner being penetrated to control everything about their ride!
Chair Straddle
This is a good close position.
- The partner wearing the strap on sits on a chair and her partner lowers herself onto the dildo.
- She can either face her parter, or sit on her knee.
- This is great for very close, intimate contact.
Doggy Style
Everyone’s favourite!
- The person being penetrated gets onto her hands and knees while her partner penetrates her from behind.
- This position gives lots of opportunity to control the depth of penetration and it’s easy to stimulate her more with hands, or a vibrator.
How To Use A Strap On For Lesbians
Strap ons for lesbians can open up a whole new level of intimate play between lovers.
First Of All
Before you begin, make sure that you know how to put on your strap-on.
- Adjust to fit.
- Check the controls of any vibrating bullets or parts – charge up if necessary.
- Admire your new strap-on kit.
Lube It Up
Lubrication is so important.
- It makes everything more comfortable, especially if you are using silicone dildos – they can be a bit ‘draggy’ on the skin.
- Lube is essential for anal play too.
Playtime!
If you’re new to strap-on play be sure to take it easy to begin with.
- Communicate with your partener so that you are both happy, comfortable and enjoying yourselves.
- You can experiment with role play, power-play, sensory deprivation.
- You can take it in turns to use the strap on with each other.
- Experiment with postitions to see what you like the best.
How To Clean A Strap On For Lesbians
It's really important to clean your sex toys thoroughly after use. Luckily it's also very easy to do. If you have a harness, check to see if it is machine washable. If it is simply pop it in the washing machine and it's good to go. If it isn't machine washable then wipe it town with a soapy cloth to get it clean, remember to rinse off any soap. To clean your dildo you'll need to check to see if it is waterproof. If it is then simply wash it with gentle soap, or a sex toy cleaner in hot water. Make sure that you clean in any nooks, crannies and ridges. Rinse off the soap and dry with a lint-free cloth. Store your dildo in its storage bag or box. If your dildo isn't waterproof then clean it well with a soapy cloth, again, make sure you clean it thoroughly. Wipe off the soap residue and dry well. Store it carefully and it will be ready to go next time.
materials
Soft plastic, hard plastic, jelly, rubber, Cyberskin are all porous materials, meaning that small particles and bacteria can penetrate the surface. This makes it impossible to completely clean these types of materials.
Therefore, it is recommended that you use a condom with these types of toys, especially if you are sharing them. Clean these toys with mild soapy water and dry gently with a towel. These materials are more easily damaged, so be sure to be gentle and make sure your toys are completely dry before storing.
materials
Silicone, glass, stainless steel and some hard plastics can all be washed using a mild soap (like you would use on your body) and warm water. Just be careful if your toy contains electrical parts.
Silicone and stainless steel toys without any electrical parts can also be boiled for sterilisation.
components
If your toys contain electrical components, be extra careful when cleaning them and always check the instructions provided with the toy. You can use a gentle cloth and soap to wipe or sex toy cleaner or cleaning wipe to down your toy, making sure that no water comes into contact with the electrical parts.