6 Best Strap-Ons for Lesbians
One of my favorite things about vulva-on-vulva strap-on play is that there are so many fun and different options to explore. Lesbian strap-ons also tend to focus on dual stimulation, strong vibrations, and a less anatomical aesthetic. I’ve teamed up with the Bedbible Tester Team to rate and review some of our top recommendations for the lesbian strap-ons out there. Let’s have look!
Test Winner | Runner-Up | Best for Beginners | Budget-Friendly | Best For Clit Stimulation | Expert Pick |
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Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit | Fun Factory ShareVibe Pro | Tantus Bend Over Strap-On Kit | Strap-On-Me Bendable Strap-On Small | Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On | Lovense Lapis Strapless Strap-On |
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How We Test strap ons for lesbians
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To find the very best strap ons for lesbians, our testers tried and reviewed 79 different products in this category.
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- The best strap-on for dual stimulation – The Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On has flexible silicone bunny ears to stimulate the wearer’s clitoris during penetration so both partners can enjoy targeted stimulation.
- The most powerful vibrations – With its three motors, the Lovense Lapis is the most powerful vibrating strap-on for lesbians in this review.
- The best g-spot stimulation – The Strap-On-Me Bendable Strap-On Small has a girthy egg-shaped bulb that puts amazing pressure on the wearer’s g-spot. The pronounced tip on the dildo itself also massages the receiver’s internal sweet spots.
Test Winner Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit
- Vibrating strap-on kit
- Adjustable nylon harness with 3 interchangeable o-rings included (1.25, 1.75 and 2.25 inches in diameter)
- Soft silicone dildo with a lightly curved tip and a suction cup base
- Dual motor design in the dildo offers 12 speeds and 8 patterns of vibration.
- Physical remote control included.
Pros
- ✅ Powerful (and varied) vibrations in the dildo
- ✅ Easy to use remote control
- ✅ Harness has a wide range of adjustability
- ✅ Dildo is fully waterproof
- ✅ Versatile use with or without the harness
- ✅ Comes with easy storage
Cons
- ❌ Dildo isn't very flexible
- ❌ Remote control isn't waterproof
Why I Chose It
I picked out the Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit because it is a great quality kit that offers a surprising amount of versatility. Our tester, Peter, (while admittedly not a lesbian) had his wife wear and use this harness while he was the lucky receiver. Both him and his wife had an amazing experience with this kit.
First of all, the vibrations are very powerful! Peter noted that they felt amazing and that it was fun being able to experiment with so many different vibration patterns and speeds. Of course, the remote control is perfect for this. There’s no fumbling around in the harness to change up the intensity.
I like how adjustable the harness itself is. Even Peter and his wife could attest to the fact that it will comfortably fit anything “from a slim person all the way up to the fuller figure ladies”.
Another great pro is the versatility. Since the dildo has a suction cup base, it’s also great for solo play, manual penetration, and even external clit stimulation with the strong vibrations.
Peter did wish for a slightly thicker dildo for his personal preference. That said, the 3 interchangeable o-rings of different sizes allow you to use the harness with a smaller or bigger dildo of your choice!
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Best for Beginners Tantus Bend Over Beginner Strap-On Kit
- Beginner-friendly strap-on kit
- 2 smooth silicone dildos (Tantus Silk Small (0.9″) & Tantus Silk Medium(1.25″))
- Adjustable fabric harness with a vibrator pocket (fits US dress sizes 4 to 30)
- 2 interchangeable o-rings
- Waterproof bullet vibrator.
Pros
- ✅ Versatile strap-on kit that fits other dildos as well
- ✅ Good quality materials
- ✅ Both dildos and harness are easy to use and beginner-friendly
- ✅ Bullet vibrator and dildos can be used by themselves
- ✅ Harness fits a wide range of sizes
Cons
- ❌ Excess strap material can be annoying when not in use
- ❌ Bullet vibrator isn't very strong
- ❌ Vibrator pocket does not stay in place
Why I Chose It
I think the Tantus Bend Over Strap-On Kit is a fabulous combination of great quality at a great price. Compared to the other strap-ons for lesbians we are looking at today, this falls in the mid-price range, which makes this pretty good value for money when you consider everything you get in the kit!
Not only do you get two dildos to choose from, these are the Tantus Silk dildos made of premium silicone. They’re super smooth and have the perfect design for beginners or those who are interested in some strap-on anal.
I love how well the harness is made to fit a lot of different sizes. That said, people in smaller pieces may find that the excess strap can get a bit annoying during use. Still, our tester Christina loved that “the harness did not loosen at all while thrusting and the dildo stayed securely in place.” It also didn’t chafe like she had suspected it would. Although, the small vibrator pocket didn’t keep the vibrator in place very well.
“The little vibrator comes with a battery and feels like a cheap plastic cover, but has a decently strong buzz and has proven durable.” So, if you already have a favorite bullet vibrator you could use that instead. If you have other dildos, or want to buy other dildos then this harness will accommodate them too.
Compared to some of the other products in this review, this kit is super easy to clean. The dildos can be fully sterilized. For Christina, “the fact that the harness can be thoroughly washed gives this kit a big advantage over my leather harness for using with other partners.”
Budget-Friendly Strap-On-Me Bendable Strap-On Small
- Smooth silicone strapless strap-on
- Adjustable hinge
- Egg-shaped insertable pony
- Slimline dildo with a pronounced tip.
Pros
- ✅ Great quality
- ✅ 3 sizes available
- ✅ The adjustable hinge makes it easy to customize the fit
- ✅ Both the pony and the dildo provide great internal massage
Cons
- ❌ The dildo is almost too flexible
Why I Chose It
I’ve had the pleasure of testing out the Strap-On-Me Bendable Strap-On Small myself. Now, even though I’m not a big fan of using strap-ons in general (as the wearer, that is), I absolutely LOVE this little guy!
First things first, the silicone is so luxuriously soft and smooth. As a professional sex toy tester, I’ve tried a lot of different silicone toys, and this is one just feels so comfortable!
The adjustable hinge allowed me to customize the angle to fit my body (which I always feel is a struggle with some sex toys). This, along with the wide, egg-shaped pony, helped it stay pretty securely in place when thrusting about.
My absolute favorite part is the internal massage. Now, I’ve tried both ends of this strapless strap-on, and they both deliver some satisfying g-spot and a-spot massage. I especially like that every movement in the dildo can be felt (intensely) in the pony!
The dildo is super flexible and lightweight which does make it a bit difficult to maneuver (especially for anal penetration). Another small thing to keep in mind is that the dildo in the Small size is a bit short. So if you have a larger FUPA or tummy, this can make the full length even less accessible when wearing it.
Best For Clit Stimulation Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On
- Vibrating strapless strap-on
- Flexible “rabbit ears” for the wearer’s clitoral stimulation
- Dual-motor design for evenly distributed vibrations
- Offers 8 vibration patterns and 12 speeds.
Pros
- ✅ Great for versatile solo and couples' play
- ✅ Storage bag included
- ✅ Vibration settings in both ends can be controlled seperately
Cons
- ❌ Doesn't stay in place very well
- ❌ There's a learning curve to using the buttons
Vibrations:
Why I Chose It
The Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On offers something that most of the other strapless strap-ons in this review don’t: direct clitoral stimulation. The silicone rabbit ears adds to the wearer’s pleasure so simultaneous orgasm is made possible!
Of course, this device is best suited for those who already know that they enjoy a classic rabbit-style vibrator. The design is not a universal fit and the toy isn’t adjustable so be sure that your body already knows and likes those rabbit ears.
What I like about this toy, as a lesbian strap-on, is the vibration settings. First of all, there are many to explore and enjoy. But being able to control them separately makes it easy to customize to your likings. Of course, it would be easier to play around with those settings with remote control.
Our tester, Vicki, also noted that she ” pleasantly discovered that this toy could be used as two separate toys too: G-spot vibrator and a vibrating dildo!”. Technically, it’s also a rabbit vibrator. Versatility is always a plus in my book.
The main drawback is the design of the insertable pony. It doesn’t stay in place during thrusting and “it is a lot of pressure on the vagina to hold onto the strap on so it can get quite tiring, however the vibrations do help to increase the pleasure.” I recommend using it with a harness to make the whole experience more enjoyable.
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Expert Pick Lovense Lapis Strapless Strap-On
- Vibrating strapless strap-on
- Dildo has a lightly curved tip with subtle ridges on the shaft
- Adjustable hinge
- 3 motors can be controlled separately
- Connect to the Lovense remote app to customize vibration patterns, use interactive features, and try long-distance play.
Pros
- ✅ App controls offer so much versatility
- ✅ Very powerful motors
- ✅ Great battery life
- ✅ Can be adjusted to fit your body
Cons
- ❌ Best to use with a strap-on harness
- ❌ Only available in one color
- ❌ Expensive
Vibrations:
Why I Chose It
My personal favorite (apart from the Strap On Me Bendable Strap-On Small) is definitely the Lovense Lapis. Now, it actually is very similar to the Runner-Up (Fun Factory ShareVibe Pro) but there are a few important differences.
The Runner-Up definitely performs better as a ‘strapless strap-on’. Our tester, Joseph, did find that the Lovense Lapis needed some extra support to stay in place. This is easy to fix by simply wearing it in a harness, but it is unfortunate that it doesn’t quite work as a ‘strapless’ option.
On the bright side, the Lovense Lapis offers even stronger vibrations than the Fun Factory ShareVibe Pro. The three motors are also placed strategically to target specific areas, like the wearer’s g-spot and clitoris, and the receiver’s g-spot or a-spot.
Another great pro about the Lovense Lapis is the app control feature. While this does raise the price point it’s an amazing feature that elevates your play time and allows you to explore more versatile fun.
Comparison
Best | Test Winner | Runner-Up | Best for Beginners | Budget-Friendly | Best For Clit Stimulation | Expert Pick |
Overall score | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.3 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.3 / 5.0 | 4.5 / 5.0 |
Bedbible rating | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 | 4.1 / 5.0 | 4.9 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 |
User rating | 4.5 / 5.0 from 19 users | 5 / 5.0 from 2 users | 4.5 / 5.0 from 70 users | 5 / 5.0 from 3 users | 4.1 / 5.0 from 249 users | 4 / 5.0 from 1 users |
Price | Moderate | Premium | Affordable | Moderate | Moderate | Premium |
Design | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 60 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 90 / 100 |
Ease of use | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 40 / 100 | 85 / 100 |
Quality | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 75 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 100 / 100 |
Sound | - | 20 / 100 | - | - | 40 / 100 | 40 / 100 |
Power | - | 80 / 100 | - | - | 80 / 100 | 100 / 100 |
Buzzy/Rumbly | - | somewhat rumbly | - | - | somewhat rumbly | very rumbly |
Vibration speeds | 12 | 3 | 3 | - | 12 | 3 preset |
Vibration patterns | 8 | 5 | 1 | - | 8 | 4 preset |
Insertable length | 7 inches | Wearer: 4.5 inches, Receiver: 6.1 inches | Small Dildo: 4.25 inches, Medium Dildo: 5.5 inches | 6.1 inches | Shaft: 5, Pony: 4.5 inches | Shaft: 5.43 inches, Base: 3.43 inches |
Diameter | 1.6 inches | 1.42-1.61 inches | Small Dildo: 0.8 inches, Medium Dildo: 1 inches | 1.06 inches | Shaft: 1.35, Pony: 1.51 inches | Shaft: 1.61 inches, Base: 1.52 inches |
Waterproof | Yes (not remote) | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes |
Rechargeable | Yes | Yes | No, Uses 1 N-type Battery | - | Yes | Yes |
Storage Bag Included | Yes | No | No | Yes | Yes | Yes |
Materials | Silicone | Silicone | Dildos: Silicone, Harness: Polyester, Hard Plastic | Exterior: Premium silicone, Interior: ABS plastic | Silicone | Silicone |
Battery Life | 45 minutes | 90 minutes | - | - | 60 minutes | Up to 150 minutes |
Charging Time | 90 minutes | 360 minutes | - | - | - | 105 minutes |
Remote Controls | Yes | No | - | - | No | App controls |
Adjustable | Adjustable harness | Poseable hinge | Adjustable harness | Poseable hinge | Poseable hinge | Poseable hinge |
Length | 7.5 inches | 9.92 inches | Small Dildo: 4.5 inches, Medium Dildo: 5.75 inches | 9 inches | 8 inches | 9 inches |
Travel Lock | No | Yes | No | - | No | No |
Choose Your Own Harness
If you already own a favourite dildo, or a few favourite dildos and are looking for a harness to enjoy some hands-free strap on fun, then take a look at these products. They’re all designed to give you the ultimate in lesbian strap on play.
Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness
The Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness is a super sexy and elegant alternative to a regular strap-on harness. This model has black lace side panels, removable garters, and an open back design for a full view of the wearer’s butt. The o-ring has a diameter of 1.5 inches which can be used with flat dildos and strapless strap-ons as well.
Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs
The Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs are made from 100% cotton for breathable and comfortable wear and have a built-in 1.5 inch diameter O-ring for strap on fun. They’re also available in 5 different sizes: S/M, M/L, L/XL, XXL.
Sportsheets Ultra Thigh Strap-On Harness
The Sportsheets Ultra Thigh Strap-On Harness is perfect for those who have a partner who loves to grind and run on their thigh. IT’s basically a way to elevate doing “the knee thing”. This harness fits around any thigh between 17 and 32 inches in circumference and has a hook and loop fastening. The o-ring is 1.75 inches in diameter.
Get Comfy
What could be better than the perfect comfortable harness, your favourite dildo and your amazing partner? It’s something you never knew that you were missing… The Bumpher.
Bumpher Strap-On Dildo Base Cushion
Designed with your pleasure in mind, the Bumpher Dildo Base Cushion from Wet For Her, makes strap-ons for lesbians more comfortable and even more stimulating.
- It means that there are no more dildo bases digging into your body and no need to put padded material between you and your favorite toy either.
- Best of all, its curves are designed to stimulate your clitoris, making strap on fun even more fun!
- This strap on dildo base cover is made of velvety soft and supple silicone and fits onto the base of dildos that are up to 3.25 inches in diameter.
- The Bumpher is designed with curves that contour and stimulate the clitoral area and padding for extra comfort during strap on play.
- Perfect for grinding against while pleasuring your partner.
- Phthalate, latex, paraben & fragrance-free for body-safe fun.
- It’s suitable for use with open O-ring and underwear harnesses.
- Suitable for use with water-based lubes.
- It’s incredibly easy to clean – use hot water and soap or a dedicated sex toy cleaner.
- The Bumpher also comes in a range of fabulous colours.
What to Consider When Buying a Lesbian Strap-On
When selecting a lesbian strap-on there are a few different factors you’ll want to take into consideration.
Below, we’ve gathered a few different items for you to refer to when comparing potential toy options!
- Harness Type – Different harness designs will offer different experiences, varying in levels of comfort and control over the dildo. Some strap-ons can even be used without a harness, which may present an option worth looking into.
- Dildo Length & Girth – Although many strap-ons include a dildo alongside the strap, it’s also possible to buy a standalone harness. Regardless, strap-on sizes vary widely, giving you plenty of options when selecting a dildo. Just make sure that your dildo will fit inside of the harness if purchasing the harness and dildo separately!
- Materials – Non-porous, body-safe materials like silicone, metal, and glass are always best for internal use toys. The material used will affect how the toy “feels” when inserted, so it’s best to put some thought into this factor.
- Adjustability – Different types of harnesses will offer different levels of adjustability. Traditional harnesses have the most adjustability since they use actual straps, whereas strap-on underwear and strapless strap-ons can’t really be adjusted that much.
- Dildo Realism – This all comes down to personal preference: do you want your dildo to look like a genuine penis, or do you prefer more fantasy-inspired toys? The world is your oyster!
- Features – Many strap ons for lesbians offer additional features like vibrations (inside of the dildo itself), bullet vibrators to stimulate the wearer, and even remote controls for less-invasive operations. Consider these available options when making your selection.
- Price – Prices vary widely, so you should establish a set budget before comparing your options. Remember, bearing a brand name alone doesn’t justify paying a premium! If your preferred strap-on meets all of your requirements but exceeds your preferred price range, check to see if financing options are available.
Types of Strap Ons Popular with Lesbians
Different types of straps ons for lesbians are held in place using different methods.
We’ve included a brief overview of the different types available below for you to compare.
- Strapless Strap-On – These strap ons use a dual-end design, where one end functions as the actual “dildo” that will penetrate your partner. The other end is curved and often features a bulbed end, which is designed to be held in place by your vaginal muscles during use. Though these don’t specifically require using a harness, they can often be used alongside a harness for the best combination of control and stimulation.
- Traditional Harness – These strap ons use adjustable harnesses to hold the dildo in place. If you prefer adjustability then you’ll likely want to purchase this style. Many harnesses allow the wearer to adjust the mounting position and the band size of the harness, reducing the likelihood of your new purchase not fitting properly.
- Underwear/Boxer Harness – Essentially, this type of harness is underwear or boxers that are designed to support a strap-on dildo during use. Although more comfortable than a traditional harness design, they lack any reasonable level of adjustability.
- Vibrating Strap-On – These either have a dildo with built in vibrations or a bullet vibrator that can be slipped inside a pocket in the harness.
Reviewed by:
Peter Wenham