Strap-on, sit back, and get ready to become a strap-on sex position master!
Getting a strap-on and experiencing the power of becoming a penetrator is truly exhilarating! However, it can also be a little intimidating! Having a new appendage opens up so many new possibilities, but it also comes with a learning curve.
But that’s what we’re here for!
We’ve put together some of our top strap-on positions for everyone from beginners to advanced. Plus, I’ve added my top tip for making strap-on sex more pleasurable for the wearer at the end of the post.
What’s more, anyone of any gender and genitals can enjoy strap-on sex! Unfortunately, right now we only have BeBe and Grey to demonstrate the sex positions, but these positions are all suitable for vaginal or anal penetration. This truly is a post for anyone ready to don a dildo and get playing!
One last note before we get down to it! Most sex positions will work with a strap-on, so this list is by no means exhaustive — just some inspiration to get you started!
Strap-on Sex Positions for Beginners
You’ve got your strap-on kit, you’ve put it on and no doubt practiced your thrusting around the house, but what about actually using it with another person for the first time? Getting used to controlling your new addition can take a bit of practice, as you don’t get the same feedback as you would with a penis. That’s why it’s good to start with some strap-on-friendly positions like the ones we’ve picked out here. We’ve also got some great tips for anyone trying a strap-on for the time!
Rodeo Rider
You might know this as the Cow Girl position but we’ve gone for a more neutral name. Whatever you call it, this position is fantastic for a strap-on first-timer.
Riding positions puts the receiving partner in control of the depth and speed of penetration. This means the strap-on-wearing partner doesn’t have to think too much about thrusting, which can be tricky at first. Not to mention, thrusting can be pretty tiring when you aren’t used to it!
The strap-on-wearing partner can also reach up and stimulate their partner’s penis or clitoris with their hands. Or, add in a wand vibrator or
Spooning Strap-On Position
The classic spooning position also works wonderfully with a strap-on and doesn’t require you to be a pro thruster. This intimate position is perfect for cozy, sensual strap-on sex.
The strap-on-wearing partner can reach around to stimulate their partner’s nipples, clitoris, or penis, or simply wrap their arms around them.
Modified Missionary
Experience missionary sex from a whole new angle with some strap-on role reversal! The strap-on wearer is on top and in control while the receiving partner lies on their back.
Add a pillow under the receiving partner’s hips or adjust the position of their legs to find the perfect angle.
This is a great position for getting handsy with each other! The receiving partner can lightly scratch their partner’s back, run their fingers through their hair, or even give their butt a good grab!
More Adventurous Strap-On Positions
Once you’ve mastered the basics and become one with your strap-on, you’re ready to move on to some more advanced positions that require a little more in the thrusting department. With a bit of practice, it will feel like second nature!
Strap-on Doggy
Enjoy the power that comes with this classic position! With your partner on all fours, slowly enter them from behind. You might need to adjust the angle to find what works for you, so communication is key.
The penetrating partner can hold their partner’s hips to help them balance and coordinate the movements.
If you have a curved dildo, like these pegging dildos, have the curve pointing down instead of up to target your partner’s g- or p-spot.
Supported Strap-On Doggy
This more relaxed version of the doggy style also alters the angle of penetration for some new sensations.
Assume the classic doggy position, but have the receiving partner rest their upper body onto a sex position pillow. A couple of regular pillows stacked on top of each other will also do the trick.
If the receiving partner is a vulva owner who also enjoys anal play, their partner can massage their anus or add in a butt plug or some anal beads for some extra fun.
Reverse Rodeo
You might recognize this pose from earlier in the post. Also known as the reverse cowgirl, in this position, the rider faces toward their partner’s feet.
The riding partner can hold onto their partner’s legs for stability or use a free hand to stimulate their clitoris or penis.
The strap-on-wearing partner can use their free hands to massage their partner’s legs or butt.
G Whizz / P Whizz
This more advanced position is perfect for targeting your partner’s p-spot if they are a penis owner or g-spot (internal clitoral structure) if they have a vulva. Hitting these highly sensitive sweet spots can lead to some seriously strong orgasms, so it’s worth the effort!
Use a sex pillow or some regular pillows to elevate the receiving partner’s hips.
Backdoor Bliss Strap-On Position
This position is perfect for exploring anal play with a strap-on. The receiving partner lies on their front, allowing them to relax into the position. The receiving partner straddles them and enter’s them slowly from behind.
Remember that the anus isn’t self-lubricating, so apply a lot of thick water-based lubrication and reapply as necessary!
How to Make Strap-On Sex Positions More Pleasurable For the Wearer
As well as the essentials, either a strap-on or dildo and harness underwear, there are some other tools that will take your strap-on sex to the next level.
While strap-on sex is emotionally and psychologically very stimulating, the strap-on wearer doesn’t tend to get a lot of physical stimulation. Luckily, there are few options to help them get theirs!
Dildo Base
These textured, silicone pads attach to the base of your dildo and offer glorious grinding possibilities. The bumps rub up against your clitoris, providing teasing stimulation with each thrust.
The Bumpher Honeybunch has squishy bumps to rub and grind against, and there’s even space for a bullet vibe for some added vibrations.
You will need to make sure that your dildo has a flat back you can access the base of your dildo on the internal side of the strap-on harness for this to work.
Egg Vibrators
Wearable egg vibrators provide internal stimulation without needing to be held in place. Simply insert the egg into your vagina, find your favorite vibration setting and then slip your harness on over the top.
If you have an egg vibrator with a remote, it’s easy to adjust the settings without taking moving your harness. Or, for a little more fun, hand the remote over to your partner and let them control your pleasure!
The Lovense Lush 3 has some incredibly powerful vibrations and it’s app-enabled, so you can control it from your phone, sync it to your playlist or play long distance!
Panty Vibrators
If you prefer clitoral stimulation, you can slip a panty vibrator inside your harness. This will only work with harnesses that have an underwear-style crotch, as there needs to be enough fabric to hold the vibrator in place.
Again, go for a panty vibrator with a remote or app control if you know you’ll want to adjust the settings mid-session!
Panty vibrators that attach to your underwear/harness with a magnet are great as they won’t move around while you are thrusting! The WeVibe Moxie and Lovense Ferri are two great options. Plus, they can even be controlled using your phone!
Butt Plugs (of any kind!)
If you enjoy anal play, butt plugs are great for wearing under a harness. And there are so many different types to choose from, each offering a different sensation.
If you love intense stimulation, you can go for a remote control butt plug, like the Lovense Hush. Or, if you prefer that full feeling, a weighted butt plug could be the way to go!
There are also plenty of sizes to choose from, from small beginner plugs right up to huge butt plugs for those who want a satisfying stretch!
