We have compiled the 40 best BDSM positions, using all sorts of bondage tie-downs, along with pictures featuring our 6-inch, plastic friends.
Table of contents
- The Best BDSM Positions Using Rope, Bondage Tape, and More
- 1. The Conquistador Tied Up Position
- 2. The Cowgirl Tied Up BDSM Position
- 3. Leap Frog BDSM Restraint Position
- 4. Head Over Heels
- 5. The Pinball Wizard
- 6. Seated Rear Entry Tied Up Position
- 7. Best BDSM Restraint Position: Spoons
- 8. The Rocking Horse BDSM Position
- 9. The Lap Dance Tied Up Position
- 10. Knees to Chest BDSM Position
- 11. The Downward Dog BDSM Restraint Position
- 12. The Valedictorian BDSM Sex Position
- 13. Whoopie Pie Tied Up Position
- 14. Futomomo Leg Tie BDSM Position
- 15. The Box Tie BDSM Position
- 16. The Ball Tie BDSM Restraint Position
- 17. Hog Tie BDSM Position
- 18. The Crab Tied Up Position
- 19. The Sexy Spoon Position
- 20. Interrogation Chair BDSM Restraint Position
- 21. Reverse Chair Tied Up Position
- 22. Best BDSM Position: Spread Eagle
- 23. The Yogi Tied Up Position
- 24. Group Project BDSM Restraint Position
- 25. Wall Bound Position
- 26. Wide Open Position
- 27. The Frog Tie Best BDSM Position
- 28. Cocoon BDSM Position
- 29. Forced Bow Tied Up Position
- 30. Over the Moon BDSM Position
- 31. Classic Damsel in Distress
- Legs Up, Wrists to Knees Tied Up Position
- 33. Karada Reverse Prayer Shibari Tie Up
- 34. The Double V BDSM Position
- 35. Jackknife Bondage Position
- 36. The Armbinder Gag Restraint Position
- 37. Table Tie BDSM Position
- 38. Arms Up, On Your Knees Tie Up
- 39. Intense Dining BDSM Position
- 40. Table Rack Tie Up
- Why Try These Tied Up BDSM Positions?
- How to Talk to Your Partner About BDSM
- Before You Get Started, Learn How to Be Safe
The Best BDSM Positions Using Rope, Bondage Tape, and More
Are you looking for some of the best BDSM positions using rope, tape, or other restraints? Well, you have landed on the right page!
We have compiled 40 of the best BDSM positions so you don’t have to search elsewhere. In addition, we will talk about how to introduce a little bondage into the bedroom, as well as discuss the best ropes, bondage tape, and even BDSM furniture.
Most importantly, we’ll give you all of the bondage safety tips you need to have a sensual and safe evening with your partner. Finally, these positions are perfect for all kinds of couples!
As long as you have a penis or strap-on and an eager hole, these bondage sex positions will work for you!
1. The Conquistador Tied Up Position
This BDSM position is quite simple to do and a great starting point for bondage play. Simply lie on the bed in the missionary position.
Then, have your partner tie your wrists above your head, onto the bed frame or corner restraint – if using an under-the mattress system. Or you can have your wrists tied to each corner of the bed.
Not only is this a great tied-up sex position, but it also leaves your chest open and exposed for sensual nipple play.
2. The Cowgirl Tied Up BDSM Position
We all know the famous Cowgirl sex position. But did you know you turn up the heat by tying your partner down?
Simply tie the partner with the penis or strap-on, spread eagle, to each corner of the bed. Then, climb on and ride into the sunset!
3. Leap Frog BDSM Restraint Position
Another beginner bondage position to try is called Leap Frog. To do this tied-up position, lie on the bed with your chest and stomach on the mattress and rear in the air.
Next, have your partner either tie or handcuff your wrists together and over your head. This gives your partner full access to your butt and vulva for all sorts of sensual fun.
4. Head Over Heels
To execute the Head Over Heels bondage position, you’ll need a bit of flexibility and some balance. First, bend over and grab your feet, ankles, or knees – depending on how flexible you are.
Then, have your partner tie each wrist to each ankle (or knee), staying in the bent-over position. Finally, your partner grabs you at the waist and serves you long and hard.
And keep in mind, this position works for all bodies with a penis or strap-on and an eager hole.
5. The Pinball Wizard
Executing the Pinball Wizard position is another easy and exciting one. Have your partner lie down on the bed, with their feet flat on the mattress and rear off the bed, creating a human bridge.
Next, handcuff or tie their wrists together above their heads. Now you can get between their legs and penetrate them with your penis, a strap-on or even a sex toy!
6. Seated Rear Entry Tied Up Position
For this bondage position, you’ll need a straight-back, sturdy chair. Now, have your partner take a seat while you bind their arms behind the chair and their ankles to the front chair legs.
Then, you can climb on, with your back to them for anal or vaginal penetration. Or you can just give them a good grind for a tease that will have them begging you for more.
And, if your chair happens to have cross bars, they are perfect for shorter folks to stand on.
7. Best BDSM Restraint Position: Spoons
Who doesn’t love an early-morning or late-night spoon? But, make it even more delicious by handcuffing or binding the little spoon’s wrists together.
8. The Rocking Horse BDSM Position
This Bondage position is another beginner move that’s easy to do and only requires a little bit of rope, a silk scarf, or a set of handcuffs.
First, have the partner with a penis or strap-on kneel on the bed, then sit back on their legs. Next, bind their wrists together, behind their back.
Now, turn your back to your tied-up partner, back up, and straddle their lap with your legs on either side of theirs.
9. The Lap Dance Tied Up Position
Here’s another tied-up position using a straight-back chair, for instance, a wooden, kitchen chair. First, have the partner with a penis or strap-on sit in the chair.
Next, bind their hands behind the back of the chair and their ankles to the chair legs. Now, it’s your turn!
Climb onto their lap, place your hands on each shoulder for leverage, and give them the lap dance of their life!
10. Knees to Chest BDSM Position
The Knees to Chest bondage position is quite popular and can be done a couple of different ways. First, the submissive pulls their knees up to their chest.
Next, tie their ankles, knees, and thighs together. Or, if you prefer, you can wrap rope around their legs from the ankles to the thighs.
Now, pull your partner to the edge of the bed and lift their legs up, resting them on one shoulder. Then, penetrate them, moving their legs from one shoulder to the next.
11. The Downward Dog BDSM Restraint Position
This bondage position is similar to the Leap Frog position, only with a different bondage point. You start by having your partner lie down on the bed with their chest flat and rear slightly raised.
Next, bind your partner’s wrists behind their back and you can enter them from behind. Also, you can have a bit of fun by using a dildo or anal toy as they are bound and helpless.
12. The Valedictorian BDSM Sex Position
For this position, you’ll need an under-mattress restraint set or can utilize the headboard and footboard of the bed. Have your partner lie on the bed with arms outstretched toward each corner of the headboard.
Then, tie each wrist to the headboard or bed frame. Next, spread your partner’s legs into a V and gently lift them up, slowly pushing them toward the headboard as you enter them.
Also, it may help to hold onto each of you partner’s thighs as you have sex.
13. Whoopie Pie Tied Up Position
How about a little Whoopie Pie for dessert? And fear not, this recipe is a simple one and will fulfill your wildest fantasies.
First, tie your partner’s ankles together. Second, tie their wrists together.
Now, for the fun part; bend them over the side of the bed, so that their upper body is flat and their backside is there for the taking! Enjoy your Whoopie Pie.
14. Futomomo Leg Tie BDSM Position
The Futomomo Leg tie is a beautiful Shibari rope tie that can be time consuming. But I guarantee, your partner will not be able to get loose.
If you want to learn this beautiful tie, there are YouTube videos available to show you how. However, since our dolls cannot squeeze their legs together as needed, I used an alternative way of binding.
Basically, have your partner lie on their back with their knees bent and feet flat on the floor. Bring their heel up to their bottom so that their thigh and calf are touching.
Next, tied their leg in that position either using the Futomomo technique or by binding them at the ankle, mid-calf and just below the knee. Then, repeat on the other leg.
Now, you have your partner in a position that renders them unable to walk away while you find exciting ways to tease and pleasure them.
15. The Box Tie BDSM Position
The Box Tie bondage position renders your partner unable to use their upper body, while moving the chest forward and jutting the breasts forward. Now, in order to execute this BDSM position, you’ll need to tie your partner’s wrists behind their back.
Next, run a length of rope, tape or restraint strap across the upper chest and arms, to the back. Then, do the same under the chest.
Finally, tie a vertical rope over the chest ties in the back, connecting it to the wrist ties.
16. The Ball Tie BDSM Restraint Position
The Ball Tie literally curls your partner into a ball, making it impossible for them to move without your assistance. To do this BDSM position, have your partner lie down, pulling their knees to their chest, as in the fetal position.
Secure a rope around their upper back, arms and knees. Tie the ankles together as well.
Then, have your partner wrap their arms around their knees so that you can bind their wrists together, assisting them in holding the fetal position.
Lastly, run a rope around the lower back, around their sides and secure in front of the shins. Also, you can add a gag to this position, rendering your partner unable to speak.
Once the Ball Tie is complete, you can tease your partner with a vibrator or position them on their side for penetration.
17. Hog Tie BDSM Position
The Hog Tie bondage position is fantastic for teasing, as it keeps your partner from being able to use their hands or legs. First, have your partner lie down on their stomach.
Second, tie their wrists behind their back. Third, tie their ankles together.
Next, run a rope through the wrist ties, run it down to the ankle ties and do the same. Now, here’s where it gets fun!
Pull your partner’s legs up, toward their wrists and tie the rope wherever you deem the most comfortable or uncomfortable.
18. The Crab Tied Up Position
The next BDSM position is called the Crab and leaves your partner’s legs wide open for all sorts of naughty fun!
Have your partner sit down with their knees bent and feet flat on the floor. Then, have them draw their heel in, getting as close to their bottom as possible.
For instance, like the fetal position, but sitting.
Next, bind each leg around the ankle and thigh, shin and thigh and finally, around the knee.
Then, bind each wrist to the corresponding thigh. And you’ll clearly see why this is called the Crab position.
19. The Sexy Spoon Position
The sexy spoon position gives you all of the sensual body contact as spooning, with some bondage sprinkled in. First, have your partner lay on their side and draw their upper leg up, aligning their ankle with the knee of the bottom leg.
Then, tie the knee and ankle together. Next, wrap some rope around the upper thigh and secure it.
Do the same on the forearm of the upper arm. Then, tie the arm to the thigh using a length of rope.
Finally, handcuff of tie your partner’s wrists together in front of them. Now, your partner is tied up in the sexy spoon position and you can ravage them from head to toe.
20. Interrogation Chair BDSM Restraint Position
The interrogation chair is the perfect bondage position to exert your dominance over your partner. First, using a straight back chair, have your partner sit down with their ankles aligned with the front, chair legs.
Next, secure their ankles to the chair legs. Then, tie their wrists together, behind the chair back.
Also, if your chair happens to have arms, you can tie both the wrists and forearms down.
Finally, now that your partner is aptly secured, tease, tantalize and gently torture them, as they have no means of escaping.
21. Reverse Chair Tied Up Position
Another creative way to use a chair is to try the Reverse Chair bondage position. Now, to do this, your partner will need to straddle the chair seat, backwards, leaning forward with their chest against the chair back.
What this does is places their bottom just over the edge of the chair’s seat, creating perfect access for penetration.
Next, tie each ankle to the chair legs and secure your partner’s wrists together and behind their back. Now you have the perfect position for sensual, tied-up, anal sex or pegging.
22. Best BDSM Position: Spread Eagle
One of the most vulnerable bondage positions is the Spread Eagle. And you can execute this position by using your headboard, the legs of your bed frame or by using an under-the-mattress restraint kit.
Now, have your partner lay on the bed with each hand and foot pointing to the adjacent corner of the bed. Next, simply bind each wrist and ankle to the bed frame.
Finally, you have full, head-to-toe access to your partner’s body for hot wax, feathering, flogging or even penetration.
23. The Yogi Tied Up Position
The Yogi position involves a bit of flexibility, so you may want to have your partner stretch before trying this one. First, have your partner lie on the bed with their head close to the headboard.
Then, have them spread their legs to form a V shape. Gently, push each leg up and toward their shoulders, keeping them as straight as they can.
Next, tie each ankle to the bed post. Or, if they need a bit of help holding the position comfortably, you can also secure them around each thigh.
Yes, this is an incredible position for full genital access, penetration, sex toy play and oral stimulation.
24. Group Project BDSM Restraint Position
The Group Project is our only multi-partner BDSM position in this article. However, for more of this type of position (just get creative with ropes, cuffs and tie-downs), check out Isabelle’s blog post on the 50 Best Sex Positions.
The first step is to have two people embrace. Then, bind their wrists in that position, keeping them together.
Not only is this extremely sexy, it allows you to have full control over not one, but two people.
25. Wall Bound Position
The Wall Bound BDSM position is simple and sexy, leaving the breasts pronounced and exposed for the ultimate in nipple play.
Simply bind your partner above and below their breasts. Then pull their arms back, binding them at the wrist and above the elbow.
Now, gently hold them against the nearest wall, being cautious that there is nothing they can lose their balance and fall into. Better yet, place pillows and cushions all around their feet.
That way, you can pull them to the floor and take full advantage of the rest of their body.
26. Wide Open Position
The Wide Open position combines the Yogi, with wrists restrained, leaving the entire front of the body wide open for your pleasure.
First, have your partner lie on their back with their legs straight and open in a V shape. Raise each leg up and push back as far as their body will allow.
Then, bind the ankle to the bed post and repeat on the other leg. Next tie each wrist to the corresponding thigh, leaving your partner wide open and vulnerable to whatever you choose to do to them.
27. The Frog Tie Best BDSM Position
The Frog Tie position won’t have your sub hopping away! On the contrary, it leaves them immobile while giving them the ability of keeping their legs open to you.
The first step in this bondage position is to tie their upper arms behind their back by placing the rope around the lower chest. Next, tie the wrists together too.
The second step is to bring each heel as close to the thigh as they can handle. Then, tie each leg together above the ankle and at the thigh.
And as you can see, the position is very much frog-like!
28. Cocoon BDSM Position
The Cocoon position is a creative way to keep your partner completely unable to move. But how can you inject some sexual play into this bondage position?
The answer to that is, by using a remote control sex toy, preferably one that penetrates and stays in place. That way, you can download an app to your phone and play with your sub while they are completely at your mercy.
To pull this bondage position off, you’ll need a big roll of plastic wrap or a commercially manufactured sleep sack. Then, have your partner stand, with either their arms at their sides or across their chest.
Then, put the sex toy in place (if you’re using one), and have them hold their legs together. Next, begin wrapping them with the plastic wrap, starting at the chest and working your way down to their ankles.
And once they are wrapped, you can carefully guide their body down, to a lying position. Then, turn on that sex toy and drive them absolutely wild.
Plus, this is a great bondage position for oral penetration!
29. Forced Bow Tied Up Position
This tied-up position takes a bit of time and practice to get, as you can see by my horrible rendition. However, done with patience, it is a beautiful bondage position.
First off, begin by finding your rope’s center point and place it behind your partner’s neck. Next, loop it down to their waist, and around their back.
Now, once you’ve made your initial loops, it’s just a matter of continuing them until you’ve restrained their arms, legs, and so forth. However, be sure not to tie or make any knots until the very end.
30. Over the Moon BDSM Position
This position may be a little uncomfortable for some. So, if your partner isn’t into the pain, double up a towel or use a thin cushion.
Start by wrapping and tying rope around your partner’s upper chest, below the breasts and around each ankle. Then, have them lie down, across the seat of a chair, sideways.
Next, tie their wrists together followed by tying each arm to the chair legs. Then, do the same with each of their legs – usually around the knee area.
In the next step, you’ll need to use two lengths of rope, one for each side of the body. Starting at the top tie (around the upper chest) loop and secure the rope.
Then go down the body and do the same below the chest. Finally loop into the ties at the ankle and pull the foot upward, securing it at a comfortable height.
Repeat one the other side of the body. Once finished, this position is perfection for spanking, penetration and even oral sex!
31. Classic Damsel in Distress
Ah yes, the days of black and white movies, where the damsel is tied up and placed on the railroad tracks. But you’re probably too young to know what I am talking about!
That’s okay, because this BDSM tied-up position is classic, beautiful and romantic by making the breasts the star of the show and that bottom prime for spanking.
First off, tie your partner’s upper arms behind their back. Then, restrain their wrists in the same way.
Second, you’ll want to bind their legs together at the ankles, just below the knee and just above the knee.
This pushes the chest out and keeps the legs together for a feminine, demure and helpless pose.
Legs Up, Wrists to Knees Tied Up Position
For this position, you’ll need to utilize a ceiling mount, BDSM rack or even a sex swing frame. The point is to be able to suspend your partner’s legs in the air.
To begin, bind your partner around the thighs, below the knees and at the ankles. Then, tie each wrist to their knees.
Now, loop a piece of rope through the ankle tie, secure it and suspend it from the rack or ceiling. This suspends your partner’s bound legs in the air, leaving their bottom and rest of their body exposed to the stimulation of your choice.
33. Karada Reverse Prayer Shibari Tie Up
This beautiful Shibari inspired tie up, looks much more complicated than it is. Now, the reverse prayer isn’t easy for most people.
Therefore, if that’s the case for your partner, you can simply tie the wrists behind the back
Okay, here are the steps for the Karada bondage tie:
Steps:
- Use a long piece of soft rope, preferably one of these 7 best Shibari ropes. Find the center and lay it around the back of the neck and draping it down the front of the body.
- Lay the rope ends side-by-side and tie 5 knots, evenly, down the front of the body, starting at the collar bone.
- Next, pull the rope through the crotch area, toward the back.
- Bring each side of the rope around the hips and thread it through the first opening. Then, wrap the rope around the back.
- Next, bring the rope back around the body and repeat the process until you reach the top, adjusting the tightness as you go.
- Lastly, go over each shoulder, dropping the rope down the back, enabling you to bind the wrists in the reverse prayer position or an easier position.
Once you’re finished, stand back and behold the gorgeous body and rope work while deciding what you want to do with your bound partner.
34. The Double V BDSM Position
This BDSM position modestly covers the breasts, while exposing the genitals for your desired play. To execute this position, have your partner bend their arm, placing their hand on their opposite shoulder.
Then do the same with the other arm, stacking it on top the other. From there, you tie each wrist to the opposite upper arm and each elbow to the other.
Next, have your partner sit in the criss-cross position, with the soles of the feet facing upward. Then bind their ankles together, so that they cannot move from that stance.
Now you can do with your partner what you choose!
35. Jackknife Bondage Position
The Jackknife Bondage position is another beautiful position that elongates the body and keeps the genitals hidden away.
First, bind your partners legs at three points; the thighs, below the knees and at the ankles. Then, wrap their upper body above and below the breasts.
Finally, bend them over, in the jackknife position and bind their wrists together. Also, you can tie the wrists to the knees, if you choose.
Yes, this is another fantastic position for spankings, rear entry and penetration.
36. The Armbinder Gag Restraint Position
This BDSM position is an easy one, leaving the chest and front of the body exposed. Plus, adding a gag keeps your sub silent!
First, have your partner raise their elbows up and place their hands over their shoulders and onto their upper back. The, place a rope around the back of their neck and tie it around the bent arms, binding the upper and lower arms.
Next, by using rope or handcuffs, secure your partner’s wrists together. Finally, add the gag of your choice, and place them in any pose you please.
37. Table Tie BDSM Position
This sexy position is perfect for some hard core BDSM, even if you don’t have any dungeon equipment. And hopefully, you have a sturdy, wooden coffee table or matching end tables.
To pull off this exciting BDSM position, have your partner lie lengthwise on the coffee table, with their bottom on the very end. Then, tie their midsection to the center of the table.
Next, tie their ankles to the corresponding table legs on either side. Then, have them raise their arms above their head and bind each wrist to the table legs.
Now, your partner or sub is at the perfect height for a foot rest, a picnic off their body or any creative pleasure/pain activity you can dream up.
38. Arms Up, On Your Knees Tie Up
Arms up, on your knees, Sub! This is another restraint position that requires a rack, sex swing frame or, you can knot a rope, throw it over the top of a door and close it.
Place your partner on their knees with their arms above their head. Using handcuffs or rope, bind the wrists with space in between. Then, using a long section of rope, tie one end in between the wrists and the other to a high area.
This is the perfect position for oral sex, flogging or other exciting BDSM activities.
39. Intense Dining BDSM Position
Make sexy use of your dining table by tying your partner down, as you would in bed. Simply have them lay on the table, in a spread eagle position.
Next, tie their midsection to the table. Then, tie their legs and arms to each of the four table legs.
Depending on the height of your table, you can sit and pleasure your partner orally, penetrate them or tease them with vibrating sex toys.
40. Table Rack Tie Up
We all wish we could have bondage crosses and other BDSM furniture, but until you get serious about building your play room, here ’s a DIY BDSM project you can create on your own.
All you need for this DIY is a square dining table that’s sturdy and does not have a glass top. Do you have one?
Excellent!
Clear the area and tip your dining table up on its end. But be sure it balances well and doesn’t tip forward.
Next, place your partner in between the four table legs, either seated or standing, and tie them up using the table legs. Then, tie their midsection around the table, so that they are secure and unable to pull the table forward.
Plus, you can add to the excitement by adding a blindfold to heighten their senses and keep them guessing what you will do next!
Why Try These Tied Up BDSM Positions?
Whether you’re into BDSM or not, some light bondage can add some extreme spice to any relationship. However, it’s important to first learn how to talk to your partner about your tied-up fantasies, as well as learning how to use restraints properly and safely.
So, if you’re wanting a serious, sex life makeover, or simply have wet dreams about being tied up, some BDSM restraints and exciting positions may be exactly what the sex doctor ordered.
How to Talk to Your Partner About BDSM
So, these BDSM positions get your heart racing and set your libido on fire! But how do you go about discussing your desires with your partner?
First of all, I wouldn’t suggest just showing up at home with rope, handcuffs and a flogger and saying, “Hi Honey, I thought we’d try something new this weekend!”
That’s because a lot of people don’t understand BDSM as a whole. Furthermore, some people believe BDSM is all about pain and humiliation, and when you experiment, you are all in.
However, trying out BDSM doesn’t mean that at all. I mean, the BDSM police will not show up at your door if you just try out the B (bondage) part, or the BD – bondage, dominance.
BDSM, in and of itself, is a term that covers a broad range of sexual kinks and you are in no way required to sign a contract and try it all. That being said, what can you say to your partner to covey your desire to be tied up or vice versa?
Let’s Talk About BDSM
Approach your partner in the same way you would when sharing a fantasy. After all, bondage is simply a type of kinky sex that can add an exciting new aspect to lovemaking.
So, sit down, have some coffee or a cocktail, cuddle up and talk about your desires. And make sure your partner shares their fantasies as well.
Then, if they are game, make sure you discuss just how far you want to go, as well as learning your partner’s limits. And who knows, they may be a bit kinkier that you ever imagined!
Before You Get Started, Learn How to Be Safe
The most important part of bondage positions is learning how to be safe. After all, you are allowing your partner to tie you up, leaving you vulnerable (or vice versa).
Therefore, some things must be discussed before you try out any sort of bondage. And first and foremost, you and your partner must consent to any sort of kink play.
What that means is your partner must say yes to this…. not maybe, not I’m not sure, but 100% yes. Additionally, they have the right to change their minds at any point during your sexual encounter.
And if that happens, you stop and unrestrain them immediately.
No, they won’t “just relax and start linking it.”
Do not guilt them into continuing.
And finally, do not beg, threaten, pout or in any way try and coerce them into continuing.
Safety Tips for the Best BDSM Positions
Now that we have consent out of the way, you must be sure all safety measures are taken so that you both can enjoy a little bondage. Therefore, always follow these safety tips:
- Create a safe word that means STOP immediately. This can be anything you two decide.
- Keep safety scissors at arms reach and at all times.
- Be sure there are no heavy or sharp objects into which your partner can fall, while they are tied up.
- Check that your bound partner isn’t turning colors, receiving cuts or abrasions or feeling any tingling or numbness. If so, use those scissors or release the cuffs or tie-downs.
- Be sure and practice aftercare with cuddling, love and bonding, without the ropes, after trying any of these BDSM positions.