Learning how to make yourself squirt can be a fun adventure in self-pleasure! It gives you the opportunity to get to know your body more intimately and maybe discover a new way to experience pleasure!
Being able to squirt or not doesn’t say anything about the quality or your sex life or ability to enjoy sex, but exploring whether or not your body can do it can help you learn about what brings you pleasure!
Here’s everything I’ll cover in this complete guide to squirting:
- The quick and squirty guide to making yourself squirt
- How to make yourself squirt: Step-by-step instructions
- Top tips for squirting
- What is squirting and can everyone do it?
The quick and squirty guide to making yourself squirt
- Create a relaxing environment and put some towels or a waterproof sex blanket down on your bed.
- Empty your bladder to help you feel more at ease when it comes to squirting.
- Get yourself turned on by fantasising or enjoying some audio erotica or ethical porn and spend some time on sensual foreplay.
- Start with some gentle g-spot, clitoral, or dual stimulation to allow your arousal to build gradually.
- Slowly increase the intensity, paying attention to any sensations that feel like you might need to pee — warmth, tingling, or pressure, and lean into them. Try to keep your pelvic floor muscles relaxed.
- As you climax, push down slightly into your pelvic floor.
- If you don’t squirt, try exploring multiple orgasm.
- Whether you squirt or not, take a minute to relax and enjoy all the pleasurable sensations in your body!
Next, I’m going to take you through each step in a lot more detail to give you all the info you need about for your squirting journey! As well as covering all the different squirting techniques in detail, I’ll also share my favorite sex toys, so you can learn how to squirt with a vibrator or dildo!
How to make yourself squirt: Step-by-step instructions
Now to the fun part! Trying to squirt can be a great way to unlock new pleasure and get to know your body more intimately regardless of whether you squirt or not.
It’s also really important not to put too much pressure on yourself! Not only will it take the fun out of the experience, but it can also reduce your chances of squirting as it takes you out of the moment and distracts you from what you are feeling.
I highly recommend learning how to squirt while masturbating rather than with a partner as there is much less pressure and you really tune into the fine sensations you feel in your body.
How to prepare for squirting
1. Set the scene
Find some time to dedicate to self pleasure, when you aren’t rushed and don’t have any distractions.
Prepare your space with something to protect your bed. I can highly recommend the Liberator Fascinator waterproof throw — it has made my life so much easier! If you don’t have a waterproof blanket, grab some old towels. You’ll want to layer a few together just in case!
Grab whichever sex toys you want to use and some lubrication.
2. Empty your bladder
When you squirt, it can feel like you need to urinate, but it’s important to give into that feeling rather than hold it back like we are used to.
Emptying your bladder can help you feel more comfortable letting go and leaning into that sensation.
The liquid you release when you squirt does come from the bladder, but a 2015 study showed that it enters the bladder just before it happens, so emptying it ensures it’s only this liquid that is released.
3. Spend some time getting aroused
The more aroused you are, the easier it will be, so really indulge in all the things that turn you on. Here are some suggestions to get you going:
Different ways to make yourself squirt
While g-spot stimulation seems to be the most common and well known squirting trigger, it isn’t the only one! Some people can also squirt from clitoral stimulation or a a combination of the two, so I’ll go over the different ways below.
Finding out what does it for you is going to be trial and error, but that just means you get to masturbate more and that’s a win-win in my books!
OMGYes did the research on Squirting and found that vulva owners use a range of techniques to squirt with G-spot stimulation being the most popular but clitoral and anal stimulation coming up as well!
Their course has a whole module on squirting including real life demonstrations from women showing the techniques they use. Plus, a section on how to bring those techniques into the bedroom with a partner.
Next up, I’ll take you step-by-step through three different ways you can make yourself squirt!
How to make yourself squirt with G-spot stimulation
Many vulva owners find that intense G-spot stimulation can lead to squirting. This could be due to the G-spot’s location near to the bladder and urethral sponge.
Rather than being a distinct thing in and of itself, it’s highly likely that the G-spot feels good when stimulated because you are actually stimulating the internal clitoral structure. This also means that everyone’s G-spot is in a slightly different area, so you will need to take a little time to find yours.
1. Find your G-spot
In general, the G-spot is found an inch or two inside the vagina on the front wall. Take a well lubricated finger or two a curved sex toy and start exploring the front wall of your vagina for a spot that feels particularly sensitive or gives you the feeling you need to pee. Don’t be afraid of this, it’s actually a good indicator that you are in the right place.
If you need a little more guidance, check out this complete guide on how to find your G-spot.
2. Explore different movements and pressure
Most people find they need relatively strong stimulation to squirt, so you can try applying a little pressure but only as feels good. You can try stroking in a come hither motion, massaging, tapping, or circling.
Discover different squirting techniques Lola Jean, who actually holds the world record for the most amount squirted, so she really knows her stuff!
The Beducated Squirting Course covers everything you could ever want to know about squirting, including anatomy lessons and demonstrations of different techniques!
3. Take your time
Some people find that they need a lot of time and stimulation to squirt so really try to enjoy the ride and pay attention to all the sensations you feel along the way! You might find that as you get more aroused, you crave a little more pressure and speed, but just follow what feels good for you!
Using a firm G-spot dildo can make it easier to get the firm stimulation you need without your wrist cramping up.
4. The climax
As you feel your orgasm building, you might also feel the need to pee and this is actually a very good sign and could signal you are ready to squirt. Instead of tensing up and holding it in as you usually would, you can start paying attention to how that actually feels.
If you want to know more about the different squirting triggers, check out School of Squirt’s Squirting Triggers 2.0 course! The course uses some pretty vigorous techniques and is the language is a little misogynistic in places, so if you prefer something gentler, check out Beducated or OMGYes!
You can read Edwina’s full review of Squirting Triggers 2.0 to see if it’s the right course for you!
Try to notice what specific sensations you feel in your body and lean into them and let them build. When you feel on the verge of peeing, try to relax your pelvic floor or even push down slightly.
5. Multiple magic
If you climax but don’t experience squirting, you can also try to continue stimulating yourself as some people only squirt after they have already climaxed.
If you are too sensitive after you’ve already orgasmed, you can either take a little break and stimulate some other areas of your body until you are ready to go again or just enjoy the post-orgasmic bliss and call it a day!
The best tools G-spot tools for making yourself squirt
The best G-spot toys will have either a bulbed tip, a curved tip or both to help direct the stimulation to front wall of your vagina without straining your wrists!
Rigid materials like firm silicone, stainless steel, or glass are also great for squirting as they can provide more intense, deeper stimulation.
njoy Pure Wand
Gläs Honey Dripper Dildo
The smooth, bulb-shaped tip of the Gläs Honey Dripper Dildo is the perfect shape for hunting out your G-spot and applying just the right amount of pressure. You can also heat the Honey Dripper before use for a more sensual experience!
Dame Arc Vibrator
If you prefer a little more stimulation, the Dame Arc is a fantastic G-spot vibrator! The curved, bulbed tip delivers powerful vibrations directly to your G-spot. It’s also a little squishy, so you can comfortably apply more pressure for a more intense feeling.
How to make yourself squirt with clitoral stimulation
Yes, it is totally possible to squirt from clitoral stimulation alone!
Much like with G-spot stimulation, most people tend to need intense clitoral stimulation to make themselves squirt so I recommend grabbing your trusty magic wand vibrator or clit sucker to give you a hand!
1. Start low and slow
Warm up with a lower setting on your vibrator to to give yourself more time to build arousal. As you can see above, the clitoris actually extends into your body and either side of your vaginal opening so spend time stimulating your vulva to really build arousal.
You can also practice edging where you let the arousal build almost to the point of climax and then letting the feeling subside. Repeating this process a few times can lead to a more powerful orgasm when you get there!
2. Build up the power
When you are ready, you can increase the power as feels good for you.
Try to pay attention to how your body feels, do notice any sensations similar to needing to pee. What are the specific sensations you feel they feel? Can you lean into them.
3. Relax your pelvic floor
As you reach orgasm take some deep breaths, relax your pelvic floor or push down slightly. If you aren’t too sensitive, try to keep the stimulation going as you orgasm.
4. Go for round 2…or 3!
If you don’t squirt when you orgasm, are you able to keep going? If you aren’t too sensitive, you can try continuing the stimulation as this is when the magic happens for some people! You might find you squirt separately to your orgasm or that you need multiple orgasms to squirt.
The best clitoral stimulators for making yourself squirt
While everyone is different, as I mentioned before, a powerful vibrator or clitoral sucker can be the key to unlocking squirting. Here are some of my favorites!
Doxy Die Cast Wand
While the Lelo Sila isn’t the most powerful clitoral suction stimulator, the indirect stimulation can make it easy to go for round two or three after you’ve had your first orgasm. This is especially useful for people who are too sensitive to keep going after using a vibrator!
We-Vibe Tango X
The We-Vibe Tango is a better option if you prefer pinpoint stimulation in a very particular spot. It may be small but this is one of the most powerful, rumbly bullet vibrators on the market! The firm tip also helps provide more intense stimulation.
How to make yourself squirt with dual stimulation
You might find that just g-spot or clitoral stimulation alone doesn’t give you the stimulation you need to squirt, you might have more luck with combining the two! You can follow the same steps as above but instead use a dual stimulation toy! Here are some of my favorites to help you on your squirting quest!
The We-Vibe Nova
The Lelo Enigma
The Greedy Girl
Top tips for squirting
Here are a few more squirts, I mean words, of wisdom to help you in your squirting journey!
- Stay hydrated! The liquid released when you squirt has to come from somewhere so be sure to drink plenty of hydrating fluids.
- Get to know your pelvic floor better. Learning how to contract and release your pelvic floor can help you know how to properly relax and release when trying to squirt.
- Try to focus on the actual specific sensations rather thinking about needing to pee. This can help you let go and feel more at ease releasing the fluid.
- Don’t put pressure on yourself to squirt. Try to enjoy the process of getting to know your body better without any shame about whether or not you squirt.
- Be patient and enjoy the journey! You might find that you need to try multiple times before you can give in and let yourself squirt as it can feel counterintuitive to let the fluid out. Be patient and enjoy the journey!
What is squirting and can everyone do it?
Squirting is the release of fluid from the urethra that can sometimes happen during sexual stimulation either alone or with a partner. Not everyone with a vulva squirts and the amount squirted can vary a lot.
Squirting is different from female ejaculation, when a small amount of fluid is released from the Skene’s glands. A study used ultrasound to determine where the fluid released during squirting came from. Participants were asked to empty their bladders before beginning sexual stimulation. They then saw that their bladders rapidly refilled before squirting.
The study also analysed the what the liquid was made of and found that it had many of the same elements as pee, together with some prostatic specific antigen. We’ve got a whole blog that takes a deep dive into the age old question, is squirt pee?
The jury is out on whether all vulva owners can squirt. It seems that everyone has the right equipment but as there is still so much we don’t know about why and how squirting happens, it’s hard to say whether or not everyone can do it. There are psychological factors that play a role in being able to squirt.