Ultimate G-Spot Stimulation Guide: How to Stimulate Your G-Spot (Fingering, Sex Toys, and Sex Positions)

By Isabelle Uren / August 04, 2021

We are going to get stuck right in with what you came here for — how to stimulate your g-spot, and how to have a g-spot orgasm.

If you want more information on the g-spot and how to find it, scroll down the extra information section at the end of the article.

But before we dive in at the deep end (pun intended), here are some tips to help you in your g-spot adventure.

  1. Make sure you are fully aroused. When you are aroused, your g-spot swells, making it more sensitive and easier to find.
  2. Don’t focus solely on having an orgasm, and enjoy the sensations along the way. 
  3. Be patient with yourself and your partner.
  4. Relax and breathe deeply to release your pelvic floor muscles.

How to Stimulate Your G-Spot Using Your Fingers

Illustration of a G-spot fingering technique

Ok, we’re keeping it simple with the first technique. All you’ll need is your fingers and a bit of patience! Using your fingers can be less intimidating than a toy, and it is easier to control the pressure and motion of the stimulation.

How to stimulate your own g-spot using your fingers

It’s easiest to do this lying on your back with knees bent and feet flat on the bed. Once you are feeling fully aroused, you can insert a finger or two into your vagina and curl them upward towards the front wall of your vagina.

Come hither…

Come hither video

The classic motion that most people will have heard of is the come hither motion, in which you stroke the g-spot in a repetitive rhythm. You can also experiment with other strokes, such as circles and different levels of pressure. Just like us, each g-spot has different preferences. It can be difficult, so consider using either a come hither vibrator or a simplt g-spot vibrator.

How to stimulate a partner’s g-spot using your fingers

Essentially, this is the same technique but from a different angle! You want to insert your finger or fingers partially into their vagina and start with the come hither motion. Once you have found the right spot, you can experiment with speed, pressure, and movement to find out what works best. Communicating with your partner about what feels good here is key!

When you’ve found the magic movement keep going at a consistent pace and watch them wonder at your orgasmic, rhythmic abilities.

How to Stimulate Your G-Spot with Sex Toys

short strokes dildo masturbation

Next up is how to use dildos and vibrators to stimulate your g-spot. G-spot sex toys are usually curved, have a bulbed tip to help you get the right angle.

They are often made from more rigid materials including firm silicone, metal, and glass. Before you gasp in horror at the thought of something that cold and hard in your most sensitive areas, the rigidity is fantastic for deep g-spot massage.

Pro tip: You can warm glass or stainless steel dildos up by placing them in warm (NOT HOT) water before using.

Using g-spot dildos or vibrators saves your or your partner’s fingers from getting tired halfway or even worse, just as you are close to finishing!

How to use a G-Spot Dildo

The aim of the game here is to massage the dildo back and forth against your g-spot, so you might find a rocking motion rather than a thrusting motion works better for you, and you want to focus on the first three-four inches of your vagina. 

Here’s my top pick for g-spot dildos made from metal, glass, and silicone. If it’s your first time using a g-spot dildo, you might want to opt for the silicone option.

Metal: The Njoy Pure Wand

njoy pure wand

The Njoy Pure Wand is possibly the most iconic g-spot dildo. This sleek, silver beauty has also earned itself the moniker of the squirting dildo. With two ends to choose from, you decide how intense you want your g-spot stimulation. The curve also makes it incredibly easy to rock back forth, hitting your g-spot every time.

Glass: The Tracey Cox Supersex Glass Dildo Set

Tracey Cox Supersex Glass Dildo Set

The glass dildo set from Tracey Cox’s Supersex Range gives you plenty of ways to explore g-spot stimulation. Experiment between using the bulbed wand or the s-shape wand with a more dramatic curve to discover which pleases you the most. The bumpy textures can also feel fantastic moving across your g-spot.

Silicone: The Lovehoney Satisfy Me G-Spot Silicone Dildo

Lovehoney Satisfy Me G-Spot Silicone Dildo

While it is still firm enough to achieve some deeply satisfying g-spot massage, the Lovehoney Satisfy Me silicone dildo has slightly more give in it. This is a great option for people who are new to g-spot stimulation or anyone who enjoys more gentle g-spot stimulation.

How to use a g-spot vibrator 

Much like g-spot dildos, g-spot vibrators are uniquely shaped to take the mystery out of finding your g-spot. They come with a dazzling array of patterns and vibration intensities to help you get the winning combination.

You can experiment with constant vibrations pressed against your g-spot and massaging movements to see which works best for you. 

Here’s my pick for a luxury g-spot vibrator…

The Lelo Gigi 2 G-spot Vibrator


The Gigi 2 from LELO will treat your g-spot like orgasmic royalty! The flat tip is specifically designed to help you locate your g-spot and deliver intense vibrations. It also makes a pretty awesome clitoral stimulator too!

And my pick for a budget-friendly option…

The Lovehoney Power Play G-Spot Vibrator

Lovehoney Power Play 7 Function G-Spot Vibrator

The Power Play G-Spot Vibrator from Lovehoney has curves in all the right places and 7 vibrating functions to choose from. 

Sex Positions to Stimulate Your G-Spot 

To stimulate the g-spot during penetrative sex, either with a penis or a strap-on dildo, you want a position that will maximize the stimulation of the front wall of your vagina. This can involve trying out new angles, shallower penetration, or adjusting your legs to get a tighter fit and increase the friction.

But that’s not all…

Instead of thrusting in and out, create friction over the g-spot by using rocking, grinding, and circling movements.

Here are some new twists on the old classics that can add a little more g-spot pleasing action to penetrative sex.

Laid Back Cowgirl

A lesbian couple, riding position

This classic riding position only needs a small tweak to make it a g-spot grinding wonder position! Instead of sitting upright or leaning forward, the partner on top can lean backward, putting their hands on their partner’s legs for support. It’s easy for the partner on top to adjust the position until they find the angle where their partner’s penis or strap-on is moving back and forth over their g-spot.

Puppy pose

Puppy pose

Doggy style can be a great way to give your partner access to your g-spot, especially with shallower penetration. This is a variation of the doggy style position that involves the partner being penetrated bringing their chest and arms to the floor or bed (or wherever you are getting busy) and keeping their butt high. They can also bring their legs together for a tighter feeling.


couple spooning

Ah, the cozy socks and cup of tea of the sex position world! You can still get that g-spot action in the spooning position. The partner being penetrated can experiment with different leg positions, such as bringing their knees up towards their chest or crossing their legs over to find the best way to stimulate their g-spot. 

Blended Stimulation

So maybe you’ve had a lot of fun trying out these techniques, but you still haven’t found what you’re looking for! Maybe you’ve found your g-spot and enjoy the stimulation, but it’s not enough to reach an orgasm. Fear not! Blended orgasms are here to save the day, and you won’t be disappointed. 

But did you know…

Although we call this dual stimulation, the g-spot and clitoral glans (the small round external part of the clitoris) are both parts of the bigger clitoral structure.

Top toys for blended stimulation

The Womanizer Duo 

Womanizer duo

This space-age version of the classic rabbit combines air pulse clitoral stimulation with deep, rumbly g-spot vibrations for orgasms that will leave you weak at the knees and totally speechless! The Womanizer Duo is a powerhouse of orgasmic potential!

Read more about my experience testing the Duo

The Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl Rabbit Vibrator 

Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator

The OG of dual stimulation, the rabbit vibrator knows exactly how to deliver when it comes to blended orgasms. The Greedy Girl Rabbit Vibrator from the Fifty Shades of Grey range combines powerful but quiet vibrations and a curved shaft to target your g-spot. 

Read more about Edwina’s experience testing the Greedy Girl Rabbit Vibrator

Blended stimulation with a partner

oral and g-spot stimulation

Receiving dual stimulation from a partner is like getting the royal treatment. Combining oral clitoral stimulation with g-spot stimulation, using a dildo or fingers makes for some intensely satisfying sensations.

The receiving partner can lie on their back with their partner between their legs. The giving partner can then use their mouth and tongue to stimulate their partner’s clitoris and surrounding vulva while simultaneously using their fingers or a toy to massage their partner’s g-spot.

What is the g-spot?

The much-debated existence of the g-spot is most likely because it isn’t a distinct structure in its own right. Rather, it is part of the clitoral structure. As well as the clitoral glans we all know and love that sits outside the body, there are two clitoral legs that extend inside the body. 

The pink areas in the picture show the external parts of the clitoris that extend into the body.

Clitoris and Vulva diagram

When you stimulate the g-spot, you are stimulating the internal part of the clitoris as well as other sensitive tissue in the area.

So, while the g-spot might not be a distinct structure, it certainly has a distinctly pleasurable sensation!

Where is the g-spot?

Google maps can’t help you here, but I’m 100% sure that’s a good thing! 

Every vagina is unique, meaning that everyone’s g-spot is in a slightly different place. Some people notice a difference in texture where their g-spot lies and others don’t. You might also notice that you have the sensation of needing to urinate when you stimulate your g-spot due to its proximity to the urethra. 

How to find your g-spot: 

  1. Ensure you are fully aroused.
  2. Insert a finger or two a few inches into your vagina
  3. Curl your finger upwards towards the front wall of your vagina (towards your belly button)
  4. Start looking for a change in texture or sensation as you use the come hither motion to stroke the inside wall. 
  5. You may find that your g-spot is off to one side, so explore the whole area. 

G-spot Trivia

Now you have the knowledge you need to enjoy g-spot stimulation both solo and with a partner, here’s some cold, hard knowledge to impress your friends with or use in a pub quiz.

And remember with great knowledge comes great responsibility — a responsibility to educate everyone of the wonders of the glorious g-spot!

  1. If you’ve ever wondered what g-spot stands for, you are not alone. The ‘g’ in g-spot stands for Gräfenberg, the name of a physician who researched urethra’s involvement in female pleasure.
  2. You might be thinking, this is great if you’ve got a vagina but where is the male g-spot? Penis owners have a small gland called the prostate that can be stimulated anally or externally through massaging the perineum (taint).
  3. Another common question is what does the g-spot feel like? Some people find that their g-spot is firmer or has more of a bumpy texture than the surrounding area, but this varies from person to person and some people might not have any noticeable differences.