First things first…
Squirting is ok. Not squirting is ok. The idea of squirting being the ultimate show of female sexual power or the idea that it is shameful or dirty is not.
Good, glad we got that out of the way!
Now If you are curious about how to squirt with a vibrator, you are in the right place!
Squirting or even trying to squirt is one of the many ways you can connect with your body and explore your sexual pleasure, and it can feel pretty incredible! It’s difficult to know if you are able to squirt, but there’s no harm in having a go, and you might even surprise yourself. At the very least, you’ll have a great time trying!
If you want a little more information on squirting and female ejaculation (they are different but related), then head to the bottom of the post, but for now, we are getting stuck in with squirt-worthy tips and techniques.
How to Prepare for Squirting
Before you get down to the good stuff, it’s important to start in the right headspace. Squirting requires you to feel completely relaxed and comfortable, so putting a lot of pressure on yourself to ‘perform’ is only going to hold you back. Start with a curious mindset, focussing only on your pleasure and enjoyment and understanding your body better.
While there are no set guidelines, there are some things you can do to help you relax:
- Stay hydrated. And I don’t mean chug a bottle of water just before you are getting to it. You want to keep yourself well hydrated throughout the day. I mean that’s pretty standard advice whether you are trying to squirt or not!
- Empty your bladder before trying to squirt. You might feel the urge to pee when trying to squirt, and knowing you have emptied your bladder will help you feel more at ease.
- Lay some towels own on your bed. Again, this will help you feel at ease. No worrying about the bedsheets. And if you do succeed in your squirting quest, you’ll be happy you followed this step!
- Create a relaxing environment. Play some soft music, burn some candles, or diffuse some essential oils — whatever you need to help you relax. Now’s also a good time to gather everything you might need. You’ll want your favorite sex toys, some lube, and anything you enjoy watching, reading, or listening to get you in the mood.
Arousal is Key
When you are fully aroused, the blood flow rushes to the vulva, causing the labia, clitoris, and g-spot to swell, making them much more sensitive. It also makes it easier to find and stimulate your g-spot and is a crucial step if you want to squirt. You want to spend at least 30 minutes getting yourself fully aroused. There are definitely worse ways to spend 20 minutes!
Here are some ideas to help you get fully aroused:
- Watch some ethical porn, listen to some erotic audio stories or read erotic fiction. Whatever floats your boat! Bellesa is a great site for feminist porn and the Dipsea app has a great selection of erotic audio and fiction.
- Give yourself a massage, paying particular attention to your erogenous zones, including your breasts, stomach, and inner thighs. Switch up your touch from light strokes to grabbing or running your nails across your skin.
- Use your sex toys on areas of your body that aren’t your vulva. Your bullet vibrator or clitoral suction vibrator also makes for wonderful nipple stimulation.
Vibrators for Squirting
So this will be different from person to person, depending on what type of stimulation you prefer. If you aren’t sure what works best for you, try them all out! While many women report squirting from g-spot stimulation, you can also squirt from clitoral stimulation or a combination of the two. You might want to try a combination of the following techniques or stick to the one you know works for you.
Clitoral Stimulation
All clitorises are unique, so understanding what type of sensation and power strength you respond best to is key. Clitoral suction vibrators are really great for strong orgasms, as they provide powerful stimulation without over-sensitizing your clitoris with vibrations. The indirect stimulation might also make it easier to go for multiple orgasms, which some people find helps with squirting.
Lelo Sona 2 Cruise
The Sona 2 Cruise uses sonic wave technology to indirectly stimulate your clitoris glans (the external part) and the internal parts of your clitoral network, making for some seriously strong orgasms. The cruise technology, that ups the power when you push the toy against your body is also helpful in giving you that explosive orgasm you are looking for. I was more than impressed when I got to review the Sona 2 Cruise, and I love it even more now I’ve been using it for longer.
G-Spot Stimulation
Many people find intense g-spot stimulation holds the key to unlocking squirting. Vibrators that are curved or have a bulbous tip and deep, rumbly vibrations are going to be a good option here. You might also find that you need to use quite a lot of pressure to stimulate your g-spot to a squirting orgasm. You can try moving the vibrator back and forth over your g-spot rather than thrusting in and out. If you are unsure how to find or stimulate your g-spot check out this complete guide to g-spot stimulation.
We-Vibe Rave
The Rave checks all the boxes when it comes to g-spot pleasing vibrations. Curved, bulbous, and with deep, and wonderfully rumbly vibrations. The asymmetrical design also adds another dimension to g-spot stimulation, allowing you to twist the shaft and easily massage your g-spot.
And there’s plenty more to choose from when it comes to g-spot vibrators.
Fun Factory Stronic Real
An alternative to vibrations, is a thrusting vibrator, like the Stronic Real from Fun Factory. Rather than vibrating, the shaft pulses back and forth to create a thrusting motion that can work wonders on your g-spot. Some people find this deep massage, more similar to what you feel during penetration, is just what they need to squirt.
If the Stronic isn’t what you are looking for, there are loads of other thrusting vibrators to choose from.
Dual Stimulation
It doesn’t have to be one or the other. Stimulating the g-spot and clit at the same time can lead to some extremely powerful orgasms and might be just what you need to push you over the edge into squirting glory. Rabbit-style vibrators come in all shapes and sizes, so there’s something out there for everyone, but here are two that pack some serious orgasm power!
Lora DiCarlo Osé 2
The Osé 2 uses micro-robotics to mimic oral sex and g-spot stimulation for some intense dual stimulation. It got a glowing review from our sex toy expert Edwina, and she even asked if she could marry hers.
We-Vibe Nova 2
This modern take on the classic rabbit vibrator has curves in all the right places. The curved shaft on the Nova 2 is designed to deliver rumbly vibrations directly to your clitoris, while the external part nestles against your clitoris, giving you the added sensation you need for the big release.
The Big O
As you feel yourself approaching orgasm, there are some things you can do to help yourself to squirt. Squirting can happen independently of orgasm but often happens simultaneously.
- Don’t tense your muscles up. You might feel like you need to pee and instinctively tense, or you may tense automatically when you orgasm. You want to keep your muscles relaxed. Deep breathing can help.
- Push down on your pelvic floor muscles. Rather than clenching your pelvic floor, you can try bearing down with more of a pushing motion. This could help to get things started. (This is also why it’s a good idea to pee first.)
- Rather than stopping stimulating yourself when you feel the orgasm happening, if you can, keep going. Some find increasing the power or speed at this point helpful.
- The amount you squirt can vary from a small trickle to a fountainous explosion, so even if it doesn’t look like what you may have seen online, that doesn’t mean you haven’t squirted.
If you squirted, sit back and enjoy your newfound skill, and if you didn’t, sit back and enjoy that post-orgasmic bliss. Squirt or no squirt, your body goes through some pretty incredible changes after you orgasm, with some fantastic physical and mental benefits. If you didn’t squirt this time, don’t feel bad. It might still happen one day, and it might not.
What is Squirting?
There is a lot of disagreement and misinformation surrounding squirting. The U.K. even banned squirting in British-produced porn in 2014 due to being unable to distinguish it from urination or watersports, which was previously banned due to health concerns (another debatable topic). While there’s no consensus on exactly what squirting is, we do know it is completely natural, can feel fantastic, and is definitely nothing to be ashamed of.
What is the difference between female ejaculation and squirting?
Female ejaculate is liquid released from the Skene’s glands, which are two ducts that run along the side of your urethra. Skene’s glands are known as the female prostate and produce a liquid similar to the prostate. This liquid is milky in color, produced in a smaller amount, and biochemically different from urine.
The larger volume of liquid produced during squirting is believed to come from the bladder and is expelled through the urethra. A 2014 study took a small group of women who could squirt and scanned their bladders before, during, and after squirting. All the participants were confirmed to have empty bladders at the start of the experiment, and they found that the participant’s bladders filled with liquid just before they squirted and emptied after squirting.
Analysis of the liquid released from squirting showed a similar make-up to urine, with the addition of prostatic-specific antigen, which is actually a component of female ejaculate. This still leaves a few questions unanswered though. Why does the bladder fill before squirting and where does the liquid come from?
So is squirting pee?
This is an ongoing debate. It does appear that the liquid released during squirting comes from the bladder and shares some similarities with pee, with the addition of female ejaculate from the Skene’s gland, but it is unclear if there is anything else going on.
What does squirting feel like?
The feeling varies from person to person and can even change depending on the type of stimulation. For most people, it feels really good! Many people who can squirt describe it as a strong feeling of release that feels distinctly different from an orgasm but still very pleasurable. The liquid released can also vary in terms of amount and pressure. Five women shared their experiences of squirting in a recent Cosmopolitan article.
So whether you are squirt a little, a lot, or not at all, I hope you’ve got a better idea of what it is and how to try to squirt with your favorite vibrator. Like many other sexual acts, it seems like science, politics, and porn have all contributed to some pretty warped ideas surrounding a completely normal bodily function. Squirting or not, your body is capable of incredible things when it comes to sexual pleasure!
If you’ve got any squirting tips and tricks to share, we’d love to hear them in the comments box below! Sharing is caring, after all!
