How to Use a Couples Vibrator

Many sex toys can be enjoyed by couples, thruples, quads, and more, but today, we are focussing on devices that stimulate both partners at once! After all, sharing is caring, especially when it comes to pleasure. Much like all sex toys today, there are many shapes and sizes of couples vibrators that allow for shared sensations, and which one you choose will depend on which sets of genitals you want to please and what type of stimulation you enjoy — don’t worry, we’ve got something for everyone!

 

What’s So Great About Couples Vibrators?

 

But before we get down to it, let me tell you why a couples’ vibrator is a great addition to your partner play and how it can enhance even already great sex!

  • The Orgasm Gap — In heterosexual couples men orgasm more frequently than women, and while orgasm isn’t the only goal of sex, they sure are great. One reason for the orgasm gap is that the majority of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm and that’s often overlooked during penetrative sex, so a couples vibrator is a great way to make sure everyone gets exactly what they need!
  • They allow you to enjoy hands-free added stimulation without needing to hold bulky sex toys in between you and your partner, helping to maintain the intimacy of the moment.
  • You can enjoy dual stimulation (i.e., stimulating two or more erogenous zones at the same time) without any extra work, which can lead to some incredibly powerful blended orgasms!
  • Trying something new with a partner can help enhance connection and intimacy and bring a spark of excitement into the bedroom.
  • Vibrations aren’t only pleasurable for vulva owners, they can work wonders on your perineum or penis!
  • They are a great way to spice up your foreplay game.

 

C-Shaped Couples Vibrators

 

 

C-shaped vibrators a designed to be worn inside the vagina during penetrative sex either with a penis, dildo, or fingers. One section rest against the front wall of the vagina, stimulating the g-spot, while the other section curves around and stimulates the clitoris. If the penetrating partner has a penis, they will also get the thrill of vibrations from the internal part of the vibrator against the shaft and head of their penis.

Top Pick: We-Vibe Chorus

We-Vibe Chorus

The We-Vibe Chorus is gloriously rumbly and stays put extremely well. I also love the squeeze remote that you can squeeze for a little power-up whenever you like! It also comes with an elegant charging case, meaning you can keep it fully charged on your nightstand so you don’t have to rummage around for it when you’re in the throes of passion! The only downside of the Chorus is the unreliable app, so that’s something to consider. My in-depth review has a lot more information to help you figure out if this is the right couples vibrator for you.

 

How to Use a C-Shaped Couples Vibrator

 

 

  1. As always, start with some foreplay to get both partner’s fully aroused and ready for penetrative sex.
  2. Apply some water-based lubrication to both sides of the insertable part and the part that rests against the clitoris and insert the vibrator. Some c-shaped vibrators have a posable mid-section, so you can adjust the angles to suit your body.
  3. The penetrating partner can then slide their penis or dildo into their partner’s vagina behind the vibrator.
  4. If there’s a remote control, either partner can take control of the vibrations as you both enjoy the added oomph to your session!

 

Penis Rings

 

 

Vibrating penis rings have a double effect — the rubber ring provides some light constriction that can help keep an erection harder for longer while the vibrations add some extra stimulation for both partners. The vibrations are often strongest in the external part that is designed to rest against a partner’s clitoris, but they can also be enjoyed during anal sex.

They range in price from a few dollars for a cheap, disposable cock ring to over dollars for a high-tech, app-controlled one with endless variations of patterns to please you and your partner. Trying a cheaper vibrating cock ring with your partner is a great way to see if you both enjoy the stimulation and find out if a higher quality one is worth the investment.

Top Pick: TENGA Smart Vibe Ring

 

Tenga has re-envision the vibrating cock ring to create the Smart Vibe Ring, or SVR to its friends. It has a much longer external vibrating part, which makes it easier to position and maintain contact. This is a fantastic upgrade, as many vibrating penis rings quite literally missed the mark. On top of that, the longer design stimulates more of the vulva, making the most of all those sensitive nerve endings. The SVR is also made of body-safe silicone, rechargeable and waterproof and even doubles up as a great finger vibrator!

 

How to Use a Penis Ring

  1. Slide the stretchy loop over an erect or semi-erect penis — a little lube will help it slide on without pinching.
  2. Add some lube to the clitoral stimulator.
  3. Enter your partner, get the clitoral stimulator into the right position.
  4. Enjoy hands-free blissful vibrations as you do your thing!

Penis sleeves

 

 

Penis sleeves have now branched out into the world of couple’s pleasure with the addition of external vibrations that can be enjoyed by a partner. Most couples vibrators focus more on enhancing stimulation for vulva owners, as we tend to need a little more to get us there, but penis sleeves put penis pleasure in the hotspot.

Wearable During Penetrative Sex

 

The Ignite from Lovehoney is designed to slip over your penis, adding both girth and vibrations for supersized and super stimulating partner sex. It’s made from soft stretchy silicone and is waterproof and rechargeable but it comes up a little on the smaller side so might not be the best if you have a larger than average penis.

Fun for Foreplay

 

Hot Octopuss specialize in orgasmic oscillations that send ripples of pleasure through the shaft of your penis but now you can share the fun with a partner. The Pulse Duo has the classic oscillating plate on the inside and vibrations in the base of the device so each partner gets a slice of the action. This simultaneous stimulation is best enjoyed by partners with two penis owners or a person with a penis and a person with a vulva. The Pulse Duo is a fantastic option for people with erectile dysfunction it can be used with a flaccid or semi-erect penis to take you from start to finish.

How to Use a Vibrating Penis Sleeve

  1. You should have guessed it by now, apply some lube t0 the inside and outside of the device.
  2. Place the sleeve over the penis and get it comfortably into position.
  3. You can then use enjoy penetrative sex or have your partner grind their vulva or perineum over your shaft.

 

Strapless Strap-On Vibrator

 

 

Strapless strap-on vibrators (someone please give them a catchier name) allow vulva owners the thrill of having their own penetrative appendage. They are perfect for vulva-vulva penetrative sex or pegging. Not only that, it has vibrating parts for both partners to enjoy! The only downside of strapless strap-ons is that they can be a little tricky to keep in place, so you might want to read more on whether strapless strap-ons really work or get some tips for how to make them work for you!

Top Pick: Strap-On-Me Vibrating Strapless Strap-on

 

This luxurious strap-on has impressive three vibrating motors to lavish you and your partner with stimulation. It also features a posable neck, making it easier to get the perfect angle for whatever position takes your fancy. You also get a remote that allows you to control each of the motors separately for complete customisation.

How to Use a Vibrating Strapless Strap-On

  1. Take some time to enjoy foreplay and make sure both partners are fully aroused.
  2. Apply some water-based lubrication to the wearer’s bulb and insert it into your vagina. You might want to consider adding a harness or harness style underwear for some added support — strapless strap-ons can be tricky to keep in place by sheer pelvic floor power alone.
  3. Apply some lube to the shaft and penetrate your partner’s anus or vagina.
  4. Use the controls to figure out your favourite vibration combinations.

 

Tips for Talking to Your Partner About Trying a Couples Vibrator 

 

 

  • Have the conversation when you are both relaxed and comfortable and not just before, during, or directly after sex. A cosy evening or slow weekend morning would be a great time to broach the topic.
  • Use positive language and reassure your partner that your desire to try a couple’s vibrator isn’t based on their performance. 
  • “I love it when we (have sex), and I would love to try using a couples vibrator. I think the vibrations would be a real turn-on for me, and I think you might enjoy them too. How do you feel about trying it?”
  • Or you can show them this article — “I saw this article about using couple’s vibrators and think it would be exciting to try it with you. Can I show it to you?”
  • Be patient with them and respect their boundaries.
  • If you are both up for trying a couples vibrator, you can shop online together to find one that you both want to try. You’ll both be eagerly waiting for the post!

 

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