6 Best Sex Toys for Beginners
Today I’m bringing you all of the best sex toys for beginners of every type! I was too a beginner once, and made some crucial mistakes I’d like to help you avoid. To make it super easy, I’ve curated a list of the best beginner toys in every sex toy category. I’ve done this together with the Bedbible tester team, and we’ve had our hands of hundreds of different toys to decide on the right ones for this list.
Test Winner | Best for Couples | Best Bullet Vibrator | Best male masturbator | Best Butt Plug | Best Cock Ring |
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Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 3 | We-Vibe Chorus | We-Vibe Tango X | Stoya Destroyer Fleshlight | Biird Regii Butt Plug Set | Lovehoney Vibrating Cock Ring |
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How We Test sex toys for beginners
We’re a team of 324 sex toy testers and 13 sex toy experts.
To find the very best sex toys for beginners, our testers tried and reviewed 57 different products in this category.
Bad or even just mediocre sex toys for beginners didn’t make the list!
In total, we’ve thoroughly tested and reviewed 1073 toys over the past 6 years.
We even lab-tested some to get objective data.
Read more about how we test products.Test Winner Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 3
- Made of body safe silicone
- Air pulse, liquid air and vibrations
- App controlled
Pros
- ✅ Easy to connect to the Satisfyer app
- ✅ Sleek design with soft material
Cons
- ❌ Can feel a little jumpy
- ❌ Pretty loud, especially on higher settings
- ❌ Vibrations feel quite buzzy
Vibrations:
Why I Chose It
The Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 2 has been the most recognisable and reliable clit sucker for years, until her older, and much hotter sister has now entered the picture. Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 3 has blown the original out of the water, with her up to date design and material upgrade. The new ‘Liquid Air’ option, which has a super thin membrane over the mouth, I was sold on this toy completely. It’s like a soft, fluttering tongue that you can tease your clitoris with or press down for satisfyingly firm pressure. This toy really has it all, from smaller vibrations to heavy rumbling and fast sucking. It can be used on yourself by yourself or someone else, as well as on your nipples! This is one of the best beginner toys as it isnt too overwhelming or powerful, meaning that it is a great introductory toy, with room to advance.
The app control makes this toy also great for couples – it can be used as a long distance toy, or if you don’t like being in control. Just sit back, relax and let someone else take the reins. As this is a clit sucker, it is performing at its best when paired with lube, as the wetness from the lube should create a tighter seal around your clit, intensifying the sucking. As this toy is made of silicone, it could be paired with a water-based lube.
I always agreed with the phrase ‘If it ain’t broke don’t fix it’, until this Generation 3 version hit the market. It had to be picked as my test winner, there was no argument. If you are looking for realistic suction and vibration, then this is your perfect partner. Especially if you have a clitoris! You just have to buy it! Please!
Best for Couples We-Vibe Chorus
- App and remote controlled
- Long distance couple play
- Dual stimulation – internal and clitoral
Pros
- ✅ Strong rumbly vibrations
- ✅ Stimulation for both partners
- ✅ Hands-free clit stimulation during sex
- ✅ Squeeze activated remote
- ✅ Discreet charging dock/storage case
- ✅ Adjustable angles
Cons
- ❌ App connection not reliable
Vibrations:
Why I Chose It
Whether you’re one of those couples that are attached at the hip, or have a Facetime relationship 80% of the time, this toy is your new best friend. The We-Vibe Chorus is a revelation for penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex. This C-shaped pocket sized toy has two powerful, rumbly motors that can be controlled on the toy, in the app or using the remote control. If your partner is sat next to you, let them use the buttons or the remote so that you can be the pillow princess/prince. Or if you’re someone who isnt alway next to your other half, then have them download the app and control your orgasm from over international seas.
The first motor is in the external arm, which provides intense clitoral stimulation for the wearer and the second is in the internal arm which stimulates the wearer’s g-spot and their partner’s penis at the same time! The adjustable neck in the middle of the toy bends to fit your body, so you can enjoy all of this amazing stimulation hands-free! If you didn’t want to use it for PIV sex, it is still a great clitoral or internal vibrator to start off with, and then you have the choice to advance to PIV sex. It is a great toy for starting off with no experience and working your way up from there.
It’s easy to get into position and stays in place and I really like that it comes with a physical remote so you don’t have to use your phone during sex if you don’t want to! It’s also fun that you can squeeze the remote for an extra boost of power to tip you over into an orgasm. The vibrations are powerful and rumbly and everything you could want and the silicone is velvety soft! It’s a toy I think every couple should own!
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Best Bullet Vibrator We-Vibe Tango X
- Silicone and ABS Plastic
- 3 vibration intensities – button controlled
- Teardrop shape for accurate aim
Pros
- ✅ Silky soft silicone
- ✅ Rechargeable
- ✅ Easy to use
- ✅ Incredibly rumbly vibrations
- ✅ Lipstick-style shape for precision stimulation
Cons
- ❌ A little loud
- ❌ Battery runs out quickly
- ❌ Limited vibration modes
- ❌ No internal stimulation
Why I Chose It
As a beginner, I know what it is like being a little shy and reserved about sex toys. I am not one to often take my sex toys around with me in my handbag, but this one is so discreet it almost looks like a red lipstick! I love how small and secretive it is. It is small enough to take with me anywhere, even inside my wallet!
The We-Vibe Tango X is by far one of the best vibratos (overall) I’ve ever tried. The teardrop shape means you can enjoy pinpoint stimulation using the tip or broad stimulation by laying it flat against your body. The single-button controls make it easy to switch between the three different vibration intensities. The whole thing is covered in deliciously smooth silicone that feels fantastic against your body with a slick lube! It is one of the smaller toys on the list but don’t be fooled by the size, it can work wonders. It is super rumbly and a fantastic place to start your sex toy journey.
Our tester Rachel couldn’t contain her excitement in the review that she wrote, “My truly honest opinion is that the Tango X is one of the top vibrators on the market right now”. I have chosen to put this toy in the review as it is a great growth toy; a toy that you can start off with and then grow braver. It can be used with other toys like a dildo or butt plug, or on its own. You decide where to start – this is a very un-intimidating toy, so you can take it at your own pace.
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Best male masturbator Stoya Destroyer Fleshlight
- 9 inch insertable length
- TPE sleeve and plastic casing
- Changing textures throughout sleeve
Pros
- ✅ Realisting feeling against your cock
- ✅ Deep and tight inner canal
- ✅ Authentic looking pussy lips
Cons
- ❌ Not for people with girthier cocks
- ❌ Textures not the most exciting
Why I Chose It
Stoya is one of the most recognisable Fleshlight girls in the world, and now you have access to her, right at your finger tips. She really is one of the best on the market and it a great girl to start with if you re just venturing into the world of male masturbator. The soft plastic adds to the realism, making it feel fleshy and warm and the internal textures change the further you venture inside, stimulating you constantly with each pump. Sure, Stoya doesn’t have the most interesting internal sleeve, but that’s part of the reason I have chosen it as a beginner toy – she is someone how isnt going to overwhelm you, but will definitely be sure to satisfy you.
The soft plastic is flexible yet firm and feels ridiculously close to the real thing. Stoya has a 9 inch depth, more than enough length to satisfy any length! Our tester Ben absolutely loved it; “This thing is not just a toy; it’s a full-on adventure.” Stoya has 4 different sections within her sleeve, each section having a different tightness, texture and feel to it. This is great for variation and making the experience more enjoyable and unique – Fleshlight as a whole manage to do this well, as no 2 Fleshlight girls are the same.
Best Butt Plug Biird Regii Butt Plug Set
- Silicone set of 2 plugs
- Smallest diameter = 1.10″
- Flexible for comfort
Pros
- ✅ Beautifully soft silicone
- ✅ Comfortable to wear
- ✅ Asymmetrical base
- ✅ Two different sizes
- ✅ Lovely velvet storage bag
Cons
- ❌ Too small for more advanced tastes
Why I Chose It
I am going to be honest with you, when my partner said that they wanted to introduce me to butt plugs and anal toys, I had a mini panic attack. “That’s the wrong hole, isnt it?!” Oh how wrong I was, for my eyes (and asshole) has been opened to a whole new world. But for a beginner, I would strongly recommend starting small and getting bigger. That’s why I have chosen the Biird Regii Butt Plug Set so that you can do exactly that. These mini butt plugs are so good for someone starting out and wanting to start on the smallest size. If you were to go in to big (pun intended), then it could be uncomfortable and even dangerous… let’s not do that.
These butt plugs are made of body grade silicone, giving them a high quality, smooth feel. They work very well with water based lube and I would recommend a thicker, more cushioning lube to start, to make it more comfortable and easier. The flared base also makes them safer than ones without, so that your beginner nerves can be put to bed. this set really is just for beginners; it certainly isnt a set that you would be able to progress with into advanced anal adventures, so make sure that you are not that experienced, as you will probably be disappointed.
Our tester gave these plugs a great review; expressing that they are “tapered enough to be easy to insert, bulbed enough to feel filling, and the neck is thin enough that they stay put during use!” These plugs would be great on their own, with a clitoral vibrator or if you were feeling brave, with a partner for PIV sex. Having that filling sensation in your behind really brings sex to a whole new level. Try it and thank me later, because I know you will!
Best Cock Ring Lovehoney Desire Luxury Vibrating Cock Ring
- Clitoral stimulation if worn during PIV sex
- Thick, black silicone material
- Snug, tight grip
Pros
- ✅ Assists with stronger erections
- ✅ Increased stamina
- ✅ Joint or single pleasure
- ✅ Great for teasing play
- ✅ Multiple ways to use
Cons
- ❌ Only in black
- ❌ Thickness of device
- ❌ Addictive
Vibrations:
Why I Chose It
Who new something could be so small but so powerful? This Lovehoney Desire Luxury Vibrating Cock ring does exactly that. It is a small, silicone material cock ring that has powerful vibrations and is a great accessory to any type of sex. It is a great couples toy to use during PIV sex to stimulate your partner, as well as yourself. If you choose to use it alone, let that ring buzz you cock into oblivion, for your masturbation session is about to be out of this world.
This ring can be used in multiple ways, either at the tip of the penis or the base. The tip stimulates the sensitive end, teasing you for as long as you can take. Then once moved to the base, it maintains that erection so that you can last longer on a more sensitive level. It is a tight ring once placed on the penis, yet it can be stretched large to fit around multiple penis sizes, making no one feel left out! Our tester Peter loved suing this toy, expressing that it gave him “a mind blowing experience and is extremely worth adding to your collection of toys”.
If you are someone who enjoys the vibrations and ripples that a cock ring can provide, then this is a toy I would highly recommend to any beginner. It is as great when used alone or with a partner, and it is easy to use. You can use it any way you feel comfortable; teasing you tip of your a completely new beginner, or at the base of the penis, so that you performance is more enjoyable and longer. However, whichever way you fancy, you’ll be sure to have an enjoyable experience.
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Comparison
Best | Test Winner | Best for Couples | Best Bullet Vibrator | Best male masturbator | Best Butt Plug | Best Cock Ring |
Overall score | 4.9 / 5.0 | 4.3 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 |
Bedbible rating | 4.9 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.9 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 |
User rating | 4.9 / 5.0 from 268 users | 4 / 5.0 from 305 users | 4.2 / 5.0 from 418 users | 4.8 / 5.0 from 793 users | 4.9 / 5.0 from 8 users | 4.2 / 5.0 from 86 users |
Price | Affordable | Pricey | Moderate | Moderate | Cheap | Moderate |
Design | 95 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 |
Ease of use | 90 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 97 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 |
Quality | 90 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 68 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 |
Sound | 60 / 100 | 40 / 100 | - | - | - | 20 / 100 |
Power | 60 / 100 | 80 / 100 | - | - | - | 100 / 100 |
Buzzy/Rumbly | neither really buzzy nor rumbly | somewhat rumbly | - | - | - | very rumbly |
Vibration speeds | 5 | - | 8 | - | - | 12 |
Vibration patterns | 7 | - | 7 | - | - | 8 |
Clitoral suction | 11 modes | - | - | - | - | - |
Length | 6.5 inches | 3.5 inches | 3.9 inches | - | - | - |
Width | (Base) 2 inches | - | - | - | - | - |
Diameter | (Mouth) 0.6 inches | - | 0.9 inches | (canal) 0.25 inches | S: 1.10, L: 1.34 inches | - |
Materials | Silicone, ABS Plastic | Silicone | Silicone/ABS Plastic | Soft plastic | Body-Safe Silicone | Silicone |
Waterproof | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes |
Battery Life | 120 minutes | 90 minutes | 120 minutes | - | - | 60 minutes |
Rechargeable | Yes | Yes | Yes | - | - | USB charger |
Charging Time | 240 minutes | 120 minutes | 90 minutes | - | - | - |
Remote Controls | App Controls (if you buy the app-enabled version) | Yes — physical + app | - | - | - | - |
Travel Lock | No | Yes | Yes | - | - | - |
Storage Bag Included | No | Charging/storage case | Yes | - | Yes | Zip pouch |
Colors Available | Burgundy Red, Purple, Black | - | - | - | - | - |
Vibration modes | - | 10 + more in app | - | - | - | - |
Insertable length | - | 3 inches | - | 9 inches | S: 3.15, L: 3.54 inches | - |
Openings | - | - | - | Vagina | - | - |
Allergies | - | - | - | Phthalate-free | - | - |
Flexibility | - | - | - | - | - | Stretch silicone |
How to Decide on Your First Sex Toy
Everyone has different desires when it comes to choosing their first sex toy.
So, I’ve put together some things to think about to help you decide which type of sex toy will be best for you!
- Do you want to use it alone, with a partner or both? If you want to use your sex toy with a partner during sex, you will need to look for a couple’s toy or one that can easily fit between your bodies.
- Which body part do you usually stimulate? Think about what you like to do during sex and masturbation and look for a toy that stimulates the same area. For example, if you usually stimulate your clitoris during masturbation, a clit sucker or clit vibrator is a great option!
- What type of stimulation do you usually enjoy? If you are a vulva owner and love the feeling of oral sex, you might want to look for a clit sucker. Or if you are a penis owner and want to recreate the feeling of vaginal sex, a Fleshlight would be perfect!
- Have you experienced penetration before? If you are looking for a vaginal or anal penetration toy and have had penetrative sex before, you can find a toy that is similar in size to the penis you had sex with. If you are totally new to penetrative play, you might want to opt for something more similar in size to a finger or two.
How Much Should You Spend on Your First Sex Toy?
You should never spend more than $200 on sex toys as a beginner, start by buying just 1 good quality toy. The worst thing you can do as a beginner is go for a whole bunch of sex toys at once, or buy a very cheap product. You will likely have a bad experience and ruin your future relationship.
I can’t give an exact amount. So the exact answer to this very good question of course depends on the type of toy and your budget. It can be a good idea to opt for a more affordable sex toy in the beginning, as you can never really be sure you will like the sensation the toy provides.
That being said, it does pay to spend a good amount to get a safe sex toy that’s made of body-safe materials. If you are buying a vibrator, you might also want to avoid very cheap options as they tend to have low-quality vibrations that will leave you feeling unsatisfied.
Here are my tips for buying your first sex toy without breaking the bank:
Look for sex toys made from safe materials
Anything you put inside your body should be non-toxic and non-porous, meaning there are no microscopic holes for mold or bacteria to grow in.
These materials are all body-safe:
- Silicone
- Borosilicate glass
- Metal, such as steel or aluminium
- ABS plastic
Most of these materials can be found relatively cheaply, especially silicone, ABS plastic, and glass
Sex toy materials to avoid:
- PVC
- Jelly
- Rubber
- Soft plastic
- Silicone blends
TPE/TPR is non-toxic but it is porous. This type of material is generally considered safe for external toys, such as masturbators, but not for internal toys as bacteria can grow in the microscopic holes.
Check deals on sex toy websites
Popular sex toy stores, such as Lovehoney, SheVibe and HustlerHollywood often have discounts to celebrate special holidays or at different points throughout the year. These are a great opportunity to get more for your money!
Consider what's most important to you and prioritise that
Everyone has different priorities when it comes to sex toys so think about what’s most important to you. Is it that it has especially strong vibrations, how it looks or that it’s made from a specific material?
Read reviews before committing
Check out our reviews here on Bedbible and read user reviews on shop websites to get the best idea of whether a toy will be good for you, so you don’t waste your money.
What Type of Sex Toy a Beginner Should Choose
In almost all cases I would advise all beginners to choose a simple vibrator as their first toy.
But, to help you decide, allow me to explain a bit more.
The sheer number of different types of sex toys can be overwhelming when looking for a sex toys as a beginner.
Here are some of the types of toys you can consider, and what they are good for:
- Internal vibrators can be used vaginally, while only ones with flared bases are anal-safe. You can also use internal vibrators externally! G-spot vibrators tend to be curved to make it easy to stimulate the front wall of your vagina.
- External vibrators can only be used to stimulate external areas, like the clitoris, penis, perineum, and nipples.
- Dildos are mainly used for internal stimulation to recreate the feeling of penetrative sex. Again all dildos can be used vaginally but only flared base dildos are safe for anal use. Dildos for beginners tend to be smaller in size.
- Anal toys should always have a flared base to prevent them travelling up inside you. Some common anal toys include butt plugs, vibrating butt plugs, anal beads, and anal dildos.
- Cock rings lightly constrict the penis to give a firmer erection. You can also get vibrating cock rings that stimulate a partner’s clitoris during penetrative sex.
Reviewed by:
Rachel Worthington