6 Best Sex Toys For Seniors
Having worked with sex toys for years, I know that there are certain requirements regarding sex toys for seniors. The specifics depend on your personal needs, but, generally, they need to be easy to grip, have accessible buttons, and provide stability and support. In this review, I’ve teamed up with our Bedbible testers to select the best toys for seniors. They’ve tried them out for themselves, and I’ve summed up their in-depth reviews for you below.
Best Vibrator4.8  Overall Rating 4.8/5 Bedbible Rating: 4.5/5 User Ratings: 5.0/5 Based on 1 user reviews | Best for ED4.3 Overall Rating 4.3/5 Bedbible Rating: 4.6/5 Reviewed by: Jason BragdonUser Ratings: 3.9/5 Based on 89 user reviews | Best Insertable Vibrator4.2 | Best Penis Pump4.6 Overall Rating 4.6/5 Bedbible Rating: 4.7/5 Reviewed by: Damian-Rodriguez-TesterUser Ratings: 4.4/5 Based on 277 user reviews | Best Position Pillow4.8 Overall Rating 4.8/5 Bedbible Rating: 5/5 Reviewed by: Rachel WorthingtonUser Ratings: 4.7/5 Based on 408 user reviews | Most Versatile4.5 Overall Rating 4.5/5 Bedbible Rating: 4.5/5 Reviewed by: Elaine TurnerUser Ratings: 4.5/5 Based on 231 user reviews |
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| Femme Funn Bougie Wand | Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential | Svakom Cici | Tracey Cox EDGE Automatic Penis Pump | Liberator Wedge | We-Vibe Touch X |
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How We Test sex toys for seniors
We’re a team of 371 sex toy testers and 13 sex toy experts.
To find the very best sex toys for seniors, our testers tried and reviewed 120 different products in this category.
Bad or even just mediocre sex toys for seniors didn’t make the list!
In total, we’ve thoroughly tested and reviewed 1459 toys over the past 6 years.
We even lab-tested some to get objective data.
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Table of contents (12)
Best Vibrator Femme Funn Bougie Wand
Overall Rating
4.8/5
Bedbible Rating:
4.5/5
Reviewed by:
Daphne VeyUser Ratings:
5.0/5
Based on 1 user reviews
Rating: Femme Funn Bougie Wand was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the sex toys for seniors.
Rating: Femme Funn Bougie Wand was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: Femme Funn Bougie Wand was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Mini wand vibrator with a flexible neck
- Light-weight and compact design
- 10 different vibration patterns to explore
- Boost-button for an easy increase in power.
Pros
- ✅ Strong and rumbly vibrations
- ✅ Raised silicone buttons are super easy to use
- ✅ Very easy to hold
- ✅ Great for all external use
Cons
- ❌ Gets warm after a while
- ❌ Storage bag not included
Vibrations
Rating: Femme Funn Bougie Wand was rated 3 out of 5, which means it is fairly quiet.
What it is: The sound rating provides a visual representation of how loud the vibrations of Femme Funn Bougie Wand felt to the reviewer.
Rating: Femme Funn Bougie Wand was rated 4 out of 5, which means it is very powerful.
What it is: The power rating describes how fast and strong the vibrations of Femme Funn Bougie Wand felt to the reviewer.
Specifications
Why I Chose It
For this review, I wanted to include a strong yet compact vibrator. One that would be easy to wield and versatile to use but wouldn’t compromise on power. Enter, the Femme Funn Bougie Wand!
In her review, our tester Daphne, starts out by claiming that she’s “a gal who needs a toy to vibrate (her) into the next room and this baddie hits the spot”. She provided me with all the confirmation I needed to say that good things definitely do come in small packages. This thing offers deliciously rumbly and strong vibrations. So, if you find yourself with limited hand strength but still need intense stimulation, I think this lightweight mini wand is a great option.
The raised silicone buttons offer a textural contrast to the sanded aluminium. It makes it buttons a lot easier to locate when things are dark or slippery. They’re also pretty easy to click down on and won’t require much finger strength.
Best for ED Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential
Overall Rating
4.3/5
Bedbible Rating:
4.6/5
Reviewed by:
Jason BragdonUser Ratings:
3.9/5
Based on 89 user reviews
Rating: Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential was rated 85 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the sex toys for seniors.
Rating: Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Flexible c-shaped penis sleeve for stroking and hands-free use
- Pulse Plate Technology™ uses an oscillating motion to stimulate the frenulum and glans
- Can be worn and used with or without an erection.
Pros
- ✅ Can be enjoyed by those who struggle with ED
- ✅ Unique oscillating technology with strong pulses
- ✅ Can be used hands-free
- ✅ Buttons are raised and easy to locate
- ✅ Multiple pulse patterns and strengths to choose from
Cons
- ❌ Comes with a bit of a learning curve
- ❌ Very loud
- ❌ Doesn't stay in place without support
- ❌ Buttons take some strength to click down on
Vibrations
Rating: Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential was rated 4 out of 5, which means it is noisy.
What it is: The sound rating provides a visual representation of how loud the vibrations of Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential felt to the reviewer.
Rating: Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential was rated 5 out of 5, which means it is extremely powerful.
What it is: The power rating describes how fast and strong the vibrations of Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential felt to the reviewer.
Specifications
Why I Chose It
I picked out the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential because it is a great option for senior penis-owners who are struggling with erectile dysfunction. The c-shaped design with flexible “wings” is easy to insert your penis into without an erection.
It’s also a good option for penis owners that struggle to hold a regular stroker as the oscillations can be enjoyed hands-free. However, Jason, our tester did have some trouble with keeping it in place. Although, he noted that “those with girthier appendages won’t have that problem”. He did find that the stroker did need a bit of support to enjoy some hands-free fun. Getting the right position does have a bit of a learning curve.
I always appreciate raised buttons for accessible controls. However, even though they are “large and easily identifiable”, they aren’t the easiest to push down either. This isn’t the best toy for anyone with limited manual dexterity.
Best Insertable Vibrator Svakom Cici G-Spot Vibrator
Rating: Svakom Cici G-Spot Vibrator was rated 80 out of 100, which means it is designed very well.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the sex toys for seniors.
Rating: Svakom Cici G-Spot Vibrator was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: Svakom Cici G-Spot Vibrator was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Luxurious, slimline g-spot vibrator
- Curved tip with slight texture for added internal stimulation
- Can be used both internally and externally.
Pros
- ✅ Great for those with thinning vaginal tissue
- ✅ Diameter is slightly thicker than a finger
- ✅ Quiet and discreet
- ✅ Long shaft can go deeper for a-spot orgasms
Cons
- ❌ Vibrations are not super powerful
- ❌ Too flexible for very intense internal massage
Vibrations
Rating: Svakom Cici G-Spot Vibrator was rated 1 out of 5, which means it is silent.
What it is: The sound rating provides a visual representation of how loud the vibrations of Svakom Cici G-Spot Vibrator felt to the reviewer.
Rating: Svakom Cici G-Spot Vibrator was rated 2 out of 5, which means it is gentle.
What it is: The power rating describes how fast and strong the vibrations of Svakom Cici G-Spot Vibrator felt to the reviewer.
Specifications
Why I Chose It
The Svakom Cici is my top recommendation for vagina-owners looking for some forgiving penetration. Perfect for post-menopausal people or anyone experience painful penetration, this slim design is super easy to insert. This way, you get to enjoy targeted internal stimulation without too much stretching or thrusting. As our tester, Edie, wrote in her review, “Seriously, when you think you’ll never enjoy penetration again, Cici will be the vibrator for you!”.
My favorite part of the Svakom Cici is the curved head. As someone who absolutely loves g-spot stimulation, I know a good ergonomic shape when I see one.
“Plus, because of the length, you can use the Svakom Cici for g-spot and a-spot stimulation. I found the a-spot stimulation much more satisfying, as the flexible head doesn’t allow for enough g-spot pressure.”
A small thing to add is there hidden charging port in the metallic base. I know, it’s a very small feature. But as someone who owns a lot of sex toys, I’m telling you, it’s so nice to use one that doesn’t have long charging cord to keep track of! This just adds to the luxury, in my opinion.
Best Penis Pump Tracey Cox EDGE Automatic Suction Penis Pump
Overall Rating
4.6/5
Bedbible Rating:
4.7/5
Reviewed by:
Damian-Rodriguez-TesterUser Ratings:
4.4/5
Based on 277 user reviews
Rating: Tracey Cox EDGE Automatic Suction Penis Pump was rated 91 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the sex toys for seniors.
Rating: Tracey Cox EDGE Automatic Suction Penis Pump was rated 98 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: Tracey Cox EDGE Automatic Suction Penis Pump was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Automatic, rechargeable penis pump
- Includes 2 interchangeable silicone sleeves (one for solo pleasure sessions)
- 3 levels of suction with a quick-release valve
- Includes a step-by-step guide written by sex expert Tracey Cox.
Pros
- ✅ Simple user interface with two buttons
- ✅ Fully waterproof for easy cleaning and shower time fun
- ✅ Both sleeves are made of body-safe silicone
- ✅ Great for ED, partnered play, and solo sessions
Cons
- ❌ No storage or travel case included
- ❌ Silicone base can easily get sucked into the cylinder
Specifications
Why I Chose It
For this review of sex toys for seniors, I wanted to include a versatile penis pump. I wanted something of a decent quality that performed well in terms of suction but didn’t require the manual effort to pump it up by hand. This is where the Tracey Cox EDGE Automatic Penis Pump comes in. According to our tester’s review, this pump “is an affordable, simplistic, powerful and effective penis pump worth every penny!”.
With a simple two-button interface, this pump is very intuitive to use. You can choose between 3 different levels of suction and simply press the quick-release valve when you’re at your limit.
It “provides intense penis suction and comes equipped with two interchangeable bases for stamina or pleasure to better tailor to your penis pumping goals”. While penis pumps can be a great way to enhance your erection and prepare for partnered sex, I like that this one in particular offers an additional ‘pleasure sleeve’. This way, you get the most out of your penis pump. The fact that these sleeves are made of non-porous silicone makes it an even better choice!
Best Position Pillow Liberator Sex Wedge
Overall Rating
4.8/5
Bedbible Rating:
5/5
Reviewed by:
Rachel WorthingtonUser Ratings:
4.7/5
Based on 408 user reviews
Rating: Liberator Sex Wedge was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the sex toys for seniors.
Rating: Liberator Sex Wedge was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: Liberator Sex Wedge was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Sex cushion with high density foam
- Helps stabilize and support the body in different sex positions
- 27 degree incline helps raise the hips for ideal angles for penetration and oral sex
- Machine-washable soft micro velvet cover with a moisture-resistant liner.
Pros
- ✅ High density foam holds its shape well
- ✅ Helps you stay comfortable for longer in different sex positions
- ✅ Moisture-resistant liner allows you to get messy
- ✅ The smooth cover feels great on the skin
Cons
- ❌ Takes up a lot of storage space
- ❌ The cover is a bit slippery
Specifications
Why I Chose It
This sex pillow is a fantastic addition to any kind of partnered sex! The Liberator Wedge is large enough to support a wide range on body sizes in lots of different positions. Even though it is significantly larger than a vibrator, it’s not impossible to store discreetly.
The extra support from this pillow allows you to enjoy sex for longer without get tired or achey. It takes the weight and pressure off your knees and wrists during doggy style sex, avoids neck strain during oral, and enhances the penetration angles during missionary position. According to our tester, Rachel, the difference in noticeable!
“I often struggle to feel as much stimulation in missionary when compared to other positions, but with the Wedge the penetration felt deeper and much more satisfying”.
The velvety cover feels lovely and soft against your skin, however it can make you slide off the cushion at times. While it is easy to readjust, “it does feel a little un-sexy to have to shuffle your butt back up so often”.
Most Versatile We-Vibe Touch X
Overall Rating
4.5/5
Bedbible Rating:
4.5/5
Reviewed by:
Elaine TurnerUser Ratings:
4.5/5
Based on 231 user reviews
Rating: We-Vibe Touch X was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the sex toys for seniors.
Rating: We-Vibe Touch X was rated 87 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: We-Vibe Touch X was rated 98 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Slim and compact lay-on vibrator
- Pointed and slightly slanted tip for pinpoint stimulation
Pros
- ✅ Strong vibrations
- ✅ Simple and easy to use design
- ✅ Great for all over body massages
- ✅ Small, discreet, and quiet
- ✅ Waterproof
Cons
- ❌ Buttons are quite small and lay flat, so finding the right button can be a challenge
- ❌ External stimulation only
Vibrations
Rating: We-Vibe Touch X was rated 2 out of 5, which means it is quiet.
What it is: The sound rating provides a visual representation of how loud the vibrations of We-Vibe Touch X felt to the reviewer.
Rating: We-Vibe Touch X was rated 4 out of 5, which means it is very powerful.
What it is: The power rating describes how fast and strong the vibrations of We-Vibe Touch X felt to the reviewer.
Specifications
Why I Chose It
The We-Vibe Touch X is a fantastic choice for anyone looking for a simple, ergonomic, and high-quality vibrator—and I think it’s especially a great vibrator for seniors. What makes it stand out is its user-friendly design and gentle yet powerful vibrations. The compact, curved shape fits perfectly in your hand, making it easy to hold and maneuver, even if you have limited mobility or arthritis. It’s the perfect shape for all over body massages. Plus, its soft, silicone exterior feels luxurious against the skin, adding a touch of comfort perfect for those who might prefer something gentle yet effective.
One of the things I love most about the Touch X is how simple it is. Our reviewer, Elaine, who tested this toy said: “While it may look commonplace and uninteresting, the simplicity makes this toy remarkable!” The intuitive controls are also a win—they’re straightforward and easy to use, so there’s no fussing with complicated settings. Elaine also highlighted the powerful, yet quiet vibrations: “Even on the first setting, this toy packs as much intensity as its larger and noisier counterparts.” Whether you’re new to vibrators or just want something reliable and easy to operate, the Touch X makes it simple to find the right intensity and pattern for you.
Comparison
| Best | Best Vibrator | Best for ED | Best Insertable Vibrator | Best Penis Pump | Best Position Pillow | Most Versatile |
| Overall score | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.3 / 5.0 | 4.2 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.5 / 5.0 |
| Bedbible rating | 4.5 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 | 4.0 / 5.0 | 4.7 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.5 / 5.0 |
| User rating | 5 / 5.0 from 1 users | 3.9 / 5.0 from 89 users | 4.3 / 5.0 from 56 users | 4.4 / 5.0 from 277 users | 4.7 / 5.0 from 408 users | 4.5 / 5.0 from 231 users |
| Price | Pricey | Pricey | Moderate | Affordable | Pricey | Cheap |
| Design | 90 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 91 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 95 / 100 |
| Ease of use | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 98 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 87 / 100 |
| Quality | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 98 / 100 |
| Sound | 60 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 20 / 100 | - | - | 40 / 100 |
| Power | 80 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 40 / 100 | - | - | 80 / 100 |
| Buzzy/Rumbly | somewhat rumbly | very rumbly | somewhat buzzy | - | - | somewhat rumbly |
| Vibration speeds | 3 | 3 | 5 | - | - | 8 |
| Vibration patterns | 7 | 6 | 5 | - | - | 7 |
| Length | 5.6 inches | 4.17 inches | 7.16 inches | 12 inches | 24 inches | 4 inches |
| Width | 1.4 inches | 2.63 inches | Handle: 1 inches | 1.5 inches | 14 inches | 1.7 inches |
| Materials | Silicone, Anodized Aluminum | ABS & Silicone | Silicone & ABS plastic | Hard Plastic & Silicone | Nylon Microfiber, Polyester, Polyurethane Foam | Silicone |
| Waterproof | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Moisture-resistant liner | Yes |
| Battery Life | 90 minutes | 60 minutes | 240 minutes | 180 minutes | - | Up to 120 minutes (my battery finally died at 1 hour 48 minutes after one use) minutes |
| Rechargeable | USB | USB | USB | Yes | - | Yes |
| Charging Time | 120 minutes | 180 minutes | 120 minutes | 120 minutes | - | 90 minutes |
| Storage Bag Included | No | Yes | Yes | No | No | Yes |
| Colors Available | Green, Rose Gold | Black, Blue | - | Black | Black, Blue, Red, Purple, Gray, Brown | Coral, Blue |
| Diameter (internal) | - | 2.5 inches | - | Sleeve 1: 1.4 inches, Sleeve 2: 0.25 inches | - | - |
| Insertable length | - | - | 5.25 inches | 7.5 inches | - | - |
| Diameter | - | - | 0.5-0.81 inches | - | - | - |
| Quick-release valve | - | - | - | Yes | - | - |
| Height | - | - | - | - | 7 inches | - |
| Remote Controls | - | - | - | - | - | No |
| Travel Lock | - | - | - | - | - | Yes |
If You’re Looking For…
- The most budget-friendly sex toy for seniors – The Svakom Cici is the cheapest option in this review. It’s also surprisingly versatile and can be used both externally and internally (for vaginal use).
- The best senior sex toy for couples – The Liberator Wedge provides support and stability to your usual sex positions, helping you last longer and stay comfortable.
- The best senior sex toy for penis-owners – The Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential is super versatile and can provide stimulation even when the penis isn’t erect.
What to Look for in Sex Toys For Seniors
While “ease of use” and “performance” are adequate requirements for a sex toy for seniors, we thought we’d expand on these terms a bit for clarification.
So, what exactly makes a toy easy to use and high-performing? Well, there are actually a variety of things!
- Easy to Use Controls – Dexterity decreases with age, so having large, easy-to-use buttons is ideal in a senior sex toy. However, some toys use mobile apps to control the devices instead. If that’s the case, then a sex toy for seniors should be easy to control using the app, even for the technologically challenged.
- Rumbly Vibrations – Deep rumbling vibrations are preferable since they travel deeper to reach more sensitive nerves.
- Smooth Texture – Smooth textures, such as silicone or borosilicate slide smoothly and reduce friction which is perfect for older users.
- Lightweight – A lightweight toy is important if you have decreased strength in your hands or arms.
- Ergonomic – Toys that can be easily held and controlled are ideal for seniors as many people experience reduced mobility.
- Small Insertable Size – Over the years your vaginal opening will shrink as the skin loses its elasticity, making smaller toys a safer, more comfortable choice.
- Complication-free with ED – Erectile dysfunction is a commonplace issue for older men so we’ve included sex toys that can help with the symptoms or be enjoyed without an erection.
Best Materials
When it comes to sex toys for seniors, it’s always best to stick to high-quality materials!
- Silicone, a non-porous material, is undoubtedly your best option. Soft and smooth to the touch, it’s capable of being fully sterilized using boiling water, making it sanitary enough for internal use.
- Borosilicate glass and stainless steel are both non-porous and non-toxic and the smooth surface of these materials glides easily. Plus, both can be heated or cooled for extra sensations.
- TPE is non-toxic but porous, meaning it has tiny holes that can harbour bacteria. This material is relatively safe for external toys, such as strokers, but I would avoid it for insertable toys.
- AVOID: Soft plastic or jelly rubber — these materials are porous and often contain harmful substances, such as phthalates.
The Most Common Sexual Issues with Age and How to Manage Them
Our bodies do change as we age and we don’t always like those changes. Luckily we live in an age where solutions are thought up all of the time. Here’s our list of some common sexual issues that can crop up with age and how you can overcome or adapt to them.
Libido
If you’re suffering from low libido there are a few things that you can try.
- Go for a medical check up. It’s worthwhile having your blood pressure, cholestoral, and checks for diabetes done.
- If you suffer from vaginal dryness, check out our section that’s coming up below.
- Exercise. It’s surprising how much excercise can boost our mood.
- Eat healthily.
- Deal with stress.
- Make time for intimacy, whether you are on your own or partnered.
- If intimacy has gone by the wayside take time to reconnect. Start hugging each other more, gentle massage, holding hands and kissing if partnered.
- If you’re solo then go for massages, buy some gorgeous smelling body creams and take time to apply them. Start to appreciate your body for how it’s carried you.
- Find things that make you (both) laugh.
- Put time aside for intimacy in the bedroom. Not necessarily sex, but sensual massage, kissing, mutual masturbation, finding out what feels good to you.
- If you’re solo then try self-massage, masturbation.
- Have a look through our review and see if there are any toys that sound exciting to you.
Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction affects as many as 30 million men. It’s defined as trouble getting or keeping an erection that’s firm enough for sex. It can also happen at any age and can be treated.
- Go for a checkup with you doctor. Your doctor will be able to advise you on any medication that may help
- Reduce stress and find help to deal with any psychological problems that could have cropped up.
- Kegel exercises
- Using a vacuum pump and a penis ring to help form and maintain an erection.
- If you can get an erection, but it doesn’t last, look at penis rings, also known as cock rings. These help by trapping the blood flow in the penis.
- Use a male masturbator like the Pulse Duo Lux that can be used on a flaccid or erect penis.
Vaginal Dryness
Vaginal dryness is a really common after menopause and is caused by a lack of estrogen.
- Use a lubricant during sex or when playing with sex toys (internal or clitoral)
- Over the counter vaginal moisturizers that are absorbed into the vaginal tissue to reduce dryness.
- Stimulate the vagina to stimulate the blood flow which will increase vaginal strength and lubrication. Do this through sex, masturbation, using sex toys.
- Exercise.
- Reduce stress.
- Increase the plant-based estrogens in your diet.
- See your doctor about HRT.
Mobility Problems
Mobility problems can increase with age. Problems with our joints especially knees and hips, not being as flexible as we once were, back problems all contribute to discomfort during sex.
- Consult your doctor for help with pain relief and physiotherapy if needed.
- Have a look through our reviews for cushions, pillows and chairs that will help to support your body during sex.
- They are a lot of fun and take the pressure off.
- We have reviewed a number of sex toys – for couples and for solos that are easy to use, have intuitive controls and can be used hands-free.
Pain
Pain from arthritis, joints, muscles or pain from deep penetrative sex can stop us from fully experiencing the benefits of sensual pleasure.
- Consult your doctor to see if you can receive help in the form of medication or physiotherapy.
- Reduce stress in your life.
- Exercise.
- Eat healthily.
- Start to look for ways in which you can experience pleasure – not just sexual pleasure. Things like being by the sea or countryside, finding things that you find funny. Seeing friends and family. Turning off the news and listening to music.
To enhance your sexual life look for things that take the pressure off your body.
- Support cushions and wedges.
- Sex chairs.
- Easy to hold and use vibrators and insertable toys.
- Ohnuts help many people have painfree penetrative sex.
- Lots of lube.
- Take the time to get to know your body and discover some pleasurable new sensations.
Reviewed by:
Daphne Vey