The 6 Best Sex Toys For Seniors
Having worked with sex toys for years, I know that there are certain requirements regarding sex toys for seniors. The specifics depend on your personal needs, but, generally, they need to be easy to grip, have accessible buttons, and provide stability and support. In this review, I’ve teamed up with our Bedbible testers to select the best toys for seniors. They’ve tried them out for themselves, and I’ve summed up their in-depth reviews for you below.
Best Vibrator | Best for ED | Best Insertable Vibrator | Best Penis Pump | Best Position Pillow | Most Versatile |
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Femme Funn Bougie Wand | Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential | Svakom Cici | Tracey Cox EDGE Automatic Penis Pump | Liberator Wedge | Fun Factory Laya III |
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How We Test sex toys for seniors
We’re a team of 340 sex toy testers and 13 sex toy experts.
To find the very best sex toys for seniors, our testers tried and reviewed 96 different products in this category.
Bad or even just mediocre sex toys for seniors didn’t make the list!
In total, we’ve thoroughly tested and reviewed 1255 toys over the past 6 years.
We even lab-tested some to get objective data.
Read more about how we test products.Table of contents (13)
Best Vibrator Femme Funn Bougie Wand
- Mini wand vibrator with a flexible neck
- Light-weight and compact design
- 10 different vibration patterns to explore
- Boost-button for an easy increase in power.
Vibrations
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Strong and rumbly vibrations
- ✅ Raised silicone buttons are super easy to use
- ✅ Very easy to hold
- ✅ Great for all external use
Cons
- ❌ Gets warm after a while
- ❌ Storage bag not included
Why I Chose It
For this review, I wanted to include a strong yet compact vibrator. One that would be easy to wield and versatile to use but wouldn’t compromise on power. Enter, the Femme Funn Bougie Wand!
In her review, our tester Daphne, starts out by claiming that she’s “a gal who needs a toy to vibrate (her) into the next room and this baddie hits the spot”. She provided me with all the confirmation I needed to say that good things definitely do come in small packages. This thing offers deliciously rumbly and strong vibrations. So, if you find yourself with limited hand strength but still need intense stimulation, I think this lightweight mini wand is a great option.
The raised silicone buttons offer a textural contrast to the sanded aluminium. It makes it buttons a lot easier to locate when things are dark or slippery. They’re also pretty easy to click down on and won’t require much finger strength.
Best for ED Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential
- Flexible c-shaped penis sleeve for stroking and hands-free use
- Pulse Plate Technology™ uses an oscillating motion to stimulate the frenulum and glans
- Can be worn and used with or without an erection.
Vibrations
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Can be enjoyed by those who struggle with ED
- ✅ Unique oscillating technology with strong pulses
- ✅ Can be used hands-free
- ✅ Buttons are raised and easy to locate
- ✅ Multiple pulse patterns and strengths to choose from
Cons
- ❌ Comes with a bit of a learning curve
- ❌ Very loud
- ❌ Doesn't stay in place without support
- ❌ Buttons take some strength to click down on
Why I Chose It
I picked out the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential because it is a great option for senior penis-owners who are struggling with erectile dysfunction. The c-shaped design with flexible “wings” is easy to insert your penis into without an erection.
It’s also a good option for penis owners that struggle to hold a regular stroker as the oscillations can be enjoyed hands-free. However, Jason, our tester did have some trouble with keeping it in place. Although, he noted that “those with girthier appendages won’t have that problem”. He did find that the stroker did need a bit of support to enjoy some hands-free fun. Getting the right position does have a bit of a learning curve.
I always appreciate raised buttons for accessible controls. However, even though they are “large and easily identifiable”, they aren’t the easiest to push down either. This isn’t the best toy for anyone with limited manual dexterity.
Best Insertable Vibrator Svakom Cici G-Spot Vibrator
- Luxurious, slimline g-spot vibrator
- Curved tip with slight texture for added internal stimulation
- Can be used both internally and externally.
Vibrations
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Great for those with thinning vaginal tissue
- ✅ Diameter is slightly thicker than a finger
- ✅ Quiet and discreet
- ✅ Long shaft can go deeper for a-spot orgasms
Cons
- ❌ Vibrations are not super powerful
- ❌ Too flexible for very intense internal massage
Why I Chose It
The Svakom Cici is my top recommendation for vagina-owners looking for some forgiving penetration. Perfect for post-menopausal people or anyone experience painful penetration, this slim design is super easy to insert. This way, you get to enjoy targeted internal stimulation without too much stretching or thrusting. As our tester, Edie, wrote in her review, “Seriously, when you think you’ll never enjoy penetration again, Cici will be the vibrator for you!”.
My favorite part of the Svakom Cici is the curved head. As someone who absolutely loves g-spot stimulation, I know a good ergonomic shape when I see one.
“Plus, because of the length, you can use the Svakom Cici for g-spot and a-spot stimulation. I found the a-spot stimulation much more satisfying, as the flexible head doesn’t allow for enough g-spot pressure.”
A small thing to add is there hidden charging port in the metallic base. I know, it’s a very small feature. But as someone who owns a lot of sex toys, I’m telling you, it’s so nice to use one that doesn’t have long charging cord to keep track of! This just adds to the luxury, in my opinion.
Best Penis Pump Tracey Cox EDGE Automatic Suction Penis Pump
- Automatic, rechargeable penis pump
- Includes 2 interchangeable silicone sleeves (one for solo pleasure sessions)
- 3 levels of suction with a quick-release valve
- Includes a step-by-step guide written by sex expert Tracey Cox.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Simple user interface with two buttons
- ✅ Fully waterproof for easy cleaning and shower time fun
- ✅ Both sleeves are made of body-safe silicone
- ✅ Great for ED, partnered play, and solo sessions
Cons
- ❌ No storage or travel case included
- ❌ Silicone base can easily get sucked into the cylinder
Why I Chose It
For this review of sex toys for seniors, I wanted to include a versatile penis pump. I wanted something of a decent quality that performed well in terms of suction but didn’t require the manual effort to pump it up by hand. This is where the Tracey Cox EDGE Automatic Penis Pump comes in. According to our tester’s review, this pump “is an affordable, simplistic, powerful and effective penis pump worth every penny!”.
With a simple two-button interface, this pump is very intuitive to use. You can choose between 3 different levels of suction and simply press the quick-release valve when you’re at your limit.
It “provides intense penis suction and comes equipped with two interchangeable bases for stamina or pleasure to better tailor to your penis pumping goals”. While penis pumps can be a great way to enhance your erection and prepare for partnered sex, I like that this one in particular offers an additional ‘pleasure sleeve’. This way, you get the most out of your penis pump. The fact that these sleeves are made of non-porous silicone makes it an even better choice!
Best Position Pillow Liberator Sex Wedge
- Sex cushion with high density foam
- Helps stabilize and support the body in different sex positions
- 27 degree incline helps raise the hips for ideal angles for penetration and oral sex
- Machine-washable soft micro velvet cover with a moisture-resistant liner.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ High density foam holds its shape well
- ✅ Helps you stay comfortable for longer in different sex positions
- ✅ Moisture-resistant liner allows you to get messy
- ✅ The smooth cover feels great on the skin
Cons
- ❌ Takes up a lot of storage space
- ❌ The cover is a bit slippery
Why I Chose It
This sex pillow is a fantastic addition to any kind of partnered sex! The Liberator Wedge is large enough to support a wide range on body sizes in lots of different positions. Even though it is significantly larger than a vibrator, it’s not impossible to store discreetly.
The extra support from this pillow allows you to enjoy sex for longer without get tired or achey. It takes the weight and pressure off your knees and wrists during doggy style sex, avoids neck strain during oral, and enhances the penetration angles during missionary position. According to our tester, Rachel, the difference in noticeable!
“I often struggle to feel as much stimulation in missionary when compared to other positions, but with the Wedge the penetration felt deeper and much more satisfying”.
The velvety cover feels lovely and soft against your skin, however it can make you slide off the cushion at times. While it is easy to readjust, “it does feel a little un-sexy to have to shuffle your butt back up so often”.
Most Versatile Fun Factory Laya III Lay-On Vibrator
- Lay-on vibrator with a slightly textured surface
- Ergonomically curved to fit snugly against vulva, breasts, scrotum, penis etc.
- Vibrations and tapping sensations.
Vibrations
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Fully waterproof
- ✅ Buttons are raised and easy to press
- ✅ Easy to travel with
- ✅ Simple yet versatile
Cons
- ❌ The curve may not fit perfectly for all body types
- ❌ Vibration speeds and patterns cannot be operated separately
Why I Chose It
The Fun Factory Laya III is the most versatile sex toy for seniors I can recommend. With its lay-on vibrator slash palm vibrator design this slightly curved vibrator is easy to hold yet comfortable to press against the contours of your body. It can be used to pleasure any external part of the body on both you and your partner. It’s great for solo vulva play, but also amazing for elevating a blowjob or hand job by delivering intense vibration to the scrotum, perineum, or frenulum.
As with most Fun Factory toys the buttons are raised and not covered in silky smooth silicone like the rest of the toy. This makes them more accessible and simple to use. As a proud owner of many Fun Factory products myself, I can vouch for how easy these buttons are press down on. They click easily with light pressure!
One thing to keep in mind is that the vibrator isn’t flexible. The curvature of the toy cannot be adjusted. This does mean that the curve will not fit naturally to all body parts on all body types. Keep that in mind, if you are looking specifically for grinding toy.
Comparison
Best | Best Vibrator | Best for ED | Best Insertable Vibrator | Best Penis Pump | Best Position Pillow | Most Versatile |
Overall score | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.3 / 5.0 | 4.2 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 | 4.8 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 |
Bedbible rating | 4.5 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 | 4.0 / 5.0 | 4.7 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.5 / 5.0 |
User rating | 5 / 5.0 from 1 users | 3.9 / 5.0 from 89 users | 4.3 / 5.0 from 56 users | 4.4 / 5.0 from 277 users | 4.5 / 5.0 from 320 users | 4.7 / 5.0 from 7 users |
Price | Pricey | Pricey | Moderate | Affordable | Pricey | Pricey |
Design | 90 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 91 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 90 / 100 |
Ease of use | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 98 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 90 / 100 |
Quality | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 |
Sound | 60 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 20 / 100 | - | - | 20 / 100 |
Power | 80 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 40 / 100 | - | - | 80 / 100 |
Buzzy/Rumbly | somewhat rumbly | very rumbly | somewhat buzzy | - | - | somewhat rumbly |
Vibration speeds | 3 | 3 | 5 | - | - | 7 |
Vibration patterns | 7 | 6 | 5 | - | - | 3 |
Length | 5.6 inches | 4.17 inches | 7.16 inches | 12 inches | 24 inches | 4.3 inches |
Width | 1.4 inches | 2.63 inches | Handle: 1 inches | 1.5 inches | 14 inches | 1.6 inches |
Materials | Silicone, Anodized Aluminum | ABS & Silicone | Silicone & ABS plastic | Hard Plastic & Silicone | Nylon Microfiber, Polyester, Polyurethane Foam | Silicone |
Waterproof | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Moisture-resistant liner | Yes |
Battery Life | 90 minutes | 60 minutes | 240 minutes | 180 minutes | - | 120 minutes |
Rechargeable | USB | USB | USB | Yes | - | USB |
Charging Time | 120 minutes | 180 minutes | 120 minutes | 120 minutes | - | Initial charge: (6-7 hours) 360-420 minutes |
Storage Bag Included | No | Yes | Yes | No | No | No |
Colors Available | Green, Rose Gold | Black, Blue | - | Black | Black, Blue, Red, Purple, Gray, Brown | Soft Violet, Sage Green |
Diameter (internal) | - | 2.5 inches | - | Sleeve 1: 1.4 inches, Sleeve 2: 0.25 inches | - | - |
Insertable length | - | - | 5.25 inches | 7.5 inches | - | - |
Diameter | - | - | 0.5-0.81 inches | - | - | - |
Quick-release valve | - | - | - | Yes | - | - |
Height | - | - | - | - | 7 inches | - |
If You’re Looking For…
- The most budget-friendly sex toy for seniors – The Svakom Cici is the cheapest option in this review. It’s also surprisingly versatile and can be used both externally and internally (for vaginal use).
- The best senior sex toy for couples – The Liberator Wedge provides support and stability to your usual sex positions, helping you last longer and stay comfortable.
- The best senior sex toy for penis-owners – The Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential is super versatile and can provide stimulation even when the penis isn’t erect.
The Best Sex Furniture and Position Aids for Seniors
There are so many products on the market that are designed to make sex easier and more enjoyable at any age or mobility status.
Here are a few of our favourites.
Ohnut Classic Intimate Wearable Penetration Buffer
The Ohnut is a fabulous device that is worn to prevent deep pelvic pain during, or after sex. They’re 4 soft compressible rings that are designed to be worn on the base of a penis, or sex toy to prevent deep penetration. One, two, three or all four rings can be worn depending on what you need to be comfortable.
- Ohnuts are really stretchy and comfortable
- They come in 2 different sizes
- All 4 rings together are around 2.75-inches high uncompressed or 2.35-inches high when compressed.
- Ohnuts are made from a skin-safe polymer blend. It’s BPA, phthalate, and latex-free.
- You can add or removed rings to find out the right amount for you.
- They’re ideal for people who suffer from endometriosis, adenomyosis, pelvic floor dysfunction, interstitial cystitis, fibroids, PID, prolapse, scar tissue, PCOS, cysts, tilted uterus, gender affirmation surgery, cancer and cancer treatment, stress and trauma.
Liberator Sex Position Wedge Ramp Combo
Liberator sex wedges and cushions are fabulous, firm, supportive and surprisingly comfortable. They’ll help you into positions that you haven’t tried before, will keep you supported and they’ll help you spice things up in the bedroom department.
- They’re great if you have aching joints
- Back pain
- If you aren’t very flexible
- Have difficulty in staying in unsupported positions for long
- If you want more support than cushions and pillows can offer
They’re versatile, come with a list of suggested positions and ideas and are really easy to clean.
- They’re designed to lift and support your and your partner’s bodies so that you can enjoy sex in comfort for longer.
- Cushions can be used individually, or together.
- They’re very supportive, balanced and firm.
- The covers are made from non-stick microfiber which feels great against bare skin.
- The cover features a moisture-resistant lining and are machine washable.
Bondage Boutique Sex Position Enhancer Chair
This sex-enhancer chair is an ideal sex aid if you love being on top but suffer from problems with your mobility and strength.
- Made of strong metal and covered in foam
- 4 layers of wide, reinforced elastic that are going to help you bounce
- Holds a maximum weight of 150kg
- Great to try different supported sex positions
- The elastic takes the effort out of bouncing
- It also supports you so you can play for longer
- It’s ideal if you love being on top, but physical issues prevent you from being comfortable. It’s also amazing for easy oral sex.
- The chair is easy to assemble and comes with some position suggestions too.
This chair is strong and gives you the support that you need if you have;
- Lower back pain
- Sciatica
- Sore and aching muscles and joints
- It takes pressure off the spine
It lets you be on top for longer without becoming fatigued, giving you back the sensual sex sessions that you’ve been missing.
What to Look for in Sex Toys For Seniors
While “ease of use” and “performance” are adequate requirements for a sex toy for seniors, we thought we’d expand on these terms a bit for clarification.
So, what exactly makes a toy easy to use and high-performing? Well, there are actually a variety of things!
- Easy to Use Controls – Dexterity decreases with age, so having large, easy-to-use buttons is ideal in a senior sex toy. However, some toys use mobile apps to control the devices instead. If that’s the case, then a sex toy for seniors should be easy to control using the app, even for the technologically challenged.
- Rumbly Vibrations – Deep rumbling vibrations are preferable since they travel deeper to reach more sensitive nerves.
- Smooth Texture – Smooth textures, such as silicone or borosilicate slide smoothly and reduce friction which is perfect for older users.
- Lightweight – A lightweight toy is important if you have decreased strength in your hands or arms.
- Ergonomic – Toys that can be easily held and controlled are ideal for seniors as many people experience reduced mobility.
- Small Insertable Size – Over the years your vaginal opening will shrink as the skin loses its elasticity, making smaller toys a safer, more comfortable choice.
- Complication-free with ED – Erectile dysfunction is a commonplace issue for older men so we’ve included sex toys that can help with the symptoms or be enjoyed without an erection.
Best Materials
When it comes to sex toys for seniors, it’s always best to stick to high-quality materials!
- Silicone, a non-porous material, is undoubtedly your best option. Soft and smooth to the touch, it’s capable of being fully sterilized using boiling water, making it sanitary enough for internal use.
- Borosilicate glass and stainless steel are both non-porous and non-toxic and the smooth surface of these materials glides easily. Plus, both can be heated or cooled for extra sensations.
- TPE is non-toxic but porous, meaning it has tiny holes that can harbour bacteria. This material is relatively safe for external toys, such as strokers, but I would avoid it for insertable toys.
- AVOID: Soft plastic or jelly rubber — these materials are porous and often contain harmful substances, such as phthalates.
The Most Common Sexual Issues with Age and How to Manage Them
Our bodies do change as we age and we don’t always like those changes. Luckily we live in an age where solutions are thought up all of the time. Here’s our list of some common sexual issues that can crop up with age and how you can overcome or adapt to them.
Libido
If you’re suffering from low libido there are a few things that you can try.
- Go for a medical check up. It’s worthwhile having your blood pressure, cholestoral, and checks for diabetes done.
- If you suffer from vaginal dryness, check out our section that’s coming up below.
- Exercise. It’s surprising how much excercise can boost our mood.
- Eat healthily.
- Deal with stress.
- Make time for intimacy, whether you are on your own or partnered.
- If intimacy has gone by the wayside take time to reconnect. Start hugging each other more, gentle massage, holding hands and kissing if partnered.
- If you’re solo then go for massages, buy some gorgeous smelling body creams and take time to apply them. Start to appreciate your body for how it’s carried you.
- Find things that make you (both) laugh.
- Put time aside for intimacy in the bedroom. Not necessarily sex, but sensual massage, kissing, mutual masturbation, finding out what feels good to you.
- If you’re solo then try self-massage, masturbation.
- Have a look through our review and see if there are any toys that sound exciting to you.
Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction affects as many as 30 million men. It’s defined as trouble getting or keeping an erection that’s firm enough for sex. It can also happen at any age and can be treated.
- Go for a checkup with you doctor. Your doctor will be able to advise you on any medication that may help
- Reduce stress and find help to deal with any psychological problems that could have cropped up.
- Kegel exercises
- Using a vacuum pump and a penis ring to help form and maintain an erection.
- If you can get an erection, but it doesn’t last, look at penis rings, also known as cock rings. These help by trapping the blood flow in the penis.
- Use a male masturbator like the Pulse Duo Lux that can be used on a flaccid or erect penis.
Vaginal Dryness
Vaginal dryness is a really common after menopause and is caused by a lack of estrogen.
- Use a lubricant during sex or when playing with sex toys (internal or clitoral)
- Over the counter vaginal moisturizers that are absorbed into the vaginal tissue to reduce dryness.
- Stimulate the vagina to stimulate the blood flow which will increase vaginal strength and lubrication. Do this through sex, masturbation, using sex toys.
- Exercise.
- Reduce stress.
- Increase the plant-based estrogens in your diet.
- See your doctor about HRT.
Mobility Problems
Mobility problems can increase with age. Problems with our joints especially knees and hips, not being as flexible as we once were, back problems all contribute to discomfort during sex.
- Consult your doctor for help with pain relief and physiotherapy if needed.
- Have a look through our reviews for cushions, pillows and chairs that will help to support your body during sex.
- They are a lot of fun and take the pressure off.
- We have reviewed a number of sex toys – for couples and for solos that are easy to use, have intuitive controls and can be used hands-free.
Pain
Pain from arthritis, joints, muscles or pain from deep penetrative sex can stop us from fully experiencing the benefits of sensual pleasure.
- Consult your doctor to see if you can receive help in the form of medication or physiotherapy.
- Reduce stress in your life.
- Exercise.
- Eat healthily.
- Start to look for ways in which you can experience pleasure – not just sexual pleasure. Things like being by the sea or countryside, finding things that you find funny. Seeing friends and family. Turning off the news and listening to music.
To enhance your sexual life look for things that take the pressure off your body.
- Support cushions and wedges.
- Sex chairs.
- Easy to hold and use vibrators and insertable toys.
- Ohnuts help many people have painfree penetrative sex.
- Lots of lube.
- Take the time to get to know your body and discover some pleasurable new sensations.
Reviewed by:
Daphne Vey