We all like to go back to the things we love, from shopping to days out, why wouldn’t you revisit something that just ticks all the right boxes?
But whilst having a routine might keep us in check, it might be best to leave it out of the bedroom in the evening. And no, we’re not talking about doing your skincare or brushing your teeth.
Even the most experimental person needs to mix things up to keep the flame going in their sex lives. Our brains love a new experience, and for many people, boring sex can be a real relationship or mood killer.
So we’d recommend that the extra effort is always worth it. Adding in some new moves to your repertoire keeps things fun and fresh, making for a much more satisfying end to an exciting build-up.
But, if you’re still trying out some of the more common positions it can be difficult to take it to the next level. Even if you’re pretty experienced, it’s so easy to run out of ideas.
So, to make things easier, we’ve done the hard work for you.
We’ve created the ultimate sex position list, with 50 different positions to choose from. From gay to lesbian and even multiple partners, you can explore plenty of new ways to enjoy your partner, and your orgasms.
(And for you kinkier types, we’ve made sure there are some powerplay friendly positions to fulfill your BDSM needs).
Straight/Heterosexual couple sex positions
Now, we know that a lot of straight couples get branded with the ‘boring’ label far too often, and some of these positions we have for you to try will certainly debunk that myth.
We have the obvious positions:
- Missionary: This one has the woman lying flat on her back, with the man on-top.
- Doggy: Penetrating from behind, the man kneels behind the woman who is on all fours.
- Cowgirl: The woman straddles the man and rides him on top.
If you’re feeling romantic, why not try out ‘The Proposal’? Face each other on your knees, and allow your partner to place one knee up and guide themselves toward you. Spread your legs a little and grab a pillow if you have to so you can find the right fit.
The less romantic sounding ‘Butter Churner’ position is a great choice for deeper and more intense penetration. Lie on your back with your legs raised and folded over so that your ankles are on either side of your head, while your partner squats and penetrates you.
If you’re ready for a break and on the lookout for less complicated sex positions, try these:
- Reverse cowgirl: This one is the same as earlier, just facing away from your partner!
- Forking: Imagine spooning, but NFSW. Great for spicing up those night time cuddles.
- Side to side: The opposite of spooning – turn and face your partner for some intimate action.
To keep it interesting, you could always add in the Wheelbarrow. It’s got nothing to do with sorting the garden out, but instead Get on your hands and feet and have them pick you up by the pelvis for deep penetration (and a core workout).
Or if you fancy a break and letting your male partner do the work, give the Butterfly a go. The man stands at the end of the bed facing the headboard whilst the woman lies on her back on the edge of the bed, and rests her feet on the man’s shoulders.
Sex toy ideas for Hetero sex positions:
- A vibrating cock ring, like for example a rabbit cock ring
- Sex toy kits with a pletoria of different toys.
- A sex swing for a bit of swinging fun – and a new world of sex positions to try
- A C shaped vibrator or any other wearable vibrator that you can use as a hands free vibrator
Lesbian sex positions
Obviously, many of the positions we’ve already mentioned aren’t just for straight couples. Any couples with a vagina and a penis can get involved – but even other couples can give them a try.
Lesbians have plenty of unique positions that work just for them, making that woman loving woman love, spicier than ever. But, if they want to take inspiration from straight couples, we have just the positions for them.
Missionary and Doggy
If you’re partial to a bit of strap-on fun (who isn’t), then Missionary and Doggy might be just for you. These positions are simple and easy to do, and perfect for any WLW couple who are trying out their first ever strap-on purchase.
The Double D
If you’re both into penetration and want to feel more connected than ever, the ‘Double D’ is for you.
This position has you both laid on your back, with a cushion under your hips for support. Insert one end of the double dildo slowly, then the other end into your partner, most double ended dildos have a handle in the middle to guide thrusting.
If you want to put the apparatus to one side for your next intimate lesbian experience, get all up in each other’s business with the 69 position. We don’t need to explain much for this one, but to make sure you’re clear, you and your partner assume the shape of the numbers to perform some great oral.
Queening is another option, and a slight twist on the 69. Queening is actually the same as “face-sitting,” where a woman squats over her partner’s partner’s face and lowers herself down onto their mouth.
Spooning and Mutual Masturbation
Of course, spooning and mutual masturbation are two positions we highly recommend for those sleepy sex session too.
The classic Scissoring position is also a great choice for WLW partners to enjoy if they fancy a bit of a workout. You may have heard of it before as ‘tribbing’, and requires that you and your partner lie on your sides and intertwine your legs like two pairs of opened scissors, and grind.
One partner lying on their back with their legs outstretched in the air, your partner will then lie in between your legs, align their clitoris with yours, and rub.
The Olympic Gymnast
Adventure is the spice of life and the same can be said for the bedroom, and ‘The Olympic Gymnast’ will do just that – but you might need their level of flexibility!
Lie on your back with your legs in the air, whilst your partner faces you and leans into your legs, pushing them behind your ears, while you rub your pelvic bones together.
If you fancy incorporating a bit of power dynamics into your more intense sessions, we’ve found that the ‘Delegator’ position is a great option.
You’ll need to either sit upright in a chair or on the edge of a bed with your legs spread wide. Place a pillow under your feet and have your partner crawl between your legs.
Lift your legs up and wrap them around your partner’s neck and shoulders to adjust the angle and use your hips to steer them, for ultimate control.
Here are some sex toys to consider for lesbian sex positions:
- Of course lesbian strap ons seem to be the obvious choice, but there are some fun variations of these:
- You can also go ahead with a vibrator to get your partner to squirt or other powerful vibrators
Gay sex positions
We wanted to help gay men get super creative in the bedroom, so we’ve researched some of the lesser known moves for the bedroom to make your sessions extra satisfying.
The ‘Rusty Trombone’ might have a less than appealing name, but we can promise the sensations will have you singing its praises. This position has your partner ass licking from behind whilst giving you a handjob at the same time.
For something a bit more romantic, you could try the ‘Drunk Boat’ – a face to face position in which one partner lays on their back with their legs pulled up, and the other slowly sinks into their partner from above.
Back it in
There’s always something for the more literal couples, and the ‘Back it in’ says exactly what it wants you to do. Simply have the top sit in a chair with knees up to the chest, allowing his penis to be outward and forward. The bottom backs into the position, allowing the penis to enter him.
This position takes a bit of interpretation, but it’s definitely one to add to your bucket list if you’re aiming for ‘sexpert’ status.
The ‘Suspended Congress’ has the top standing and picking up the bottom. The bottom then wraps his arms around his partner’s neck. Then, the top penetrates the bottom while holding his thighs to hold him up. A workout for sure!
Once you’ve warmed up, it’s time to try out the ‘Helicopter’. This one is super complicated, but stay with us as it’s definitely worth it!
One partner will get on their hands and knees, whilst the other stands over them in a downward dog position. As they slide inside, they lift their legs into the air so that they’re supported on their hands and their hips are against their partner’s butt – creating a ‘helicopter’ shape.
Would you say you’re an adventurous, adrenaline junkie type? If so, we highly recommend the ‘Cliff Diver’. Not as dangerous as its name, but certainly as thrilling, the bottom gets on all fours on the ground. The top then gets behind the bottom and simultaneously stands and lifts their partner up by the thighs or waist so that the bottom can wrap his legs around the top’s back.
We’re not too sure about the name of this one, but ‘Squatter’s Right’s position will definitely be one to remember, as your partner sits on your face and holds onto your nipples.
Stand and Deliver
A more simple, ‘Stand and Deliver’ position is fantastic to get things going on those slower evenings, as the bottom bends the active partner over a chair and enjoys his way with him in a standing position.
We recommend the ‘See Saw’ for a bit of fun – have your top lie on the ground and prop up their calves on a chair while keeping his body straight. The bottom straddles the top’s legs and inserts penis into his partner.
Or perhaps the ‘Lotus’ is for you – Sit with your knees bent out to the sides and the bottoms of your feet touching and your partner will then sit in your lap, facing you, and wrap their legs around your back.
BDSM sex Positions
We know you kinky types are nearly always down to give something a try, and we’ve got all the positions you’ll need.
If you’re new to the BDSM scene and you’re on the lookout for something to get you started, we’ve got you covered too!
Starting off with the ‘Tied-Up Missionary’ position, we recommend this position for the more tamer kink chasers. Simply tying your hands together or to the best posts with handcuffs or a scarf, spice up the usual missionary sex with some basic moves.
Again, a kinkier twist on a classic – ‘Tied-Up Doggy’ position yourself in the way you would for doggy style, but with your arms pulled back and wrists tied together behind your ankles.
If you’re enjoying being tied up, we think you’ll love the ‘Hog Tie’. This one works best with oral sex or sex toy stimulation as you lay your partner on their stomach and tie their wrists behind their back, and their ankles together.
Head Over Heels
If you’re wanting to express just how in love you are with your partner, and restraints – ‘Head Over Heels’ should be at the top of your list. Just instruct your partner to bend over from the standing position, and simply tie each of their wrists to each of their ankles so you can have your way with them.
Work in those difficult positions for a great payoff with the ‘Leapfrog’. It’s perfect for penetrative sex or anal, and involves your partner lying face down with their hips in the air and wrists bound together over their head.
The Interrogation Chair
To really emphasize those power dynamics, roleplay is sure to get the temperature turned up. This position is best with sex toy stimulation or oral sex, ‘The Interrogation Chair’ has you tying up your partner’s hands behind their back and legs to the legs of the chair.
If you’re extra bendy and you want to challenge not just your kink extremes, but your bodies’ limits too, we suggest the ‘Pinball Wizard’. This position involves lying face up and lifting their hips into the air, as if they were doing a bridge position in yoga and tying their arms above their heads.
Knees to Chest
Once you’ve warmed up your joints (and other muscles), the ‘Knees to Chest’ command for your submissive will be much easier. Grab your restraints and bind your partner’s ankles and calves together and then drape them over your shoulders as you penetrate them. This position is guaranteed to give deep penetration and unforgettable orgasms.
Utilizing those trusty restraints again, ‘Spread Eagle’ is designed to expose and degrade your partner (in all the best ways). Have your submissive lie on the bed with their arms and legs tied with either rope, or restraints to each corner of the bed. This one is perfect for oral, penetrative, anal and sex toy stimulation too.
You can leave all props, restraints and extras to the side for this one, as technique is key and will have your partner begging at your knees. ‘Orgasm Denial’ involves bringing your partner to the edge of orgasm and then stopping what you’re doing or instructing them not to orgasm.
Awesome BDSM sex toys for even more sex position possibilities:
- Bondage yokes – but there are also a lot of other BDSM furniture available like spanking benches, sex tables, and sex chairs.
- BDSM Restraint Kits or other sexual restraints like a hogtie restraint, bondage straps or bondage cuffs
- You could also go for some bondage ropes to create your own restraints, choosing between either soft bondage ropes or the harsher hemp rope typically known as Shibari ropes
Sex positions for more than two people
If you’re the type of person who thinks two’s company and three’s a crowd, these positions may not be for you.
However, if you’re ready to invite someone extra into the bedroom, or you’re already experimenting with threesomes and orgies, read on!
Bring those romantic French vibes to the threesome, and perform the ‘Eiffel Tower’. This position has one person penetrating their partner and the other receiving oral and then these two people joining hands to form a tower. This position is also known as ‘Spitroasting’.
You won’t have to buy a ticket for this train, but we can guarantee the journey will be better on the ‘Oral/Penetrative Train’.
For this position, one partner bends over the bed while the penetrative partner stands on the floor behind them. The third person then lies on the bed in front of them to receive oral.
This one is similar to the other train option, so if you enjoyed that position, we definitely recommend giving this one a go!
The ‘Tag-Team’ involves one partner standing up to perform the butterfly sex position, and another partner who can perform oral on the partner being penetration, giving them an unforgettable experience.
This version of the ‘Train’ is a bit more straightforward. Everyone simply lies on their sides and penetrates the person in front of them either anally or vaginally.
A less innocent version of the cute flower arrangement, the ‘Daisy Chain’ position has an unlimited number of participants that can get involved.
Each person will need to lie down on their side with their face at their neighbor’s crotch, forming a circle, where they can lick, touch and tease all they like.
This position has a less friendly name, but we promise it’s not as freaky as it sounds (at least not in a bad way).
In this position, all three people are on their knees, rimming the person in front of them.
We wanted to make sure that romance and intensity wasn’t left to the side in our multiple partners’ position research, and when we discovered the ‘Mirrored Spoon’, we knew those looking for a new connection would love it.
To try it out, both pairs will need to assume the spooning position by laying on their sides. The inner spoon’s hips should be slightly higher on the bed than their partners’ for easy penetration. Eye contact is a must for this one!
Now, this might give some a bit of stage fright, but the ‘Voyeur’ position is a great way to incorporate some power play into your sessions involving more people.
One pair goes straight into having plenty of fun, while the other person grabs their favourite toy and watches it all happen.
The Cowgirl Kiss
For some really intense experiences, raise the levels of intimacy with the ‘Cowgirl Kiss’.
For this one, you’ll either need a big bed, or a comfy floor as both pairs will need to get into cowgirl (see higher up) but facing opposite directions.
You can decide to be closer or farther away from the other couple, depending on how much you want to interact with them. If you’d rather just enjoy their company, you can make a bit of distance and really focus on having fun with your partner.
Never has anyone said two tongues aren’t better than one, and if you’re performing the ‘Double Oral’ you’ll be receiving oral from two people at once – and likely screaming it’s praises in one way or another.
Of course, it’s not just positions that you can use to enhance your sex life…
Where you put your left leg and other arm is only part of the equation when it comes to having ‘great’ sex.
Let’s be honest though, it’s all trial and error and how we’re feeling that day.
If you’ve given these positions a try, or you’re looking for something completely new, why not bring tech to bed? Or perhaps buy your partner a sexy gift that’ll put more than just a smile on their face?
Whatever you try, remember there is plenty of variety out there, from sex toys, to positions to simple dirty talk!