Dame Aer — Test & Review

Kaelie Sweeney
by Kaelie SweeneyLast updated: 
Dame Aer

Are you ready for a more adventurous clitoral suction toy? Introducing the Dame Aer, a fully waterproof pleasure device designed by women, for women! This elegant instrument puts a new spin on an old favorite, by adding 5 patterns to pressure wave technology. Whether you desire consistent stimulation or intermittent patterns, Dame has you covered. It's crafted from body-safe materials and compact enough to hitch a ride in your purse! So, don't let vacation distance you from sexual pleasure. Grab your Aer and get ready to ride the waves!

Design:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the Dame Aer.

90/100
Ease of Use:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 88 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

88/100
Quality:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

90/100
Price:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 3 out of 5, which means it neither expensive nor cheap.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

Medium
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Bedbible rating:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 3.8 out of 5, which means it is a top tier sex toy rated amongst the best.

What it is: The Bedbible rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. 1 indicates a very bad product, while 5 indicate a very good product. It is the overall rating given by our tester which makes it a very subjective score of the Dame Aer.

3.8/5.0
User ratings:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 4.5 out of 5, which means it is amongst the absolute best of toys that I can absolutely recommend you try out.

What it is: The User rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. The score is an aggregated rating of all online ratings. We find and aggregate all ratings based on a weighting system that takes into account how many reviews are available at each source.

4.5/5.0
Sources
4.0/5 SheVibe (3)
3.0/5 Babeland (2)
4.5/5 Dame products (750)
Design:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the Dame Aer.

 90/100
Ease of Use:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 88 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).

 88/100
Quality:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.

 90/100
Price:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 3 out of 5, which means it neither expensive nor cheap.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

 Medium
Price ratingPrice ratingPrice ratingPrice ratingPrice rating
Bedbible rating:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 3.8 out of 5, which means it is a top tier sex toy rated amongst the best.

What it is: The Bedbible rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. 1 indicates a very bad product, while 5 indicate a very good product. It is the overall rating given by our tester which makes it a very subjective score of the Dame Aer.

 3.8/5.0

User ratings:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 4.5 out of 5, which means it is amongst the absolute best of toys that I can absolutely recommend you try out.

What it is: The User rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. The score is an aggregated rating of all online ratings. We find and aggregate all ratings based on a weighting system that takes into account how many reviews are available at each source.

 4.5/5.0

Sources
4.0/5 SheVibe (3)
3.0/5 Babeland (2)
4.5/5 Dame products (750)
Price:Medium

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 3 out of 5, which means it neither expensive nor cheap.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.

Bedbible rating: 3.8

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 3.8 out of 5, which means it is a top tier sex toy rated amongst the best.

What it is: The Bedbible rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. 1 indicates a very bad product, while 5 indicate a very good product. It is the overall rating given by our tester which makes it a very subjective score of the Dame Aer.

User ratings: 4.5

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 4.5 out of 5, which means it is amongst the absolute best of toys that I can absolutely recommend you try out.

What it is: The User rating is indicated by 1-5 stars. The score is an aggregated rating of all online ratings. We find and aggregate all ratings based on a weighting system that takes into account how many reviews are available at each source.

Sources
4.0/5SheVibe (3)
3.0/5Babeland (2)
4.5/5Dame products (750)

Unveiling My Experience

My Personal Experiences with Dame Aer

Waves of Hope

My first orgasm was achieved through a clit sucker with pressure wave technology; and oh, how it rocked my world! After suffering decades of clitoral atrophy and anorgasmia caused by “purity culture,” the toe-curling climax converted me — converted me to a life of sexual pleasure and self-love, that is! So, when the opportunity arose to review the Dame Aer, I said “Hallelujah!”

Super Dame!

Not only was Dame founded by two formidable feminists, their products are researched, developed, and designed by some of the industry’s top female professionals! This is more than a sex toy company; it’s a revolution to destigmatize sexual health and pave the way for pleasure. Swell (Dame’s digital resource) offers a wealth of knowledge about topics like health, relationships, and even trauma-informed care. I discovered this thanks to Dame Aer’s user guide. After some light reading, I was ready to dive into some pressure wave technology!

Rockabye Clitty-Cat

The Dame Aer rattled my clitoris like it owed money. Most of this power rippled through the glans, rather than traveling up the clitoral body. Though the patterns added lovely nuance, my clit was quickly rendered numb. I decided to power through for an orgasm, which ended up being a 20-minute workout. Big mistake! My clitoris tingled with oversensitivity and throbbed from discomfort. Not to mention, I surrendered without the treasured O. Word to the wise: if you’re beginning to go numb, give your clitty-cat a rest!

Uncomfortably Numb

I commenced testing on my thumb while my dear clitoris slept. The Aer’s lowest setting produced powerful thumps, which converted to flappy as intensity increased. The least intense option surpassed that of my trusty Satisfyer Pro, while Dame Aer’s most intense setting ranked about equal to Satisfyer’s maximum. That being said, the pressure from the Dame Aer felt like direct impact, rather than air pulsations. After about 2 minutes of testing, my thumb met the same fate as my clitoris! Depending on strength, it took between 40 and 180 seconds for my fingertips to lose feeling.

Burst Bubbles

My tried-and-true method for improving clitoral suction is to take it to the tub. After drawing a steamy bubble bath and igniting mood lights, I was ready to take the waves beneath the surface. Ripples fluttered against my clitoris, even with an imperfect seal. The sensation wasn’t quite orgasmic, but I wasn’t ready to give up!

Enlightenment

With the Dame Aer in hand, I set out to explore new ways to enjoy the troublesome rumbles while avoiding overstimulation. I tried using it through panties, over the clitoral prepuce, switching to viscous lubricant, etc. After about a dozen masturbatory sessions ending in numbness, it happened; I achieved climax only to be ghosted by the sensation- like hiking a grueling journey up a mountain, to walk right back down. It served as an important reminder: the journey is just as important as the destination. Unfortunately, Dame Aer just isn’t the toy to enhance my clitoral leisure. It did, however, provide excellent nipple stimulation.

Pros
Air-pulse patterns
Discrete design
Rechargeable
Low-power alert
Waterproof
3-year warranty
Cons
Head not removable
Difficult to clean
Suction seal easily breeched during grinding
Not suited for larger clitorises
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Design Features

Dame Aer Design Features

When it comes to aesthetics, the Dame Aer is a portrait of elegance. Medical-grade silicone coats the sleek silhouette, and glides against the skin like rose petals. This periwinkle beauty is the macaroon of sex toys, and I just want to devour it! If that's not your thing, it also comes in Papaya (color, not flavor). While users won't have to stress losing the built-in nozzle, purging the cavern of lubricant can prove challenging. The internal slope and ridges can really hide debris, making it especially important to clean immediately after use.

The Simplicity of Dame Aer: My User Experience Unveiled

Dame Aer The Simplicity of Dame Aer: My User Experience Unveiled

This lightweight, compact body fits perfectly in delicate hands. It's simple enough to control, though not entirely intuitive. Strategic button placement and design eliminate any guesswork during sightless manipulation; and a tangible *click!* confirms each command. These three buttons are located in the handle: the top two control power, while the bottom powers the toy on/off and filters through patterns. Had I not read the manual, I'd have likely never discovered the patterns. Overall, it's an extremely accessible toy.

Quality Verdict: How does Dame Aer Measure Up?

Dame Aer Quality Verdict: How does Dame Aer Measure Up?

The Dame Aer survived long bubble baths, as well as a clumsy fumble down the stairs; so, I have faith in its longevity. While the pulses are loud, covering the mouth muffles the grumbles into mere purrs. There was a discrepancy regarding the battery life and charging time. Dame advertises 1.5 hours of power and 2 hours to charge; the manual has these times reversed. After a few trials on various speeds, the Dame Aer outperformed both! In each case, the battery only took 75 minutes to charge and lasted over 2 hours! Not to mention, the motor was only slightly warm. Color me impressed!

The Price Point of Dame Aer: A Review

Dame Aer The Price Point of Dame Aer: A Review

The Dame Aer retails for $95 at SheVibe Pleasure Boutique. This is in line with other suction toys, as they're pretty modern advancements in pleasure. Since Womanizer debuted their first clitoral suction toy in 2014, competitors have been engineering their own masterpieces with pressure wave technology. Quality toys tend to range from $39.95 (like my personal favorite, Satisfyer Pro 2) to $199 (Womanizer Premium). The high-end materials, long battery-life, and powerful motor of the Dame Aer justify the price. But none of this will be "worth it" if the design or vibrations are incompatible with the user's body.

Unpacking the Performance of the Dame Aer

Dame Aer Unpacking the Performance of the Dame Aer

As much as I wanted to love the Dame Aer, the nozzle couldn't kick it with my masturbatory moves. The thin lip requires precise placement to properly seal. This is bad news for those who like to wiggle or grind against their toys; for, little movements break the seal. Adding copious amounts of lubricant to the nozzle can offset this issue, but it also dampens the air pulsations. Not to mention, the opening for the clitoris measures 0.5" x 0.8", with a depth of 1.95" from mouth to back. This will accommodate many clitorises, but it's certainly not one-size-fits-all.

The Dame Aer: Presentation and Packaging

Dame Aer The Dame Aer: Presentation and Packaging

The Dame Aer came with a USB charger, user manual, and royal blue storage bag. The silky material is embroidered with an orgasmic emoji as a reminder to take your O's everywhere you go! From the analogous color scheme to the simple, textured graphics, the packaging checked all the right boxes. Security proved equally sufficient, as it came enclosed in tamper-evident wrap. A plastic insert cradled the Aer, and a second layer of thick cardboard reinforced the inner-perimeter of the base. To top it all off, the packaging is made from recycled materials!

How to care for the materials of the Dame Aer

Dame Aer How to care for the materials of the Dame Aer

Remember to only use water-based lubricant with silicone toys! I advise a medium-viscosity lubricant for a better seal around the clitoris. The Dame Aer doesn't have a removable head/nozzle, like some other suction toys. This requires extra care during cleansing, which wasn't reflected in the manual. Begin by scooping the lubricant from the mouth with a cotton swab. Then, lather the entire surface with a water-based sex toy cleanser and comfortably hot water. After rinsing, perform a final sweep of the nozzle with a catton swab. Allow it to thoroughly dry before storing. Avoid boiling or placing in the dishwasher, as this may damage the electronic components!

Special feature

Dame Aer Special feature

Tired of monotonous murmurs on your clitoris? Turn the tides by surfing through Dame Aer’s 5 patterns! Each pattern can cycle through all 5 intensities, so you control how powerfully it rolls through your clitoris. I personally gravitated to the wave-pattern; the slow build dramatized each pulsation and built anticipation. Though, bursts may be preferred for light teasing. When it comes to pressure wave technology, patterns are certainly a rare feature to come across. Props for innovation, Dame!  

Recommended for the beginner

The Dame Aer was rated 20 out of 100 meaning that it is most suitable for a complete beginner

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
The vibrations of the Dame Aer are fairly quiet, very powerful, and somewhat buzzy
Sound:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 3 out of 5, which means it is fairly quiet.

What it is: The sound rating provides a visual representation of how loud the vibrations of Dame Aer felt to the reviewer.

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Power:

Rating: Dame Aer was rated 4 out of 5, which means it is very powerful.

What it is: The power rating describes how fast and strong the vibrations of Dame Aer felt to the reviewer.

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Buzzy
What it is: Buzzy vibrators have a high frequency that stimulates the surface (like a high pitch).
Rumbly
What it is: Rumbly vibrators have low-frequency vibrations that stimulate deeper into the tissue (like the bass in music).
You should buy the Dame Aer if you...
👍Love clitoral suction toys
👍Desire pattern options
👍Prefer "flappy" stimulation
👍Want an elegantly designed toy
👍Enjoy masturbating in the tub or shower
You should NOT buy the Dame Aer if you...
👎Have an easily overstimulated clitoris
👎Don't wish to spend $95 on a suction toy
👎Prefer "thumpy" stimulation
👎Have a larger clitoris

Specifications and features

Specifications and features Dame Aer
Clitoral suctionYes; 5 intensity levels and 5 modes
Length4.66 inches
Width1.46 inches
Diameter0.5 x 0.8 inches
MaterialsMedical-Grade Silicone  
WaterproofYes, fully waterproof 
Battery Life120 minutes
RechargeableYes, Magnetic USB 
Charging Time90 minutes
Remote ControlsNo 
Storage Bag IncludedYes 
Travel LockNo 
Colors AvailablePeriwinkle and Papaya 

Conclusion

The Dame Aer emitted pulsations unlike any other pressure wave technology I've experienced; unfortunately, not in a way that worked for me. The pulsations felt more like vibrations than air pressure. This may be great news for those desiring the sensation of a bullet vibrator without direct contact. While touchless stimulation is usually suited for sensitive clits, these powerful pulsations may just leave you temporarily numb. The nozzle is best suited for small clitorises that don't become easily overstimulated. Though it won't have a place in my love-life, it has staked claim to my coffee table as a fabulous, modern centerpiece.

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Comparing Dame Aer with alternatives

Dame Aer
Dame Aer
Lelo Sona 2 Cruise
Lelo Sona 2 Cruise
Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 3
Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 3
We-Vibe Melt
We-Vibe Melt
Satisfyer Curvy 2+
Satisfyer Curvy 2+
Womanizer Liberty
Womanizer Liberty
Overall score4.2 / 5.0 4.8 / 5.0 4.8 / 5.0 4.1 / 5.0 4.4 / 5.0 4.3 / 5.0
Bedbible rating3.8 / 5.0 4.9 / 5.0 4.9 / 5.0 3.5 / 5.0 4.9 / 5.0 4.0 / 5.0
User rating4.5 / 5.0
from 755 users
4.7 / 5.0
from 2181 users
4.8 / 5.0
from 29 users
4.7 / 5.0
from 94 users
3.9 / 5.0
from 16 users
4.5 / 5.0
from 838 users
PriceMedium Medium Low Medium Low Low
Design90 / 100 95 / 100 95 / 100 85 / 100 95 / 100 60 / 100
Ease of use88 / 100 90 / 100 90 / 100 70 / 100 95 / 100 75 / 100
Quality90 / 100 100 / 100 90 / 100 100 / 100 100 / 100 80 / 100
Sound60 / 100 60 / 100 60 / 100 60 / 100 20 / 100 60 / 100
Power80 / 100 80 / 100 60 / 100 80 / 100 80 / 100 80 / 100
Buzzy/Rumblysomewhat rumbly somewhat rumbly neither really buzzy nor rumbly somewhat rumbly somewhat rumbly somewhat rumbly
Clitoral suctionYes; 5 intensity levels and 5 modes12 modes11 modes12 intensity levels + more in-app modes11 modes modes6 modes
Length4.66 inches4 inches6.5 inches5 inches5.3 inches4.1 inches
Width1.46 inches-(Base) 2 inches-1.8 inches(Body) 2 inches
Diameter0.5 x 0.8 inches-(Mouth) 0.6 inches(mouth) 0.9 inches-(Mouth) 0.5 inches
MaterialsMedical-Grade Silicone Silicone and ABS plastic Silicone, ABS Plastic Silicone Silicone, ABS plastic Silicone, ABS Plastic, PU Coating
WaterproofYes, fully waterproof Yes Yes Yes Submersible Yes
Battery Life120 minutes120 minutes120 minutesUp to 120 minutes60-120 minutes120 minutes
RechargeableYes, Magnetic USB Yes Yes Yes USB Yes
Charging Time90 minutes120 minutes240 minutes90 minutes240 minutes60 minutes
Remote ControlsNo -App Controls (if you buy the app-enabled version) App -No
Storage Bag IncludedYes Yes No Yes No Yes
Travel LockNo Yes No No No No
Colors AvailablePeriwinkle and Papaya -Burgundy Red, Purple, Black --Pink, Lavender, Blue, Purple/Orange
Weight-116 g lbs----
Vibration modes--12 Modes -Endless in the Satisfyer App -
Vibration patterns----11 -
Allergies----Phthalate-free -
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How to use Dame Aer

This is my recommendation on how to get the most out of the Dame Aer...

Dame Aer
Take it to the tub!
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Run a bubble bath. Be sure to avoid adding any skin irritating ingredients to the water.
Dame Aer
Lube, lube, lube!
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Add a comfortable amount of water-based lubricant to the mouth of the toy, and to any area stimulation is desired.
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Nipple Play
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Feel free to explore the suction on sensitive regions, like the nipples and labia. Remember, there are patterns, too!
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Clitoral Stimulation
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Place the nozzle firmly over the clitoris. If that's too sensitive, try placing it over the clitoral hood or at the root of both.
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Cleanse Thoroughly
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Clean as directed.

FAQ

Does the Dame Aer feel like oral sex?
I don't personally think pressure air technology replicates oral sex. The pulsations feel nothing like a mouth. However, the consistent power may be better suited for timely climax.
Does it come with a warranty?
Yes, the Dame Aer comes with a 3-year warranty.
Can I boil the Dame Aer to sterilize it?
No! Any toy with electronic components can become damaged upon introduction to extreme temperatures. Instead, clean it with a water-based sex toy cleanser.
Does it come with a travel bag?
Yes! The Dame Aer comes with a silky, blue travel bag embroidered with an "O" face.

How did the Dame Aer get tested and reviewed?

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Our tester then put the product through its paces. After trying the product out at home, the tester then recorded their experience, evaluation, and overall rating of Dame Aer to share with you in this review.

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The only editing we do is uploading and adding additional information such as the product specifications, comparisons to other products, and links to places where you can buy the Dame Aer.

Author
Kaelie Sweeney
Kaelie Sweeney

I’m a little late to the game of sexual pleasure, but I’m making up for lost time. Since embarking on this journey, I’ve learned two things: sex can be meditative, and pleasure is a human right. Both should be proudly enjoyed. The body is a beautifully complex instrument; may we all discover what makes it sing and embrace the blissful melody.  I hope to progress to a society where consent and safety are prioritized above all else. Happy Climaxing!

Age: 27
Gender: Female
Sexual orientation: Demi-Pansexual
Sex toy experience: Intermediate
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