Dame Com — Test & Review

Vern Holland
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Vern Holland

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Rating: Dame Com was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.

What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the Dame Com.

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Rating: Dame Com was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.

What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).


Rating: Dame Com was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.

What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.


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Rating: Dame Com was rated 2 out of 5, which means it is moderately priced, neither expensive nor cheap.

What it is: The Price rating is indicated by 1-5 price icons. 1 indicate a very cheap product, while 5 indicate a very expensive product. The rating is a relative score compared to other similar toys.


Beginner: Suited for those new to the world of sex toys. These products are designed with simplicity and ease of use in mind, providing a gentle introduction to enhance your experiences. Whether you're exploring for the first time or looking for something straightforward, these items are a perfect starting point.


Intermediate: Tailored for individuals who have some familiarity with sex toys and are looking to explore further. These products offer a balance between comfort and new sensations, allowing you to expand your horizons and discover new pleasures. Ideal for those ready to take the next step in their journey.


Advanced: Designed for the experienced and adventurous. These products cater to those who are well-acquainted with sex toys and are seeking more intense or diverse sensations. If you're looking to push boundaries and explore the depths of pleasure, these items are crafted just for you.

My Verdict

The Dame Com is a great, versatile wand with silky-smooth silicone and easy-to-use accessible features. It's perfect for folks who need travel locks and quieter vibes, for people who like to switch up their positions with their toys for grinding or lounging on their backs or anything in-between. The Com has a beautiful, unique design that's built for truly comfortable pleasure. I couldn't recommend this vibrator enough! I felt like wands weren't for me until I tried the Dame Com, it opened my eyes to what sex toys can offer people in such a multitude of ways. Please, do your body a favor and get yourself one today!

Buy, if you...

  1. Want a toy that's built for a variety of body types and accessibility needs
  2. Prefer gender-neutral packaging and promotion
  3. Enjoy wand-style toys but don't want something too-strong

Don't buy, if you...

  1. Prefer buzzy or pinpointed vibrations
  2. Prefer smaller or shorter vibrators
  3. Don't enjoy wand-style toys
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About The Dame Com

The Com in the Dame Com must stand for comfort, because this wand has the coziest vibes. Its unique curved design contours against your body for an easier, more accessible grasp. It also has the strongest motor of all the Dame toys for an intense and relaxing masturbation session. Plus, it can be used as a body massager as well, with deep and rumbly vibrations that are perfect for your muscles! This toy is versatile to your needs and flexible for whatever pose preference you may have with your wands. Prepare to be pampered by the Dame Com!

The vibrations of the Dame Com are fairly quiet, very powerful, and very rumbly

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Rating: Dame Com was rated 3 out of 5, which means it is fairly quiet.

What it is: The sound rating provides a visual representation of how loud the vibrations of Dame Com felt to the reviewer.

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Rating: Dame Com was rated 4 out of 5, which means it is very powerful.

What it is: The power rating describes how fast and strong the vibrations of Dame Com felt to the reviewer.

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What it is: Buzzy vibrators have a high frequency that stimulates the surface (like a high pitch).
What it is: Rumbly vibrators have low-frequency vibrations that stimulate deeper into the tissue (like the bass in music).


  • Comfortable grip and shape for masturbation and massaging
  • Soft silicone that quickly warms against your skin
  • Totally waterproof


  • Long charge time
  • Not a lot of run time
  • Can be a little on the loud side

Unveiling My Experience with the Dame Com

My Personal Experiences with Dame Com

Ever since I first laid eyes on the Dame Com, I knew I was going to love it. Oh boy did it exceed my expectations! Not only is this wand powerful and doesn’t numb my bits, but it’s comfortable, easy on my wrists, and is even gender affirming. It’s by-far the best wand I’ve ever used, and it’s a toy that definitely won’t be leaving my nightstand any time soon. I love the Dame Com, and I encourage anyone interested in a wand-style vibrator to get one for yourself!

Comfortable & Curvaceous

Consider it love at first sight, but my experience with the Dame Com has been nothing but perfection. Dame products are silky smooth, likely the best body-safe silicone I’ve ever felt, and easy to use! It’s shaped for accessibility. If you’re like me and your wrists ache from the weird angles you sometimes have to do for stiffer wands, then you should definitely try the Dame Com. It’s angled to rest closer to your body, it’s like my hands and arms are getting a break! Plus, the vibrations are deep and rumbly without going overboard. (Looking at you, Lovense Domi 2, your vibrations were so numbing!) The Dame Com is soft and powerful, it makes me feel more in touch with my body.

Gender Affirming?!

The Dame Com is perfect for my bottom dysphoria and gender euphoria. At times, I wish that I had something more that I could grab, like a penis, rather than my vulva and clitoris. The Dame Com is long, longer than many wands I’ve seen before. It contours to my curves and is easy to hold in a variety of positions. When my hand grasps onto its shaft it feels like I’m holding and stroking a penis of my own. It’s not just the toy that is gender affirming! The packaging itself is gender-neutral and promotes safe, healthy sex and highlights the Dame Com’s ability to be used by a variety of body types and genitalia. I highly recommend this toy for other trans folks who may want more comfort, ease, and gender euphoria from their sex toy experience!

Design Quirks: The Good and the Bad

Dame Com Design Quirks: The Good and the Bad

The look of the Dame Com is striking. The entire toy, head and body, is the soft silicone that Dame is known for. You can always point out a Dame product by their gentle pastel colors and silky-smooth feeling! Then, of course, there's that unique curve that hugs my body like nothing else. It's a beautiful design all around!

The Dame Com: My Take on Ease of Use

Dame Com The Dame Com: My Take on Ease of Use

There are three buttons, one to turn the vibrator on and off that doubles as a way to change the toy's pattern, and two to change the intensity. There isn't a learning curve necessarily, but the smoothness of the buttons that melt into the rest of the silicone body, it took a few tries to find the right spots for the right change I was looking for. But it's perfect for those who may have mobility issues, as this toy will hug your body and is very easy to hold onto!

How Well-made is it?

Dame Com How Well-made is it?

The Dame Com is so close to getting a perfect quality rating, but those buttons keep me from going all the way. They're a little tricky to figure out at first, and sometimes seem to get a little stuck as if it didn't read my pressure at first. But it is one of the quietest wands I've used, is sturdy and built to last, and feels like a great quality toy.

Cost of the Dame Com

Dame Com Cost of the Dame Com

The price of this toy is NOT going to break the bank! When debating getting a Dame Com of your own, remember that you're getting a great quality toy for a fair price. It's not cheap, per say, at just under $90, but it's a price that shows its top-notch quality while being accessible to folks with varying budgets!

How I think the Dame Com performed

Dame Com How I think the Dame Com performed

I wish the Dame Com had a slightly better battery life. At only an hour or so of run time I can get a couple of sessions in with it before it dies mid-use. Otherwise, it has a great vibration strength that is stronger than other Dame products while not being overpowering to the point of numbing my vulva and clitoris. It's not too loud, doesn't get too hot, and all around performs better than many of the toys I have in my arsenal!

A closer Look at it’s packaging

Dame Com A closer Look at it’s packaging

I love Dame's gender-neutral packaging, but I have seen a slight downgrade in their packaging over time. While I love that their plastic is recyclable, my Com arrived with the plastic holding it being folded over, so my grand reveal was a bit of a bummer and made me worry about the quality of the toy. Still, after unfolding the plastic (with few blemishes, as seen in the image) and looking at the rest of the products in the box, I found it to be wonderfully well-done. I love the sticker and the pamphlet on demystifying sexual wellness and pleasure, as well as on how to get the most out of your Dame Com!

Materials and Maintenance

Dame Com Materials and Maintenance

The Dame Com is lightweight for its size and made of body-safe silicone that's soft to the touch. It's totally waterproof, so you can easily clean it in warm water and soap, or just your choice of toy cleaner. It even comes with a cute storage bag for you to the toy into for safe keeping once it's been cleaned!

Specifications and features

Vibration speeds5 
Vibration patterns5 
Length10.5 inches
MaterialsBody-safe silicone 
Battery Life1 minutes
Charging Time2.5 minutes
Travel LockYes 
Weight0.6 lbs
Storage Bag IncludedYes 
Colors AvailablePeriwinkle, Quartz 

Comparing Dame Com with alternatives

Compare Dame ComDame Com
Overall score4.7 / 5.0 4.5 / 5.0 4.1 / 5.0 4.8 / 5.0 4.3 / 5.0 4.3 / 5.0
Bedbible rating5.0 / 5.0 5.0 / 5.0 3.2 / 5.0 5.0 / 5.0 4.3 / 5.0 4.0 / 5.0
User rating4.3 / 5.0
from 3 users
4 / 5.0
from 3 users
4.9 / 5.0
from 275 users
4.7 / 5.0
from 51 users
4.3 / 5.0
from 230 users
4.7 / 5.0
from 69 users
PriceAffordable Pricey Affordable Pricey Premium Pricey
Design100 / 100 90 / 100 90 / 100 95 / 100 100 / 100 70 / 100
Ease of use90 / 100 90 / 100 90 / 100 100 / 100 85 / 100 65 / 100
Quality95 / 100 95 / 100 85 / 100 100 / 100 90 / 100 78 / 100
Sound60 / 100 60 / 100 40 / 100 80 / 100 80 / 100 100 / 100
Power80 / 100 80 / 100 60 / 100 100 / 100 100 / 100 100 / 100
Buzzy/Rumblysomewhat rumbly somewhat rumbly neither really buzzy nor rumbly very rumbly very rumbly very rumbly
Vibration speeds5 5 3 10 10 3 Preset
Vibration patterns5 5 -20 10 4 Preset
Length10.5 inches8 inches9.6 inches13 inches11.97 inches9.21 inches
MaterialsBody-safe silicone Silicone ABS Plastic, Silicone ABS Plastic, Silicone Silicone, PC, ABS Medical Grade Silicone and ABS Plastic
WaterproofYes Yes No No -Splashproof
Battery Life1 minutes240 minutes150 minutesUp to 180 minutes240 minutes300-360 minutes
RechargeableYes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes
Charging Time2.5 minutes300 minutes150 minutes180 minutes150 minutes150 minutes
Travel LockYes No -Yes Yes -
Weight0.6 lbs-.60 lbs1.49 lbs-0.6 lbs
Storage Bag IncludedYes Yes No Yes Yes Yes!
Colors AvailablePeriwinkle, Quartz --White, Gray, Blue, Pink, Matte Black --
Diameter-Approx. 1.9 inches1.9 inches(Head) 2.45 inches(Head) 2.28 inches1.74 inches
Flexibility-Slight ----
Remote Controls-App Capabilities ---App
Vibration modes--1 ---
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Is the Dame Com for internal use?
No, the Dame Com is made for external use only.
Why is the Dame Com shaped like that?
The Dame Com is shaped to better fit into the curve of one's body for easier accessibility, especially for those who may have mobility issues or have larger bellies.
Is there a warranty for the Dame Com?
There is a three-year warranty on Dame toys!
How do I clean the Dame Com?
The Dame Com is totally waterproof. Feel free to submerge it in water! Clean it up with some warm, soapy water, or just your favorite toy cleaner and a rag.

Instructions - Manual

Check out the manual for the Dame Com! Just click this link to learn more.

Vern Holland
Vern Holland

As a creative writer, I didn’t expect to start reviewing sex toys. I became a certified sexual health resource through a previous job, and my passion for promoting sexual health has only grown! I’m passionate about helping individuals find pleasure that suits their bodies and desires without shame. I aim to foster open conversations, and I want to help create a world that embraces pleasure and celebrates all bodies, genders, and sexualities. Let’s educate and empower each other to cultivate a safer, more comfortable, and sexier world!

Age: 24
Gender: Non-binary
Sexual orientation: Queer
Sex toy experience: Advanced
All-time favorite sex toy: We-Vibe Melt
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