How to Use a Vibrator: Your Bucket List for Better Masturbation

For many sex toy owners, the humble vibrator would have been their first sex toy and, for some, their first orgasm.

Yes, vibrators are magical things that can unlock a pleasure unlike any other, but are you really making the most of yours?

Once you figure out your go-to vibrator technique that can get you off in a matter of minutes, you feel like you’ve cracked the code, and you soon have your routine down.

But what if I told you there’s so much more you could be doing to get even more pleasure and even better orgasms out of your trusty vibrator. 

Choosing a Vibrator

We live in a wonderful world, replete with different vibrators that can cater to our every desire, so finding the right one can be confusing. There are a few questions you can ask yourself to help figure out which type of vibrator to buy.

Guide: Every Type of Vibrator You Need to Know

What type of stimulation do I like?

External vibrators are mostly designed to stimulate the clitoris and labia but can also be used on other sensitive areas like the nipples. They are a great option for a first vibrator. Common types include bullet vibrators, magic wand vibrators, panty vibrators, and clitoral suction stimulators. 

Internal vibrators are designed to stimulate inside the vagina, including the g-spot and a-spot. Internal vibrators include dildo vibrators, g-spot vibrators, and egg vibrators. Some internal vibrators can be used anally, but they must have a flared base. You can also use internal vibrators to stimulate sensitive areas like the clitoris, nipples, and other external erogenous zones 

Dual stimulation vibrators combine internal and external stimulation. The most common type is rabbit vibrators that have an internal shaft and external clitoral stimulator. Dual stimulation vibrators allow you to experience blended g-spot and clitoral orgasms. They are perfect for people who enjoy internal stimulation but also need clitoral stimulation to orgasm.

How strong do I want my vibrator to be?

Whether you have a sensitive clit or one that demands intense power, your vibrator should deliver the right power for you.

Always do your research before buying to find out how strong the vibrations are, as there really is something for everyone out there! 

The Tenga Iroha Zen is great if you are looking for softer vibrations, and the squishy tip makes it feel even gentler. At the other end of the scale, you’ve got the likes of the Hitachi Wand that our sex toy expert, Edwina, compared to a 5 Richter scale earthquake.

Make friends with your vibrator

After giving your vibrator a good clean and making sure it’s fully charged, figure out how to change the settings.

Depending on the vibrator, they can be pretty complicated, and you can’t always see the buttons while you’re using it, so it’s good to figure them out before.

At the very least, you definitely want to know how to turn it off in a hurry, you know, in case you get any surprise visitors!

11 Tips to Become a Vibrator Virtuoso

1. Lubrication is your vibrator’s best friend! Use all the lube! I cannot say this enough. The sweet slippery sensations elevate any vibrator experience from ooh to wow! Just make sure you use a water-based lube with any silicone toys. Lube doesn’t have to be boring either, there are plenty of flavored, tingling or heating lubes out to add a little more variety.
2. Start low and slow on the settings and see how long you can make yourself last. Building up like this can make for some explosive orgasms.
3. Switch up the movement. As well as holding it on your sweet spots, move your vibrator around. Longer strokes around the labia or circling the clitoris can give you a whole new sensation. 
4. Vary the pressure. Experiment with more or less pressure to vary the intensity.
5. Add in some other sex toys. Sure your vibrator can do a lot, but the more the merrier when it comes to sex toys I say! Ok, I’m sure there are some limits, but adding in some hands-free sex toys like a pair of nipple suckers, nipple clamps, or a butt plug can give you a real pleasure boost. 
6. Watch yourself in the mirror, because you are HOT! Seriously, this may sound awkward, but you might surprise yourself. Wearing something sexy can spice it up even more. You won’t be able to keep your hands off yourself. 
7. Explore all of the settings. We all have a favorite setting that we know will have us stifling moans of pleasure in no time, but, when given the chance, the other settings can give you a whole new experience. 
8. Practice deep breathing and relaxing your pelvic floor when you use your vibrator to help you experience all the sensations fully.
9. Explore different types of orgasms. Who knows, maybe you can have a nipple orgasm or anal orgasm.
10. Don’t focus only on clit and internal stimulation. Your labia, area around your clitoris, and the opening of your vagina are all packed with sensitive nerve endings and crying out for attention.
11. Use your vibrator at different times of the day. If you usually masturbate at night, try a morning session to start your day, or quickie before you head out of the house.

Vibrator Bucket List

Now you know all the tips and tricks to maximize your pleasure, it’s time to get creative with your vibrator. Variety is the spice of life and we sure do like a bit of spice in the bedroom!

Switching things up every now and then is a great way to get to know your body better and teach your trusty old vibrator some new tricks.

Fancy Foreplay with a Vibrator

Vibrations can deliver shivers of pleasure all over the body, so before you dive right in at the deep end (sorry), spend some time tantalizing the rest of your body.

As well as feeling fantastic, taking the time to get yourself aroused will increase the blood flow to your vulva, making it extra sensitive. It will increase your natural lubrication, getting you wet and ready for your vibrator. 

1. Tease yourself through your clothes.
2. Use that Hitachi for its original purpose and give yourself a relaxing massage.
3. Use your vibrator on areas of your body that aren’t your genitals. Your inner arms, stomach, and inner thighs are all highly sensitive areas that love to be teased.
4. Use your vibrator on your breasts and nipples. A clitoral suction vibrator with some lube can mimic the sensation of having your nipples sucked.

Get Wet and Wild with Your Vibrator

It goes without saying that this only applies to waterproof vibrators!

The combination of warm, relaxing water and tingling vibrations makes for some luxurious, sensual masturbation. If you’re having a bath, give yourself the royal treatment, candles, a nice drink, relaxing music, and of course, some underwater vibes.

That post-orgasmic bliss just hits different when you’re relaxing in the bath. The shower is also perfect for a pre-work quickie. Trust me, a good orgasm and a cup of coffee before work make the world seem like a much better place.

Ride Your Vibrator

Prop your vibrator up on a pillow — a bolster style pillow works great for this, or treat yourself to a sex toy wedge from liberator. Having the vibrator grind against your clitoris will feel incredible, and rocking your hips can actually help you orgasm.

C-shaped vibrators, like We-Vibe Chorus, are great for this, as they provide internal and external stimulation and stay in place.

Vibe in Lingerie

Lingerie is most definitely not only for your partner’s eyes. Slip into your favorite lingerie and check yourself out, you hottie!

As well as feeling incredibly sexy, using a vibrator on your vulva and nipples over your lingerie can create thrilling sensations, especially if it’s lace. Combine this with a full-length mirror, and you are in for one hot show.

Edge Your Way to Buzzy Bliss

Edging builds sexual excitement, resulting in intense orgasmic releases. To practice this, use your vibrator to get you to the edge of an orgasm.

Remember to take it slowly, as the aim of the game is to really build arousal and excitement.

As you feel an orgasm approaching, stop and take a few deep breaths to let the orgasm subside and then start up with your vibrator again. You’ll probably want to use the low to mid settings on your vibrator for this to stop yourself from accidentally going over the edge too soon.

You can repeat this as many times as you want before letting yourself go and enjoying your hard-earned orgasm.

Multitask with Your Vibrator

Ever thought there must be some way to make those boring jobs more fun?

Well, there is!

An egg vibrator or panty vibrator can add a little excitement to even the most mundane of tasks.

You could slip it in before you pop to the supermarket, while you do the laundry, or tidy the house.

The Lovense Lush 3 is perfect for discreet play. The vibrate to music function can add a little fun to getting ready for a night out! You can read our review of the Lovense Lush 2 until we get our hands on the upgrade (supposedly very very similar).

Have multiple orgasms with your vibrator

Orgasms are amazing, and you don’t have to stop after one.

After your first orgasm, you want to keep yourself aroused but might find that your clitoris is too sensitive.

Take a few deep breaths and switch to another type of stimulation. Using your vibrator to stroke your labia, around the clitoris or vaginal opening can help you stay aroused without overwhelming your clitoris.

When the sensitivity has decreased, you can go back to clitoral stimulation and go for orgasm number 2.

Remember to experiment with different settings on your vibrator — you might need a different strength for your second round.

Different Types of Vibrators and How to Use Them

How to Use a Rabbit Vibrator

Rabbit vibrators do all the work for you! Use the vibrator to tease your body to get you fully aroused. Apply some lube to the insertable shaft and your clitoris, and then slowly slide the shaft into your vagina. Once it’s fully inserted, place the clitoral stimulator or rabbit ears over your clitoris.

You can now explore the different settings. Most rabbit vibrators let you control the ears and shaft independently. If you know clitoral stimulation will make you orgasm quickly, try using the internal vibrations alone to build the anticipation.

The Greedy Girl from the Fifty Shades of Grey Range is a firm favorite, with silky smooth silicone and vibrations that will leave you speechless, or as Edwina put it, the Greedy Girl is “a modern-day version of a classic sex toy that every woman should own.”

How to Use a Bullet Vibrator

Bullet vibrators are great for target stimulation and are easy to maneuver.

They are perfect for tracing circles around your nipples or clitoris or stroking the inside of your labia and the opening of your vagina.

You can also lie the bullet flat over your vulva to stimulate the whole area or to stimulate other parts of your body.

These small but mighty vibrators are great for using with other sex toys, like a suction cup dildo, and they are travel-friendly for masturbation on the go!

The Mantric Bullet Vibrator is covered in velvety silicone that warms to your body’s temperature and it’s rechargeable and waterproof. Not to mention, it packs some powerful vibrations.

How to Use a Magic Wand Vibrator

Wand vibrators are for external stimulation and often have strong and rumbly vibrations. As well as broad clitoral stimulation, they are great for stimulating other areas of your body, like your inner thighs. At higher levels, they can also be for a relaxing massage on tired muscles.

Their magic doesn’t stop there. There are so many great attachments that can transform your wand into a g-spot vibrator, rabbit vibrator, or even vibrating anal beads.

You can now get the Orginal Magic Wand in a cordless, rechargeable version for even more freedom.

How to Use a Clit Vibrator

Clitoral vibrators come in so many different forms with different types of stimulation. As the name implies, they are here to lavish your clit with attention.

To use one on your clitoris, first, apply some lube to the toy and then place it wherever feels good. Some people like direct clitoral stimulation and others find it too intense. Use your vibrator on the whole area around your clitoris to figure out what feels best for you. These vibrators are often great for nipple stimulation too!

The Touch from We-Vibe is perfectly shaped to caress your clit and deliver 8 modes of pleasing vibrations.

How to Use a Finger Vibrator

Finger vibrators are pretty intuitive to use as they attach to your fingers. You can then use your newly vibrating finger to stimulate wherever feels good!

They are great for massaging your body, nipple play, and stimulating your vulva. You have a lot of control over the movement and pressure with a finger vibrator, so it’s easy to experiment with different types of touch.

You can use the vibrator over your clitoris while using your other fingers inside your vagina for some dual stimulation.

The Ignite rechargeable finger vibrator gives you 20 vibrating functions at your fingertips, giving you plenty of options to explore.

How to Use a G-spot Vibrator

The g-spot is a powerful pleasure center for vulva owners and stimulating it in the right way can lead to intense g-spot orgasm. As your g-spot is on the front wall of your vagina, you want to angle your g-spot vibrator slightly forward. Most g-spot vibrators are curved to make this easier. You can experiment with rubbing the vibrator back and forth over your g-spot while the vibrations work their magic.

The curved shaft of the Gigi from Lelo makes it easy to stroke the flat tip back and forth over your g-spot while enjoying the 8 different vibration patterns.

With all these new things to explore, I hope you’ll fall in love with your vibrator all over again. What’s your favorite way to use your vibrator? Share your tips and techniques with us in the comments.