5 Most Realistic Strap On Dildos
Whether you’re new to the world of pegging or just want a more realistic dildo, you can’t go wrong with a realistic strap-on dildo! All the dildos I’ve chosen together with our team of testers are compatible with any harnesses. This is my ranking of the 5 Best and Most Realistic Strap On Dildos. Interested in the best overall strap-on toys, check that link instead.
Test Winner5.0  Overall Rating 5.0/5 Bedbible Rating: 5/5 User Ratings: 4.9/5 Based on 50 user reviews | Runner Up5.0 Overall Rating 5.0/5 Bedbible Rating: 5/5 Reviewed by: Alice LaineyUser Ratings: 4.9/5 Based on 41 user reviews | Budget-Friendly4.4 Overall Rating 4.4/5 Bedbible Rating: 4.1/5 Reviewed by: Ashley SnyderUser Ratings: 4.7/5 Based on 35.6 user reviews | Best Large4.9 Overall Rating 4.9/5 Bedbible Rating: 5/5 Reviewed by: Kasia HalinowskaUser Ratings: 4.8/5 Based on 25 user reviews | Best Small4.7 Overall Rating 4.7/5 Bedbible Rating: 4.7/5 Reviewed by: Rachel WorthingtonUser Ratings: 0/5 Based on 0 user reviews |
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How We Test realistic strap ons
We’re a team of 335 sex toy testers and 13 sex toy experts.
To find the very best realistic strap ons, our testers tried and reviewed 92 different products in this category.
Bad or even just mediocre realistic strap ons didn’t make the list!
In total, we’ve thoroughly tested and reviewed 1196 toys over the past 6 years.
We even lab-tested some to get objective data.
Read more about how we test products.
Table of contents (12)
Test Winner Blush Neo Elite Realistic Dildo With Balls
Overall Rating
5.0/5
Bedbible Rating:
5/5
Reviewed by:
Ashley SnyderUser Ratings:
4.9/5
Based on 50 user reviews
Rating: Blush Neo Elite Realistic Dildo With Balls was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the realistic strap on.
Rating: Blush Neo Elite Realistic Dildo With Balls was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: Blush Neo Elite Realistic Dildo With Balls was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Double density (hard core, softer outer layer)
- Compatible with almost all harnesses
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Strong Suction Cup
- ✅ Perfect Balance of Stiffness and Softness
- ✅ Easily Cleaned Silicone Material
Cons
- ❌ May be too girthy for a beginner
- ❌ May be too soft for someone who likes firmer toys
Why I Chose It
The Blush Neo Elite is by far the best reviewed realistic dildo compatible with harnesses we’ve had on Bedbible.
Ashley, who tested it, said it is “a fantastic choice if you’re looking for something hands-free, harness compatible.”.
Ashley was “going crazy” about especially two things “the suction cup, and the softness of the toy”, and added about the double density construction that she loved the “smooth outer layer is very luxurious” it created. Most of our testers who’ve tried a double (or triple) density dildo come away amazed by it.
In fact, Ashley didn’t have any negatives to say, hence why it landed as the best realistic and strap-on compatible dildo. The Runner up was a close second, but Ashley said “this one has a firmer core” that made it not as flaccid feeling as the other.
Runner Up Blush Neo Elite Realistic Dildo
Overall Rating
5.0/5
Bedbible Rating:
5/5
Reviewed by:
Alice LaineyUser Ratings:
4.9/5
Based on 41 user reviews
Rating: Blush Neo Elite Realistic Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the realistic strap on.
Rating: Blush Neo Elite Realistic Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: Blush Neo Elite Realistic Dildo was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Double density (hard core, softer outer layer)
- Compatible with almost all harnesses
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Skin is very soft and comfortable
- ✅ Great average size
- ✅ Versatile
Cons
- ❌ May be too flexible
- ❌ May be too soft
Why I Chose It
Alice had the pleasure of testing the Blush Neo Elite for us, and only had a few drawbacks she highlighted, which at the end of the day came down to personal preferences.
First, she though it had an “approachable size and girth”, and loved the “hyper-realistic surfacing” that is “detailed down to the last vein”.
A large part of the realism is because it’s a platinum-cured dual density silicone and construction – that just feels and look super realistic! Almost anyone of our testers, and the whole office for that sake, love dual density dildos.
Alice had used the dildo “in a number of ways, and each of them worked wonderfully”, but she did say that he favorite part was “its remarkable strap-on compatibility.”. They already owned a strap-on harness that “it worked perfectly with” because it’s the “perfect size and design for use with a strap-on.”
The only thing she didn’t like was that because of the “soft exterior, the dildo was a bit difficult to initially insert.”, and that left her with the feeling that “the penis I had inside of me was a bit flaccid.”
Budget-Friendly Colours Dual Density 5″ Dildo
Overall Rating
4.4/5
Bedbible Rating:
4.1/5
Reviewed by:
Ashley SnyderUser Ratings:
4.7/5
Based on 35.6 user reviews
Rating: Colours Dual Density 5″ Dildo was rated 75 out of 100, which means it is designed very well.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the realistic strap on.
Rating: Colours Dual Density 5″ Dildo was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: Colours Dual Density 5″ Dildo was rated 80 out of 100, which means it is very good quality.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Double density (hard core, softer outer layer)
- Compatible with almost all harnesses
- Stiff inner core
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Suction cup is very strong
- ✅ Dual layers make it feel more real
- ✅ Body-safe silicone is easily cleaned
Cons
- ❌ A little too soft
- ❌ Could use a tab to help remove suction cup
Why I Chose It
I’ll be honest with you, I considered making this a great beginner choice, but because both the test winner and the runner up are such great choices for beginners as well as advanced that didn’t make sense. Also, on top of that the price is pretty great on the Colors dildo, which ultimately made it my budget option.
Even our tester, Ashley (who also tested the Neo Elite) said it was “cheap for what you get”.
She was most impressed by the strong suction cup commenting “Holy cow!!!!”, which says it all coupled with the fact she struggled getting it off certain surfaces. Something I definitely think you can live with, especially when I consider how some of the suction cup dildos we’ve tested struggle to keep suction.
Ashley said she would “recommend this to anyone”, because it “feels more real than regular dildos”. She also added that “unlike the typical dildo that is normally sometimes almost too stiff and straight, this dildo has a bit more give to it”.
Especially the fact that it both feels more real, and not as stiff is caused by the dual density construction with a harder core and a softer outer layer. That in turns also contributes to the fact that it “holds heat better than a regular dildo”.
Best Large Vixen Vixskin Johnny
Overall Rating
4.9/5
Bedbible Rating:
5/5
Reviewed by:
Kasia HalinowskaUser Ratings:
4.8/5
Based on 25 user reviews
Rating: Vixen Vixskin Johnny was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the realistic strap on.
Rating: Vixen Vixskin Johnny was rated 90 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: Vixen Vixskin Johnny was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Double density construction (hard core, softer outer layer)
- Compatible with ring-based strap ons (not suction cup bases)
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Realistic look and dual-density texture
- ✅ Availsble in multiple skin tones
- ✅ Suitable for anal use
- ✅ Premium quality silicone
- ✅ Easy to clean and sterilize
Cons
- ❌ Quite expensive
- ❌ No suction cup
Why I Chose It
I’ve picked out the Vixen Vixskin Johnny as the best large one for good reason. First, because when Kasia, who tested it, first unpacked it she was “pretty intimidated by its size and how real it looked”.
It makes it a perfect fit as the best large strap on dildo with a realistic look, especially considering how much Kasia eventually liked it – she considers it her go-to for whenever she “want to have fun with something thick, and lifelike”.
She also noted how realistic it was, and that it actually felt “just like a real erect penis” and that it “deserved an A+”.
One of the added benefits is the upwards curve, making it perfect when you want to “reach the G-spot easily”, or P-spot if you want to use it as a pegging strap-on.
At the higher end of our price scale compared to other realistic dildos, the Johnny is definitely an investment.
If you ask any of our tester who have tried out a Vixskin dildo for themselves, they would say it’s a very worthy investment!
Best Small Vixen Creations Vixskin Tex
Overall Rating
4.7/5
Bedbible Rating:
4.7/5
Reviewed by:
Rachel WorthingtonUser Ratings:
0/5
Based on 0 user reviews
Rating: Vixen Creations Vixskin Tex was rated 95 out of 100, which means it is designed absolutely incredible.
What it is: The design rating takes into account the shape of the toy in both a visual and ergonomic perspective. We ask our reviewers to rate the overall feeling of the realistic strap on.
Rating: Vixen Creations Vixskin Tex was rated 85 out of 100, which means it is extremely easy to use and worked very well.
What it is: The Ease of Use rating is a score given on how easy the toy is to operate and use. Aspects that are considered is the suitability for different kinds of people, intuitiveness, and potential learning curve of using the product for pleasure (or pain).
Rating: Vixen Creations Vixskin Tex was rated 100 out of 100, which means it is one of the absolute top quality toys.
What it is: The Quality rating is a score that takes into account the quality of the materials used in the toy, how well it was manufactured, the safety, durability and overall quality feel of the toy.
- Double density construction (hard core, softer outer layer)
- Compatible with almost all harnesses
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Premium-quality, hand-poured silicone
- ✅ Realistic glans design
- ✅ Suction cup base
- ✅ Perfect size for everyday use
Cons
- ❌ A little too short to use comfortably hands-free
- ❌ Suction cup could be stronger
- ❌ Limited color range on most stores
- ❌ Expensive
Why I Chose It
Rachel, who tested the Vixskin Tex, called it“a dream to use both for masturbation and with a partner, without needing too much warm up”.
That is due to the small size, which did prove to be a bit of a problem and cause some frustration as it wasn’t “quite long enough for me to use hands-free”.
But, this does make it a great small realistic dildo for strap-on use.
Initially, after just “one squish of that dual density head” Rachel didn’t have any doubt that it would “feel pretty amazing to use”.
One of the thing she did point out was that the suction cup base isn’t as strong as some others, and it is in fact also called a non-slip base, which is “to make it easier to use in a harness”.
She loved the curve it had that made it “great for hitting the g-spot perfectly”, and the “pronounced glans textures are extra stimulating” she said.
Overall, it’s a great option for those seeking a small realistic dildo compatible with harnesses.
Comparison
| Best | Test Winner | Runner Up | Budget-Friendly | Best Large | Best Small |
| Overall score | 5.0 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.4 / 5.0 | 4.9 / 5.0 | - |
| Bedbible rating | 5.0 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.1 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.7 / 5.0 |
| User rating | 4.9 / 5.0 from 50 users | 4.9 / 5.0 from 41 users | 4.7 / 5.0 from 35.6 users | 4.8 / 5.0 from 25 users | - |
| Price | Affordable | Affordable | Affordable | Pricey | Pricey |
| Design | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 75 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 95 / 100 |
| Ease of use | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 90 / 100 | 85 / 100 |
| Quality | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 80 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 100 / 100 |
| Sound | - | - | - | - | - |
| Power | - | - | - | - | - |
| Buzzy/Rumbly | - | - | - | - | - |
| Length | 7.5 inches | 7.5 inches | 6.8 inches | 8 inches | 5.75 inches |
| Insertable length | 5.5 inches | - | 5.3 inches | 7 inches | 5.25 inches |
| Diameter | 1.5 inches | 1.5 inches | - | 1.8 inches | 1.75 inches |
| Flexibility | Very Flexible | Very Flexible | Very flexible | Flexible | Flexible |
| Materials | Silicone | Platinum-Cured Silicone | Silicone | Silicone | Silicone |
| Waterproof | Yes | Yes | Yes | Submersible | Yes |
| Storage Bag Included | No | No | No | - | No |
| Colors Available | Vanilla, Orange, Pink | Vanilla, Blue, Pink | Vanilla; Chocolate; Dark Chocolate; Blue; Purple; Pink | - | Vanilla, Caramel, Chocolate (+ Tie-Dye, direct from Vixen Creations' website) |
| Width | - | - | 1.5 inches | - | - |
How to Pick the Ideal Realistic Strap On
There are a couple of things to consider when looking for the best realistic dildo.
Firstly, you’ll want to consider your preferred length and girth of the strap-on in question: Do you want something ungodly massive, average, or short?
You should always opt for a non-porous material if possible. You’ll also have a variety of designs and textures to choose from, as well as the option to opt for a suction-cup base.
Choose Your Harness
For sublime strap on sensations, you’ll need a harness. These three from LoveHoney are fantastic, sturdy choices that take your comfort level into account.
Important to consider when choosing is whether you would like to be fully clothed, scantily clad, or completely naked during use.
Don’t forget to account for the measurements of your dildo when choosing a harness.
Lovehoney Unisex Harness Briefs
The Lovehoney Unisex Harness Briefs are made for comfort and convenience, with no obvious harness lines these unisex briefs can be worn all day for endless fun. Whether you are looking for spur-of-the-moment fun, packing, or an easy setup this harness is comfy and on the low end of our price range. The built-in O ring is only compatible with dildos that have a 1.5-inch diameter.
Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness
The Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness is a super comfortable harness, that made Isabelle, who tested it, feel amazing wearing it.
She did say that it isn’t the most stable, and would opt for something with adjustable straps for more avid users.
It does come in 5 different sizes, and choosing just the right one, could solve the stability issue.
What to Look for in a Realistic Strap On Dildo
Searching for a realistic strap on dildo is not quite as straightforward as it may seem.
Look below for a checklist of which aspects you’re really looking for.
Balls or No Balls
While some need attached balls to complete the fantasy, others may only care about the shaft.
If balls are a must, do they just need to be there to complete the look or do they need to move like the real thing?
The Look to Match the Feel
While inside you may want a convincing texture and thick veins, but do you want your toy to look real as well?
Most realistic strap on dildos come in a couple different skin tones, but not everyone is a fan of a too-convincing toy.
Bold colors can help to separate the look from the feel.
Sizing
Whether a beginner or an expert, sizing can be tricky.
One toy may be absolutely perfect for a solo suction-cup ride but when strapped onto another person it could be too much or not enough.
Even if you find yourself with a toy a little girthier than expected, go slow, use lube, and don’t be afraid to shelve the toy to use after a little bit of practice.
Materials
Silicone? PVC? TPE? Dual Density? Triple Density?
These can all be extremely confusing to sort through.
Non-porous and non-toxic materials are what we recommend as the best and safest material.
Porous toys are less easy to sterilize and can very quickly harbor bacteria, germs, or even grow mold.
It’s important to replace your porous toys at the first signs of damage.
For feel, it can be difficult to truly know what you prefer unless you have tried it.
Find what is in your price range and which type of material you feel most comfortable caring for, then give it a whirl!
Different types of real feel strap on
- O-ring- a strap on can attach to an O-ring in a harness or strap on underwear, but the strap on must have a flared base, suction cup, or balls to be secured; O-rings can come in different sizes or can be stretchable to accomodate different sized dildos
- Vac-U-Lock- this attachment is great for larger strap ons; the strap on will have hollow, ridged center which attaches to a Vac-U-Lock system on the harness
- Hollow- a strap on with a hollow center; these are great for putting bullet vibes inside, or if the centre is large enough, a penis
- Strapless strap on- made to be worn by people with vaginas; a curved strap on for G-spot stimulation, one end of the strapless strap on on is inserted into the wearer and the other can be used to penetrate their parnter- great for double pleasure
- Vibrating- a vibrating strap on can have a motor inside that is controlled by buttons or a remote; can also be made to vibrate by adding a bullet vibrator to a hollow center.
Does a Strap-On Feel Better than the Real Thing?
If you haven’t tried real feel strap ons in the past and you’ve carefully studied the sex toys we’ve reviewed so far, you may ask yourself if they are really worthy.
In other words, is sex better with a strap on or with the real thing?
We have made our research and this is what we can tell you:
It's All About Experiences
With all of us being different from each other, it’s difficult to say if strap-on sex is better than sex with a real penis.
It will all depend on the mood we are in, who we are with, if we want G-spot stimulation or not, and how playful or open to introduce sex toys to your sexual life you are in that precise moment.
In other words, what feels great tonight, may not feel that good tomorrow and what you discarded tonight may be a great idea in the near future.
It's not (Always) About Real Feel Strap On vs A Penis
Sex with a real feel strap on shouldn’t always be seen in opposition to sex with a real penis.
In fact, not all real feel strap ons come with realistic dildos.
Feel Rebellious with a Strap On
There’s something forbidden, kinky and naughty about sex toys in general and real feel strap ons are not the exception to the rule.
Adding a strap on to your sex life can help you reveal a more rebellious, kinky or naughty side of you and, therefore, help you reach a better sexual experience.
Strap Ons and G-spot Stimulation
If there’s one aspect in which sex is better with a strap on is for women interested in receiving targetted G-spot stimulation.
Real feel strap ons that have a curved shaft with a bulbous tip are usually better at aiming at the women’s sweet spot and delivering explosive orgasms.
Strap Ons To Live Out Fantasies
Another aspect in which strap on sex is better than sex with the real thing is that it makes it easier for people to live out their fantasies.
Even if it is just to try it on alone and discover how powerful it makes you feel and then introduce it to your sex session with your partner, it will help you enjoy better sex.
Reviewed by:
Ashley Snyder