Looking for the perfect dildo can be like searching for that elusive perfect pair of jeans: exciting, a bit daunting, but oh-so rewarding once you find ‘The One.’ Before you get to deciding which is the one for you, the first step is figuring out where to buy a dildo!

With so many places selling sex toys, it can be hard to know which ones you can trust to deliver quality toys, discreet packaging, and good customer service. That’s why I’m sharing a list of my favorite online stores to shop for dildos. Plus, I’ll sprinkle in some dildo suggestions and pro tips on choosing the right toy along the way to help you find the dildo of your dreams!

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Where to Buy a Dildo: My Top Stores

Now, I’m going to share my favorite places to buy a dildo, together with a little information about each store and some of the fantastic dildos you can find there!

#1 Lovehoney

Lovehoney is like the candy store of sex toys with their extensive range of dildos! From budget-friendly basics from under $20 to luxurious high-end designs, Lovehoney has something to suit all budgets. They stock a variety of different types of dildos, including realistic, non-realistic, suction cup, double-ended, and strap-on dildos.

Lovehoney have a range of their own brands, inlcuding Lovehoney, Lovehoney Basics, Lifelike Lover, and Lovehoney Desire, all catering to different tastes and budgets. They also stock some of the top dildo brands from around the world, including Vixen, nJoy, Fun Factory, and Icicles, amongst others.

If you aren’t sure where to buy a dildo, Lovehoney is a fantastic place to start!

Plus, they offer free US shipping over $49 and they ensure discreet shipping!

Lovehoney Sensual Glass Dildo Beaded Dildo

One of the most popular dildos available on Lovehoney is the Lovehoney Beaded Sensual Glass Dildo. Currently it has a whopping 558 reviews and a very impressive average user rating of 4.88/5! Our tester also loved this dildo, giving it a perfect score of 5/5.

They loved the smooth weightiness of the glass and how it felt wonderfully filling. They also enjoyed using it for temperature play with a partner.

Read more about their experience in the Lovehoney Beaded Sensual Glass Dildo review

#2 SheVibe

SheVibe is known for its unique, comic book-style website that’s combines comedy and pleasure education. They have a vast selection that includes everything from beginner-friendly dildos to more adventurous designs, with a fantastic selection of fantasy dildos. Price points vary widely, with options for every budget. They carry brands like Fun Factory, Tantus, and Vixen, and types like silicone, glass, and harness-compatible dildos.

Another thing I love about SheVibe is their dedication to body-safe materials! They always indicate when a dildo is made using porous materials, so you know exactly what you are getting!

SheVibe offers free US shipping over $68 and they always use discreet packaging.

One of the amazing fantasy dildos available on SheVibe is the Aqua King by fantasy dildo artisans Uberrime! Our tester loved the swirling, shimmering marine colors and subtle but pleasing textural details. They were also really impressed by the overall quality and the strength of the suction cup.

Get more details in the full Uberrime Aqua King review.

#3 Wet for Her

Wet for Her specializes in non-phallic and strapless dildos, particularly catering to the LGBTQ+ community. Their selection includes items from affordable to premium, with a focus on high-quality silicone products. They have their own range of colorful dildos as well as offerings from other top brands, such as Vixen, Le Wand, and Shilo. And if you want a harness for your new dildo, you are in the right place!

Wet for Her also have an amazing selection of strap-on harnesses and accessories, so you can have even more fun with your dildo!

They offer free ground shipping on orders over $68 and all shipping is discreet!

Wet For Her Rainbow Strap-On Dildo Review.

Vern, one of our amazing sex toy testers, reviewed the Wet for Her Rainbow Strap-On Dildo and was very impressed, giving it a score of 4.5/5!

They loved the soft, flexible silicone and how comfortable it was to use. Plus, they also noted just how strong the suction cup base is, so you can ride this dildo in the comfort of knowing it’s not going anywhere!

Read the full review of the Wet for Her Rainbow Strap-On Dildo

#4 PinkCherry

PinkCherry offers a wide variety of dildos, with many being very affordable. Their selection includes realistic, vibrating, double dildos, and much more — there really is something for everyone!

They also have a variety of materials available, such as metal, glass, and silicone. However, I would make sure to avoid the jelly dildos as they can contain harmful phthalates and they are porous.

PinkCherry stocks popular brands like King Cock, Icicles, and the NS Novelty Colors range, as well as their exclusive PinkCherry line.

Free shipping is available for orders over $59 and all items are packaged discreetly for shipping!

One of the dildos available at PinkCherry is the Icicles No.5 Dildo which features a raised blue spiral and bulbed tip.

Our tester loved this beautiful dildo, giving it 5/5. They loved being able to heat it or cool it for some added sensations, and the intense stimulation it provided.

Read the full Icicles No.5 review for all the details.

#5 Hustler Hollywood

Hustler Hollywood provides a chic and glamorous selection, with prices ranging from moderate to high-end. They offer a variety of different dildo types, including realistic, silicone, and luxury models. They have some more affordable dildo brands, such as CalExotics, Sportsheets, and NS Novelties, as well as premium brands, like Tantus, Vixen and Le Wand. They’ve also added an exciting selection of fantasy dildos from Creature Cocks!

Once you’ve picked your new dildo, you can enjoy free and discreet shipping on orders over $69 in the US.

I was lucky enough to test the Vixen Buck, which is available from Hustler Hollywood, and I think I found my dream dildo! It’s made from high-quality dual-density silicone for a realistic feel and it’s so perfectly filling!

Find out what else I loved about it in my Vixen VixSkin Buck review!

#6 Spectrum Boutique

Spectrum Boutique focuses on inclusivity and body-safe materials. They offer a range of prices and types, including silicone, glass, and handcrafted dildos. Notable brands include New York Toy Collective and Blush Novelties. I love their commitment to non-toxic, phthalate-free products! It makes it so much easier to shop for body-safe dildos!

Spectrum Boutique also stock a selection of Tantus dildos, including the delightful Tantus Cush. Cassie put this dildo thought it’s paces and was a big fan, giving it a score of 4.7/5. She loved the firm but squishy dual-density silicone and how comfortable it was to use both solo and with a partner!

Read all the juicy details in her full review of the Tantus Cush.

#7 SexToy.com

SexToy.com is known for its extensive selection of dildos from almost every brand from cheap to luxurious! They stock a wide variety of dildos, including vibrating, double-ended, and realistic styles. They even have a whole category dedicated to porn star dildos, so you can have a night (or many) with your favorite adult entertainers!

You can enjoy free shipping over $79 and Sextoy.com guarantee your privacy!

#8 TooTimid

TooTimid offers a curated selection that’s perfect for beginners and those shopping on a budget, with prices ranging from affordable to mid-range. Their dildo collections includes silicone, realistic, and vibrating dildos. Plus, they have made it really easy to shop for dildos by size.

They often have big discounts, so this really is the place to snag a great deal. Free shipping is applied to all orders over $59 and both shipping and billing are discreet.

#9 Adam & Eve

Adam & Eve’s dildo range covers a wide range of designs and prices, but they have a lot of very affordable options available, especially from their own range. On top of that, they stock many low to mid price brands, including Icicles, DocJohnson, CalExotics, Glas, and Blush Novelties.

They also often have discounts and special offers so you can get a bit more bang for your buck! Plus, you get discreet service and free shipping on orders over $59.

#10 Peepshow Toys

Peepshow Toys is dedicated to providing dildos made of body-safe materials, emphasizing quality and safety. with a price range that caters to all budgets. As well as body-safe silicone dildos, they also stock glass, metal, and crystal dildos. While they don’t make their own dildos, they do stock some of the top dildo brands out there, such as Tantus, VixSkin, Uberrime, and Squarepegtoys.

And once you’ve decided on a dildo, or two, you get free shipping on orders over $75 and shipping is always discreet!

#11 Babeland

Babeland has long been a pioneer in sex-positive retail, with the first stores opening in 1993 so women could access sex toys in a safe, inviting environment! These days, their online stores cater to all tastes and desires with a large selection of dildos. They have every style from realistic to more abstract so you are bound to find something that catches your interest! Babeland don’t have their own line of dildos but they do have the top brands, both affordable and luxury!

All orders are shipped discreetly and if you spend over $85, you qualify for free shipping!

#12 Tantus Inc.

Tantus Inc. specializes in high-quality silicone dildos, with a focus on innovative designs. Their products are in the mid to high price range, featuring unique textures and shapes. Tantus is renowned for its own brand of high-quality, hand-poured silicone toys that totally body-safe and durable! They have dildos for all levels of experience from slim dildos for complete beginners to huge dildos for the size kings and queens out there!

How to Choose the Right Dildo For You

Now you know where to buy a dildo, here are my top tips for getting the right dildo for you!

Safe Materials

Your body is a temple, so only the best should enter it. Opt for body-safe materials like medical-grade silicone, glass, or stainless steel and avoid soft plastics, such as TPE, PVC, jelly, or rubber.

Size and Style

Whether you want it big and bold or slim and subtle, there’s a size and style for everyone. Remember: comfort is key! If you aren’t sure which size is right for you, check out this guide on what size dildo you should buy!

Rigidity vs Flexibility

Do you prefer a soft, flexible silicone dildo or do you crave the more intense massage of a glass dildo or metal dildo?

Vibrations and Extra Features

Some like it still, others like it thrilling! Vibrating dildos or thrusting dildos can add an dimension of pleasure but sometimes you just want a good old regular dildo! Think about what you enjoy and how you are going to use it to help you narrow down your search.

Suction Cup and Harness Compatibility

For hands-free fun look for a suction cup dildo or for partnered play, look for a harness compatible dildo!

Embarking on the quest for the perfect dildo can be an adventure filled with excitement and a bit of cheeky fun. With this guide, you’re more than ready to explore the diverse world of pleasure products. Remember, the perfect dildo is out there waiting for you – happy hunting!

Where to Get a Dildo: Online or IRL?

So, you’re wondering where to get a dildo. Well, whether this will be your first or fifth dildo, the options are the same: online or IRL (In Real Life)!

While the online approach offers convenience, the offline approach allows for a more hands-on shopping experience.

In this blog, we’ll compare the two options, giving you some insight into the pros and cons of each option.

Is online better? Or is the in-person shopping experience the superior option?

Keep reading to find out (hint: the answer varies from person to person!).

Common Roadblocks You’ll Run Into When Dildo Shopping

Dildos might not be the most expensive sex toys out there, but they’re still an investment (especially if you’re buying a real feel dildo). While you want the shopping process to be easy, you also want to get a quality toy! There are three common roadblocks that will get in your way while shopping:

  • Privacy
  • Sizing
  • Pricing

Keeping Your Purchase(s) Private

This is the most common issue. Most people don’t want to share the fact that they are buying sex toys with the world. As such, the idea of being spotted leaving a sex shop might make you shudder! Fortunately, buying sex toys in person isn’t always necessary, thanks to the internet. However, if you prefer to shop in person, you can always travel out of town to make the purchase. That way, no one there will recognize you, providing much-needed peace of mind.

Finding the Right Size/Material for Your New Toy

Fewer people will run into this issue. Unless you’re looking for a particularly small or large dildo, chances are, a suitable toy will be in stock at your local sex shop. Any reputable shop will have high-quality dildos available, so you shouldn’t need to sort through as many subpar, non-body-safe dildos. You can find an even wider selection of sizes available online. However, the materials used aren’t always body-safe. This applies to both online and offline shopping. Online shopping just requires a bit more selectivity!

Staying Within Your Budget

If you’re just looking for a dildo in general, pricing won’t likely be an issue. Premium toys can be quite expensive, but dildos as a whole are fairly affordable.

Local prices may be higher than online ones since the shops have to account for shipping costs. However, most online stores require you to pay for shipping anyway (unless you meet their minimum purchase requirements for free shipping).

That said, many online shops allow you to finance purchases, which is something your local shop is unlikely to offer.

Staying Within Your Budget

If you’re just looking for a dildo in general, pricing won’t likely be an issue. Premium toys can be quite expensive, but dildos as a whole are fairly affordable.

Local prices may be higher than online ones since the shops have to account for shipping costs. However, most online stores require you to pay for discreet shipping anyway (unless you meet their minimum purchase requirements for free shipping). That said, many online shops allow you to finance purchases, which is something your local shop is unlikely to offer.

Where to Get a Dildo Locally

If you decide to buy a dildo locally then you’ll first need to select a shop. We recommend trying to find a larger shop with good ratings. This will likely give you the best shopping experience with the most product options. Determine their hours, make sure you have enough money, then make the trip over there!

You might be shy walking into a sex shop. This is understandable, but remember: you’re just a random customer! The employees work here, so no matter how odd the situation feels for you, this is just routine for them. Chances are, they won’t even remember you after you leave! As such, you shouldn’t feel too embarrassed. Take some time to look around the store and see what they offer.

When comparing potential options, give the toy(s) a sniff if possible. This might seem odd, but there is a purpose: you’re checking for phthalates! If a toy smells heavily like rubber or plastic, it’s best to avoid it. Phthalates have been shown to cause long-term health complications. You shouldn’t have this issue with silicone toys, but it’s always a possibility with PVC/Jelly dildos. Shopping smart is shopping safely!

If you can’t decide which dildo to get, feel free to ask an associate for a second opinion. They are familiar with their products and will likely have some good recommendations for you. If you don’t already have lubricant at home, now is a great time to stock up.

PVC dildos safe?

Where to Get a Dildo Online

Buying a dildo online is the superior option for most people. Online shopping offers convenience and high levels of privacy, as well as a larger selection of products. The main downside is that you can’t see the toy in person before purchasing it. You have to rely on the listing to provide accurate photos and information.

While there are literally hundreds of sex shops online, that doesn’t mean they’re all golden. In fact, you should stick to well-known sex shops such as Lovehoney or Spectrum Boutique! Reputable shops will generally offer discreet shipping, a larger selection of body-safe toys, and fair pricing. If you want another type of dildo (a fictional one), then take a look here.

Discreet packaging? Won’t My Neighbors Know What I Ordered?

Thanks to something called “Discreet Packaging”, they won’t have a clue! Most major online sex shops will offer this service to help protect your privacy. See the results of when we tested it on Lovehoney, AdamEve, TooTimid and Shevibe. Specifics will vary from company to company, but most conceal your purchase from beginning to end. The charge on your card will likely show up as a charge from a nondescript vendor, rather than the sex shop itself. 

Once your package arrives, it will generally be in a plain box. The return address will match the name of the nondescript vendor, which means even the postman won’t know what you’ve bought! “Discreet Packaging” makes the idea of purchasing a dildo online much more approachable since there aren’t any privacy concerns.

What to Consider When Buying a Dildo Online

If you’ve decided to buy a dildo online rather than from a local shop, you’ll want to pay attention to the list below. These points of consideration will help immensely when trying to find your next favorite toy!

What Is It Made From?

As mentioned above, you want to avoid phthalate-ridden toys. Instead, only purchase dildos that are labeled as “body-safe”! Non-porous dildos made from silicone, glass, or metal are perfect. “Jelly”, PVC, and rubber toys might be cheaper, but they’re generally not body-safe. For better or for worse, the sex toy industry is unregulated. This means that a toy labeled “phthalate-free” could still contain phthalates! It’s best to avoid them, but if you decide to purchase one anyway, use a condom for maximum safety.

Is the Sizing Correct?

You’ll have plenty of differently-sized toys to choose from when shopping online. However, that doesn’t mean your preferred toy will be offered in your ideal size. Make sure to check both the length and the width of a dildo before clicking “Add to Cart”. There’s no point in accidentally purchasing a dildo that can’t satisfy you (just because you forgot to read the description!).

Will It Meet Your Needs?

Most people purchase dildos simply to enjoy the penetrative pleasures they offer. However, if you’re planning on using your dildo to “train” towards larger insertables then you might want something different. Generally speaking, curved dildos are best for G-spot and P-spot targeting, whereas straight dildos are ideal for size training.

Which types of lubricant is it compatible with?

All dildos are compatible with water-based lubricant, but that’s not the case for oil-based or silicone lubes. Remember, silicone lube and silicone dildos don’t mix! The product description should tell you the type(s) of lube you can use. If not, make sure to stock up on water-based lubricant!

Do you need anything else?

This might seem counterproductive, but you may be able to “save” money by spending more! Most companies charge you a shipping fee if you don’t meet their minimum spending requirements. By picking up a second toy, lubricant, condoms, or anything else you might need, you could avoid paying for unnecessary shipping costs.