If there’s one question that continues to mystify and frustrate people in the world of sex and intimacy, it has to be “how to find the g-spot”.
This age-old problem is a common one, but we’re here to help. Whether you’re trying to locate your own, or want to pleasure your partner’s, we have the answers you seek.
Today, we’ll go through…
- Where to find the g-spot
- How to find the g-spot with your fingers
- Tips for finding your partner’s g-spot
- How to find the g-spot using a sex toy (+ our expert g-spot toy recommendations)
- How to find the g-spot during sex (positions and tips)
- And finally, all about what the g-spot actually is
Where is the G-Spot?
You can find the g-spot on the front wall of the vagina, about 1-2 inches inside. Exactly where it is will depend on the person.
Some people’s g-spot feels different from the rest of the vagina. You may feel a change in texture, like a spongy or softer area. However, many people don’t notice any change in texture or feel.
How to Find the G-Spot with Your Fingers
The easiest, and perhaps most intuitive way to find the gspot is with your fingers.
It allows you to feel around inside the vagina, using any texture cues to help you locate the right area.
For detailed videos on exactly how to stimulate your G-spot (and more), check out OMGYES’s fantastic online courses.
Here’s an easy 4-step method to use…
Step 1: Lube Up Your Fingers
Whenever you’re masturbating with your fingers (or pleasuring a partner), lube is a pretty vital step.
It prevents friction and discomfort in and around the vagina, and makes every sensation better! Even if you’re already wet, add some extra lube.
Check out our lube guide to see the benefits of different lube types, or, if you’re still not sure, stick to a good water-based lube like Sliquid H2O.
Step 2: Get Aroused
The first rule of fingering isn’t ‘don’t talk about fingering’, it’s ‘don’t go straight for the vagina’!
Take some time with your lubed up fingers to explore the rest of your vulva, as well other erogenous zones around your body.
Stimulate your clit in whichever way feels best for you, which will help you get really wet for later.
Step 3: Use a Come Hither Motion
When you’re ready, gently insert one finger into the vagina.
Feel around for the g-spot around 1-2 inches in, but don’t poke or prod too much!
When you think you’ve found it, curl your finger towards the front wall of the vagina. Think about reaching towards the belly button to find the right side. Then, use a ‘come hither’ or beckoning motion to stroke the g-spot.
Step 4: Try More Fingers
If you’re craving a fuller feeling, you can try using two or three fingers.
Use the same come hither motion, or experiment with other stroking motions like wiping the pad of your finger over the area. Different strokes for different folks, as they say!
It’s a good idea to keep applying more lube as you play. Water-based lubes can dry out quite quickly, and finding the gspot can take some time.
Tips for Finding Your Partner’s G-Spot
If you’re trying to find the g-spot on someone else, you can still follow the steps above.
However, since you can’t feel the sensations you’re creating in the same way, here are some things to keep in mind as you’re fingering…
- Communicate as you go. Ask your partner what they’re feeling as you do different things, and encourage them to tell you if they’d like you to do something specific.
- Go slow and gentle. Unless your partner tells you otherwise, it’s always a good idea to be gentle with the g-spot and vagina. It’s a very sensitive place!
- Deeper isn’t always better. As we discussed earlier, the g-spot is only one to two inches inside the vagina, which means you probably don’t have to insert your finger as far in as it will go.
- Stroking over thrusting. Oftentimes, stroking motions can stimulate the g-spot a lot more than traditional thrusting motions. Try to keep your finger(s) in contact with the area as much as you can.
How to Find the G-Spot with a Toy
Of course, your fingers aren’t the only tool in your g-spot pleasuring toolbox!
There are plenty of sex toys out there designed specifically to find the gspot. You can find a huge variety of g-spot vibrators and dildos in online sex toy stores, most of which share a few common features:
- Curved shaft — a shaft that’s curved will help you reach the front wall of your vagina and thus find the g-spot easier.
- Bulbous head — a large, bulbed head will make the maximum amount of contact with your g-spot.
- Firm body — while not the case for all g-spot toys, many are made from hard materials like steel or glass, or have a solid internal body to allow you to apply more pressure on the area.
Sex Toys That Your G-Spot Will Love
The Pure Wand from njoy is known as the ‘squirting wand’ for a reason!
This double-ended dildo is a heavy one, made from stainless steel that provides very firm stimulation that your g-spot will adore.
There are two sizes of bulbous tip to choose from on each end, and the curved design makes it easy to reach that front wall of your vagina.
If you like vibrations internally, check out the Dame Arc. Made from super soft silicone, it’s a breeze to insert and delivers deliciously rumbly vibes.
Along with its curved shaft and large tip, the Arc also as a slightly squishy tip and ridge that allows you to try out broader and more precise stimulation on both your g-spot and your clit.
The Lelo Ida Wave is a kind of rabbit vibrator, even though it might not look like one!
It has a flat, wide base that nestles against your vulva to provide rumbly clitoral stimulation, and a wide tail that curved inside the vagina to find your g-spot.
Best of all, the tail uses Lelo’s Wavemotion technology to create a ‘come hither’ motion in the shaft!
There are also plenty of harness-friendly g-spot toys available. One of our favorites is this curved dildo from Lovehoney.
It comes in a variety of sizes from 5.5-9 inches long (this is the 8 inch version). The shaft is smooth silicone with a pronounced head, and it has a strong suction cup at the base.
If you’re using it in a strap-on, you’ll want the curve to face towards the front of the body. In doggy-style, that’s downward, but in missionary it’s upward.
How to Find the G-Spot During Sex
A big part of the secret to stimulating the g-spot during penetrative sex is down to finding the right angle.
Often, just thrusting the penis (or dildo) in and out isn’t enough. Try to find a position and angle that allows it to make prolonged contact with the g-spot and really rub up against it.
Here are some ideas and positions you can use to find that perfect angle…
Use a Sex Wedge
Of the easiest and most effective upgrades you can make to your sex is to lift up the hips of the receiver. This creates more of a 45º angle to allow the penis to make more contact with the front vaginal wall.
The Leaning Cowgirl
The cowgirl position is already a favorite of many vulva-owners out there, but one simple trick can make it even better!
When you’re on top, lean back, placing your hands on the bed or on your partner’s thighs to steady you. This will, again, make more of a 45º angle and will allow the penis to naturally find the gspot.
Cowgirl is also great as it allows you to control the speed and depth of penetration.
Another great position for finding the g-spot is spooning. Lay on your sides and cuddle up to each other, then have the penis or dildo penetrate from behind.
As well as a great angle, having sex while spooning also makes you feel pretty tight, and makes their penis feel wonderfully deep and filling inside of you. It’s a win-win!
What is the G-Spot?
If you’re looking for how to find the gspot, and how to stimulate it, it’s probably a good idea to know what it actually is.
The g-spot is named after scientist Ernst Gräfenberg, though he didn’t actually study the g-spot himself. There’s a lot of debate about who really ‘discovered’ it, and what exactly it is, but one of the most accepted theories came from urologist Helen O’Connell in 2005.
Her research suggests that the g-spot is not technically a separate part of your anatomy. It’s a part of the ‘internal clitoral structure‘, which encompasses the visible clitoris (called the clitoral bulb or glans), as well as a much bigger internal structure that reaches down around the vagina.
The vagina itself is surrounded by the clitoral body, of which the g-spot is a part. This whole structure is highly sensitive, and can feel incredibly pleasurable when stimulated through the vagina.
So, when you’re trying desperately to find the gspot, remember that it’s not a magical spot that makes a woman instantly orgasm. It’s a part of a whole clitoral network, and you can stimulate different parts of it and feel great.