Buying your partner a sexy gift is a great way to show you prioritize their pleasure and value your sex life! Not to mention, it’s can really spice things up and give your sex life a boost!
The world of sex toys is magical place, but with so many options out there, it can be overwhelming, especially if you don’t use the products yourself.
Fear not! I have gathered my top sex toys and sexy accessories so you can amaze your wife, girlfriend, or general partner in crime with your sexpertise!
Here’s what we’ll cover:
- 21 Sexy Gifts for Her
- Questions to Ask Before Buying Her a Sexy Gift
- What To Avoid When Buying Her a Sexy Gift
21 Sexy Gifts for Her
Whether you are looking for a present for your wife, girlfriend, or fwb, we’ve got all the best sexy gifts that will definitely put a smile on their face!
Before we dive into my top picks, I want to clarify that this post is about gifts for all women, regardless of what anatomy they have. Here you will find my favorite sexy gifts for cis women and trans women alike. Remember folks, anatomy doesn’t define gender!
If you’re looking for something for the man in your life? We’ve got that covered too! Check out these hot gifts for him!
1. A wand vibrator
Wand vibrators are super versatile and can be used to stimulate any sweet spot you like or even to massage achey muscles!
The powerful, rumbly vibrations are great for both cis women and trans women, and can even be enjoyed through clothes!
The Lovense Domi is a compact wand vibrator that is smaller in size but big in power! It’s also app-enabled, so you can use it long distance and waterproof!
2. A clitoral suction stimulator
There’s good reason the Satisfyer Pro 2 has become sex toy royalty! This clit pleaser provides incredible indirect stimulation using pulses of air. And unlike many clitoral suction stimulators on the market, it’s super affordable. If the vulva owner in your life hasn’t tried clitoral suction, this is an amazing place to start!
Looking for something more luxurious? Check out the Lora DiCarlo Baci.
4. A Sex Course
Go back to school but make it sexy! Taking a course together is amazing for expanding your sexual horizons!
Beducated has a wide range of short video courses covering everything from vanilla sex to BDSM and kink.
For female focussed pleasure, I can’t recommend OMGYES enough! It’s a great course for vulva owners and their partners to discover new heights of pleasure and access accurate, research-backed information!
5. Some seriously sexy jewellery
Jewellery is a classic gift, but what about jewellery that’s also a sex toy — mind blown!
The Vesper Crave is elegant necklace that is also a vibrator! They can wear it on a date as a sexy statement and then when you get home, you can put it to the test!
The thin vibrator is great for stroking their erogenous zones or providing pinpoint stimulation.
6. A book all about female pleasure
There’s so much misinformation about female pleasure out there that can end up leaving vulva owners in doubt if there is something wrong with them.
Emily Nagoski’s fun and informative book, Come as You Are, is here to change that! Based on scientific research, this book explores the many aspects of vulva-based pleasure and looks at pleasure from a holistic perspective.
Bonus points if you read it too!
7. Some luxury lube
Lube is a great sexy gift for anyone! It makes everything feel so much better. Gifting your partner some luxury lube shows you are genuinely interested in making sex better for them and making sex feel extra special!
Dame’s Aloe Lube is moisturising and pH-balanced and it’s compatible with condoms and sex toys! Not to mention, it comes in a beautiful blue bottle.
8. A massage candle (massage included)
Dedicate an evening to their pleasure add give your partner a sexy massage with a sensual massage candle. Heat the wax until it turns to a warm oil that you can drizzle over their skin — happy ending optional!
This massage candle from Maude is full of skin nourishing oils that will leave their skin silky smooth and there are 4 erotic scents to choose from!
9. A sex toy mount
If your partner has a sex toy you know they love, show them you’ve been listening by getting them a matching sex toy mount so they can enjoy their favorite toy hands free!
The Liberator BonBon can be used with any dildo or vibrator, even if it doesn’t have a flared base, turning their favorite toy into a ride on!
The high density foam keeps it shape and the micro velvet cover feels sensually soft!
10. A flexible, versatile vibrator
Buying a versatile, flexible, non-gendered vibrator means your partner can use it in anyway that feels good to them and with any anatomy!
The Enby 2 from Wild Flower can be used a grinder, penis stroker, or inside a harness or underwear for pleasure how they want it!
11. A bondage kit
This gift comes with a massive caveat! Only buy a bondage kit if your partner has explicitly expressed a want to try bondage!
If you know your partner loves the idea of bondage or they’ve been dropping not so subtle hints about how hot it would be to give it a go, this bondage kit from Lovehoney could make for one hot gift!
12. A sex position pillow
A sex position pillow can take their pleasure to another level! Simply adjusting the angle of their hips can make it easier to hit their sweet spots during penetrative or oral play. Plus they are great for added support in all kinds of positions!
The Liberator Jaz is one of the smaller, more affordable options from the Liberator range
13. A warming vibrator
Have a woman in your life that’s always cold? Heated sexy toys are sensual treat that can increase sensitivity and relaxation.
The Lora DiCarlo Sway is a double-ended vibrator that also heats up. Plus, it can be used vaginally, anally, and externally so there are plenty of ways to enjoy it!
14. A sex toy gift set
If you really want to get a luxurious gift for your lover, wow them with this beautifully presented sex toy gift set from JeJoue.
This set from Je Joue contains a limited edition black & rose gold Mimi vibrator, a ylang ylang & mandarin massage candle, satin blindfold and restraints, and some sexy truth or dare cards!
15. A wearable vibrator
Wearable vibrators are the perfect answer to hands-free vibrations!
The Lovense Ferri is held in place by a strong magnet so your partner can enjoy powerful stimulation at home or on the go. Plus it’s app-enabled, meaning they can control it on their phone or even let you control it long distance!
16. A sexy robe
Buying the right style and size lingerie is tricky business, but a sexy robe is much easier to get right!
The Flaunt Me Floral Lace Robe from Lovehoney combines seductive lace and sensual satin for a look that will have them feeling like kinds of hot! It’s available in three sizes to fit dress sizes 2 to 24.
18. A couples vibrator
Share the vibes with a couple’s vibrator! The We-Vibe Chorus is designed to be worn during penetrative sex and deliver deep rumbly vibrations to the wearer’s g-spot and clitoris as well as the penetrating partner’s penis!
Although it’s marketed as a toy for cis-het couples’ the flexibility means it can work for different bodies.
19. Interactive sex toys
If you and your lover are often apart, a set of long distance, interactive sex toys can help keep the spark alive!
The Lovense Max 2, Calor, and Nora can all be synced so that they respond to each other’s movements making long-distance sex feel more intimate! We’ve even got a post on how to sync your Lovense toys!
21. Edible body paint
Dip the brush in the paint and run it over their body, giving them tingles of pleasure before slowly licking every inch of them clean!
This edible chocolate body paint from Shunga makes for deliciously sensual night to remember!
Questions to Ask Before Buying Her a Sexy Gift
Buying a sexy gift for your wife, girlfriend, or sexual partner is very intimate. While it can be an amazing way to show how your love and dedication to your sex life, it does require some discernment and tact! It Here are some things to ask yourself before surprising your partner with a brand new vibrator!
- Do I know this person and their sexual desires well enough to buy a sexy gift? The better you know the person and their sexual preferences, the more adventurous you can be with your gift.
- Are they the type of person to enjoy receiving a sexy gift? Giving gifts is about bringing joy to the other person, not making them feel awkward or pressured into something they don’t want. Only ever give a gift of a sexual nature if you have a strong indication they will be excited to receive it!
- What type of sexual activity or stimulation do they usually enjoy? Think about what they enjoy the most and find a product to enhance that experience!
- Does the present need to be discreet? If they live with other people, go for a present that is quiet and easy to store.
- When is an appropriate time to give it to them? Definitely do not leave it under the Christmas tree at a family Christmas!
Still not sure? Check out Edwina’s post that has 5 reasons you should and shouldn’t buy your partner a vibrator.
What To Avoid When Buying Her a Sexy Gift
When it comes down to it, only you can be the judge of what’s appropriate between you and your partner. However, if you are in any way unsure, here are some general guidelines for things to avoid when buying sexy gifts.
- I generally recommend avoiding insertable sex toys, like dildos or butt plugs, as it’s very difficult to know what size and style someone would enjoy. Unless they have specifically hinted at a product they want, stick to more versatile external toys like clit vibrators, finger vibrators, or wand vibrators.
- Avoid buying a sexy gift that could trigger any body or sexual insecurities.
- Don’t buy a sexy present as a way of trying to fix other issues in your relationship.
- Don’t buy them a sexy gift that is actually something for you. Just because you think it would be hot doesn’t mean they will. A gift should be about their pleasure or a sexy gift you can enjoy together.
- If you are buying a sex toy, avoid buying porous or toxic materials and always go for body-safe materials, like silicone, glass, stainless steel, or ABS plastic.