The Best BDSM Accessories for All Kinds of Kink

Building the perfect BDSM toolkit is a fine art and journey of discovery. BDSM accessories allow you to experience a whole new world of physical and psychological stimulation. Not only that, the right tools also help you transition into a different world, where you can become anything you want.

Transport yourself into Subspace with the perfect set of restraints or feel complete control as you enter Domspace with your favorite flogger in hand. Whatever your kink, there are so many exciting tools to help you explore it.

Today we are looking at the best BDSM accessories for some of the many different kinks out there. This post is for everyone from the kink curious right up to the BDSM buffs! As long as you’re just a little bit kinky (aren’t we all?), I’m sure there’ll be something to get you hot and bothered in this post!

Just be warned, it’s a bit like tattoos — once you start, it’s hard to stop!

Bondage Accessories

We start at the gateway drug of BDSM. I’ll go out on a limb and say that most people’s first foray into the world of kink starts with bondage. It could have been a couple of scarves grabbed in a fit of passion or a pair of hand cuffs that first piqued your interest, but regardless, bondage is a great place to start!

Bondage and restraints are a great BDSM accessories for exploring power play. Maybe you love the idea of being tied and up and told what to do and the lack of responsibility that comes with it. Alternatively, you might crave the feeling of authority, of instructing your partner exactly what you want them do, being totally in control of their pleasure.

Whether you are the one being restrained or the one doing the restraining, you are going to need some sturdy, comfortable restraints and there are so many styles to choose from! Bondage rope and bondage tape give you more freedom to get creative, but come with a learning curve. Fixed restraints, such as spreader bars, hogtie restraints, under bed restraints, and thigh cuffs are less versatile but much easier to use and don’t need any preparation.

Wrist & Ankle Cuffs

These padded leather cuffs are comfortable, secure and sexy! The combination of metal and black leather make these a true BDSM staple.

Under Bed Restraints

Have your partner tied down tight to the bed in next to no time with these under bed restraints that fit all standard bed sizes. Perfect for restraint at home or away!

Spreader Bar

Want to keep your partner’s legs wide open and waiting to be pleased? This expandable spreader bar does that and more! It even has wrist cuffs!

Sensation Play

Our whole bodies are covered in sensitive nerve endings that respond to all different types of touch. Sensation play really puts those nerves to work. Sensation play tools allow you to explore every inch of skin, exploring how each new sensation feels in your body, heightening your arousal and amplifying the sensations in your body!

You can build your sensation play toolkit, adding more BDSM accessories as you go and expanding your range of sensations. Feather ticklers are a great beginners tool as they are easy to use and there’s no risk of injury, but they provide a lot of stimulation! On the other hand, Pinwheels can be used to create a tingling, prickling sensation, and cat claws are fantastic for dragging slowly over your partner’s back.

Feather Tickler

Live out your maid fantasies or make your partner writhe as you tickle their most sensitive spots with this elegant black coque feather tickler!

Pinwheel

Also known as a Wartenberg wheel, this pinwheel has two rows of spikes for extra sensation. The metal can even be cooled or warmed for an added thrill!

Cat Claws

You scratch my back, and I’ll scratch yours takes on a new meaning with these finger tip claws from Dominix Deluxe!

Impact Play

From a more light tap to a more serious slap, impact play provides some intense stimulation. On the physical level, impact play gets the blood pumping and increases sensitivity to area. Not to mention, it has a big psychological element — trusting your partner to use just the right amount of force and not knowing when the next strike will come or how hard or soft it will be!

These BDSM accessories can be used for gentle sensations or more severe slaps, depending on your preference. Get the most out of impact play by alternating intensities between soft and more intense strikes. Floggers, spanking paddles and whips are all versatile in terms of intensity as you are in complete control of the power. For beginners, I would recommend starting with a flogger as you can create different sensations and there’s no need to use a lot of power. We’ve also got a great guide on how to use whips and floggers to help you get started!

Flogger

This faux leather flogger looks just like the real thing but it’s vegan and easier to care for. Trail it over your partner’s body or go some harder thwacks!

Spanking Paddle

This spanking paddle is made of silicone, meaning it SLAPS! This is best suited for those looking for an intense sting to their impact play.

Whip

Not only for pony play, this crop will keep even the most unruly Sub under control. The petite size makes it great for beginners or spanking on the go.

Temperature Play

Simply adding a little heat or cold to your play with warm or cool BDSM accessories can really take things up a notch! To begin with, the anticipation of the hot or cold tool hitting your skin is enough your temperature rising! Trailing a cold dildo over your partner’s body towards their genitals can give them shivers of excitement. If you prefer the heat, wax play might be the thing for you! The drip, drip of warm wax feels amazing and increases sensitivity!

Additionally, much like with impact play, alternating between hot and cold can really amplify the effect and keep your partner on their toes.

Metal dildos and glass dildos are perfect for temperature play as they can be heated or cooled by placing them in some warm or cool water. Massage candles and wax dripping candles are another thrilling way to incorporate temperature play.

Just remember, you should never use extreme hot or cold temperatures, and your genitals are extra sensitive so be very careful there!

Metal Dildo

Ah the famed Pure Wand! I love this dildo for all kinds of play and it really shines when it comes to temperature play! Use the smaller or larger ball to massage the body and work your way south!

Glass Dildo

As well as being great when heated or cooled, the beaded texture of this glass dildo feels amazing as it moves in and out of you!

Candle

Paint your partner with drips of hot wax to make a real masterpiece! These are perfect for those with a little more experience. If you are a beginner, check out this massage candle instead.

BDSM Sex Toys

While any sex toy can be part of your BDSM scene, there are some classic BDSM sex toys that are great for toying with your partner or exploring power play and orgasm torture. The broad stimulation heads and long arms of wand-style vibrators makes them one of the best types of vibrators to use on someone else great for using on someone. Remote control butt plugs and remote control vibrators also make for some fun power play. One partner wears the device and the other takes control of the remote — perfect for edging, orgasm denial, or orgasm torture. And we couldn’t not include a BDSM sex machine for that relentless thrusting power!

Magic Wand

Of course it had to be the Magic Wand! Although this version has the added perk of being cordless so you won’t get tangled up while you tease your partner!

Butt Plug

An app-controlled butt plug that delivers intensely satisfying vibrations! You can wear it out for some discreet fun or set it to respond to sounds or music. There’s a lot of fun to be had with the Hush!

Fuck Machine

If you love intense thrusting that just don’t quit, this app controlled sex machine will give you endless fun! Control it from your phone or the control box for some exhilarating power play.

Sadomasochism accessories — Pain Play

Much like the winning combination of sweet and salty, pain and pleasure can complement each other beautifully! In the right context — when are feeling safe and aroused, pain takes on a different profile and can actually feel incredibly pleasurable. Also, much like impact play and temperature play, pain play enhances sensitivity by bringing blood to the surface of the skin. That’s why your nips feel so deliciously sensitive after removing nipple clamps. So many BDSM accessories can be used to explore pain play, depending on how you use them. If you are looking for more extreme sensations, you can look for some magnetic or weighted clamps.

Nipple clamps

Look like a butterfly, sting like a bee — pretty sure that’s the quote! These clamps are not adjustable and deliver a serious squeeze, perfect for intense nipple play.

Zipper

If you can’t get enough of the sweet pinch and release, this full body zipper really takes it to the extreme with 24 wooden pegs. Rip them off quickly or go slow to feel every single peg.

Extreme Nipple Clamps

And for those who really want to torture their nips, keep turning the screws on this extreme clamp until you reach your limit! Not to mention, the industrial style is perfect for the BDSM aesthetic!

Medical Fetish

Medical role play has become increasingly popular with even mainstream sex toy websites stocking medical fetish toys to torture your patient with! As well as the aesthetic, medical play explores domination and submission, often with the patient being restrained while the doctor gets to work!

Speculum

Made from cold, medical stainless steel, this speculum is perfect for examining your vulva-owning patients! Not only does it look the part, the sound as you open it will give you chills of excitement!

Penis Plug

And for the penis-owning patients we have a penis plug with glans ring for internal and external stimulation! Enjoy orgasm denial while stimulating the urethra and frenulum!

Urethral Dilator

And one more penis pleaser! This urethral dilator goes much deeper! It’s also ribbed and double ended for an even greater range of sensations.

Sensory Deprivation 

Removing one or more of the senses turns up the volume on the remaining senses, making each touch feel so much more intense. Taking away your sense of sight also puts you at the mercy of your partner(s) and fills you with anticipation about what will happen and when. BDSM accessories for sensory deprivation come in different levels of extremity from a more simple blindfold right up to a full hood with gag and ear coverings.

Blindfold

A soft entry to sensory deprivation, this blindfold has a shaped nose bridge for added coverage. We wouldn’t want any peeking now would we! It’s also lined with soft material so you can focus on what really matters!

Hood

Go one step further with this bondage hood that covers everything but your mouth. Perfect for giving oral sex or letting your partner play with your mouth.

Full Hood with Gag

If you are looking for extreme sensory deprivation, this BDSM hood covers everything and even has a removable gag and blindfold. Not for the faint-hearted this hood laces closed at the back.

Pet Play

Bring out your playful side with pet play! Whether you prefer ponies, puppies, or pussy…cats, there are plenty of ways to enjoy pet play and plenty of BDSM accessories to go with it. Pet play allows you to escape the confines of the human experience and take on a whole new form and new behaviours and ways to express yourself. Dominance and submission also play a big role in pet play, with pets obeying their master’s commands. If your pet has been well behaved why not reward them with a new collar or even a tail butt plug — there’s even one for unicorns!

Collar

Every pet needs a collar! With a buckle closing, metal spikes, and a D-ring for the leash, this collar will help you keep firm control of your pet, no matter how naughty they are!

Tail Butt Plug

Really get into the role with a tail butt plug and get some delicious anal stimulation to boot! This stainless steel butt plug has a faux fox tail for some foxy play!

Cage

Have a naughty pet that needs to be punished, lock them up in this cage! But don’t worry, the padded base will keep your pet comfy.

Fetish Wear

Fetish wear is a huge sub-category, but whatever your style, it helps you look and feel the part! Putting on your favorite outfit allows you to embody a whole new character — the powerful dominatrix clad in latex, or the sexy sub bound in a leather harness. It’s also a great way to go deeper into role play and other kinks, such as medical role play or maid play. Give your BDSM closet a make-over with a new outfit that lets your kink shine!

Body Harness for Women

Leather is BDSM classic, elegant, edgy and oh so erotic! This harness has open cups for easy access to your nipples and comes with attachable wrist cuffs to keep your hands from wandering.

Torso Harness for Men

Another full body harness that features heavy leather strap and heavy duty buckles. This one also comes with an inbuilt cock ring to harness the full power of your erection.

Latex

Chastity Play

If you love the tease of forbidden pleasure, chastity play might be the kink for you! Once you slip into your chastity cage or chastity belt you are locked in, only to be released when your Dom says so! Whether you dabble in chastity play or love to be locked up long-term, the building anticipation can make for some explosive results when you are released! And, you can make it even more fun with some chastity games!

Not sure which cage is best for your cock? We’ve put together a chastity cage guide to help you find the perfect prison!

Cage

You can look but you can’t touch with this clear chastity cage, making the temptation so much harder to resist! It’s also lockable for extra security.

Belt

This beautifully shaped, leather chastity belt completely covers the vulva and anus to prevent any stimulation until you are released.

Gates of Hell

Who says bondage has to be for the whole body! Restrain your penis in the gates of hell, with one ring that sits around your balls and the 4 for the length of your shaft.

Cock and Ball Torture

For the penis owners out there who love to be tortured (and their Doms), cock and ball torture toys are here to inflict some pain! These BDSM accessories are definitely at the more extreme end of the scale, but I am sure you could guess that from looking at the formidable spikes! Choose between a BDSM cock ring that delivers a little pain to go with the pleasure, a crusher for your cock and balls, or a ball stretcher to tug your testicles! You can even give your balls a proper work out with some testicle weights!

Spiked Cock Ring

Tighten the spikes and turn the lock with this cock and ball torture device. The ring can be worn around the shaft or as a ball stretcher, depending on what type of torture you desire.

Acrylic Ball Crusher

If you prefer pressure to spikes, this cock and ball crusher certainly puts the pressure on. You also have the added bonus of being able to watch the show through the clear acrylic.

Ball Stretcher

Last but my no means least torturous, not only does the parachute ball stretcher provide a a tight tug, it is lined with 105 tack for added bite.