The 10 Best Pieces of Bondage Gear for Banging BDSM

Isabelle Uren
by Isabelle Uren
best bondage gear in test
It’s time to spice things up with some new bondage gear, but where to start! There’s nothing like adding a new toy to your bondage toolkit to get temperatures rising, but where to start? We’ve gathered our top toys for teasing and torture in one place and we’ve got all bases covered, from restraints to live out your bondage fantasies to the top toys to tease with! Not only do we have the best bondage gear on the market, but we’ve also included some top tips on how to use them!

How did we choose and test this bondage gear?

We want to make sure we’ve left no stone uncovered when it comes to bringing you high-quality bondage gear, which is why we put in hours of research, expert opinions, customer reviews and in depth personal reviews from our sex toy testers in every review!

Each product receives two scores — a Bedbible score from our expert writer, whose days are spent researching and writing about the best (and sometimes the worst) sex toys out there and a user rating, which is based on all the customer ratings from shop websites. But, we also know that a score doesn’t tell the whole story as everyone is different, so as well as these scores, we make sure to think about who the product would work best for and what types of play it’s best suited to. For example, when it comes to getting the right bondage gear, a bondage beginner and a more advanced player are going to need very different products, so we make sure to give you ALL the information you need to select your perfect toy!

How did we choose and test this bondage gear?

Different Types of bondage Gear

Bondage gear refers mainly to the different types of restraints you can use to lock up your partner but we’ve also included some other BDSM classics to use once you’ve got them securely in place!

  • Restraints — Restraints can be used for all kinds of bondage play. Handcuffs are the most common type of restraint and a great starting point for beginners. Rope bondage gear gives you more freedom to make your own restraints, but pre-made restraints, such as hog ties or thigh – cuff restraints.
  • Impact Play Tools — Impact play tools create a sense of anticipation and excitement as well as increasing blood flow and sensitivity. It can be a thrilling addition to dom/sub play and also makes for a good BDSM punishment. Floggers and spanking paddles are a good place to start as you can use them for more gentle impact play. Canes are better suited to more experienced users.
  • Sensation Play Tools — Toys such as pinwheels or feather ticklers are great for creating a range of sensations that put the body into a state of high alert.
  • Sensory deprivation/submission — Taking away one of the senses is a great way to create a feeling of submission and heighten the other senses. Blindfolds are perfect for beginners, while ball gags and masks are great for taking things to the next level.

FAQ

Where to buy bondage gear?
You should always shop from known and trusted sex toy stores like the ones in this post! We only work with stores we love and trust to give you the best shopping experience. Lovehoney has an amazing range of light bondage gear for beginners and more intense items for intermediate players. Stockroom is our go-to for more advanced or extreme bondage gear. They also have a great range of leather bondage gear and latex bondage gear. If you are looking specifically for men's bondage gear, OXY-shop specialises in chastity cages and cock and ball toys!
How to store bondage gear?
Cleaning and storing your bondage gear correctly is essential for preventing infections and keeping your toys in good condition. Sex toys should be stored their own bag or box to prevent damage from materials degrading each other and keep them clean between uses. Ropes and restraints should be kept clean and wrapped up so they don't get tangled and preferably stored in a bag.
Which bondage gear is best for beginners?
I would recommend some simple restraints such as handcuffs or wrist restraints to get started. If you enjoy those, you can work up to upper body or full body restraints.
How to make bondage gear?
We always recommend buying your bondage gear as this is the safest option, but we do have some simple DIYs toward the end of this post!

What is bondage gear?

Bondage makes up the B in BDSM. It includes all forms of sexual restraint from hand cuffs right up to full body restraint and suspension. Bondage creates a feeling of submission that can be extremely freeing for some people. It puts you at your partner's mercy while they tease your body! Bondage is commonly accompanied by the other members of the BDSM gang — Dominance/Discipline Submission/Sadism and Masochism, which is why we've also included some of out favorite BDSM tools! It doesn't have to be though, bondage can be enjoyed as a form of stimulation itself or with more vanilla sexual activities, so anyone who wants to can enjoy a bit of bondage! Plus bondage gear comes in a wide range of designs from cute bondage gear to more heavy duty metal gear so you can always find something to match your style!

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The 10 Best pieces of bondage gear in Test

1 Test Winner

Fetish Fantasy Breathable Ball Gag Training System

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This clever kit is perfect if you want to up your gag game! Feel the submission as your partner fastens the buckle behind your head, leaving you gagged and at their mercy, the ball muffling your groans! With three interchangeable balls to choose from, you can start out with the smallest ball work your way up the biggest for more extreme submission. The balls simply snap onto the adjustable, faux leather strap, making it quick and easy to switch out the balls. With breathable balls, this kit is ideal for beginners or anyone who prefers the safety of a breathable gag. And as if that wasn’t enough, the set also comes with a free blindfold to take you deeper into sensory deprivation.

Fetish Fantasy Breathable Ball Gag Training System test
Fetish Fantasy Breathable Ball Gag Training System features
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BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Ball Gag Training System if you...
Have some experience with gags
Want to work up to bigger gags
Want to share the gag with a partner
Enjoy drool play
You should NOT buy the Ball Gag Training System if you...
Prefer silicone gags
Don't want a breathable gag
Need a very strong gag for more extreme play
Fetish Fantasy Breathable Ball Gag Training System features
Features
Diameter(S) 1.5 inches, (M) 1.75 inches, (L) 2 inches
Length28 inches  inches
MaterialsFaux leather  
AdjustableYes 
FasteningBuckle 
Pros
Three interchangeable ball sizes
Breathable
Beginner friendly
Buckle fastening
Free blindfold
Cons
Balls are not solid
Tricky to clean the strap through the ball
Conclusion

This versatile kit is really great value for money for anyone looking take submission to the next level with gag play. Having three sized balls to choose from is ideal if you are not sure which size will suit you best or you want to train yourself to wear a larger size. It’s also great if you and your partner both want to use the gag. I also love that the balls are breathable, making it more comfortable to wear and giving you peace of mind.

The balls are hollow and not made from the thickest plastic, so they can cave in if you bite down on them, so be a little careful when wearing them. If you do prefer something you can be a bit rougher with, I would suggest a ball gag with a silicone ball.

Oh and it’s a lovely little bonus to get a free blindfold!

2 Cheapest

Lovehoney Oh! Satin Blindfold

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Dip your toes into sensory deprivation and see how your other senses heighten! Feel the anticipation waiting for your partner’s next touch! Blindfolds are perfect for bondage beginners and more advanced tastes alike and make the perfect addition to all kinds of fun! This soft satin blindfold slips on easily and the furry lining keeps you comfortable, so you can focus purely on your pleasure.

Lovehoney Oh! Satin Blindfold test
Lovehoney Oh! Satin Blindfold features
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BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Satin Blindfold if you...
want to explore sensory deprivation
love the feel of soft satin
are on a budget
You should NOT buy the Satin Blindfold if you...
prefer leather
want a shaped/fitted blindfold
want complete coverage
Lovehoney Oh! Satin Blindfold features
Features
MaterialsSatin  
AdjustableNo 
FasteningElastic 
Pros
Silky satin and soft fur
Easy to get on and off
Great value for money
Cons
Can let in a little light
Might be a little tight on bigger heads
Conclusion

This blindfold makes for a very affordable addition to your bondage toolkit. It’s soft and comfortable to wear and will fit most size heads. If you have a larger head, the straps might be a little tight or become over-stretched so keep that in mind. The basic shape does a pretty good job of limiting your sight but some light does get in the bottom so you can peek out if you want to! Other than that, it’s super comfy and can add a lot of fun to all your BDSM adventures. Combining bondage restraints with a blindfold creates a strong sense of submission that can be really exciting!

3 Beginner

Fifty Shades of Grey Tease Feather Tickler

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Tease your partner into a frenzy with this feather tickler from Fifty Shades of Grey. The long thin handle is topped with elegant grey ostrich feathers is perfect for hunting out those sweetly sensitive spots and making your partner squirm. The soft feathers brushing over your skin heightens your senses leaving your body tingling and ready for more! I love combining a feather tickler with an impact toy like a spanking paddle.

Fifty Shades of Grey Tease Feather Tickler test
Fifty Shades of Grey Tease Feather Tickler features
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BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Tease Feather Tickler if you...
love tickling torture
want to explore sensory play
are a Fifty Shades fan
You should NOT buy the Tease Feather Tickler if you...
prefer a sold or stronger handle
don't like the branding
Fifty Shades of Grey Tease Feather Tickler features
Features
Length14 inches
MaterialsOstrich feathers 
Pros
Elegant design
Soft ostrich feathers
Long handle for easy reach
Cons
Can lose feathers
Small head of feathers
Conclusion

The feathers on this tickler are super soft but it would be nice if there were a few more of them. The long handle makes it really easy to trace the feathers lightly over your partner’s whole body, especially if they are lying down on the bed. I like the classic grey and black design as it will go with pretty much any style, and if you don’t like the Fifty Shades franchise, you can easily remove the label. The only downside is that the tickler can lose a few feathers during use.

4 Restraint

Bondage Boutique Soft Collar-to-Wrist Cuffs

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Secure your partner’s hands tightly behind their back while you take control of their pleasure with this collar to wrist restraint set from Bondage Boutique. The adjustable restraint set is padded and fleece lined to keep the wearer comfortable. The cuffs fasten with velcro, meaning you can have your partner locked into place and ready to play in a matter of seconds. The set also comes with leash so you can control your partner at all times for sweet submission!

Bondage Boutique Soft Collar-to-Wrist Cuffs test
Bondage Boutique Soft Collar-to-Wrist Cuffs features
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BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Collar-to-Wrist Cuffs if you...
want to explore upper body restraint
love feeling submissive
prefer velcro fastening
enjoy leash play
You should NOT buy the Collar-to-Wrist Cuffs if you...
want restraints with buckles
prefer leather
Bondage Boutique Soft Collar-to-Wrist Cuffs features
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LengthLeash: 30 inches
MaterialsFleece, velcro 
AdjustableYes 
FasteningVelcro 
Pros
Soft, padded cuffs and collar
Adjustable
Leash included
Cons
Possibility to escape not suitable for more extreme bondage
The lead isn't that strong
Conclusion

This restraint sets is the perfect combination of comfort and excitement. The fur lined padded straps and collar keep you comfortable so you aren’t distracted from the real fun. The velcro fastenings are great for bondage beginners or anyone who likes the speed and ease of velcro. I also love that the set comes with a leash! It’s not the strongest leash so won’t stand up to a lot of tugging but it’s great for leading your partner around.

5 Nipple Clamps

Fifty Shades Darker At My Mercy Chained Nipple Clamps

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Put your nips at the mercy of these naughty nipple clamps from Fifty Shades and enjoy the rush of sweet sensation that follows. These adjustable tweezer style clamps can play naughty or nice, depending on how much you tighten them. The stylish silver balls add an extra 27g for a more pronounced pull and if that wasn’t enough, you can tug on the chain to give our partner an extra tweak pleasurable pain. The tips of the clamps have a silicone cap to protect your delicate skin while you play and they come with a sleek storage bag to keep them safe between uses.

Fifty Shades Darker At My Mercy Chained Nipple Clamps test
Fifty Shades Darker At My Mercy Chained Nipple Clamps features
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enjoy nipple stimulation
like having something to tug on
want adjustable nipple clamps
like a little extra weight
You should NOT buy the At My Mercy Nipple Clamps if you...
have very small nipples
need extra secure clamps for more intense tugging
Fifty Shades Darker At My Mercy Chained Nipple Clamps features
Features
Length19  inches
MaterialsMetal, Silicone 
AdjustableYes 
FasteningTweezer 
Pros
Adjustable tweezer-style clamps
Silicone tips
Chain for extra tugging
Weighted balls for more intensity
Cons
Can be tricky to get on
Can slip off during play
Might not be suitable for very large or very small nipples
Conclusion

These clamps are ideal for beginners as you have complete control over how tight you make them. The further up you slide the adjuster bar, the more painful the pinch! The extra weights and chain add a little more intensity but it’s not overwhelming. Getting the clamps to stay on can be a bit of a learning curve as the mechanism is pretty small and fiddly. While the intensity is adjustable, if you have particularly large nipples, these clamps might be a little tight and conversely, if you have very small nipples, you might be better off with some smaller clamps for petite nips! 

6 Spanking Paddle

Sportsheets Leather Slut Slapper Paddle

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The Slut Slapper has a dual layer design that delivers a satisfying loud slap as it hits your partner’s skin. The flat surface is perfect for thuddy impact play while the cut out design leaves a naughty imprint on their skin. It also has a loop wrist to help you keep a firm hold of it while you play.

Sportsheets Leather Slut Slapper Paddle test
Sportsheets Leather Slut Slapper Paddle features
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BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Slut Slapper if you...
want to explore impact play
enjoy thuddy impact play
love humiliation play
prefer leather products
enjoy a loud slap sound
You should NOT buy the Slut Slapper if you...
avoid leather products
prefer stingy impact
Sportsheets Leather Slut Slapper Paddle features
Features
Length13 inches
MaterialsLeather 
Pros
Dual layer design
Impressive sound
Naughty slut imprint
Thuddy impact
Can be used for light or more intense thwacks
Cons
Hard to make imprint
Conclusion

The sound to impact ratio of this slut slapper is ideal for anyone who loves a loud slap without too much pain! The double layers smack against each other creating quite the sound! But don’t be fooled, you can still get up to some pretty intense impact play if you want to! The overall feel is more on the thuddy end of the spectrum than stingy, so if you prefer something stingy, I would opt for a crop instead. It’s pretty hard to make the slut imprint and you need to use a fair amount of force to do so!

7 Cock Ring

Oxballs tri-sport Cock Ring and Ball Sling

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Make your cock and balls the star of the show with this cock ring and ball sling combo from Oxballs. The Tri-Sport is made of thick stretchy TPR that hugs your cock and balls giving them more definition and making them stand to attention! The snug restriction can also give you harder, longer lasting erections so you can enjoy more of the good stuff!

Oxballs tri-sport Cock Ring and Ball Sling test
Oxballs tri-sport Cock Ring and Ball Sling features
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You should buy the Oxballs Cock and Ball Sling if you...
want to explore enhanced erections
enjoy a snug squeeze
want to put your cock and balls center stage
are looking to last a little longer
You should NOT buy the Oxballs Cock and Ball Sling if you...
have a smaller than average penis
have any medical issues related to circulation
Oxballs tri-sport Cock Ring and Ball Sling features
Features
MaterialsTPR 
AdjustableStretchy 
WaterproofWaterproof 
Pros
Can aid with bigger, harder erections
Can help you last longer
Possibility of more intense orgasms
Great for testicle play
Cons
Can be tricky to get on
Porous material
Not the best options for smaller penises
Conclusion

The Oxballs Tri-Sport is a great piece of male bondage gear. Tri cock rings make sure the whole team gets a slice of the action! The thick rings make it comfortable to wear while providing a decent amount of restriction that can really boost your hard on. Many men also report more intense orgasms, which is always a bonus in my books! It can be a bit of a learning curve figuring out what goes where, so I really recommend practicing putting it on before using it with a partner. Oh I cannot stress this enough, please use lube when you put this thing on! The only slight downside is that this cock ring is made from TPR which is porous and cannot be fully cleaned. This isn’t really an issue for toys that are used externally but something to keep in mind if this will be coming into contact with a partner’s vulva or anus.

8 Bed Restraints

Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System

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This under bed restraint system can turn your bed into a bondage playground in a matter of minutes. The fully adjustable system will fit any bed size and comes with two wrist restraints and two ankle restraints to keep your partner fully pinned to the bed while you get to work! The restraints are padded and lined with soft fabric so they won’t distract you and they are detachable, so you can explore other forms of restraint. The velcro fastening also makes them super quick and easy to get on and off and perfect for beginners!

Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System test
Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System features
Recommended for

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Bed Restraint System if you...
want to dive deeper into full body bondage
want restraints for at home or on the go
like the ease of velcro
want some versatile restraints
You should NOT buy the Bed Restraint System if you...
need heavy duty restraints
prefer something lockable
Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System features
Features
LengthStraps x 4: 60 inches & Connector Strap: 60 inches
Vibration modes 
Pros
Quick and easy
A lot of fun
Great for light bondage
Fits all bed sizes
Travel friendly + discreet
Machine washable
Cons
Not for heavy duty restraint
You can escape if you want to
Conclusion

I absolutely love these restraints! They couldn’t be easier to use and they add so much fun to all kinds of teasing. They have a pretty firm hold but you could get out if you tried, making them ideal for beginners. They are super comfy, easy to wash, travel-friendly and easy to tuck under your bed. I definitely recommend these to anyone looking to level up their bondage game!

9 Bondage Kit

Lovehoney All You Need Bondage Kit (20 Piece)

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Do you want to take your BDSM game from 0-100? Then this is the kit for you! If you are just getting started with BDSM, this kit will give you everything you need to get started with restraint, sensation play, and pleasurable pain! Stuffed full with high quality BDSM gear, this kit will certainly spice things up! Here’s wha you get…

– Blindfold
– Rubber flogger whip
– Stainless steel pinwheel
– Beginner’s collar
– Chained adjustable nipple clamps
– Clitoral pleasure clamp
– Pair of nipple ring clamps
– Breathable ball gag
– 5 meters/16.4 feet of silky bondage rope
– Waterproof bullet vibrator
– Powerful G-spot vibrator
– Single-use vibrating double-ringed cock ring
– Textured penis stroker
– 2.5oz/70.9g silicone jiggle balls
– Realistic 6 inch suction-cup dildo
– Slimline silicone butt plug
– Mini silicone anal beads
– 2 x adjustable wrist cuffs
– 2 x adjustable ankle cuffs
– Under-mattress restraint system

Lovehoney All You Need Bondage Kit (20 Piece) test
Lovehoney All You Need Bondage Kit (20 Piece) features
Recommended for

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the All You Need Bondage Kit if you...
are new to bondage
want a complete bondage kit
love exploring new sensations
want a mix of restraints and sex toys
You should NOT buy the All You Need Bondage Kit if you...
prefer leather restraints
want heavy duty bondage gear
Lovehoney All You Need Bondage Kit (20 Piece) features
Features
Vibration modesMultiple 
LengthDildo: 6 inches
WaterproofSplashproof 
RechargeableNo — 3 x LR44 button cells (included) + 1 x AA (not included) 
Pros
Wide selection of products
Versatile restraints
Silicone sex toys
Products for vagina and penis owners
Cons
Sex toys are battery powered
Not for heavy duty use
Conclusion

This set is a great starting point for anyone new to bondage that wants to get the complete kit. This light bondage gear allows you to lock up lover while you explore their body with the toys included. It would make for an amazing sexy weekend! There’s a really great selection of products, giving you plenty of ways to play. I love how versatile the restraints are and think you could get a lot of use out of them! It’s also great that the butt plug, anal beads, and dildo are made of body-safe silicone! Bear in mind this is more of a beginners kit, so these toys won’t suit more advanced players and they products are designed for light BDSM and not more heavy duty play.

10 Clit Clamp

Fifty Shades Darker Just Sensation Beaded Clitoral Clamp

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If you are looking for elegant and exciting bondage gear for women and vulva owners, look no further! Adorn your clit with this clamp and let it work its magic, leaving you extra sensitive to stimulation! This clitoris clamp from Fifty Shades provides a pleasant pinch and extra sensitivity while you it. Plus, when you take it off, the rapid increase in circulation will leave you deliciously sensitive, turning up the volume on every touch.

Fifty Shades Darker Just Sensation Beaded Clitoral Clamp test
Fifty Shades Darker Just Sensation Beaded Clitoral Clamp features
Recommended for

BeginnerIntermediateAdvanced
You should buy the Beaded Clitoral Clamp if you...
want to explore clit clamping
like the feeling of pinchy pleasure
want to sensitize your clitoris
You should NOT buy the Beaded Clitoral Clamp if you...
are into more intense clamping
have a very small clitoris
Fifty Shades Darker Just Sensation Beaded Clitoral Clamp features
Features
Length4  inches
MaterialsNickel-free metal 
Pros
Elegant design
Creates a swollen, erect look and feel
Enhances sensitivity
Cons
Can be tricky to get on
Can slide of when moving
Conclusion

This clit clamp can be a bit of learning curve at first as it is quite fiddly to get in place, but it’s worth enduring! It amps up the sensation while you are wearing it, with the weighted balls adding some subtle stimulation and it makes all stimulation after you take it off feel amazing! If you have a particularly small clitoris, you might find it more difficult to get this clit clamp to stay on. When putting it on, always aim for the base of the clitoris and not the tip!

Sex Slings and Swings for BDSM Bondage Pleasure

Sex slings provide the perfect place to lock up your partner and enjoy all of your new BDSM gear, while sex swings allow you to get creative with some more acrobatic sex positions. Whether you have space for a full swing set up or you are looking for something a little smaller, like a door swing, getting off the ground can really elevate your bondage play. Here are some of our favorites.

How To Make Bondage Gear on a Budget

While the bondage tools in this post are all pretty affordable, sometimes in a pinch, you might want to make your own bondage gear. While buying purpose made equipment is always safer, there are a few quick and easy ways to make your own DIY BDSM gear.

Spanking paddle

Spanking paddle

Spanking paddle

This is probably one of the easiest pervertables out there! One of my favorite spanking paddle substitutes is a silicone spatula — just get a separate one for in the bedroom! Looking for more ideas? Check out these 13 DIY spanking paddle ideas.

DIY BDSM Zipper

DIY BDSM Zipper

DIY BDSM Zipper

If you love pinchy pleasure and have some clothes pin and string, you can make your own BDSM zipper. Simply thread the string through the center hole of the spring mechanism and knot on either side to create a long string of pegs to attach to your partner’s body.

DIY Nipple Clamps

DIY Nipple Clamps

DIY Nipple Clamps

Looking for some kinky clamps in your kitchen cupboard? These easy chopstick clamps can be put together in minutes and provide a some pretty intense pinching! Fasten two chopsticks together with elastic bands around each end and slip them over your nips. You can create more or less intensity by adjusting the tightness of the elastic bands. No chopsticks? We’ve got a few more DIY nipple clamp ideas for you!

DIY Flogger

DIY Flogger

DIY Flogger

If you are feeling a little more crafty, why not make your very own flogger! I had so much fun making the two DIY floggers in this post and they definitely pack a punch!

Disclaimer

Disclaimer

Disclaimer

We do not recommend making your own sex toys and always recommend that you purchase purpose-made sex toys from a reputable shop. We are in no way responsible for any harm caused due to the use or sharing of these DIYs. You are 100% responsible for the outcome should you choose to make your own sex toys.

How to use bondage gear

So every piece of bondage gear is going to be used in a different way and I couldn’t possibly cover them all here but I will go over some basic guidelines to help you get started. If you want some more in depth info, check out these complete guides we’ve put together!

How to use bondage gear

Boundaries and Consent

Boundaries and Consent

Before any type of sexual activity, especially BDSM play, you need to discuss your boundaries with your partner(s) and make sure you have their consent. The FRIES model in the image explains the criteria for true consent.

Choose a safe word, system, or safe signal.

How to use bondage gear

Agree on a safe word that will stop play immediately if one of you feels unsafe or doesn’t want to continue. This could be an easily distinguishable word or the traffic light system. If you are using a gag or mask, you will need to use a safe signal, like tapping three times.

How to use bondage gear
How to use bondage gear

Keep safety gear on hand

Keep safety gear on hand

Think about what you are doing and make sure you have any necessary safety equipment within reach. For example, if you are working with bondage rope, you should have some safety scissors, or if you are exploring wax play, a fire extinguisher.

Start low and slow

How to use bondage gear

Whichever type of stimulation you are going for, it’s best to start out low and slow and gradually build the intensity. Not only does this give your brain and body time to get used to the sensation, the slow build gives you a lot more time to fully enjoy it!

How to use bondage gear
How to use bondage gear

Explore the whole body

Explore the whole body

Pay attention to those forgotten erogenous zones and hunt out those extra sensitive sweet spots to heighten arousal.

How to clean bondage gear

Again, this depends a lot on the product and the materials it is made of. You should always follow the manufacturer's cleaning instructions to keep your toys clean and in great condition. Bondage gear made from silicone, metal, or glass can be cleaned with fragrance-free soap and water. If you BDSM toy is made from leather, you can use warm water and fragrance free soap and/or saddle soap. Some restraints that are made from fabric are machine washable, but always check the instructions first!

Porous
materials

Soft plastic, hard plastic, jelly, rubber, Cyberskin are all porous materials, meaning that small particles and bacteria can penetrate the surface. This makes it impossible to completely clean these types of materials.

Therefore, it is recommended that you use a condom with these types of toys, especially if you are sharing them. Clean these toys with mild soapy water and dry gently with a towel. These materials are more easily damaged, so be sure to be gentle and make sure your toys are completely dry before storing.

Non-propous
materials

Silicone, glass, stainless steel and some hard plastics can all be washed using a mild soap (like you would use on your body) and warm water. Just be careful if your toy contains electrical parts.

Silicone and stainless steel toys without any electrical parts can also be boiled for sterilisation.

The toys with electrical
components

If your toys contain electrical components, be extra careful when cleaning them and always check the instructions provided with the toy. You can use a gentle cloth and soap to wipe or sex toy cleaner or cleaning wipe to down your toy, making sure that no water comes into contact with the electrical parts.

Author
Isabelle Uren
Isabelle Uren
Age: 30
Gender: Female
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Sex toy experience: Experienced
All-time favorite sex toy: Lelo Sila
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